Leslie John

But isn't there a flip side to this where people have tried to overshare and maybe it hurt them by they really were vulnerable?

I know as a man growing up, I remember one time in a relationship, I shared how I was feeling and my girlfriend said, you look weak to me.

And she said, I know I'm not supposed to think this,

But she was like, she couldn't receive the emotions that I had.

It's not like I was like wallowing on the ground emotionally, but I was like being emotional.

I was having a moment and I was showing some emotion.

And she was just like, I know I'm supposed to.

like be okay with this, but I'm not.

And I think a lot of men have experienced that where they have tried to be vulnerable.

They've tried to, maybe they even cried in front of their girlfriend at one point.

Whatever reason, they felt a little shift.

They felt a change.

They felt an energetic change.

a communicational change where it's like, huh, do I really feel safe around this person, this man, if he's weak?

Even if it's just for a moment, can I trust him?

So when is oversharing actually hurt you?

When does it hurt you with your boss where you just say, this is actually how I'm feeling.

I'm really insecure and scared and nervous.

And then he's like,

Well, can I trust you?