Lewis Howes

Yeah, and that's evolution.

And there's an actual, we have an evolutionary biological explanation for this.

We're born, Homo sapiens are not made to be happy.

we're made to be special.

Homo sapiens, the brain of Homo sapiens is the same as it was at the beginning of the Pleistocene era, 250,000 years ago, when all of humanity lived in bands of 30 to 50 kin-based individuals, hierarchical kin-based groups of 30 to 50.

And what do you want?

You want to maintain and rise in that particular hierarchy, which is like, and the way that you do that is with more hunting skills, et cetera.

Why?

Because you get more food and you get more mates.

were that simple in its way and that is metastasized in modern society in wanting more internet followers more instagram followers having a lot of likes that's how we're actually you know being rewarded for dragging in a slightly bigger gazelle into the cave but that's all that explains that milieu explains so much of of our relationships you know for example one of the things that we find in relationships between husbands and wives

The reason that marriages fail is because women are not adored by their husbands and or husbands are not admired by their wives.

This is the fuel of happiness in these traditional relationships.

And so what she needs to hear because of the evolutionary biology, like she has a huge commitment and investment in raising kids.

I mean, your wife's just carried your babies for months and she's taking care of them.

They die without her, right?

And so the result of it is that she needs the protector who has a complete commitment to her.

And how does she know the commitment?

Through the adoration.

And so she wants to hear, honey, baby, I would fight a tiger for you with my hands and only you.

And what do you need to hear?