Kelly Corrigan

So if there's a product that you've let into your home to help you, say, reduce friction that is actually somehow forcing that conversation,

You know, are we living our values or do they kind of live over here on some shelf and we don't really apply them and they're not really showing up in our schedule or our budget, which is where the rubber really hits the road.

That could be a very good thing.

And that's what Avni is asking us to consider.

And it's also what she's asking tech designers and developers to consider.

Specifically, how accommodating is your product to the values of the families that will be using it?

And should it be customizable?

And that's the tricky space we find ourselves in.

That's what Avni opened up for me on stage.

And that's what I heard people talking about.

in the halls after she spoke.

This terrible tension between an AI that can be customized to values, but still somehow adhering to what is known to be true about the world and reality.

What I think we want from tools, especially from software, is to simplify our lives.

But with something as powerful as AI and something as consequential as the parent-child relationship, it actually requires that we keep our thinking caps on, that we stay very involved and conscientious about the ways that we're using tools and what might be downstream of facilitating certain activities digitally versus the old-fashioned analog way that we were raised.

And that it's on us to notice and measure the impact of what we might be tempted to offload to AI.

I think this talk was really a call to noticing, which is something that Danini's talk was also asking us to consider.

When does family happen in the course of your day?

Like when does intimacy blossom and what circumstances or conditions are people having the important conversations and interactions that glue them together?

Where and how does healthy attachment between parents and kids develop?

And if it's happening when you're driving carpool, then you should keep driving carpool.