Josh Waitzkin

It doesn't matter if you win or lose. And the kids are like putting on their armor to go to battle Mental battle. And chess is fucking intense. Like when you're playing chess, you're putting your mind, your body, your psyche, everything like on the line. And if you lose, you feel shattered. Like that's just how you feel.

If you're not trying your hardest, then we can't even, we shouldn't even be talking about you. So let's say you are trying your hardest. You're putting it all on the line. It's on the line. And you lose and you're shattered. Like every part of you didn't, you feel destroyed. So the kids are putting on their armor to go to battle and the parent tells them, it doesn't matter if I win or lose.

If you're not trying your hardest, then we can't even, we shouldn't even be talking about you. So let's say you are trying your hardest. You're putting it all on the line. It's on the line. And you lose and you're shattered. Like every part of you didn't, you feel destroyed. So the kids are putting on their armor to go to battle and the parent tells them, it doesn't matter if I win or lose.

If you're not trying your hardest, then we can't even, we shouldn't even be talking about you. So let's say you are trying your hardest. You're putting it all on the line. It's on the line. And you lose and you're shattered. Like every part of you didn't, you feel destroyed. So the kids are putting on their armor to go to battle and the parent tells them, it doesn't matter if I win or lose.

It's deeply confusing. And the kids actually usually know that the parents are full of shit. The parents actually care so much and they feel guilty about how much they care about their kid's result. They're telling their kid that to feel less guilty about the fact that they're putting their own egoic needs on their child. And it's all like, and the kids see it all.

It's deeply confusing. And the kids actually usually know that the parents are full of shit. The parents actually care so much and they feel guilty about how much they care about their kid's result. They're telling their kid that to feel less guilty about the fact that they're putting their own egoic needs on their child. And it's all like, and the kids see it all.

It's deeply confusing. And the kids actually usually know that the parents are full of shit. The parents actually care so much and they feel guilty about how much they care about their kid's result. They're telling their kid that to feel less guilty about the fact that they're putting their own egoic needs on their child. And it's all like, and the kids see it all.

That's the hilarious thing is you get an eight, 10, 11 year old, like they see it all. And they're like, mom, give me a break. And the parents are just stuck in their guilt and absurdity. seen this so many times. So like the discussion of process and outcome is so subtle, right? Because yes, it's about the process. It's about the journey. It's about the long-term process.

That's the hilarious thing is you get an eight, 10, 11 year old, like they see it all. And they're like, mom, give me a break. And the parents are just stuck in their guilt and absurdity. seen this so many times. So like the discussion of process and outcome is so subtle, right? Because yes, it's about the process. It's about the journey. It's about the long-term process.

That's the hilarious thing is you get an eight, 10, 11 year old, like they see it all. And they're like, mom, give me a break. And the parents are just stuck in their guilt and absurdity. seen this so many times. So like the discussion of process and outcome is so subtle, right? Because yes, it's about the process. It's about the journey. It's about the long-term process.

But if we don't care about the results, the process won't work. So we need to put ourselves on the line enough to be shattered and the process is what really matters. But it's not that we can liberate ourselves from caring enough to be shattered because then we're not engaged.

But if we don't care about the results, the process won't work. So we need to put ourselves on the line enough to be shattered and the process is what really matters. But it's not that we can liberate ourselves from caring enough to be shattered because then we're not engaged.

But if we don't care about the results, the process won't work. So we need to put ourselves on the line enough to be shattered and the process is what really matters. But it's not that we can liberate ourselves from caring enough to be shattered because then we're not engaged.

And it is something about putting our egos on the line that is what leads to the growth surges that great competitors have, the ones who become virtuosos, right? And so then that stated, how can we experience the simultaneity of being shattered and having the perspective that this is probably the greatest thing that ever happened to me?

And it is something about putting our egos on the line that is what leads to the growth surges that great competitors have, the ones who become virtuosos, right? And so then that stated, how can we experience the simultaneity of being shattered and having the perspective that this is probably the greatest thing that ever happened to me?

And it is something about putting our egos on the line that is what leads to the growth surges that great competitors have, the ones who become virtuosos, right? And so then that stated, how can we experience the simultaneity of being shattered and having the perspective that this is probably the greatest thing that ever happened to me?

It's a very interesting thing when you're talking about competitors. What is the right balance between like playing up and playing down, right? Like how much do you want to build the confidence of a young competitor or artist or person or any of us, young, whatever age? And how much do you want to be stretched a little bit beyond your ability so that your weaknesses are exposed?

It's a very interesting thing when you're talking about competitors. What is the right balance between like playing up and playing down, right? Like how much do you want to build the confidence of a young competitor or artist or person or any of us, young, whatever age? And how much do you want to be stretched a little bit beyond your ability so that your weaknesses are exposed?

It's a very interesting thing when you're talking about competitors. What is the right balance between like playing up and playing down, right? Like how much do you want to build the confidence of a young competitor or artist or person or any of us, young, whatever age? And how much do you want to be stretched a little bit beyond your ability so that your weaknesses are exposed?

You have to take them on and you have to grow. And getting that balance right. is hugely important. And it's not simple. Like a lot of boxing training camps are based around the boxer's confidence being everything. And you want them to feel invincible going into the ring, right?