Lewis Howes

And I think it comes, for me, what I've learned is letting go of the expectation of the accomplishments.

You know, my last book, my first book was a New York Times bestseller, and then there was an expectation.

I gotta make the next one a New York Times bestseller.

Probably the same for you.

I gotta make this just as big, if not bigger.

And I remember going into it saying, my last book, I was like, you know what, I'm writing a book that's probably not gonna be the biggest thing ever, because it's talking about how men can be more vulnerable.

And it came out right when Me Too happened.

So I was writing this a couple years before, and it came out during it.

And I was like, this could either be the biggest thing in the world, or this could be like the last thought people have, is how men can heal their hearts.

And it did well, but didn't hit the New York Times bestseller list.

And I remember for a day, I was like,

if I'm being honest, I was upset and angry and frustrated that it didn't, it hit the numbers, but it didn't hit the list.

And then I said, what was the reason why I wanted to write this in the first place?

It was to be able to help one man who might be going through mental challenges or struggles to heal and improve the quality of their relationship with their partner, their friends, their family, and then their community and the world.

And it's been doing that.

It's been continuing to do that year after year.

And I'm just like, I got to keep focusing on the impact and the significance, like you call it, the service to one human being or thousands or millions, whoever wants to listen or read or consume.

And when I, it took a few days to kind of let that go, my ego go of being hurt or frustrated or angry.

And when I did that, I just said, okay, I'm going to just really appreciate the people that are reading it, that are messaging me and take it in and be like, wow, that was impactful to that person.

And that's been a big game changer for me.