Kim Anami

No, I'd had cervical orgasms first and then later done ecstasy in my early 20s.

And I was like, oh, this is like a cervical orgasm, but my cervical orgasms are better.

So having these mind-altering experiences where you feel...

transcendent you feel at one with yourself with the universe with God you even see shapes and colors differently so having full psychedelic trips by taking this energy and channeling it up the spine into the brain up through the crown chakra which was the aim of

in ancient Taoist and tantric practices is to use that energy as a springboard to higher states of awareness.

And so, again, we all have that capacity, but most people have quite unconscious experiences of sex, where they're racing to the finish line,

they think the ultimate goal is just that release of orgasm.

When I would say the ultimate goal is harvesting that energy, learning how to channel it in our lives.

So yes, pleasure is a great goal.

And I'd say you'd have even more pleasure by embarking on these practices, but you know,

My ultimate barometric question is does sex leave you feeling energized, rejuvenated, transformed, euphoric, and like you changed your life?

And if not, then you're doing it wrong.

Meaning there's ways to feel elevated and gather energy through sex or you feel depleted and like you've just dumped out all of this energy.

Well, the more sex you have or the longer you have it, the more energy you can harvest.

So in my experiences over the years, I've had really good radar, I suppose, in magnetizing lovers who are also interested in endurance sports, but like

Having long sex dates.

And because I feel like you can really open up and unwind.

It's like getting a massage for 15 minutes versus getting one for 90 minutes, right?

In 15 minutes, you've barely started to even relax and let your guard down and it's over.

In a 90-minute session or a three-hour session, you fully unwind.