Joshua Citarella

Does that mean that some people find it harder?

Yes.

And managing to work out how to balance those two things in the same way as this, which is like some people's tolerance for discomfort is just less or more than others.

And in some ways, we pedestalize the person that's more of an outlier on the side of a positive trait.

Wow, look at how much pain that person can endure.

Right, right.

Why not?

Wow, look at how little pain that person can endure.

But it's not like majestic, right?

And I suppose that one of the reasons for this is that...

You can fake sadness and negative emotions, but you can't fake results.

So you can pretend to be in lots of pain, but you can't pretend to be successful.

You can only be successful.

It's the difference between what's referred to as a cheap and an expensive signal, a reliable signal of authenticity.

And I suppose that the typical things people are attracted to, resilience, overcoming obstacles, motivation, discipline, orderliness, conscientiousness, rah, rah, rah,

And even empathy, like, it's very hard to fake empathy.

And I think this is why when people like Ellen DeGeneres or whatever get called out as sort of being all nicey-nicey up front, but they're, you know, fucking Dolores Umbridge behind the scenes, people have an issue with that.

And, um...

Yeah, I can see how that might be the case.

But for me, no, I have not used the fact that I haven't stopped going, doing the thing that I do as an excuse to say that other people are being pussies.