Lauren

This happened a couple of days ago, and I'm still staying with my fiancé right now, but things are tense and I feel anxious pretty much all of the time.

He knows I'm upset and knows I need space, so he hasn't tried to talk about it since.

He knows I'm considering calling off the engagement, which is why I think he's been so sensitive around me the last couple of days.

He hasn't been acting like it's a positive thing anymore and seems pretty remorseful, since I told him how much it hurt me.

This morning, I asked him if he knew about it the whole time, and he told me that his parents started making comments without his knowledge, and after he overheard a comment they made to me while over at his parents' house, he asked them privately why they said that, and they explained that they were testing me.

He decided to let them continue just to see what I would do.

From past interactions with his parents, I also know he has a hard time standing up to them or disagreeing with them, so it honestly makes sense that he didn't call them out and just started going along with it.

They told him that they were offended when I suggested an expensive resort for the honeymoon and made a comment insinuating that his parents would be paying for it.

They got it in their head that I just expected them to shoulder the cost of an expensive resort without question, which isn't true.

I happily accepted a more modest option when they suggested it because I don't want to seem pushy or entitled.

Plus, typically the groom's family pays for the honeymoon, so I didn't know they were offended by that.

Maybe I really did come off as entitled, but that was honestly never my intention.

Regardless, I don't think that justifies testing me like this.

He wasn't the mastermind, but he never stopped them and didn't see why it was wrong or manipulative until I told him I was upset.

And part of me wonders if he was manipulated by his parents to think this was acceptable.

I'm torn between calling it off or having a conversation with him and asking him to go to couples counseling and set some serious boundaries with his parents.

I also see some suggestions recommending that I talk to his brother's ex-wife.

I think that's a good idea, but I'm honestly really nervous about it.

I don't have her number, but I follow her on Instagram, so I'm considering DMing her and asking to call her.

I'm pretty overwhelmed with the attention that this post is getting, but I'm super appreciative for everyone's support and love.