Kate Legge

And he says, I think marriage is founded on reason often crumbled to dust because the passion that's so important in a relationship...

is ignored and will often appear later on.

And the unalloyed truth of that comment really crawled over my skin because my husband and I had a wonderful relationship.

And, you know, the first night we met, we talked all night and married two years later.

I was actually in a relationship at the time I met my husband, so the reason why we didn't go to bed that night was because I was very faithful and loyal and true and I wouldn't have countenanced that sort of behaviour.

But I think I feel sometimes that I'm dull and decent...

The daring of love and lose all and that passion that Count Fronsky talked about is a really important currency in any relationship and it shouldn't be ignored.

Yeah, but there's steadfastness too, which is not a very glamorous virtue.

But it's a virtue nonetheless, isn't it?

It is a virtue.

It is a virtue and I'm very much of that school of thought.

It's like you're still here.

I'm still here.

You know, being still there is something that's really good over time.

Yeah, really important.

And, you know, it depends what sort of values you place on family and holding family together.

And as a journalist, I was really aware too that damage begets damage.

And I didn't want, you know, I really wanted to hold things together rather than having them blow apart.

Just going back to your own, I'll come to Greg's story as well, but your own child was overshadowed by a really volatile mother.

How was she with you when you were little, Kate?