Kate Hudson

It doesn't mean that you don't, you know, have a good authority and structure for your kids. So it creates a safe environment for them. But what it does mean is that you're aware that the things that come up for you are things that you need to be as conscious of as how you're raising your kids, right? So like a good example would be the other day, Bing and I, he's in that teenage phase.

We had that headbutt moment of, I want him to do something. He refuses to do it. And in that moment, I got triggered. not, it wasn't about him. It was about my own inability to resolve or walk away from the moment that was happening. And instead I became combative with my 13 year old, which is like, what are, I mean, that, that, that doesn't go, where's that going to go? Right.

We had that headbutt moment of, I want him to do something. He refuses to do it. And in that moment, I got triggered. not, it wasn't about him. It was about my own inability to resolve or walk away from the moment that was happening. And instead I became combative with my 13 year old, which is like, what are, I mean, that, that, that doesn't go, where's that going to go? Right.

We had that headbutt moment of, I want him to do something. He refuses to do it. And in that moment, I got triggered. not, it wasn't about him. It was about my own inability to resolve or walk away from the moment that was happening. And instead I became combative with my 13 year old, which is like, what are, I mean, that, that, that doesn't go, where's that going to go? Right.

But it happens all the time as a parent, you know, with so many parents. I do it sometimes with my five-year-old. Right. Yeah. And when you walk away, when you walk away from it, you can recognize where you sort of might have created more of a problem than you did a lesson.

But it happens all the time as a parent, you know, with so many parents. I do it sometimes with my five-year-old. Right. Yeah. And when you walk away, when you walk away from it, you can recognize where you sort of might have created more of a problem than you did a lesson.

But it happens all the time as a parent, you know, with so many parents. I do it sometimes with my five-year-old. Right. Yeah. And when you walk away, when you walk away from it, you can recognize where you sort of might have created more of a problem than you did a lesson.

And the importance of being able to tell your kids that you could do better, I could have handled that situation better, actually models much more for them than... being stubborn and saying, no, I can't, I can't admit that I was wrong. And I, and I think that's the biggest lesson for me. And now that I feel like a veteran mother, I've been like doing it for 21 years.

And the importance of being able to tell your kids that you could do better, I could have handled that situation better, actually models much more for them than... being stubborn and saying, no, I can't, I can't admit that I was wrong. And I, and I think that's the biggest lesson for me. And now that I feel like a veteran mother, I've been like doing it for 21 years.

And the importance of being able to tell your kids that you could do better, I could have handled that situation better, actually models much more for them than... being stubborn and saying, no, I can't, I can't admit that I was wrong. And I, and I think that's the biggest lesson for me. And now that I feel like a veteran mother, I've been like doing it for 21 years.

It's like to admit you're, you're gonna make mistakes. You're gonna be wrong. And you're, and to share your imperfections with your kids in moments without, to be able to say to your kids, you know, I could have handled that better. And I'm sorry. Because you don't deserve me to get that angry at you right now.

It's like to admit you're, you're gonna make mistakes. You're gonna be wrong. And you're, and to share your imperfections with your kids in moments without, to be able to say to your kids, you know, I could have handled that better. And I'm sorry. Because you don't deserve me to get that angry at you right now.

It's like to admit you're, you're gonna make mistakes. You're gonna be wrong. And you're, and to share your imperfections with your kids in moments without, to be able to say to your kids, you know, I could have handled that better. And I'm sorry. Because you don't deserve me to get that angry at you right now.

And you're teaching your kids conflict resolution. Oh, yeah. Sometimes in conflict, you go too far and you need to say you're sorry. Yep. Instead of teaching them that you double down. Right. And what you find in going to your kids and saying, I could have handled this better or I made a mistake or I'm sorry I didn't trust you, whatever the scenario is. you get that connection becomes stronger.

And you're teaching your kids conflict resolution. Oh, yeah. Sometimes in conflict, you go too far and you need to say you're sorry. Yep. Instead of teaching them that you double down. Right. And what you find in going to your kids and saying, I could have handled this better or I made a mistake or I'm sorry I didn't trust you, whatever the scenario is. you get that connection becomes stronger.

And you're teaching your kids conflict resolution. Oh, yeah. Sometimes in conflict, you go too far and you need to say you're sorry. Yep. Instead of teaching them that you double down. Right. And what you find in going to your kids and saying, I could have handled this better or I made a mistake or I'm sorry I didn't trust you, whatever the scenario is. you get that connection becomes stronger.

And I think that sort of has been the biggest lesson for me is knowing when to do that. Parenting is hard. It's a crapshoot is what it is. Yeah. And it's hard. And you are going to mess your kids up. I feel like No matter what you do and how you try to do it, it's like you're going to do it wrong. You're going to make mistakes. You're going to fuck your kids up in some way at some point.

And I think that sort of has been the biggest lesson for me is knowing when to do that. Parenting is hard. It's a crapshoot is what it is. Yeah. And it's hard. And you are going to mess your kids up. I feel like No matter what you do and how you try to do it, it's like you're going to do it wrong. You're going to make mistakes. You're going to fuck your kids up in some way at some point.

And I think that sort of has been the biggest lesson for me is knowing when to do that. Parenting is hard. It's a crapshoot is what it is. Yeah. And it's hard. And you are going to mess your kids up. I feel like No matter what you do and how you try to do it, it's like you're going to do it wrong. You're going to make mistakes. You're going to fuck your kids up in some way at some point.

You're going to do something that's going to feel traumatizing to them that you didn't realize felt traumatizing to them. Yes. And this is coming from the most loving parents, right? Yes. Even in the most loving, like connective, healthy, attached parental situation, you're still going to mess up.