Kendra Dahlstrom

Like this is not who I want to be, but at work I would show up as a high performer.

Nobody knew like it was this closet life.

Right.

And, um, as I got that all together and, you know, found Jesus, met my husband, had kids, I started to really just go into that deep healing work.

I've, I've done all of the, you know, esoteric sort of new age stuff as well as, um,

now I'm doing some, um, some really deep reparenting therapy that deals with like inner child traumas and stuff, where it gives you a chance as an adult self to go back and actually reparent the child the way in which you felt it would, it needed in the moment that it didn't get.

And that's been incredibly liberating.

And so I really just had to get, do the work.

Like there was no clean way to do it.

Ryan had to roll up my sleeves and just go in and do the work and then really reconcile with myself.

Um,

you know, how can I get this out of the way so I can actually live and feel free and not feel like I'm a victim or I'm triggered by everything or I'm doing fine and suddenly I'm triggered by this random thing.

I just was tired of that.

And so I really went in and did the work and that's why I got into this work is because it actually keeps me in the work.

It keeps me honest and grounded and I kind of feel like a professor who's out there doing field work but also is teaching in the classroom and I think that's why my clients

feel so safe with me and can open up and there's something in me and I don't, it's just a gift from God, I guess, that when they get in the room with me or we're together virtually, I'm not asking really provocative questions or anything.

I'm just having conversations with them, asking open-ended, insightful questions, but there's something in them where suddenly they give themselves permission to not, to put the peacock feathers down and to just be seen as a human being

and to finally admit to themselves maybe that one lie that they've been telling themselves that they can feel free from.

And a lot of times it ends up being they resign, you know, and that's not my intention, but a lot of times they resign and they realize, oh my gosh, this role is not for me.

Like I'm actually going to give myself permission to not beat myself up over this, but I need to move on to that next thing.