Lauren

He came to me yesterday with the post, and I was super afraid he would be angry, but he was actually very understanding.

He said reading the comments was super eye-opening to him on just how messed up this situation was.

I'm so glad.

He feels bad that he ever even tried to spin this in a positive light.

We had a pretty deep conversation, and he came to realize that he has been manipulated very heavily by his parents and family.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

So even when an extremely normal and well-intentioned person comes into the family, aka me and his brother's ex, they will do anything they can to invalidate their character because they are uncomfortable with outsiders.

I've learned a lot about myself through this situation as well.

First of all, I'm emotionally vulnerable and need therapy.

Bad.

My need to belong has caused me to stay in situations that are unhealthy for me just because I'm so desperate for a family.

I know that's bad and I know it will be hard, but I want to change.

With that being said, even though my fiance was very remorseful and apologetic, I told him I want to call off our wedding and take a break from our relationship.

We both have issues we need to work on by ourselves before we consider joining in marriage.

I want to figure out who I am without someone to lean on, as painful as that may be.

And he needs to seriously evaluate his relationship with his family and how they have affected him.

Yeah.