Julia Shaw

But it also makes me feel like it's more important.

And that's what people were writing to me about.

I'd say try and read widely on issues around sexuality.

Books like mine, but also other books might help you to navigate whether or not you're, you know, what labels there are and also whether or not those labels are good for you.

I think things like the client grid are really helpful, especially for people who are more analytically minded like you and I.

I think it gives you a construct to work with and numbers to work with.

And that can be really helpful to try and go almost seeing your sexuality as a mathematical equation.

And I think that can be quite useful.

And if that's how you think, then look at the client grid and see if that helps you to navigate things.

So the benefits are that you can, well, live authentically.

You can just be yourself.

So I do feel more free in who I am and who I'm able to sort of be online, for example, now that I'm out.

And because I came out after in my 30s, I think also it was almost a foot in the door technique as well, which is a psychological technique of first coming in and then coming with your big ask.

And so I'd already published two books.

I was already an established scientist.

I think if I tried bi first, I A, wouldn't have been able to publish the book.

It was the first mainstream book on bisexuality ever.

And B, I don't think I would have been taken seriously as a scientist.

And so having the other stuff first and then buy a sort of a side project, that was acceptable.

But I think the other way around wouldn't have been.