Leslie

Joten joskus ajattelen, että hänen tunteet olivat melkein jättyneitä, jos se tuli mukaan, koska hän oli vahva minulle. Mielestäni se oli todella hauskaa mennä työskentelemään ja tietää, että Vesa oli kotona. Se teki minua hyvin epäilemällä työskentelemällä, muistan. Olin ylös koko ajan. Kaikki puhelin, joka tuli minulle, oli...

Jokaisella kertaa, kun katsoin mistä Vesta kertoi, olin semmoinen, että onko muuta tapahtunut. Siellä oli aina jotain huolta. Ja luulen, että se oli alku siitä, etten ole koskaan ilmoittanut kaupungista, ainakin ei paljon, koska halusin melkein nähdä, että lapsi on tullut ulos ennen kuin tiedän, että olen onnellinen, että on lapsi.

Because the experiences were quite a few. There was one we lost at 20 weeks. So we actually delivered a still baby. And that was the worst of all of them. I mean, we have three kids now, must put it out there. But obviously there was no excitement on my part during the whole pregnancy because of the experiences we'd had. Very traumatizing in a way. Thank you so much for sharing those experiences.

I didn't have a true understanding of it all. So when Vesa was still wanting us to try again, in my mind, why would you want to do this again? Even before we had our first one, I couldn't understand why she wanted to put her body through that. So every time she talked about, should we try again, I was almost angry. Because why are we doing this to ourselves? Why are you doing this to your body?

Niin paljon kuin me olimme yhdessä erilaisilla tavoilla, osa minua oli aina kiinnostunut siitä, miksi hän halusi jatkaa lapsia. Meidän yhteiskunta oli yrittänyt. Joo, joo, joo, kuulen sitä. Laitan hieman siihen, että kun menimme ensimmäiseen, mielestäni tarvitsimme aikaa, jotta pystyttäisiin rajoittamaan.

You can share your experience with someone and someone can share their experience with you. I never knew my mum had a miscarriage until we had our first miscarriage. We were talking to my dad's sister and he said, oh, you'll be fine. Your mum had a miscarriage before your oldest brother and you had a third born. She had three kids after that, so don't worry. I said, what? My mum had a miscarriage? I never knew that. I understand why people don't talk about these things, at least within our community. I don't know about you, Joseph.

I don't think I've come across any male friend or relative in my circle who has said, look, I'm really stressed because my wife has had a miscarriage. It doesn't mean they are not, but nobody discusses it. I agree with that.

Oikeastaan ei. Yksi ystäväni sanoi Vestaan, että mitä sinä teit, tai mitä tapahtui? Se oli melkein kuin, mitä sinä teit, jotta luotaisit tuon ristiriidan asiaa. Ja me tuntimme, että se oli yllättävää. Tietysti emme aloittanut niin monia ihmisiä, mutta muutamme kertovat.

No, absolutely not. I think one of the things that really upset me, which made me eventually leave that job, when we had the ectopic and her G was removed, after she got home, she needed a lot of help to do things, but I wasn't given time off from work. And that's when I got so...

demotivointi tehdä mitään työtä, minä tuli todella rauhassa heidän työtänsä työtä ja tietysti löysin toisen työn.

That's a good question. I haven't thought about it. No, never thought about it. Even funny, my elders just came in and I was waiting for her to go out before I said anything because I wasn't too sure whether I wanted her to know about them. She knows about the experience we had when we had her at 27 weeks. She knows that much, but nothing about miscarriages. But I think because our first two white girls

I think it is important for them to understand these things. But at the same time, I think my nervousness would mean that our minds are very powerful, so I don't want them, when it's time for them to start preparing for kids, start getting worried about the fact that they could have a miscarriage, because their experience might be very different. If it does happen, it will be easier for us to say, look,

ettei sinut huolehti, vaikka sinun ennen olisi ollut huolta. Ja jos sinun jälkeen olisit kuitenkin, sinä olisit kuitenkin hyvä. Muuten kuin laittaa sitä heidän radiaan ennen kuin se tapahtuu. En ole varma. Luulen, että haluaisin tehdä jotain samanlaista.

Hey, guys.

How's it going?

Good, good.

I just wanted to call and I did want to let you know I picked up your trading cards and I absolutely love that.

Oh my gosh.

If I could only keep one, I have to say it's going to be the one that makes me laugh the hardest because it's the one that took it the least serious and I would say Adam Crowley.

Oh my God.