Julie Menanno

Absolutely.

I think someone who is, you know, willing to just be curious about you, willing to, you

kind of validate you emotionally and someone who, when you're, when you're interact, I mean, I always like to say a relationship is not just this big global thing, right?

It's a series of interactions and very simple interactions, right?

And we need for each of those interactions to be maximally positive, right?

And if we can figure out a way to have many, many more of the interactions, like let's say 10 to 1 or 20 to 1, be positive instead of negative, then you're going to be fine, right?

And so what happens is people...

They're having these negative interactions, but they don't know it because they haven't, you know, they just they just have a disconnect between their body and what they want.

And they have a list and the person fits the list and they don't know how to assess for kind of like a felt sense of connection and safety.

And so they're having these negative interactions, but they don't know it.

So they just keep going forward.

And so what I want to help people do is like really learn what a positive interaction feels like.

And then start, you know, assessing for that.

Hey, at the date, the first date, right?

Did, yes, this person looks great on paper.

You know, we want the same things out of life.

I feel physically attracted to them, which is very important.

All of those things are very important.

But are they saying, did I feel really heard?

Did I feel really seen?