Kristin Cavallari

It's so much more beautiful on the other side.

But to get to the other side, you have to sit in it and you have to go through it.

And I do think that

the ignoring it or the being the tough girl, whatever label you want to put on it can serve a purpose.

I definitely think it serves a purpose.

It really served a purpose for me.

It did.

When I was in survival mode, it served a purpose and I needed it to get to where I was going.

But then it gets to a point in your life where it doesn't serve you anymore.

And if you want to change things, right, like if you don't like, let's say, the type of men you're attracting into your life or just where you're at in your life, maybe you haven't advanced in your career the way that you've wanted to.

You're just not where you want to be.

It gets to a point where then you have to take a hard look in the mirror and you have to ask yourself, what have I done to contribute to this?

That's actually another lesson that I want to teach my kids is always take responsibility for your life.

You have to ask yourself, how did I contribute to get here?

So that you can take ownership for your life so that then you can change it if you want to.

And again, I definitely think when you've been in survival mode and those tools that you pick up when you are in survival mode, they do serve a purpose.

They absolutely do.

but you can't do it your whole life.

They can get you so far, but then if you want to go deeper and you want to have a better relationship with yourself, if you want to live a more peaceful life, if you want better relationships with everyone across the board, romantic relationships, friendships, people at work, you have to then shift and change it.

All of the relationships in my life today are much deeper and much more profound.