Kim Coles

And then there's the other piece of it, too, of working and working to raise up the ranks at the job, right? So that's like also part of the ladder. And there's women who've had to make that decision. I'm going to, you know, put off getting married or put off having children because I want to, you know, rise up this ladder. And I guess now we have more choice than ever. And now...

And then there's the other piece of it, too, of working and working to raise up the ranks at the job, right? So that's like also part of the ladder. And there's women who've had to make that decision. I'm going to, you know, put off getting married or put off having children because I want to, you know, rise up this ladder. And I guess now we have more choice than ever. And now...

There's ways to have babies a little bit later and you can decide if you want to get married or not. There's all kinds of rules that have been broken and meant to be broken.

There's ways to have babies a little bit later and you can decide if you want to get married or not. There's all kinds of rules that have been broken and meant to be broken.

I'd like to strike that from the record that that's not something that you should do. Shouldn't do, but it is possible.

I'd like to strike that from the record that that's not something that you should do. Shouldn't do, but it is possible.

I'm lucky that, you know, listen, my mother didn't. My mother, who was very, grew up in a very traditional time, I know that she had a little bit of rebel aura. On her and rebel in that, you know, she grew up in the South and it was expected to get married right away and get your education right away, get married right away, start having children right away.

I'm lucky that, you know, listen, my mother didn't. My mother, who was very, grew up in a very traditional time, I know that she had a little bit of rebel aura. On her and rebel in that, you know, she grew up in the South and it was expected to get married right away and get your education right away, get married right away, start having children right away.

My parents got married at 25, which was late for that generation and didn't start having children until she was 32. So she was already married.

My parents got married at 25, which was late for that generation and didn't start having children until she was 32. So she was already married.

Yeah. And really clear, I want to finish my education. Your father and I decided that we wanted to have enough money and have a home already. And so it was never instilled upon in me that you must do it this way. You must do it. It has to be this way. I want grandbabies by a certain time. And so I'm grateful for that. The freedom was given.

Yeah. And really clear, I want to finish my education. Your father and I decided that we wanted to have enough money and have a home already. And so it was never instilled upon in me that you must do it this way. You must do it. It has to be this way. I want grandbabies by a certain time. And so I'm grateful for that. The freedom was given.

So I'm trying to... Or had a boyfriend. Put it in my brain, what does this have to do with this whole have it all? So you're saying these women are saying that we can have it all.

So I'm trying to... Or had a boyfriend. Put it in my brain, what does this have to do with this whole have it all? So you're saying these women are saying that we can have it all.

But is it having it all? It's having it all through the lens of what is having it all? Maybe that's the question. What does it mean to have it all? And I think it is subjective. I think it is... I think different... ages and stages and different times in history decide what having it all is. So having it all, I think, used to be the traditional, I have a husband, I have 2.3 kids, we have a house.

But is it having it all? It's having it all through the lens of what is having it all? Maybe that's the question. What does it mean to have it all? And I think it is subjective. I think it is... I think different... ages and stages and different times in history decide what having it all is. So having it all, I think, used to be the traditional, I have a husband, I have 2.3 kids, we have a house.

At one point it was, I get to stay at home and he gets to go out and work. Then it became, I want to work and have myself fulfilled and have my gifts fulfilled. So I think the question is really, what is having it all? And I think... Our show and this time that we were doing it, the 90s, was about exploring what having it all really meant and getting to decide for yourself what that meant.

At one point it was, I get to stay at home and he gets to go out and work. Then it became, I want to work and have myself fulfilled and have my gifts fulfilled. So I think the question is really, what is having it all? And I think... Our show and this time that we were doing it, the 90s, was about exploring what having it all really meant and getting to decide for yourself what that meant.

Like you were unlovable, unlikable. Nobody wanted you. Yeah, nobody bought the cow, man. They didn't want your milk. You know? Worst thing. But now, today, we have this whole other, like, fresh new, you know, rich auntie. Like, I don't want no husband. I don't want no kids. This energy of now I get to have my version of have it all. Like, you don't want me. I don't want you neither.

Like you were unlovable, unlikable. Nobody wanted you. Yeah, nobody bought the cow, man. They didn't want your milk. You know? Worst thing. But now, today, we have this whole other, like, fresh new, you know, rich auntie. Like, I don't want no husband. I don't want no kids. This energy of now I get to have my version of have it all. Like, you don't want me. I don't want you neither.