Kevin Kelly

But it's a very, very difficult thing to let go of and to surrender the assumptions and the prejudices that we have of what that looks like.

Yeah.

And I have a little bit of wisdom in the book saying, you know, the thing that made you weird as a kid can make you great as an adult if you don't lose it.

And the problem is that most of the time you're losing, it gets beat out of you.

You're weird.

Who wants to be weird, right?

And so that tendency for us,

I think surrendering is one aspect of it, but I would say something else, and this is the paradox.

This is the weirdest paradox.

There's a lot of paradoxes, but one of the weird paradoxes is that you cannot truly become yourself by yourself.

You can only become unique with the help of everybody else.

That is the paradox, all right?

It's not like you're going to become unique on your own.

No, it never happens.

It takes everybody.

to make you unique.

You can't do it by yourself.

And that is, again, because we are opaque to our own selves.

And we need the friends, family, clients, colleagues, customers to show us what we are becoming, to show us who we are.

We can't