Leila Hormozi

It was like, you know, my tongue is swollen, my hands go numb, like full on, like many more symptoms than I experienced in the past. It freaked me out. And when that happened, I was like, you know, the first thing that happened was like, what's wrong with me? Like, there's got to be something wrong with me because I don't understand.

And then after about two and a half weeks of, you know, I reached out to different therapists and psychiatrists and doctors and like everyone has their own opinion of, you know, why did you have this panic attack? I reached out to a friend of mine who recommended I read a book. And the book was Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You by Albert Ellis.

And then after about two and a half weeks of, you know, I reached out to different therapists and psychiatrists and doctors and like everyone has their own opinion of, you know, why did you have this panic attack? I reached out to a friend of mine who recommended I read a book. And the book was Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You by Albert Ellis.

And I read that book and I was like, oh, my God.

And I read that book and I was like, oh, my God.

I don't need anybody to tell me what's wrong with me because nothing's wrong with me besides the fact that I think these things are so bad.

I don't need anybody to tell me what's wrong with me because nothing's wrong with me besides the fact that I think these things are so bad.

And the things in your life are bad or a certain, the emotions that I was feeling, the fact that I was so anxious about something, the fact that like, there's nothing wrong with me for having a panic attack. There's nothing wrong if you can't sleep at night because you're anxious. There's nothing wrong. But I was labeling all those things as bad and wrong and saying I needed to make them go away.

And the things in your life are bad or a certain, the emotions that I was feeling, the fact that I was so anxious about something, the fact that like, there's nothing wrong with me for having a panic attack. There's nothing wrong if you can't sleep at night because you're anxious. There's nothing wrong. But I was labeling all those things as bad and wrong and saying I needed to make them go away.

Yes. Because sometimes emotions are so strong, we feel like there's something physically wrong with us. And so I then said, I need to learn all this for myself. And so I started studying a lot of Albert Ellis and Stephen Hayes, their work just as behavioral psychologists. And I think I've read every book from each one of them.

Yes. Because sometimes emotions are so strong, we feel like there's something physically wrong with us. And so I then said, I need to learn all this for myself. And so I started studying a lot of Albert Ellis and Stephen Hayes, their work just as behavioral psychologists. And I think I've read every book from each one of them.

And it's really helped me learn that there's never been anything wrong with me. It's just been my response to my negative emotions that has been, I've just had a bad relationship with them most of my life. And so I had to change that. And that was when I decided, because I said,

And it's really helped me learn that there's never been anything wrong with me. It's just been my response to my negative emotions that has been, I've just had a bad relationship with them most of my life. And so I had to change that. And that was when I decided, because I said,

how am I going to be able to achieve my goals if, you know, my goals do have me doing a speaking event, running a full team. Like, I want to be that person, but it freaks me the f*** out. And so, yeah, I had a panic attack. But I want to achieve those goals. And so that was really the... I would say like the driver behind my motivation to figure that out for myself.

how am I going to be able to achieve my goals if, you know, my goals do have me doing a speaking event, running a full team. Like, I want to be that person, but it freaks me the f*** out. And so, yeah, I had a panic attack. But I want to achieve those goals. And so that was really the... I would say like the driver behind my motivation to figure that out for myself.

And ever since then, it's been a constant practice of recognizing what I'm feeling, remembering that emotions cannot hurt me, right? It's like a lot of people say like, oh, well, you're not going to die. I'm like, I don't think most people are scared of dying. I think they're scared of feeling like they're going to die. You know what I'm saying? Like, we're not scared of death.

And ever since then, it's been a constant practice of recognizing what I'm feeling, remembering that emotions cannot hurt me, right? It's like a lot of people say like, oh, well, you're not going to die. I'm like, I don't think most people are scared of dying. I think they're scared of feeling like they're going to die. You know what I'm saying? Like, we're not scared of death.

We're scared of feeling like we're going to confront death. And so... That was really significant for me. And it also, I would say, propelled me in the direction of learning to be more flexible and less rigid. Because also, you know, that control, it also wants to control emotions. Like me, my control in a business setting can be very helpful at times.

We're scared of feeling like we're going to confront death. And so... That was really significant for me. And it also, I would say, propelled me in the direction of learning to be more flexible and less rigid. Because also, you know, that control, it also wants to control emotions. Like me, my control in a business setting can be very helpful at times.

Control when it comes to an emotional part of my life is not helpful because I can't control every thought and feeling that comes into my mind or my brain. And so... That really taught me that being able to let go, being able to let things occur and just remind myself that I am big enough to hold space for all of those things and feeling them is not going to do anything.