Joshua Coleman

And so she eventually shut down contact for a while until I You know, kind of learn to just be quiet and be, more importantly, not to just be quiet, but to learn how to be empathic and take responsibility and find, you know, listen to her perspective and hear her out and be able to tolerate the mistakes that I had made and empathize with her rather than to defend myself.

And so she eventually shut down contact for a while until I You know, kind of learn to just be quiet and be, more importantly, not to just be quiet, but to learn how to be empathic and take responsibility and find, you know, listen to her perspective and hear her out and be able to tolerate the mistakes that I had made and empathize with her rather than to defend myself.

Okay, so it sounds like this was a bit of a trial and error experience for you. You discovered the wrong things to do as well as the right things to do. Tell us more about the right things to do.

Okay, so it sounds like this was a bit of a trial and error experience for you. You discovered the wrong things to do as well as the right things to do. Tell us more about the right things to do.

Okay, so it sounds like this was a bit of a trial and error experience for you. You discovered the wrong things to do as well as the right things to do. Tell us more about the right things to do.

The right things are to take responsibility and to show empathy and to find the kernel, if not the bushel, of truth in your child's complaints, to not be defensive, to not get mad, to assume that... One of my methods is to have parents write what I call a letter of amends.

The right things are to take responsibility and to show empathy and to find the kernel, if not the bushel, of truth in your child's complaints, to not be defensive, to not get mad, to assume that... One of my methods is to have parents write what I call a letter of amends.

The right things are to take responsibility and to show empathy and to find the kernel, if not the bushel, of truth in your child's complaints, to not be defensive, to not get mad, to assume that... One of my methods is to have parents write what I call a letter of amends.

And I say you should always start your letter of amends by saying, I know you wouldn't do this unless it was the healthiest thing for you to do. Because from the adult child's perspective, it is the healthiest thing for them to do. It may not feel that way to the parent. The parent's therapist may not feel like it's the healthiest thing for the kid to do, but it doesn't really matter.

And I say you should always start your letter of amends by saying, I know you wouldn't do this unless it was the healthiest thing for you to do. Because from the adult child's perspective, it is the healthiest thing for them to do. It may not feel that way to the parent. The parent's therapist may not feel like it's the healthiest thing for the kid to do, but it doesn't really matter.

And I say you should always start your letter of amends by saying, I know you wouldn't do this unless it was the healthiest thing for you to do. Because from the adult child's perspective, it is the healthiest thing for them to do. It may not feel that way to the parent. The parent's therapist may not feel like it's the healthiest thing for the kid to do, but it doesn't really matter.

You know, the goal is to be in alignment with what your child's values are, particularly today because nothing compels an adult child to have a relationship with a parent unless they want to. Can you help us understand...

You know, the goal is to be in alignment with what your child's values are, particularly today because nothing compels an adult child to have a relationship with a parent unless they want to. Can you help us understand...

You know, the goal is to be in alignment with what your child's values are, particularly today because nothing compels an adult child to have a relationship with a parent unless they want to. Can you help us understand...

How common estrangement is becoming or what the rates of estrangement are these days?

How common estrangement is becoming or what the rates of estrangement are these days?

How common estrangement is becoming or what the rates of estrangement are these days?

The most recent study was out of Ohio State with a sociologist named Rim Resnick and colleagues, and she found that 26% of fathers are currently estranged. Wow. Which is huge, right? Now, she found 6% of mothers, but other people have found something closer to 10% to 12% of mothers are, which I think it's more in that camp. And then another study by Carl Pillemer at Cornell, he found that 27%.

The most recent study was out of Ohio State with a sociologist named Rim Resnick and colleagues, and she found that 26% of fathers are currently estranged. Wow. Which is huge, right? Now, she found 6% of mothers, but other people have found something closer to 10% to 12% of mothers are, which I think it's more in that camp. And then another study by Carl Pillemer at Cornell, he found that 27%.

The most recent study was out of Ohio State with a sociologist named Rim Resnick and colleagues, and she found that 26% of fathers are currently estranged. Wow. Which is huge, right? Now, she found 6% of mothers, but other people have found something closer to 10% to 12% of mothers are, which I think it's more in that camp. And then another study by Carl Pillemer at Cornell, he found that 27%.