Jordan Harbinger

And it can be humiliating when that goes wrong.

But when you misstep and it affects a colleague, this is not a random person he met on Tinder where the stakes are nil.

And he has to own this and make it right.

Yeah, I agree with that.

And if he doesn't, then what?

Yeah, if he doesn't, then I'd say she either lets it go and keeps her distance and tolerates the awkwardness for a while, which that would probably fade in time, I would hope.

Or if things continue being weird and he's just making no effort to repair things or he like keeps trying, she can grab coffee with him and say, look, I'm sorry that our wires got crossed.

I'm sorry if I inadvertently sent you a confusing signal.

I enjoy being your colleague and friend.

I want to be able to hang with you and Max and all the guys, but I'm married.

So are you.

And as you know, now I think of you as a friend and I've come to value that friendship.

So when you're ready, I'd like to go back to being friends.

I like that.

Or maybe that's not possible anymore, or maybe that's not what she wants.

And then maybe she just leaves it at, so I know this was uncomfortable, but nothing has to change in our working relationship and just leave it at that.

I like that.

Then she's just speaking for herself and putting the focus back on them as colleagues.

And hopefully he'll also finally realize that he needs to be mature so that they can function well at work.

But you're asking how to reset professional boundaries after Bob crossed a line.