Kristen Davis

Right, right, right, right.

It's too much work.

It seemed like work, this long list.

But I guess you're right.

It is like kind of just thinking outside the box, not just like, where did you grow up or whatever?

Like that can get kind of kind of dull.

Interesting.

something in common with and you know that they're not psychos send them my way definitely so that I have another question it's kind of a general question but I'm just curious because of your specialty right if you're talking to people who who are dating where would you put chemistry initially it's not at the top interesting it's not at the top because um I do believe that

just repugnant right they could have just been having a bad day and having a second chance to then confirm or deny what you're sure sure sure thinking is important that's interesting so if with your couples if you're thinking about people who are married and might come to you because they're having intimacy issues is it something where do you ever think to yourself i don't know maybe this is not a good question for therapists but like

You know how sometimes you might have couples where they were like super attracted in the beginning, right?

And everything was very hot and heavy.

And then they get married and years later and the children and the jobs and everything, and it's not so hot and heavy, but then they can refer back to that.

Like I've heard people talk about this, like you need that kind of intense time in the beginning so that you have that kind of ability and shared memories to hearken back to.

And then there's other people who,

And I mean, I'm talking about my friends really, right?

Who say like, it's better if it builds slowly in the beginning because then you're really getting to know each other.

And that's where it's coming from.

Does that make sense?

I know.

Right, right.