Laura Henshaw

Maybe others will be a little bit, but it's your life, right?

And we care so much about like, oh my God, what will the people from school think of me?

And then what will my parents think?

And what will...

That's why I said they're not living your life.

You are the person that's going to have to live with the circumstances that you create, right?

And it is so important to remind yourself of that, especially if you are like a natural people pleaser.

Observe a day in your life and how many decisions that you make for other people instead of yourself and then ask yourself why.

Because these people don't really care about

Yeah, they might judge you if you do something different, like they probably put you in this specific box that makes them feel comfortable.

But if you want to get out of that, go and do it.

And I think so often we do feel like we have to put ourselves in this box that other people create for us.

But if we don't want to be there, we don't have to.

But as a people pleaser, I feel like often we're almost like a martyr of our lives.

Like, no, I have to stay in this box because that's where they feel comfortable.

But it's like, no, you're in control of kind of what you do.

A hundred percent.

And I think the other example I'll use is when I decided to have a cesarean, the internet had so many opinions on how I should give birth.

Which I just, and in that moment, I'm so glad that I'd worked through all of that stuff at that point so I could make that decision for myself.

But that was so interesting because I was like, why do like hundreds of people have an opinion on how I give birth with my body, the people that I'll never meet, never know, with a child that they will never, ever, ever meet or know either?