Larry Wilmore

So when I met her, I was frustrated with dating and everything. I was getting to my late 20s, and I'm like, okay. In fact, I used to do a joke about it at the time. I still remember. I said, you know, I've been looking for the right person. Then I started thinking, maybe I'm not the right person. Maybe I'm the wrong person. Maybe I have to start looking for the wrong girl. It's like...

So when I met her, I was frustrated with dating and everything. I was getting to my late 20s, and I'm like, okay. In fact, I used to do a joke about it at the time. I still remember. I said, you know, I've been looking for the right person. Then I started thinking, maybe I'm not the right person. Maybe I'm the wrong person. Maybe I have to start looking for the wrong girl. It's like...

How did it go? It was like, so what do you do, lesbian? Yes. You know, something like that. Where are you from, prison? Yes. It was that type of thing. But I remember starting, I started doing jokes about being the wrong person and me, something wrong with me rather than the people. And I remember my roommate at the time, do you know Bobby Gaylord? Did you ever know Bobby? He's a standup.

How did it go? It was like, so what do you do, lesbian? Yes. You know, something like that. Where are you from, prison? Yes. It was that type of thing. But I remember starting, I started doing jokes about being the wrong person and me, something wrong with me rather than the people. And I remember my roommate at the time, do you know Bobby Gaylord? Did you ever know Bobby? He's a standup.

He, when we moved in together, he was going through a divorce and he was going to therapy a lot and he would come home. I would ask him about therapy, you know, and he would share his therapy session. So I was kind of getting therapy by proxy a little bit.

He, when we moved in together, he was going through a divorce and he was going to therapy a lot and he would come home. I would ask him about therapy, you know, and he would share his therapy session. So I was kind of getting therapy by proxy a little bit.

like i was learning all these things i think that applies to me thank you bob i'm gonna give you five dollars i had zero money for thank you bobby gaylord those types of things right no it was it was awesome and i actually learned a lot in the couple of years he was going to do it that's what podcasts are for now yeah yeah exactly no you're absolutely right you know and so i i really and it was funny i think the acting classes i was taking at the time too helped me turn inward and

like i was learning all these things i think that applies to me thank you bob i'm gonna give you five dollars i had zero money for thank you bobby gaylord those types of things right no it was it was awesome and i actually learned a lot in the couple of years he was going to do it that's what podcasts are for now yeah yeah exactly no you're absolutely right you know and so i i really and it was funny i think the acting classes i was taking at the time too helped me turn inward and

One of the things, I wrote down something, empath on there, sociopath is one of it. One of the things I had realized during that time, it was very difficult for me to have my own emotions, you know, to be okay with them. My parents had split when I was a teenager and it was one of those things, this was an old saying that people used to say, you're the man of the house now.

One of the things, I wrote down something, empath on there, sociopath is one of it. One of the things I had realized during that time, it was very difficult for me to have my own emotions, you know, to be okay with them. My parents had split when I was a teenager and it was one of those things, this was an old saying that people used to say, you're the man of the house now.

You know, that type of thing. And it's like, fuck, you know, that puts a lot of emotional pressure on you. And I think my emotions shut down then Because I had to take care of my mom who was going through a tough time. With the divorce or other stuff? Yeah, she's had emotional breakdowns, you know, things like that. It's just really tough on her.

You know, that type of thing. And it's like, fuck, you know, that puts a lot of emotional pressure on you. And I think my emotions shut down then Because I had to take care of my mom who was going through a tough time. With the divorce or other stuff? Yeah, she's had emotional breakdowns, you know, things like that. It's just really tough on her.

You know, there were six of us and I had two older sisters, but they were like into drugs and just into trouble. And I was like de facto the oldest. So I felt a lot of weight on my shoulders. So I always say I kind of ended my childhood maybe at 15 and just was more put my feelings down.

You know, there were six of us and I had two older sisters, but they were like into drugs and just into trouble. And I was like de facto the oldest. So I felt a lot of weight on my shoulders. So I always say I kind of ended my childhood maybe at 15 and just was more put my feelings down.

yeah aside you know and i realized that in my 20s like i could not get angry and things like that you know and i couldn't i didn't have permission for a lot of my feelings and stuff you know that's interesting that even because men can have very little access to emotions except anger in my experience i didn't you didn't have that no you weren't even clear you didn't have clearance for anger no i didn't have permission for yeah yeah

yeah aside you know and i realized that in my 20s like i could not get angry and things like that you know and i couldn't i didn't have permission for a lot of my feelings and stuff you know that's interesting that even because men can have very little access to emotions except anger in my experience i didn't you didn't have that no you weren't even clear you didn't have clearance for anger no i didn't have permission for yeah yeah

For my own anger. I could be anger in someone else's behalf, maybe. Okay. But for my own, there's a distinction between them, which is interesting.

For my own anger. I could be anger in someone else's behalf, maybe. Okay. But for my own, there's a distinction between them, which is interesting.

I was too, but when I say empath, I was too understanding of what happened of that person. Because I was trained to understand somebody's in trouble, somebody's hurting. My thing doesn't count. What's happening over here? Is that what your mother modeled or she actually imparted that? No, no, no. I did this all on my own. She did not ask for that or model that. She's not to blame for that.

I was too, but when I say empath, I was too understanding of what happened of that person. Because I was trained to understand somebody's in trouble, somebody's hurting. My thing doesn't count. What's happening over here? Is that what your mother modeled or she actually imparted that? No, no, no. I did this all on my own. She did not ask for that or model that. She's not to blame for that.