Konstantin Kisin

And the sad part is you have girls watching that who have not even kissed a boy yet or held a boy's hand and they're being...

overwhelmed by the opinions of professionals and sometimes wounded adults telling them to be fearful and risk averse and it happens on both sides so you have sort of the manosphere influencer guys saying you know don't ever be too vulnerable be an alpha male and then you have say a therapy influencer saying don't ever be vulnerable be an independent woman set boundaries

And so I think it's for boys and girls.

They're having their view of relationships distorted by scrolling through the opinions of adults too young.

The incentives are completely wrong.

So the incentive of a relationship influencer is to grab your attention immediately, which will be, you know, don't do this in your relationship or it will explode or five signs he's cheating on you right now.

And it's got to get an emotion like fear, anxiety.

But it's interesting because another place people often get advice is Reddit.

So online forums that ask for relationship advice.

And there was this graph done of all of the relationship advice on Reddit for the last decade.

The least popular answer that Reddit users gave was compromise.

The most popular is breakup, divorce.

So it's not only that the incentives are wrong for influencers, it's that I think...

The internet attracts lonely and hurt people to gather together to kind of post their way through their pain.

And unfortunately, if you ask for someone's opinion, then they're not going to tell you to work it through.

They're going to give you their emotional argument.

And so I think really anywhere that you're getting relationship advice online is you should at least be very suspicious.

yeah well i think as well to reiterate the point we when you're slightly older you have context yeah and you have a level of discernment to say this is mental yeah um and i think you know for my generation i mean i've got a phone at 11 and

It wasn't as bad for me because I talk about the algorithms and how they were gradually introduced.

But now, you're seeing all that rage about the world before you've even experienced the world.