Kevin Kelly

They have to accept everything as normal.

And so the safer they can feel, the more anchored they can be in a family, the easier it is for them to develop their own identity and thrive.

And so rituals and rites of passages are things that help that anchoring and

something that they can return to even when things get scary or uncertain or confusing.

They can come back into and say, well, at least my family is always there.

My family always does this.

My family is about this.

And these rites of passage and rituals bring them an ability to say, this is what we do.

This is something I can rely on.

This is a foundation to help me craft my identity, my personality, my contribution.

And so rites of passage and rituals are something that have been embedded in religion.

And when we throw out and get rid of religion, we're often undoing and surrendering and removing those things which need to be replaced in some ways.

The thing about rituals is that they don't actually have to be about anything.

There's the beauty of Burning Man.

Burning Man is this ritual, and the joke was always, we burn it so that we can burn it next year, right?

I mean, it's a ritual that doesn't have any meaning other than in itself, but it's very powerful.

Because it's a ritual.

And you burn the man, the same man every time, okay?

And so what we discovered in our family and other families is that if you have rituals, even though they're as simple as having pancakes on Sunday morning or pizza on a Friday night or birthdays, you always do this.

Or three times a year, our family always does this thing at the beginning of the seasons.