Kerry Washington

That's right. It's a beautiful way to put it.

So our mutual friend, Gabby Bernstein, who talks a lot about IFS work, that work has been transformational for me. And I just, I mean, I was familiar with IFS work and I'd done kind of inner child work with other therapists, but this year I really decided to make a pivot and do, to work with an IFS therapist. And it has been life-changing.

So our mutual friend, Gabby Bernstein, who talks a lot about IFS work, that work has been transformational for me. And I just, I mean, I was familiar with IFS work and I'd done kind of inner child work with other therapists, but this year I really decided to make a pivot and do, to work with an IFS therapist. And it has been life-changing.

It's so funny because in many ways I speak internal family systems language as an actor, right? Because I am always dealing with these different parts of myself and bringing them forward. So interesting. It's a really exciting way for me to understand the different parts of myself that still feel not enough on certain days or angry or resentful or afraid or IFS has really...

It's so funny because in many ways I speak internal family systems language as an actor, right? Because I am always dealing with these different parts of myself and bringing them forward. So interesting. It's a really exciting way for me to understand the different parts of myself that still feel not enough on certain days or angry or resentful or afraid or IFS has really...

helped me to not identify wholly with those stories when they come up, right? Like there's the story. Who's the part that's telling that story? How do I take care of that part and then move on? Right. But like, I don't have to give my entire existence over to that story.

helped me to not identify wholly with those stories when they come up, right? Like there's the story. Who's the part that's telling that story? How do I take care of that part and then move on? Right. But like, I don't have to give my entire existence over to that story.

that part and that message and that story i can kind of have some distance which is very you know sort of buddhist and but like to have some distance from the thought and to say like i see you i understand where that belief system is coming from but it doesn't have to be the truth it's like i remember when i was like just starting therapy and i had this therapist who would say like how do you feel and i was like oh i just feel really fat and she was like fat is not a feeling and

that part and that message and that story i can kind of have some distance which is very you know sort of buddhist and but like to have some distance from the thought and to say like i see you i understand where that belief system is coming from but it doesn't have to be the truth it's like i remember when i was like just starting therapy and i had this therapist who would say like how do you feel and i was like oh i just feel really fat and she was like fat is not a feeling and

I was like, it's not like, because also I had grown up in a house where people would, where my mom, I heard my mom say like, I feel fat. And I, it was like a, she was like, what's underneath the feeling fat? Is it anger? Is it sadness? It's different.

I was like, it's not like, because also I had grown up in a house where people would, where my mom, I heard my mom say like, I feel fat. And I, it was like a, she was like, what's underneath the feeling fat? Is it anger? Is it sadness? It's different.

I think for me, feeling fat was often like just a, it was like a, a crutch that I went to that would prevent me from getting to that next feeling underneath. I would make it about the body and not being enough as opposed to diving deeper into like, what is the feeling that needs to be addressed here?

I think for me, feeling fat was often like just a, it was like a, a crutch that I went to that would prevent me from getting to that next feeling underneath. I would make it about the body and not being enough as opposed to diving deeper into like, what is the feeling that needs to be addressed here?

Really?

Really?

Yeah.

Yeah.

It happens, yeah. I don't live there. I mean, that's the great thing is that I don't live there, but I don't want to pretend that the thought doesn't come up. Sure. Because I'm really proud to have tools, to have tools and support systems that have helped me figure out what to do with the thought when it comes up or how to embrace it.

It happens, yeah. I don't live there. I mean, that's the great thing is that I don't live there, but I don't want to pretend that the thought doesn't come up. Sure. Because I'm really proud to have tools, to have tools and support systems that have helped me figure out what to do with the thought when it comes up or how to embrace it.

I think it all goes back to spirit. I think it all goes back to like, am I loved by source, right? Like, am I lovable by God? Because when we don't feel lovable enough,