Julie Menanno

cutting off parts of themselves, they're going to have a hard time connecting with others and they're going to have a hard time showing up for others emotionally.

It just, you're not seeing it as this big explosion of anger.

I think that's the, that's the root of the problem truly is that people are being controlled by their emotions, period.

And nobody recognizes this.

It's like everybody, you know, that someone doesn't like, or is it,

how am I going to say this?

Anybody who's doing anything that is not okay in the world, that is not appropriate behavior is being controlled by their emotions, whether you see it on the surface or not, right.

Whether you, you know, they look like the most reasonable person or they look like a big hothead.

Um, so yeah.

So really, again, all of this is kind of rooted in how are you responding to your own emotions and that's going to

heavily inform how you're showing up with your partner's emotions.

Yes, I think that can be healthy unless the anger is actually being addressed.

If you're using the productivity to not address the anger, that's a problem.

If you're using the productivity as a part of dealing with the anger, then that's healthy, but not exclusive at all.

if anger is being channeled into productivity and not getting dealt with, it will find you.

It will find a way to come back out.

You know, it will, it will come out in passive aggressive.

It will come out in workaholism.

It will come about out in health problems.

You know, it's going to, it's going to be there.