Lewis Howes

Anyway, but the whole point is that we curate for compatibility, but the human brain wants complementarity.

It wants sexy difference.

And the application is what they do.

Compatibility is a left brain solution.

Complementarity is a right brain phenomenon.

And so all the technology is making us fall in love wrong, so we're not.

Right.

Yeah.

So I have a lot of my wife and I actually do a lot of this stuff together.

But there are a lot of, you know, deep work that you can actually do.

But I've got a kind of a break glass thing to think about.

Actually, believe it or not, there's an algorithm of things that will save most relationships.

Some of it's biological and some of it's actually more in terms of learning.

So number one is, believe it or not, it's eye contact.

So most couples, when they're on the rocks, they've stopped looking at each other in the eyes.

Believe it or not, that's characteristic of relationships that have gone cold.

And part of the reason is because men, in a heterosexual relationship, a man and a woman, the man has stopped looking at his wife or partner when he's talking to her.

And the reason is because guys are really good at that.

You and I can talk to each other and have a... Men, when they're together, they tend to... Look at other stuff.

Yeah, they're like talking to each other deeply about things while watching a football game.