Lewis Howes

Why?

Because they're too busy being worried about what they think you're thinking of them.

Yeah.

In other words, everyone's walking around in this bubble of self-importance thinking, I wonder what everybody thinks of me and my bubble of self-importance, not realizing that they're walking around in their bubble of self-importance thinking, I wonder what everyone's thinking of me, my bubble of self-importance.

And when you burst your own bubble and see it for what it is, the freedom that comes with that is refreshing.

That frees up life force rather than you trying to run around as this chameleon, this adaptation machine.

Or if they don't like me this way, I'll be this way.

If they don't like me this way, I'll be that way.

Yes.

And a lot of that is driven by patterns.

I worked alongside as a trainer for Robin's Research for Tony for 15 years.

And I learned a huge amount from Tony.

But he said one thing that was so powerful.

that it was in a leadership meeting one time and he came out.

It was almost a throwaway comment, but it had such an impact on me.

He said, if you want to get good at working with people, get good at spotting patterns because there's only so many of them.

And I looked at that.

So let's look at perfectionism.

That's a classic by me pattern as well.

Any perfectionists watching here will probably understand what that's like.