Larry Wilmore

I wouldn't say in service of others, but it's part of that period I was talking about where I had forsook myself for so long in terms of what my real emotional needs were and expression and all that stuff. And the learning of that was a huge, big deal for me. So it wasn't explicit as doing it in that way. Did you find that... But I've never done it in a practical way like that where, you know...

I wouldn't say in service of others, but it's part of that period I was talking about where I had forsook myself for so long in terms of what my real emotional needs were and expression and all that stuff. And the learning of that was a huge, big deal for me. So it wasn't explicit as doing it in that way. Did you find that... But I've never done it in a practical way like that where, you know...

In the way that I think that you're asking.

In the way that I think that you're asking.

Oh, yeah.

Oh, yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Or you build resentment.

Or you build resentment.

You've got procrastination and messiness. They're definitely related.

You've got procrastination and messiness. They're definitely related.

Well, I think people like me who I'm not big, messy, but it can start to get bad. And, you know, then I'll, you know, correct or whatever. But I'm usually attracted to someone that's the opposite, you know, you know. And so that's a problem, you know. And so that can push you being the wrong person again. Exactly. That's exactly right.

Well, I think people like me who I'm not big, messy, but it can start to get bad. And, you know, then I'll, you know, correct or whatever. But I'm usually attracted to someone that's the opposite, you know, you know. And so that's a problem, you know. And so that can push you being the wrong person again. Exactly. That's exactly right.

Because their cleaning up is not wrong, but mine being messy is.

Because their cleaning up is not wrong, but mine being messy is.

My ex-wife was the extreme of this, and I remember this is how bad she was. And so I'm not exaggerating. There was a newspaper on our coffee table, and she said, the living room's a mess. I'm like, the living room's a mess? Like, the newspaper's on the coffee table. That's it. I said, what are you afraid of? And I don't know if she said this or I'm making it up.

My ex-wife was the extreme of this, and I remember this is how bad she was. And so I'm not exaggerating. There was a newspaper on our coffee table, and she said, the living room's a mess. I'm like, the living room's a mess? Like, the newspaper's on the coffee table. That's it. I said, what are you afraid of? And I don't know if she said this or I'm making it up.

She said this, that people are going to come by and see that. I'm like... People are going to come by and see that people live here is what they're going to think. But there was the judgment attached to it that you're going to be exposed for being messy to the world.

She said this, that people are going to come by and see that. I'm like... People are going to come by and see that people live here is what they're going to think. But there was the judgment attached to it that you're going to be exposed for being messy to the world.