Kate Legge

One is the deliciousness of a wicked secret.

And then there's this profound desire to live in truth, to sort of meet each other and clash and collide here.

What do you think about all that, Kate?

The deliciousness of the secret and then there's that part of the attraction of the affair, that it's this secret.

But then there's the necessity to live in truth.

I know.

And I prefer to live in truth.

And that's what also drove me in looking at what had happened to see is, I mean, you can never get to the truth.

There's your version, my version, and then there's the truth, of course.

But you can get as close as you can to understanding

And I guess that's what I wanted and that's why I wrote the book, to get as close as I could to understanding more about these relationships which are so commonplace, which happen everywhere, happening all the time.

There'll be people in this studio and behind us who will be having affairs but they don't talk about it because of the secrecy.

And this was an attempt to flush out, I guess, and to get people talking about it so that maybe, for example, that they could read Dan Savage and recognise the value of honesty and honesty

salvaging the best of the relationship.

So it was really a voyage of discovery but also a voyage of trying to bring other people on board and to see if they could find some light and not heat.

And I wonder if it's a letter to your old self as well because now you're in a relationship with someone else entirely.

And I wonder if that person you are now, well, no, the person you were then back in 2007 would be astonished by the person you are now and the way you live now.

Yeah, possibly, possibly.

I was a middle child in a fraught family and so I was always the peacemaker.

That was my role.