Kim Anami

Some kind of incident happens, you're confronted with something, you just handle it with poise and grace.

You can live your whole life like that, sourcing that energy from your sexual connection.

Three years.

Okay, that's being single, not in a relationship.

In a relationship, I mean, I start like after a couple, two or three days, I'm like, something's wrong here.

Damn, you're like a daily sex type of person.

Ideally, or, you know, five days a week.

If you're having a really solid three-hour sex date, then that can last for days.

That counts for more.

But yeah, like, and even in the couples I work with over the years, the ones who really get on the Anami program, they'll say, like, they'll start, they'll be super in sync and connected.

And then they'll go two or three days and they'll notice they get irritable with each other.

They start nitpicking and fighting.

They go, oh, we haven't had sex in three days, like a whole three days.

And then they go and have sex and it cleans the slate and restores their connection.

So I've seen that borne out.

So for me, the three years was like a conscious celibacy.

Well, for me, those times usually have come after a big breakup where I like to go inward and take stock and like, okay, what are the patterns that showed up in this relationship and how can I shift them that I feel confident going into a new frequency moving forward?

And then I'll just know when it's time, right?

I don't set a goal like, okay, I won't have sex for three years.

I just know when I know.