Kristin Cavallari

And why don't we ever want to be alone?

It's because we're avoiding something.

So this was a few years ago for me when I was still working through my divorce and trying to find my self-love and everything.

And that's really what it is.

Because when you really love yourself and you value yourself and...

you're not going to put up with this kind of behavior is basically in a nutshell what it is.

Like the shit that I put up with years ago, I would never put up with today.

And so you have to choose yourself over this toxic cycle and you have to just commit.

And so whatever that has to be, whether it's changing their name in your phone, if it's blocking them,

if it's like, maybe you make a bet with yourself, like, okay, if you can finally go three months without talking to this person, you know, we get to get, I don't know, like a new purse or whatever it is.

But because also it's, it's so hard in the very beginning to break that cycle, because when you're in this mode of texting someone, calling someone, like it just becomes

second nature.

It's habit for us.

So I actually think that's the hard part is breaking the habit, breaking the routine.

But once you can actually get out of that and break it, it's much easier then.

Because, you know, when it's routine to text someone or call them and check in with them, your mind is just always naturally thinking about them.

I don't think it's

that long to break a routine.

I would say a couple weeks and you'll get out of that habit.

We got to just break the habit.