Julia Shaw

And on lots of different fronts, people will claim that they do more.

And if you ask them how much their partner does, they will diminish it.

And so one of the tips I always say for relationships in terms of memories is actually just sharing what you're actually doing.

And so if you've initially it feels a bit cumbersome because it's quite unnatural to be like, I've just taken out, you know, the rubbish.

I've just taken out the bins or I've just booked us a hotel.

But saying it out loud means the other person is able to perceive it and then can add it to sort of their internal experience.

like star chart of how much you've done in the relationship.

And they're more like to actually perceive what you're contributing.

Whereas we just assume that people have the same memories we do and that they, of course she remembers that I took out the bins, but not necessarily.

She might not even have really perceived it.

But if you're reminding each other of all the things that you're doing, it can feel more balanced over time.

Yep.

It can be improved.

And there are now some really good brain training apps as well that can help to get people to work better with attention, to have NBAC tests.

So remember information, a couple of pieces of information back.

So what did I tell you three sentences ago?

There's all of these kinds of

well, games effectively that you can play that will in fact train how your brain is using its networks.

There was one that was developed by researchers, including researchers at the University of Bonn in Germany, and it's called Neuronation.

And that's one that I like because it's all these really short games.