Lex P
Appearances
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I'm not trying to see you hoes on Valentine's Day, bitch.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
But I think it was just young and dumb being stupid.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And I think what it was is like, instead of being like, hey Lex, I want to hang out with you just one-on-one. Like, we want to spend time with you. Just say that. Because I'm bringing my friend along because I'm like, oh my God, y'all are going to love her. Yeah. Because you know me. I like to mesh my friends. I do. I'm that friend like, oh, wait till you meet her. Wait till you meet her.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Like, literally, I told... Because, like, my newest friend in my... Y'all know I love a new friend. B-Lynn is my new friend. So I'm like, oh, my God, B-Lynn, you have to meet Lauren. So I just like bringing my friends together. So in my head, I'm like, let me bring Drea because I love her. It's lit. It's a good time. They're like, oh, we want to just spend time with you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
But I don't think it came off that way. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. So... But anyways, shout out to Jazz, the new mother.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
But the other ones... You concerned. And to the rest of you hoes. And to the rest of you hoes. Because Lauren, do you remember when that girl Taylor? Yeah. She attacked me. Who the fuck is Taylor? She was like, she said, my mother has readings in her mind. And she said, you're not a good person. I said, I'll fuck you and your mama up, bitch. Who in the fuck is Taylor?
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
It was another girl that ended up showing up on the trip. In Atlanta? Yes, yes. And she was like, my mother had visions about you. And she said, you're not that girl. I said, do your mama want to get whooped? And this was your friend? No, this was another girl.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I was literally... Now, I'm not a fighter. I was about to whoop that girl ass in the hotel room. Jazz was like, Lex, I love you. She was like, just leave because it's not worth it. Jazz was mad at the end because she was like, what the fuck are you doing? Why would you try to fight my friend? And Jazz is a very calm person, so it was just a situation. We were young. We were young. I wasn't there.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Yeah, you weren't there. But I remember I called Lauren. You did. And I was going, I think that was like around the time, like, because we were always friends. But during that, after that trip, we really got close. But came closer. Yeah, for sure. Because I was like venting to you about it because I was like, I cannot believe they came here and did that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Oh, no, you took my wig off. We wasn't fighting for real.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Girl, we was just playing. It wasn't crazy. Okay, Lynn, what was your first impression of me? I don't remember. I just thought you were silly. Did I scare you because I was so loud? No. See, because sometimes I feel like with quiet people and I come along and be like, oh, she doing a lot. She doing too much. You didn't scare me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Ooh. I be scaring the quiet folks off. Maybe like... Not you be scaring her. Is your friend Lex going to be there? Okay, okay. So what did you think about me, Lynn?
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
No, you don't. And approachable. You have that Kim Kardashian face. It's always like... But I don't know, because I feel like you got a resting bitch face, too, but people still think you know. No, that's because I be gassy, bitch. What? Gassy? I be looking... I don't... I'll be happy to go to the bathroom.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I got an old bladder. I'll be happy to go to the bathroom. It'd be all the beans.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Please don't bring up... I cannot wait till we done recording. I know what I'm ordering. Chipotle. Extra pinto. Okay. Okay, so I'll say this. My first impression of Elise because, like... The way Ryan ran it down to me, he's like, yeah, like, come, this and that. And, you know, at that time, we hadn't had a lot of experience in the industry yet.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
So I was like, oh, my gosh, Elise is a serious person. Like, she's going to come and be so, like... Oh, my God. So I was like, let me, you know, put on my tie, my Avril Lavigne tie. You know what I'm saying? Like, I was... A flip point. Yeah, I had to get serious. But, like, once I got to know her, I was like, oh, she's very down to earth.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Don't call me. Don't text me. I'll talk to you on the 15th or the 16th, bitch. But if you're single, what you going to do? Somebody finna fuck me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
And I can see why you have your job because I think to have a job like you have, you have to be plugged in. And, like, no, like... Because you are very, like, young-hearted, like we are. Like, very much can hang with the girls, have a good time. So I was like, okay, I thought you were, like, a very serious... Even though I was on y'all asses at the Houston show. Oh, let me tell you, though.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
So on the couch, we have Lauren. Yes. We have Elise.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Ooh, I'm glad you brought that up. Because we were so drunk at that show.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
We were drunk as hell. It was so bad. When we got back home, Elise made us go to her house, and we had to review the live show. And till this day, do you know me and Drea limit ourselves? We can only take two shots before a live. Till this day. We don't play.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I was like, oh. I was like, let's get us to the bed.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
And we have Lynn. So, I want y'all to, like, go through each of y'all. Just, like, give a little introduction about yourself. Like, let the girls know what it is. What's up? Yeah, and, like, maybe how we met or something. Yeah, yeah. Tell a little, you know, a little one-two.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
We got a pipe. Yeah, they were on timeout for a little while.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
She said, turn it up, turn it up. I know that's right. And I want a shot. This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Drea Nicole. And one thing we do as humans, we love to talk about red flags. Red flag, don't talk to him, don't be friends with her. But what about the green flags in relationships that you should probably focus on?
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Pour Minds Podcast
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Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera. Entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with Love Lex P. Mmm, tasty.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
What is your take on having a lot of female friends?
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Okay, we're going to get into the first game because, you know, we're going to sit here chatting all day.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So, yes, let's get into the game. Okay, what are we playing? We're going to play, you know, I know y'all heard of we listen and we don't judge. This game is called we listen and we might judge.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I'm judging. I'm judging. I'm for sure judging. I'm going the fuck off. Like, if I found out anybody that y'all were dating and you're like, well, you have to understand. I'm like, you a weirdo and your nigga a weirdo. Yeah. Yeah, I'm judging. Yeah, so we can all agree we judging? Okay, okay. Ooh. Poor hygiene.
Pour Minds Podcast
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If your friend told you they've dated someone and realized they don't use rags, don't shower frequently, and don't wash their hands, are you judging your friend for that? Hell yeah, because bitch, you must don't bathe neither.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
You're dirty. I don't like that. You're dirty. Let me say this. Let me say this. I had a friend. I started off wrong. Nope. I had a friend who I would like, the guys that she would date, I would be like, why? Why? And we talked about this on the show before. And when I went on a trip with her, I realized this is why you're dirty. You're dirty. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
So now, back then I didn't judge because I'm like, oh, I'm being a good friend. You know what I'm saying? I'm like, I don't judge the men you date. But then once I realized, oh, your booty hole dirty too. Yeah, you don't be wiping. So now I used to not judge, but now I'm judging. Yeah, for sure. Lesson learned. Lesson learned. All right, what else we got? Dirty living space.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I know men can be messy and a lot of women too. Is this a deal breaker? Yes. Talk about it. You know who I'm talking about. Kay. Jazz's old roommate. Oh, my God. Oh, I thought she was talking about y'all old friend. That's who Kay is. Lauren, tell the story about how, what you found in that room. Tell it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
I feel like every time I go to Houston, I stay with Lauren. And, like, Lauren has a two-bedroom, but I love her couch, so I usually sleep in the living room. So when she got, get out of my room! Because Lauren is, and then she's a decor queen like me. I think that's where we relate a lot. For sure. Me and Lauren will be on the phone talking about home decor for about four hours. Dry.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Like, so... I have to have clean friends, because sometimes if I need to come over and sleep on your couch, I need to do that. Yeah. Drea is clean, too, but she be doing things on her couch. So I got to make sure. I need to start putting that plastic on the couch. You need that plastic. That plastic on the sofa.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Because Drea is very clean, but I be having to do some inspections.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
It's not no substances in the sheet. Okay, okay. So is a dirty friend a deal breaker for y'all? Yeah. I can say all of y'all are pretty. Yeah, yeah. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. And honestly, like, because Lawrence ain't with me. I said, friend, look, I ain't done my laundry. Like, I'll give him a little warning. But my house, it ain't like you can't walk on the floors.
Pour Minds Podcast
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It's so crazy because... When everybody was telling me, like, oh, you're Lauren's replacement, that's what everybody kept saying to me. And then I was like, okay, I remember you came in and you were walking through the kitchen and, like, we just walked by each other. And I'm like, girl, you ain't getting your job back. But I remember J. Bone started playing your music. Oh, yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Because we had a friend, we used to walk on her floors and we looked at our feet. Oh, my God, they would be so black at the bottom.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
We used to drink a lot, though. We used to be drunk over there, so. It was literally like a dungeon. Oh, my God. Because it wasn't no window.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
But your house is very tidy. It is. Very tidy. At least don't play. Take them shoes off.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
But I hate the clean police. I hate when people be trying to clock people's cleanliness. Like, oh, my God, you don't take four showers a day? Yeah. Oh, my God. Now, Elise, I get it. I do believe you don't fall asleep with dishes in the sink. Some people really aren't like that. But, bitch, you might get a bean plate in the sink. Yeah. A bowl of beans might be in the sink, bitch.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Might be a little fork in there. Yeah, for sure. You fall asleep with dishes in the sink?
Pour Minds Podcast
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I don't like to have to wake up and... So you're kind of a clean freak. A little bit. Lauren has a thing about water on the floor. Really? Oh, she will have a heart attack.
Pour Minds Podcast
Where My Gurls At? FT. Our Besties
Me and Allie share... Like, we had the house in Miami, remember? And me and Allie had the master bedroom. You know my bundles be everywhere. Allie was like, Lex, get it up.
Pour Minds Podcast
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We listen and we might judge still living at home with their family. How old?
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah, friends, boyfriend, somebody you're dating, anybody.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I said, oh, she sound like me. The girl can say one thing about it. She can catch a tune. Goodbye. So I really, honestly, I fell in love with your music before I fell in love with you. Really? That boy, she said, I said, oh. I never knew that, friend.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So, I feel the same. I feel like a friend, I'm more understanding because I'm not fucking you. Right. But the reason sometimes I don't have as much sympathy is because I have been the brokest of the broke. And y'all know that. Like, you especially know that. And I feel like if I can get it out the mud and make something happen... And, Lauren, you know how hard I used to work.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Like, day in, day out. And I feel like if I can make ends meet and figure out a way, anybody can. And I get it. Now, if you do have the help of your family, you're very blessed. There ain't nothing wrong with that. But I do think there's a thin line because... Are you staying with your family just to stack it up, or you got comfortable there? Right, yeah, it all just depends.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You don't need to be asleep. Yeah. I don't care. You don't take no naps, nigga. Go look for an apartment. Yeah, if it's my man, no. Get up!
Pour Minds Podcast
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Hey! You need to be standing outside waiting on them to open the doors. Putting the alarm code in, bitch. Mm-hmm.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Absolutely. Read it down. Okay, next one, Drea. Okay. We're going to do two more. Okay, cool.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay, can I say something? Yes. I used to think it was so weird... Until I wanted to give some pussy the top dollar sign. And them nails be done. And he can bend me over all type of ways. So I used to judge. But sometimes they rock it. If that's your style and you do it a certain way, I'm not going to lie. So rock it. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I think if that's your style and you do it and it works for you, I'm with it. Wiz paint his nails, but Wiz is in a relationship, so I respect that woman. But we... We can... Okay. Okay, sorry. But you know what I mean, damn it. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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He gets his feet done. Wiz's feet be like green sometimes. For real? Their toes be green. Green is my favorite color. It is? I never knew that. It is. I don't know why I didn't know that.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I ain't gonna lie. I like that clear. I do like the clear gel. Buff or the clear gel. But I like, yeah. I like it. I like a little buff. I like a buff. Shine it up. What about you, Lee? Buff is it. That's not... Okay. Lee is strict. You know Lee in Jamaica.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I do like the gel. But I just like a man that goes and gets manis and pedis, period. Period. Like, go get your feet done and go get your hands done.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You be scratching your leg. Dre, remember we saw that person? that had dirty nails, and you was disgusted. Yes, I can't stand no dirty-ass nails.
Pour Minds Podcast
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There's no way you can take a shower and your nails are dirty after a shower. Because that water going to graze down there.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Somebody finna fuck me, Elise. She said she don't want to see us at all. Somebody finna lick this coochie clean. If I can't find no dick on Valentine's Day, that's going to be my 13th reason, bitch. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We got a lot of guests today.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Agreed. He was not. Shreya, shut the hell up. What?
Pour Minds Podcast
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Imagine coming somewhere and not taking a bath before you go.
Pour Minds Podcast
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All right. Oh. We've taken that out. Had a few months. You said one of them smelled like sausage. It is. Sausage is wild.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Never. It's never been a musty woman. It be the men. Musty layer. I just... Last one, last one. I want to get... Okay. Okay. They consume male chauvinist or male-centered content. For example, Kevin Samuels, Charleston White, etc. Do y'all judge people who kind of do the red pill content type of stuff?
Pour Minds Podcast
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You know what's... No? You judging a little bit? Are you kind of... Lynn's probably like, I like it. No. Lynn, you are making America great again. I don't... I don't like it. No? Okay. I don't like it. But you know what's scarier than a man listening to Kevin Samuels and Charleston White is a man who follows them accounts that be like, fellas, listen to your queen.
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If she in the bed crying, go hug her. Those be the worst ones. Those be the cheaters, the liars, the deceivers. The men that... Get into that content. Those be the ones that be learning how to manipulate because it be the women like, I wish I had a man like that. No shade, no tea. Do y'all remember that Derek Jackson debacle? Because he used to be sitting in his car. Treat your woman like a queen.
Pour Minds Podcast
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If she gets off work and she wants to talk, listen. If she needs help, it's a dish in the sink, wash it. And they're like, the girls are eating it up and the men are like, yeah, I need to do that. But all you're doing is you're pandering. So, to me, listening to Charleston White and Kevin Samuels, yes, that's probably bad, but
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because people probably act like if she listen to poor minds, fuck that hoe.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah. And I like a man who, like, stands on his own, too.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Like, you're not looking to your internet father to tell you how to handle a situation. Right. Yeah. But it really be, and no offense to anybody, the 85% is, but they be like, let me see what Carlos said, because that's what I'm going to do. Yeah. Uh,
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay, go ahead, go ahead. Being too well-kept, eyebrows done, super clean cut, is this a red flag or a gay flag? A metrosexual, if you will. That's what they're called.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But no, I will say an arched eyebrow, it doesn't need to be arched.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Arching your eyebrow is crazy. But I think you should go get facials, you know. Take care of your skin.
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We said this on 85. Do not use the six-in-one soap. If you got something that's shampoo, conditioner, face wash, and booty hole, leave me alone.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So, yeah, you need a little one-two, a routine. You do. I agree. It's definitely a line. Right. For sure. If you got acrylic on that big toe.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay, okay. So, we agree that we don't judge a metrosexual, but it is a fine line.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You're judging a metrosexual? I mean... Yeah. Why?
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You know, I dated a guy that had an intensive skincare routine, but I liked it. Your dad. Your old dad. Yeah. You remember dad? Oh, dad. Give my baby that blanket. Oh, I miss dad. Dad definitely had an extensive skincare routine, but I liked it because he had beautiful skin. Yeah. But I'm like that.
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I'm very, you know I'm a skincare girly, so it be certain things like, you know, it's just like, take care of yourself. We're getting older. I agree. We can exfoliate each other.
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You know what? What? Y'all exfoliate leads to squirting. You stay out of this.
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Alise is a very, like, go with the flow type girl because she's so busy. So she be like, it's cool, it's cool, but she be like, oh, you my man. They didn't have a discussion about it, but she don't give a fuck.
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That was a lot. Or is a lot, or whatever. That's your man, bitch. And I mean, and the reason I say that, because it's like, a lot of times I think men and women be in denial because they don't have that conversation. But you're doing the things in a relationship anyway. No? You don't think so? I think that you're not in a relationship until y'all in a relationship. That's how I look at it.
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I feel like once we... Like Lauren said, it needs to be an understanding. Yeah. Like, we need to have a conversation. It needs to be an understanding.
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Because, you know, some people be cool with that. Oh, ain't shit open over here.
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Bitch, I'm going to beat all y'all asses. Right. But some people be cool with that. So it's like if you a person who's cool with an open relationship, then no, it don't really need to be... But I did.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay. So, for topic number two, we wanted to talk about, do y'all prefer to spend Valentine's Day with your girls? Do y'all like a Galentine's?
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Why you have to do a Galentine's Day? She finna raise hell the whole night. Oh, this is what y'all got to eat.
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We had a grand old time. A few days before. Because on Valentine's Day, you be with your man. Yeah, when I have one. Exactly.
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Dessert. Because she know what time it is. Elise gives me, you walking in, take them drawers off.
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I'm not trying to see you hoes on Valentine's Day, bitch. Where the dick at? You don't want to see me? Well, that's the thing. I knew you was going to say no. I do not want to see no bitches on Valentine's Day. And I'm not sorry. Don't call me. Don't text me. I'll talk to you on the 15th or the 16th, bitch. But if you're single, what you gonna do? Somebody finna fuck me.
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So even if you're single, you don't wanna be... Somebody finna fuck me, Elise. She said she don't wanna see us at all. Somebody finna lick this coochie clean. If I can't find no dick on Valentine's Day, that's gonna be my 13th reason, bitch. It's the day of love. None of you hoes can love me. That is not That's true.
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You got 364 days to love me, bitch. Give me one day for some dick. That's the one day. That's crazy.
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It's always a man in the bushes for me. No, thanks.
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The fuck? That's the day of dick. We ought to go back in time. The day of the dick. You know, the Mexicans got day of the dead. Valentine's Day is day of the dick. Valentine's Day is day of the dick, bitch. Leave me the hell alone. I love y'all, but 13th... The 13th I can do for y'all. 15th, maybe. Maybe. In the evening. Or the 16th. February 14th, leave me the hell alone.
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You and your coochie need to be... Go away with me. Go away with this, Apollo. I don't know what the fuck y'all talking about. Oh, I love my girls. Bitch, I love you on the 13th. Leave me alone. I talk to you every day. I'm calling you.
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I'm calling. 13th at midnight. Happy Valentine's Day, bitch. I'll see you on the 15th.
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I ain't going to call y'all. I'm going to be mad as hell. She ain't going to be mad. I ain't going to talk to y'all if I have a date or not. I ain't going to talk to none of y'all. I don't care if I see y'all in y'all pajamas flipping pancakes and mimosas. I don't want to see y'all. They gonna be like, these stupid ass bitches. Whack ass hoes. Damn. We all mad and lonely, bitch.
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But no, Valentine's Day versus spending it with, spending it with my boo, please. Yeah. Now I do, like I said, if it's before or after, cool. Or if it's like, maybe he can't, like if he got something to do and if he do got something to do on Valentine's Day, you decide, bitch. You know, but the main Valentine's Day celebration to me is with your boo. Yeah, of course. That's romance.
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Yes. So these are our friends. These are our besties. We love them. So let me ask y'all this. How do y'all feel about, like, because, well, besides Elise, because you met us kind of when Poor Minds was in its growth stage.
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Valentine's Day is romance. And that's why I say I love my friends. I love y'all. But Valentine's is romance. Y'all aren't romancing me. Y'all finna make me some mimosas and we finna eat Rotel. You know we love some Rotel. I know. We might do a little Rasta Pasta.
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and it's your girl Dre Nicole and we have a very exciting announcement today we have a brand new show dropping yeah so we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon it's gonna air on September 2nd and it's called Porn Chronicles we're gonna be doing so much stuff on there we're gonna be doing challenges if you can't go to Bill and O'Shea where the hell could you go?
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Even when we first met you, Poor Minds isn't what it is now. So how do y'all feel about, like, knowing us before, like, the show became what it is now? Like, did y'all feel like, oh, I knew this was going to happen? Yeah. Or were y'all kind of, like, surprised? Like, how do y'all feel about seeing where the show is now? Exactly.
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oh my god everything y'all been wanting to see we gonna be doing it right here on patreon yes y'all ask us for so much but we finna give it to y'all every single monday and it's gonna be a time y'all know poor minds has grown into its own little entity well we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at poor chronicles so make sure y'all tune in september 2nd it's going down thanks
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You don't want to. Muumuu pussy. That's... Mama's tired. All that dick up. Just be naked.
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Especially y'all two, because I feel like y'all remember the floor day.
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So, yeah, you know you got to spice it up. But, okay, so, Elise, you said you're 365. So, but what can you do on Valentine's Day that's, like, out of the ordinary? Mm-hmm. For somebody who's, like, freaky all the time.
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Maybe y'all should come up with a fantasy list together and then take something off every balance. That's a good idea.
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That's a good idea. That is good. But I do think Valentine's Day is something that you should do that y'all don't normally do. Because, you know, when you're dating the same person, y'all tend to have sex the same. Like, let's be honest.
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Like, the sex be great, but it's the same. So I do think, like, Valentine's Day, like, y'all probably don't went out to dinner. Y'all are drinking. Y'all don't exchange gifts. Like, do something that's out of the ordinary, whether it's lingerie. Adding a toy, maybe role play. Oh my gosh, you know what I love to do? What?
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We had a time last night. Why are you looking at me like that? I'm going to start calling you the sprinkler. Oh, my God. No. You know how Batman got the Joker?
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I dated a guy, he used to send me things to get, you know, this is what I like.
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I was like, that was your dad. Her dad? I can see that. Me too. You guys inspire me, honestly. No, dad was a wild boy. Dad was a wild boy. It's not her real dad, though. No, no, it's not my real dad. Her real dad could be. He is fine. Y'all got to get off my daddy.
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Your best friend will turn to your stepmom. Ooh. He calls and she be like, hey.
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Out of town. Honestly, to me, it was cool, but I think the internet kind of overhyped it a bit. Okay. Because it was like, oh, it's funny because it's between you and me, but it's not like I'm sitting at the table like, oh, I can't take that.
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Please. No, it wasn't like that at all. It was just like, okay, this is cute. Okay, so it's hyped up. Yeah, I think it's more cool if y'all are maybe having phone sex because he's out of town and he's like... doing the controls to, like, what he's saying to you so it feels like, you know what I'm saying? Like, you know how a guy would, like, talk you through it?
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So it's like he's doing the motions of the vibrators to, like, feel that way. I think that's more exciting than the actual, oh, nobody knows the vibrators in you, and we're trying to order a steak. Like, no.
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They can control it from their phone. She got that AI coochie.
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So he could be on FaceTime and, like, control it. Our robot, too? The rails of that motherfucker cutting up. Now, holding it down. You have to keep it spicy. Okay, so now it's time to get into the item of the week. What you got, Drea? What you got? So, yes, of course, her usual. I have Muse Beauty. Go to musebeautycollection.com.
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Get your lip glosses, lip liners, matte liquid lipsticks, jelly blushes, all of the above. And I have some new products that are going to be dropping really, really soon. And we're also doing a Valentine's Day sale. It's going to be 20% off of the entire site. So, go to the website right now.
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Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here.
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Send us an email and we'll work it out. We're going to figure it out. Get your product, get your business sponsored and yeah, make you some money. We love to support a small business now. And a black business at that. But I mean, we don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. All right, so now it's time to get into the bop. The bop. Bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow. Okay, my bop of the week this week.
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Y'all know I love me a good Afro beats tune. And I feel like 2025 for everybody should be the year of inspiration. We are reaching our goals. We're doing what we want to do. And we getting to the bag. So, Tenny... is an artist, Afrobeats artist, Nigerian artist, and she has a new song called Money. And it's just about, like, I'd rather cry on a Bentley.
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Like, I'd rather be in Ibiza, like, turning up. Like, I don't want the regular life. I want to get to the money. I want to get to a bag. So when I heard this song, I was like, this is giving what I want for 2025. I have made a lot of financial goals for myself this year. And I think when you manifest certain things, you have to vibrate in all the types of things that you want in life.
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So it's the things that you say to yourself. It's the music that you listen to. It's the TV that you watch. All of that goes into manifestation. So shout out to Tini. She got a song called Money. And we manifesting money this year. Okay? Period. What y'all been listening to? Me?
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Yeah, yeah. I fuck with that. Okay, I like that. You know, we fuck with a little Larry June around. And you know he from the Bay, so you know. Yeah, look. We get to talk about a... She out here trying to function.
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Tell them, Elise. Tell them. Ooh. Jesus Christ, that dress so shaky. I ain't got none, but I plan on growing some.
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That's the, um... I didn't want to... That's the one that had that song, I hope you're happy. Yeah. Got you a mini me. I thought she was speaking Korean on that song because she said, bet you meet your mom. I don't think I've heard that song. That's the first one I heard of her. So she got the remix with Summer Walker. Yeah. Really? Yeah. But... I'm going to have to listen to that one.
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You haven't listened? Oh. It's cute. It's a cute little one, too? It's cute. Okay. So, Lauren, do you like that song better?
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Yeah. I'm about to play that in the car. Yeah. Yeah, I thought she was saying, bet she meet she mom, bet she meet she mom. I didn't know what she was saying.
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That's how Lynn is. Oh, my God. It don't matter what's going on. Like, literally, it could be the worst. Lauren's like, just breathe. Just breathe. Like, do you have your crystal?
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She said, bet she meet your mom. Hey, Pookie. Yeah, but it sounded like she was speaking another language.
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Because one thing about me, I am bilingual. But I'm bilingual. Girl. What does that mean? I get money, I'm a star. Oh, that's what that means?
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It does. Okay. I didn't know that. I don't know what I thought it means. And that's the sad part.
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I don't care. I don't care. I lied. What y'all gonna do? I see. Because it matters how I say it because you don't know it. You thought I cursed you out.
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You like that one? You know what's crazy? I never really do mainstream artists on the show, but I almost tweeted that like two days ago because I was listening to that in the car. I said, Push to Start by Tyla is such a good song. I love it. I don't know who her producers are, who her writers are, but they got it right. They have a formula with her right now. And it's working. Yeah.
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You know who I'm rooting for? Do y'all know who Tate McRae is? She's like a pop girly. She's a pop girly, and she's actually really good. She can't really sing, but who needs a singer when you can dance, right? Her name is what? Tate McRae. She had this song, I want to dance myself. You know? I do that song. So you know who she needs? She needs a Timbaland beat.
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Do you have your... Did you... Okay. About what do you think, Lynn? Yeah.
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Remember when Timbaland did that run with Nelly Furtado and Britney Spears? She needs Timbaland real bad, and they can eat it up together. So I like the young girls. Tyla has that formula with her team, so she's got that sound. I think that's what the people are missing, that signature sound. Like when SZA hops on, you can hear a beat and be like, oh, this is a SZA-type beat.
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You know what I'm saying? Yeah. I agree. Yeah. So, that was a good one. I like your ear, Lynn. Drea? I haven't been listening to nothing new this week. Drake dropped a clip, I thought, of something. The snippet. Yeah, he dropped the snippet, but the album actually hasn't dropped yet. Oh, yeah. Then what did you think about the snippet? The snippet was good.
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I mean, anything that Drake and Party Next Door do together, I think is always, uh-oh. Oh, Lord. I was like, we don't got insurance time. You better sell them calories, baby.
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But I've been listening to that because I was like, wow, I forgot how good this album is. And I have to prepare for the show. Because this ain't Texas. It ain't no Holder. Lay your cards. Down, down. But it's such a good album. Like, it's literally so good. So, yeah. Shout out to Beyonce. Now, what if you saw her? Girl, fuck you. I would never tell my queen that. You don't even know what she mean.
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She know what I meant. She know my heart. She know my heart. God damn it, I lost water on the car. Thank you, Ty.
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I'm not unsure. I really do give good advice. I'm not going to lie. Lauren gives great advice. I don't listen all the time. No. But when I do listen, it always works out. But Lauren gives good advice, but she don't listen to her own advice.
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But, like... It's easier on the outside looking in. Because me and Lauren had a conversation this morning. We were talking about, like, guys we used to deal with and date. I was like, friend, what were we doing? Cringeworthy. Like, what the hell? When you told me the khaki... Kaki killed me. You got to relax, bruh.
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You have to relax at this point. Okay, that Kasegu Atashiwa. I'm going to stop. Yes. Okay, y'all.
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Everybody give good advice. Oh, my God. Don't lie on me like that. You don't got to lie. Everybody on this side. Okay. Everybody on this side. You can be honest. Yeah, everybody on this side. So, yes, we're going to ask y'all some questions. So, it's time to get into Ask Poor Minds.
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You saw what it was. Okay. What about you, Elise?
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He hits me up sporadically and then at times he doesn't even respond when I reply back. So whereas I sent a message and he literally read it and didn't respond. My question for you guys is, am I wrong for feeling it's another woman he's with? And would I be wrong to just cut ties while he's on vacation?
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Exactly. That's the answer right there. Y'all been cool for five months?
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Yeah. I'm not being cool with shit for five months, but my fucking refrigerator, bitch. Get the fuck on. Hang it up. Hang it up. I just feel like, you know, when I was younger, and this is me just coming from an older woman, okay... A man knows if he's going to take you seriously and be with you. You don't need a year, two years of keeping it casual and being cool.
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So five months, I'm sorry, but I feel like at like the third or fourth month, we should have, okay, so I'm not saying get in a relationship, but it should be like, okay, what are we doing? Are we on the same page? Right. Are we both looking for a relationship? We're trying to be serious? What are we doing here?
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Because at five months, if he's on vacation and you still don't know... Because let me tell you what I was doing at five months, baby. Like, you know what I'm saying? I knew what we were. Whether it was casual and you can go on vacation and not talk to me, or whether we were like, okay, you're on vacation, but you, hey, babe, this is my day, I'm starting my day, and we're checking in every day.
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Yeah. At five months, you should know what y'all are. Yeah. And I'm not saying in a relationship, but you should understand. It should be in black and white by then. That's all I'm saying.
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Hey. What's going on? You know what I'm saying? And like you said, we've all been on vacation together. And one thing I love about y'all is because we're not the girls that be on vacation on the phone with they dudes all the time. I cannot stand being on a trip and the girl's like, I gotta go call my man. We call our men in the morning and we call them at night. Yeah.
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During the day, we turns up having a ball. We do. Like, we don't be on the phone with our dudes the whole time, like, killing the vibe. So I think that's important, too. But bare minimum, a phone call in the morning and a phone call at night. He's hiding something that's not your man. And like you said, y'all are cool. Y'all are cool. He's just giving cool behavior. Yeah.
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I thought she was going to say I could be heard. Cheeks spread. I could be doing that with Tasha White. Stop. And see, y'all knew what I meant when I gave that, you know? I did. Oh, my God. I did. Okay. Bilingual. Good point.
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But, I mean, that's what I'm saying. He ain't the one. The biggest thing is men are jealous creatures. So, not that you're worried about what he's doing, but if a man not worried about what you're doing, that's when you need to be like, uh. Because I can tell when my phone calls start getting more frequent when I'm going like, what y'all doing? Yeah, I'm chilling at the crib, though.
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Yeah. All right. I've seen what y'all was doing, though. I've seen me shoot you at the house. Yeah, they be tapped in. Watching your stories, you barely post that motherfucker. Views, that first, it be one view, him. Mm-hmm. I've always been seeing him.
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Let me ask y'all a question. Do y'all put y'all man in y'all close friends?
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I'll be like, yeah. I did, I did. I posted him. He be posting me too, though. No, he started it. He started it. He did.
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But I feel like that's how it's supposed to be. He supposed to post you first. And I love that. Like, I can't say that.
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He not playing about his baby girl. He don't play about his baby girl. He don't play about his baby girl. You do not. So, I'm being in the close friends. I thought you meant, like... No, I didn't mean in your close group chat. I meant close friends on Instagram. No, I thought you meant, like, adding him to your close friends.
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Oh, for him to see. Yeah, like, he can watch your close friends.
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Yeah, they thought you meant, like, posting him on your close friends. Like, people to see him.
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No, I meant, like, is your man in your close friends?
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My man and my close friends. I don't care. But he's been in there. I've been posting him in there. So he got to see himself.
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Like, I'm like... When my man don't watch my stories, I can know when he mad at me. That's what y'all think. Oh, they got a baby having burners. Baby having burners. Oh, no. Right, because she not talking about... What Lynn was saying, what Lynn was saying, the men sometimes be viewing from other pages. Or they'll get a friend to look and report.
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Or they just be looking from the homeboys page or something like that. They looking from somewhere.
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I'm looking. My ass be retweeting stuff. I want you to know I'm here. Yeah, I see you.
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Y'all are crazy. Oh, gosh. I love y'all. I love you ladies. This is what the memes say. This is a long ass meme. Let me eat another cupcake. Oh, sorry. I was reading something. Hand me a cupcake while you're at it. Yeah, get a cupcake. I got a long message to read. Yeah, so while you read this, I'm going to... No, no, no, no, no. I don't want to look pregnant, bitch. Let me tell y'all something.
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I'm not fucking pregnant. Leave me and my belly alone. A bitch had a little one too many burritos on vacation. Now, Lex, you done told these people these three times on three different shows. I said it on the show already? Yeah, three times. I'm sorry. I had to make sure they knew. It hurt my feelings.
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I'm finna, I'm finna, you know, once I get on the zipper, y'all gonna be mad because my head big and my body small. Girl, she gonna take it and run with it. Okay, all right, all right. You right, you right, y'all right. I'm sorry, I wrapped it up. You right, you right, you right. I love you ladies. I've been with y'all since the beginning. The growth and elevation is amazing and so inspiring.
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Wishing you ladies continued blessings and success. Should I end my friendship with one of my closest friends of over 15 years? We recently had a fallout because she started dating my ex, Sneaky Link. To give some backstory, me and my homegirl met junior year of high school. As friends do, I told her about the guy I was dealing with. She shared that he was her ex-boyfriend.
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They dated a couple of years prior, freshman year. They never fucked, and they're just friends now. I gave her the courtesy of asking, are we good if I see him? She said, absolutely. It's cool. And it really was. Never no beef. I would tell her all about us. No issues. She was dating new men and very happy. Long story short, I was dating him for about three-something years on and off.
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Never an official relationship. I know now I was young and dumb as fuck for not getting the fuck on, but the dick was too good. We ended without closure. He ghosted me one day, and I ain't seen or heard from that man in over ten years. Fast forward to the present day. We're in our early 30s. I'm happily married with a family.
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And out of the blue, my friend went from telling me she reconnected with my old sneaky link, her ex BF, on some friend shit. Now, a few moments later, feelings are involved. She loves him, wants to rekindle their relationship and their dating. What the entire fuck? Am I wrong for being upset? And side note, I summarized my letter down three times just for you, Drea. For Drea. Drea can read, bitch.
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I'm the bitch. Tone it down. Tone it down. I summarized my letter to him three times just for you, Drea, so don't zoom in.
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Damn. I mean, she ain't wrong. I mean, no, no, no. You're married with a family, but this is why people are scared of marriages and people don't... Because why are you married with children and a family and you're worried about somebody from 10 years ago? Yeah. You're talking about somebody from high school.
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You are in your early 30s talking about somebody you fucked your senior year in high school? And they were never in a relationship either, she said. Mm. Like, that dick was not that good for you to be talking about it 10 years later. Not in high school.
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Why are you... Many, many, many, many men. Yeah, I agree. Why are you dating somebody that your friend used to fuck with?
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Like, I wouldn't have wrote a letter to poor mine.
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Like, that's weird as fuck that she did that. But, like, you shouldn't be so passionate about the situation. She losing sleep. Baby crying in the crib. She ain't happy. Runaway, love.
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She supported you. You was messing with him. The only reason I say that, because I'm thinking the friend's thought process was, you're happily married. You don't care about other men. Because when I get married, I want to be obsessed with my husband. So she was probably assuming...
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that her friend is obsessed with her husband she's married she's happy and they reconnected probably she was probably like oh let's reconnect on some sneaky shit and they ended up finding love they found love in a hopeless place they found love fuck no yeah i don't know then i would be like well damn bitch was you thinking about this 10 years ago
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Come on now. I don't know. Nobody was thinking about that shit. I don't know. Sometimes people cross paths.
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But that's her soulmate. But bitch, you wouldn't know if you didn't go fuck the niggas. But I did, and I found out. No, y'all. And you're going to get cut off.
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She shared that he was her ex-boyfriend, and they dated a couple of years prior, her freshman year, and they never fucked, but they dated. They dated. They were actually in a relationship.
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And then your Uggs at the bottom. And my Uggs at the bottom. And let me say this about Elise. I always, I be talking about Elise all the time because when I tell y'all, Elise is that girl. Like, Elise is the behind, like, that girl. So she, can I say who you work for? You don't want to say it because I don't want people to know. You can say it, but I said it. You can say it.
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They were in a relationship. But they wasn't fucking.
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Lauren said, where is one man? It's time to go, baby. We don't have any problems.
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He might. He's fine. Yeah. That dick. He probably the only fine nigga. And guess who can try it? You're watching, man, because I'm finna try it now. Ten years and you still thinking about it? I'm next.
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You finna write in about me. I just let y'all have it. I've been watching this show. Whatever y'all say. I've been watching this show for four years and I wrote in a letter and then the host started fucking my man. Shouldn't have bragged about it. Lesson learned, bitch.
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You can send us pictures all the time. If you're watching this episode, I really hope you see this. Shay, can you actually send her an email back and tell her we need an update?
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And thank y'all for always supporting us. I know it's not easy because we be everywhere. And y'all don't do this either. Yeah, y'all don't do this. So really thank y'all for showing up for us and always being like the support system that we need because believe it or not, this job is not easy.
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But a lot of it comes from y'all being supportive and being there for us and keeping us level-headed and grounded. Well, I'm glad we can provide that for y'all. Did y'all have fun?
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You were all nervous. I was a little nervous. I feel like I can tell y'all a little nervous. I was a little nervous. No, I can tell. Lauren has been very reserved.
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I mean, I feel like they all have. You are not like this at all. I like it.
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Okay, so she works for BET. And she has a resume. A big, long resume. It's made it happen. So I will say, even that we're friends, I feel like you are the type of friend that people need in their corner. Because I said this at your birthday, like...
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And I'm like, Lauren is like... Y'all remember when Lauren kept falling asleep in Miami because she was so lit? And remember when she went off on us about that chicken? Wait, because why?
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You were. So I didn't even remember. I really did miss everything because I'm like going around. So this was the me and Drea drunk moment? No, no, no, no. This was everybody in the house. No, this was all drunk. So, everybody was drunk. I'll give y'all a rundown of the story. This was for my birthday. We went to Miami. I rented this beautiful house on the water.
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I knew you was going to say no. I do not want to see no bitches on Valentine's Day.
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One of my friends, shout out to Jazz, my old roommate, she was like, okay, we're drunk. We need to order some food so we can get ready and go to the restaurant. So, Jazz orders a bunch of food for the house or whatever. I don't know if Lauren maybe thought she ordered something. I think I did. I think I thought I... ordered my own. Something separate.
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I think she thought ordering you bitches was eating my food. But what happened was, either way, Jazz was like, don't worry. I think what happened was, Lauren tried to order something different and Jazz was like, I got it. Don't worry about it. I'll order for the house.
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So when the food came in, it was like one box of like chicken. It wasn't even that much. And it wasn't that much because it was supposed to be a little box.
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Lauren... has been dead outside by the pool for, like, two hours. Lauren smells a chicken thigh. Where is my food here? Lex, where's my food? Is my food here? No, I ordered this.
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Elise is that friend that you need in your corner because even when you're not in these rooms, she's that girl that's in the room fighting for you and making sure that your name is being said among the people that it needs to be said among. Because I feel like one thing about me, I think Warren knows this about me,
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They was like, this is for everybody. And she was like, well, I'm not taking it off my plate. She said, I don't know what y'all finna eat. I don't know what y'all finna eat. I know what I'm finna eat. I said, look. And Jazz is so sweet. My sweet little shit. Jazz is so sweet. She was like, I do not remember none of these. I'm just like, you know, like. Everybody's hungry.
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Lauren's plate is so cool. It's so cool. Wait, are you serious?
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Yeah. 50-50. Cut it out, bitch. Well, that was a crazy day. Cut it out. No, was that tonight I got in that fight?
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I loved Ash that night. Yeah. It was a good day. It was a good day until me, because I fights niggas. I didn't make it that far. I was talking about old that night.
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I was finna beat his thick ass. I was. It wasn't anything to promote. Okay. I promoted that song that you had and you didn't even have it on Apple Music. And everybody's like, where's Lauren's song? It's not done. But no, the one you sent me was done. That was not done. You told me to promote it. I did not.
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You talking about when you asked me about, like, oh, you should do this for the rest of the week. No.
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No, and you said, go ahead and promote it, because it'll be ready by the time the episode airs. But it wasn't ready, bitch. It wasn't ready. Is it going to be ready now? No. Girl, I don't know where the people at. I'm finna take it and take it to my producer. Okay, we'll do what you want. AWOL, what we finna do? AWOL, what we doing?
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We have a Grammy nominee here. Yes. Don't play with us.
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Stop playing with us. We got professionals in the motherfucking building. We do. Okay, so yeah, Lauren, you need to drop that song for the people.
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It is not finished. So y'all know how 2 Chainz had dropped that album and like LeBron James was like the EP on it. Bez dropped her album and Jada was the EP on it. And you the EP. I'm finna do that.
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If I'm in a position, I don't care if I am making $7 an hour, how can my friend make full and how can we make this work?
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She does have a good ear. We finna drop that hot fire. Yeah. We finna change the game. Watch what I do. We finna change the game. It's just a problem when we figure this shit out. You know what I'm saying? So anybody got anything to promote other than? Do you have anything? You got your tech thing.
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Love that. Elyse? Catch me at the red carpet, bitch. That's what you're supposed to say.
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So I feel like at least that friend, like no matter what position.
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That's what I have down the pipeline for me. And Drea? I got the same stuff going on every week. MuseBeauty?
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It drops every Sunday. And... Make sure y'all tune in to Pour My Eye. Subscribe to the channel. Period.
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It's time. It's time. We need that million plaque. I agree. Yeah, make sure y'all tune in every Monday. Love Lex P. We gets messy. We gets to the tea. We getting to the drama. Yes. It's a lot going on right now. And I know y'all be wanting us to talk about hot topics. I do that on Love Lex P. I'm trying to get to 100K subscribers. We are on the road there.
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So y'all make sure y'all go like, comment, subscribe. Love Lex P every Monday at 6 p.m. Okay? And we'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Bye. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S.
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Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page, okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram.
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one twitter one tiktok it is p-o-u-r underscore m-i-n-d-s all right and we got a hell of fake facebook page oh the facebook pages it's the our face the crazy thing is our facebook page actually have the least amount of followers so if you're on facebook the one that's ours
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Yeah. I was like, you know what? That's my girl. That's my girl. And, you know, I feel like I could say that about all three of y'all.
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got the least amount of followers the one that's not us got like 250,000 followers but y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content cause the caption is like whoever it is don't speak English cause their captions are like should men pay bill should men pay bill yes no check answer below blah blah booyah booyah booyah Like, that's literally what the captions mean.
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I like that DDG's Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude. Y'all ready? Kinda. Now swipe from side to side. Yeah. To the. All right.
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It's the Galentines, girls. Yeah, the Galentines, girls. G squared.
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Come sit down and tell us what's been happening. What's up? In your face, I can see the pain. Don't you try to convince me that you're happy.
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I can tell he's been crying and pretending that he's faithful and he loves you.
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Oh, I picked the wrong one. That was my bad. My bad. My bad. Girl. Don't you be ashamed to say hurt you.
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Don't you know we love you? We'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all.
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We had a good time. Lynn was there for my birthday. We was all there for the birthday.
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But we were all there. We were all there. And that's why I said, of course, like, Elise is going to be there because me and Elise are friends and Lauren. But, you know, like, me and Lynn are friends, but, you know, you're Drea's friend. So when Lynn pulled up, I said, oh, it's party time. Let's do it. Because Lynn is like the sneaky assassin. Not the sneaky assassin. Lynn is so quiet and so sweet.
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But better than them shots get to throwing, that ass gets to showing. For sure.
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No, Lynn is hilarious on Twitter. But won't get canceled. Oh, my God. It's so funny. So I do want to ask this, like, to the opposite friends. Well, I'll ask you this first, Elise, because you can give it for both of us. What was your first impression of Drea? Then what was your first impression of me?
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Hey, it's a special Galentine's episode. Yes, so we are doing a special Galentine's edition of Poor Minds today. And we are doing something that we haven't done in years. So the first time we did this, it was when it was still Wind Down Wednesday. And we had our dear friend Kellyn on the show. Shout out to Kellyn. Thank you so much.
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Okay, that's fair. And we're really like, I don't want to be at home, don't want to do nothing, drag me outside.
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Yes. I-B's at home. Lauren, what was your first impression of Drea? Well, I didn't really get to have, like...
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And I'm just like, what's the problem? You know what's crazy about that weekend? Y'all, and me and Jazz laugh about this to this day. Because they had called me. We went to some restaurant. Was it Cirque? It was, no. We went to K. Michelle. No, no, no. I'm talking about when they said, don't bring Drea. And I went to dinner with them. It was like at Cirque.
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But you know what the gag was? I didn't want to go nowhere. I pulled up. And they were all sitting on one side of the table. And I was sitting by myself. And they were like, yeah, we feel like you just be following Drea around. And I said, first of all, I ain't got no place to stay, bitch. I'm living with her at the moment. Second of all, at the time... You bitches let me come live with y'all.
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Oh, y'all live in Houston. Exactly, but also at the time, so I'm living with her. My friends are in town, so when I'm going places, I'm including her, right? So I'm like, oh, Dre, we finna go eat. But mind you, you know how I love... Girl, I love me some jazz now. But jazz takes four hours to get ready. She done. Me and Dre are going to all the restaurants and we showing up. We're waiting.
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We're waiting. And you know, Keisha at the time, that was an old friend of mine, Keisha and Jasmine together... Four hours for each? That's eight hours. Me and Dre at these restaurants just sitting for hours waiting on them. Eventually, we're like, okay, girl, let's go and we finna do our own thing. So, I think it was a lot of... But I never said nothing to nobody. That's the crazy part.
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They didn't like me, but I never said nothing to anybody about nothing. It was crazy because, like I said, when I showed up at dinner... But you know, used to that a little bit. They were all sitting on one side and I was on one side by myself and they were like... I said, why am I saying... I said, somebody finna throw water on me? It was giving basketball, love, and hip-hop scenes.
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No, it was crazy, because when Lex came back home and told me, and I said, really? And you know I cry about everything. I was like... I was like, that's crazy. It was... You know, like I said... The person that kind of led the conversation and led the thing, me and her are no longer, you know, in a booth. And it's no shade towards her.
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But since Poor Minds has grown so much and y'all see us, we have sat on this couch with Wiz Khalifa, T-Pain, T.S. Madison, all these great people. But y'all never get to see the support system behind us. The girls who keep us going, who keep us sane and grounded. So we have a special episode with our besties today. What about your friends? That's what it's given for karaoke. Period.
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And can I say something, y'all? I understand when we see snow and we're not used to seeing it, but stop eating the snow. No, please. I seen somebody making a snow cone. I said, bitch, be fucking for real. Bruh, why? She was putting syrup on it and everything. And then she was eating it. That's disgusting. I know there's a piece of grass in there somewhere.
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So we're going to talk for the first topic about the TikTok ban. Yeah. I think everybody pretty much knows what happened. TikTok got banned. Everybody on the app was losing their minds. Half of the people were crying. Half of the people were like, good, y'all need to go get a job. Why are you depending on an app for money anyway? Then, lo and behold, 12 hours later, the app is still here.
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Have you been keeping up with yours? Absolutely. Good job. I have been staying on track with all of my goals. That's why I posted that meme the other day on Twitter. I was like, it's only the first month of the year and I'm in my bag. Period. Y'all know what meme. I'm talking about them two ladies that was like stepping in their bag.
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It's got an extension. They're still trying to figure out what they're going to do with it. But, yeah, that's what's going on.
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Before we get into the topic, let me say, y'all, please do not fall for that little stunt that they pulled talking about Donald Trump saved the day and saved the app. He the reason why it was about to get canceled.
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I think people be forgetting what the hell going on. Exactly. So just don't fall for that. But anyways, what do you think about the TikTok ban and how people were, like, crying and then also how people were laughing about it? I was more on the side of laughing.
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Well, no, I am. Because it's just like crying when you don't know what's going to happen yet is crazy to me. Like, I feel like once you know what's going to happen, like once you know your fate, like say you're a TikToker and you have 3 million followers and that's your primary source of income.
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Once you knew for sure that the shit was going to be over, like, maybe a week later, two weeks later, a month later, and now it's really affecting your income, then I could see having that reaction. But it's like, it was just hearsay. Like, we wasn't really sure. And I knew that the shit was not going to get canceled because at the end of the day...
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If a lot of Trump's policies is all about making America great again and people making more money and people having income, it's so many people on TikTok that are making millions of dollars. Why would he cancel something like that that's generating that type of income for Americans? I just knew it probably wasn't going to happen. And I think people were very much overreacting.
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I think to cry over an app in general is literally insane. And it shows how...
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ridiculous our generation is in my opinion because why are you crying over an app like I tweeted about this I said I feel like we're living in a real life episode of Black Mirror because what is wrong with y'all like it's a app and I get that people make money from it but just like any other time if something get canceled something else gonna pop off right afterwards yeah and that's the truth
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It happens all the time. It happened with Black Planet. It happened with MySpace. Black Planet is nuts. Well, what I'm... And from what I... And what I think is... I think Black Planet and MySpace might still be around, but the point that I'm making is that it doesn't have as many users as it once did. Everybody kind of started migrating over to Facebook and all of that type of stuff. So...
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It's always going to be something else that ends up coming out. And, like, we would have figured it out as a community. We would have been okay. I just think sitting online crying, period, is crazy. But sitting online crying over TikTok is insane. And people was mad. They was responding to my tweet. Somebody had said, well, I'm sure you would feel the same way about YouTube.
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But no, for real though. Yeah, I've been staying on track with my goals. Because one thing about me, I'm pretty like disciplined when I set my mind to things. So it's not hard for me to like stay consistent and not veer off track if I'm telling myself every day like this is the goal.
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I said, yeah, but you wouldn't see me online crying about it. But you also, if YouTube got shut down right now, you also have a backup. Oh, and I said that too. I said, but I also have like five other streams of income outside of YouTube. Right. And I think for me, too, I mean... Light flicks, but yeah. And I will say this, too. Y'all have to prepare for a rainy day.
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When I tell you I'm so... My lifestyle is so different now, and I understand how it is having a presence on social media, making your money online. These apps aren't necessarily guaranteed as we've seen. But what I will say is, like, you got to prepare for a backup. I thought blueberry.
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I think that it's so crazy, though, on the other side, because I'm going to play devil's advocate to your point, which is a very good point. But on the other side, y'all that were sitting there clapping and laughing at people, y'all would be the same people. If your boss walked into your cubicle right now and fired you, you would be crying as well.
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I don't think we should ever clap for anybody losing out on income. Are people online influencers? I do think a lot of influencers need to go to financing classes or get a financial advisor. I had to do that myself because in my first two years of making money, I was wilding. I was 100% wilding. Now, I really know what to do with my money so I can prepare for things like that.
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So I do think a lot of these influencers that have extra income coming in are there all of a sudden... making $40,000, $50,000 a month. Yes, they need to be taught about their money, but it's not your place to sit up there and laugh because if your company shut down, you would be in the same predicament. At the end of the day, we are living in times that are very fucking frightening for all of us.
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Yeah. Because none of us are Jeff Bezos, baby. And we're all like, you know what I'm saying? It's very scary. If the whole internet shut down, a lot of people would be fucked up. So I just think that we just need to give people grace. But I also think I agree with you on that note. Getting on the internet and crying is nuts. About anything. About anything, I agree.
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Like, holding a camera up while you're crying will forever be insane to me. Yeah. Because to me, you ain't really that sad. Because I don't know. When I be crying, I be sliding down the wall. I ain't got time. I ain't got time to be holding no camera in the middle of a breakdown. And then everybody was like deleted off their phone. Then you couldn't download it back and they was mad about that.
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I think you still can't, right? I don't know. I'm not sure because I kept it on my phone. I did. Because remember when it was coming out? Remember when we was on the plane? I'm like, TikTok working again. We were sitting right next to each other. I'm like, it's working again. We were like, I knew it. But we also weren't panicking.
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And then, like I said, that was something else that somebody had said in the comments. I thought it was like, you would be sad if YouTube got canceled or whatever. What if you was making thousands of dollars from TikTok every month? I do. But I still wasn't panicking for me. Because at the end of the day, we was just going to find something else.
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Thank you. Oh, my God. And thank you so much for complimenting me on that because it's actually the Muse sample. That giving Michael Myers. Thank you. Yeah, this is actually the Muse sample that I'm coming out with. So I'm coming out with this eyeliner really soon. It'll probably be in March. Okay. And it's real. And I have the mascara on too, so. Okay. I'm feeling that. I'm about to get me one.
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We had built, what, a following of almost 400,000 followers on TikTok. We was just going to go to another app and build it again. Like, I don't know. We're not afraid of starting over.
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Let me tell you right now, if YouTube got shut down, somebody finna pick up poor minds. Yeah. The world needs us. They do. And that's how I feel. You can't take away from me what you didn't give to me. I agree. You know what I'm saying? Like, no CEO at YouTube, no CEO at Facebook, TikTok.
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Like, I feel like when you really believe in yourself and your power, and I always use her for an example because I love her. Oh, I should have got her new last name. Jackie Aina. She has a new last name because she got married. Jackie has moved from app to app to app. She don't give a damn. Because you shouldn't.
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If you believe in yourself and you notice you're putting out quality content and you know you that girl, you're just going to build the followers again on the new app. And I can understand being sad and crying if it's really affecting your financial situation. But it was people who was really upset and crying that TikTok was getting canceled just because of the entertainment purposes.
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But I just, I do, I'm not being judgy, but I do feel like crying over an app is a little extreme. It's a little extreme for me. It's a lot extreme. So, yeah, girls. And I am being judgy. So... That's the thing that beats me.
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Like, all the other stuff that's going on, you'd rather sit on the internet and cry over an app than, like, really voice your opinion or, like, voice the political things that's going on. That's crazy to me. And then everybody started downloading Red Note. Yeah. The other app, Red Note. And I'm like, why do y'all always try to do that? Try to make a...
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I think one thing about these apps is you have to let an app organically come about. So, when they were doing, like, the... Everybody thought... Everybody was about to boycott Twitter and stuff. So, like, I made Poor Minds of Blue Sky. I said, I'm going to make this just in case. But, I mean, I really don't care because I'm going to still be using Twitter. I'm just doing it just in case.
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X. X. I'm sorry. X. But... Again. Who cares? I just always make another app for us. And I'm like, okay, just in case we have to move over here. Because y'all, I feel like we have a tribe over here. And we, poor crew, we rise deep, baby. Yeah. It's just not that serious to me. Okay, if Twitter shut down, I'm going to do it again. And I get it.
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You know, everybody doesn't have that community backing them or supporting them. So I can understand that as well. But like... Again, y'all, it's social media.
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It's social media. And sometimes it really makes me nervous to think about how a lot of people would cut up if something ever really happened to all of these ads. Mm-hmm. Like, what y'all gonna do? Yeah. Yeah. And I feel like if anything, people like us really should have been panicking for real because we be making money from the apps and stuff.
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But it's just like... But I like to wait though and see. Like once I know what's going on, then I can react. Then I can start having the feelings and emotions and be trying to figure out, okay, what am I going to do next? But when shit is up in the air and we don't know what's about to happen yet, just let shit play out. Because I had a very strong feeling that it was going to play out that way.
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And it did. Yeah. And y'all was acting a plumb fool online for no goddamn reason. Doing the app, get back up. You trying to archive them videos. We saw them, boo! We saw you crashing out. I seen that snot bubbling frog in your throat. Ah, ah, ah.
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Thank you. Buy me one, bookie butt. Are you staying on track with your goals? I am. Okay, y'all. So I have a great update.
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They probably is, but oh, goddamn well. We ain't about to read it, no way. Oh, Marie. I am. Y'all know I'm like, Drea, they said my neck was fat and my back was big. Oh. And 2025, we gonna work on you not reading the comments. Okay, I'm gonna work on it. I'm gonna work on it. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping.
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Yeah, so we have a brand new show dropping, y'all, on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Porn Chronicles. We're going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bill and O'Shea, where the hell could you go? If you can't go to Bella Notte, where the hell can you go? We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me.
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We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God. Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon. Yes, y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time. Y'all know Poor Minds has grown into its own little entity.
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Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down. Stay tuned. It's your girl XP. And it's your girl Trey Nicole. And this is for all the e-commerce business owners. Listen up. We're about to tell y'all about ShipStation.com. ShipStation is great because it scales with your business.
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No matter how big your business grows, you'll never outgrow ShipStation. I also love that you can get up to 88% off of a lot of popular shipping companies like UPS, DHL, USPS, and up to 90%. off of FedEx.
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I'm telling you, I went to acting class the other day and he was like, you have such a presence on camera. I said, we moving up. We doing good.
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So what you're going to do is go to ShipStation.com and use code POORMINDS to start a free trial today. I'm telling you, you won't regret it. ShipStation.com and use code POORMINDS.
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Let's get into the second topic. So for the second topic, I wanted to talk about... Being a well-traveled woman. Okay. But not probably in the sense that people are thinking about as far as just being somebody who has traveled a lot and seen a lot. But I want to talk about it from the perspective of like men wanting to date you. If you're a well-traveled woman.
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I saw a post a few weeks ago where this guy was basically saying that, like, he likes to date younger women. He doesn't really like to date women that are older because he feels like with a younger woman, he's going to give her a lot of her furs. Mm-hmm. So she's going to experience a lot of her firsts with him. She hasn't really did much. She hasn't really traveled much.
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She doesn't really know much about life yet. She's not jaded yet by dating other men and things of that nature. So he prefers to date women that are younger because women who are older... We are jaded. We are more travel, so nothing impresses us. We be like, oh, I seen it already, or you need to do more.
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And he feels like it's nothing that he can give or bring to the relationship of value for a woman that's around his age or older. And I think he was like in his 30s. So I have two things to say about that. First thing, I dated somebody like that. I don't know if y'all remember when we used to do our characters football bay.
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I literally had football bay tell me he was like, it is, he told me straight up. He was like, it's very hard dating you because like I've taken you to Miami and you were just, I could tell like you were having fun, but you just weren't impressed.
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He was like, I feel like for me to do something for you that just makes me be a guy that sticks around in your life forever or somebody that's memorable, I'm going to have to take you to Greece or to Paris or something like that. And I'm like, yeah, that is true. I'm not impressed by you taking me to Miami. I'm not. I'm not going to lie. But I say all that to say that...
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To my second point, that just goes to show the type of man you are because you're not that nigga like you thought. Because it don't matter where we at. We could be in Utah, Arizona. If you that nigga, oh, we finna have a time because you with me, baby.
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I have been on a trip with a guy, and it's somewhere that I have been 30 times, but I talk about the time that I went with him because we had that much fun. Mm-hmm. I have been to Miami a million times, but I can count the times that I remember I had a memorable experience. It's not about where you are. It's about the person that you're with.
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So any man that is intimidated by a well-traveled woman is not the man for me. Because, baby, that passport is stamped. Yeah, same. Like, why would you not want to date me because I've been places that you haven't been? Yeah. Or places that you're not taking me for the first time? The way I look at it is like you said, okay, so what? I've been here before. Take me again. Right.
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And it's going to be a different experience because this time I'm with you. Right, exactly. And that's how I feel. And people be acting like, okay, so what? You been to Greece. Okay, if you been to Greece, you ain't went every goddamn where in Greece. You ain't have the time in six days. I'm telling you. So we can go back and do shit that I didn't do the first time. I'm just not intimidated.
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Now, to me, I want a guy that actually, like, if we're on a day and you, like, tell me that you don't like to travel, it's the difference between you not liking to travel and you haven't traveled. I would rather date somebody who hasn't traveled than somebody who doesn't like to.
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Or doesn't want to because I enjoy traveling. So that's more of a red flag to me. And it's not a red flag to everybody because I think men that don't like to travel, you can find women who don't like to travel and y'all can be together. But I think a man who is well-traveled and cultured, when he meets a woman that's well-traveled, that doesn't intimidate him. Mm-hmm.
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Because I wanted to give it more of a chill vibe. Because I feel like Poor Minds, obviously, is a big production now, which I'm grateful for. But I'm like, you know what? I kind of wanted to take it back.
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Because he's like, oh, I've been here before. Have you been here before? Oh, we should go together because there's things I didn't do. When you are real travelers, no. Like, that's why you said that, like, you didn't do everything. Yeah. I've been in Atlanta since 2017. I still haven't done everything here. Bitch, and I lived in Houston for 25 years, and I didn't do everything there.
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Like, it's no way. Right. It's literally no way because new things are always popping up. You can't do everything anywhere. Mm-hmm. So to me, that's just like a bullshit ass excuse. And if a nigga is intimidated by me, you not the one for me no way. Yeah. But I feel like men like that who like, oh, I want to date a younger woman because she's not jaded. She hasn't been you.
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One, it's giving a little grooming energy. And two, it's just giving that you are bottom of the barrel and you cannot step up to the plate because, and I'm not even saying it's an age thing. Because you can find some young women who are well-traveled. They have expensive tights. They have things like that. But you won't even date that younger woman because she knows of herself.
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And she knows who she is. A lot of women are blessed with that, that they find that in their 20s. Some women don't find that to their 30s. Hell, some women don't find that to their 40s. And some don't either. Find it at all. You right.
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But a man who cannot date or be with a woman who knows herself and knows what she wants out of life, it gives that you're okay with the bare minimum and you cannot rise to the occasion of that. Yeah, and you want somebody who's going to be okay with that, too. Yeah. You want somebody to be okay with you taking them to Buckhead to eat for every single day. I'm not okay with that.
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Like, I like to be outside. I like to do things. And I'm not saying every trip has to be in Greece. Like I said, Miami was one of the most romantic vacations I've been on. I'm so serious. And I love Miami. I love a Miami trip. I went to D.C. last year. I had a ball because I did something I never did. Like, traveling domestically, traveling anywhere with your partner, it's about the experience.
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I agree. So, a real man or a woman is not going to be intimidated by that passport stance. Yeah, I agree. I just think that's, like, some bullshit. Like, if you just want to date younger women, just say that's what you want to do. Just say you can't handle my mama. Yeah. Okay. But stop with all the excuses. Like, I just feel like it sound crazy.
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Little pine cone. Little something, something. I don't know. These Atlanta streets are not clean, baby. Why would you eat snow? Yes. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. So wait, it's the fourth week.
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And I'm like, oh my God, I cannot wait to get to the studio on Wednesday where I can just show up, baby. No, I... feel you on that. Like, I haven't had no technical issues because, you know, I launched my YouTube channel, too. So, I haven't had no technical issues as far as, like, filming. But, oh, my God. Shay's over there laughing because, oh, my God. Like, when I say...
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I don't know what opposition was against me. I don't know what opposition was against me, but it literally took all day to be able to send her a file. And we literally tried everything. And I'm just like, yeah, I don't miss having to deal with these types of stuff at all. It's so annoying. Oh my gosh. But I didn't give up. I was relentless. I said, we gonna figure it out. And we figured it out.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. ,,,,,,, ,,,,,,, If I'm like, Dre, I haven't made a million dollars yet. The only reason I have it is because it's my fault. And that's the honest to God truth. I don't have nobody to blame.
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Of course, we have some big news that we can't drop yet. Yes. But I think it's, like, two big things. It's two big things for sure. I'm super excited about it. I feel like we should be able to announce it maybe in, like, the next...
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month or two yeah but um yeah it's really really big news and I don't know I just been trying to stay on top of everything like I've been doing good with my challenge y'all I'm doing a 75 day challenge I'm not drinking for 75 days I'm working out for 75 days straight no days off um I'm kind of doing like I don't want to say I'm doing a diet because I don't really need to lose weight so I'm not doing a diet per se but it's just a personal goal of mine I'm not eating meats
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So, like, when people that are, like, making good money and they're in good position and they're complaining about where they are, girl, you got to work harder. It's no, like... I don't like when people do that. Like... It's not fair. I'm trying. Everything is on me. Well, it was a point where everything was on me, and I made it happen. Same.
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We all got to scratch our way out and figure it out, champ. It ain't easy, and I think people expect stuff to be easy, and that's why most people have a problem with consistency. Yeah. Because as soon as shit get rough, and it ain't what you thought it was going to be, or it's harder than you thought, now you're like, well, I don't know. Do I really want to do this? Or you half-assing it.
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You're not giving it your all. So... Well, getting back to the topic. We were talking about luxury. We were talking about luxury. So, yeah. What is luxury to you? What is a luxurious life when you are 80? I just said, I feel like whatever I want to do, like me being able to do whatever I want, buy whatever I want. And I feel like I've said this before on Poor Minds.
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Just me being able to do whatever the hell I want, that's luxurious to me. Like if I wake up today and I'm like, you know what? I want to go to the... car dealership and buy a Rolls Royce. Cool. And I just got it and I can just pay $500,000 cash for it if that's what I want to do.
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And then I not blink twice because obviously we all know paying cash for a car and driving it off the lot is dumb as hell. But I think that when people... I think that when you get that level of money... It don't matter. It really don't matter. You know what I mean? So... I feel like when I can do what I want, when I can wake up every day and do exactly what I want.
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Because I definitely can do what I want to an extent. Yeah. We got some limits now. Yes. I can do what I want to an extent.
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But when I can literally wake up every day and the world is mine, the world is my oyster, and I can just do whatever I want, that's when I feel like I'm going to be living a luxurious life. Mm-hmm.
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Bad friend free. Bad energy free. Like... I feel like the way I have curated my life in these past few months, like I've been doing a lot, a lot of self-work of picking my battles and putting my energy in myself and waking up and choosing to have a good day. Like, you know I be going through my little bouts. And my last little depressive bout I went through was so bad.
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I was like, I'm not doing this to myself. No, I'm not doing it no more. I'm not doing it no more. So luxury to me is just having that mind capacity to even do that, to even make that decision. You know what I'm saying? So I agree with you. Like luxury to me is just living a life that you are proud of.
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Like, once you reach a point in your life where you wake up and you don't want to be nobody else, and you're like, I'm happy to be me and my skin. Like, there was moments in time where I used to be like, man, she's so lucky. I wonder how it feels to be her. You know, when we were little, we'd be like, oh, I want to be like Beyonce. And there's nothing wrong with that because you're little.
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But when you grow up, it's like, you'd be like, man... Look how she living. She's so lucky. I wish I... Oh, I wish I had the thing. I wish I had the nigga she had. I wish I had the job that she had.
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You know, like, I used to be that and looking at other people and be wanting what they had so bad, but, like, every single day now since I've made this change, like, I have... I'm living in luxury right now. I wake up every morning like, bruh... this shit lit. Like, I would not want to be anybody else. My personality, everything about me is unique and I love that. Right.
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So I feel like luxury is literally what you make it. So when somebody says, I want, I have this type of lifestyle and I want this and that, why are you offended by that? Why are you, that's luxury to them and that's the life that this person chooses for themselves. What another person wants and they look at as luxury should not affect the way you feel about yourself.
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And if it does affect the way you feel about yourself, you're not living in luxury yet, boo. Yeah, I mean, and also if you say that that's what you want, rise to the occasion. Set the standard for yourself. And when you set that standard for yourself, also stop accepting bare minimum from people around you. Make these niggas rise to the occasion. Make your friends rise to the occasion.
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Stop letting people treat y'all any kind of way and handle y'all any kind of way too. Because that ain't luxuries either.
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Ty, what's luxury to you, Ty? I agree with exactly what you said, like just being comfortable with who you are, being free. I was just thinking about, I did a vision board event this past weekend and just like accepting that gratitude of where you are. I used to want to be famous. I love, love, love, love being low-key. I know a lot of people know me, but like... Come on now, Ty.
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So I'm only eating seafood. I'm sticking to like low carbs. And yeah, and then I have to read a book every day. Every day? Not a whole book. I have to read like at least 10 to 15 pages out of a book. No, I got to read. I'm going to be listening to it on three times speed like Ryan do with his podcast. But yes, y'all, so I'm doing my challenge. And then I also start Spanish classes next week.
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I like being more low-key, though. Like, I enjoy my freedom. I'm doing exactly what I love to do. I have the ability to curate, host events, inspire, lead. I have a team. You know, like, just being comfortable in that space, but knowing that there's still room to grow and elevate. I think that's just... Being comfortable in your skin, man. I love that.
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And you said, and you made a really good point, too. Gratitude. Gratitude is so important. Because the thing is, if you don't have gratitude for where you are currently, how you expect God to keep blessing you? Ooh. And people do not be grateful for what they do not be grateful for. It's crazy because when we went on our little two-week trip, it was one of the mornings I woke up.
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I'm not even going to lie to you. I sat in the bed and I prayed and I cried and I didn't ask God for nothing. I was just so thankful because I'm like, is this really my life, bro? Like, this is crazy as hell. I feel like that every day. I wake up and I talk to God every day and I just be like, thank you. Thank you, God, for all these opportunities. Thank you for health.
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Little things, too, because I think people forget to be grateful for little things. Like, the fact that you was able to get up out the bed is a blessing. The fact that you opened your eyes is a blessing. The fact that you have a roof over your head is a blessing. You know what I mean? You have to be grateful for the small things as well, not just, you know, the opportunities. Right.
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Okay, so now it's time to get into the bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. Bow.
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Uh, sure. What are three sex myths that you grew up believing as a child? Okay. I want to start this off a little...
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And everybody was laughing in the comments and X, Y, Z. But it was one lady who made a comment like, this is so embarrassing to women around the world or something she said. And I went to her page. A whole log off. I went to her page and she was like a motivational speaker. I don't know who she was motivating because she didn't have that many people following up anyways.
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Oh, good. Are you going to somebody in person? Yeah, I'm going to be taking in person and online classes. Okay. I think I might do the little app or something and just try to see what I can do.
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I say all that to say because I think it's so crazy that adults, to keep the world spinning, we must procreate. Sex is like eating food. It's a part of life. It's human nature. Say. It's human nature. You need a pop. I say all that. Why is sex so taboo to talk about? Like, why is it so like...
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You know, I'm not saying that everybody wants to be open and talking about it, but when people are open and talking about it, why do people get so ashamed for that? So I think we need to stop doing that. And so that's something that you believed in as a kid? Um, I guess, because growing up, it was like, oh...
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You know, parents, they can't kiss in front of the kids, or you can't, you know, everything. Don't talk to your child about sex and this and that. My mom was very open. I don't know. I'm like, my parents used to be kissy. Yeah. But, I mean, some people are like that, but some people are very conservative, extremely conservative. Like, you have a lot of people like that. Yeah.
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And I just don't believe in that. I think you should talk to your kids about real life. I saw a lady who actually, like, bought a house, and on her garage, there's, like, a whole top floor, and she built her daughter an apartment. But, I mean, that's a little off topic, but she was like, I'm going to show my child how to take care of a household.
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Now, she still goes in there and cleans up because the house is connected to the house. But she has a whole setup, like, as an apartment. And I think that's important because in school, we need to start learning things that are going to teach us about life. When we have sex education, we need to be learning about more than how to put a condom on a banana.
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There are real conversations about how, you know, men view sex a little different than women view sex. These are conversations we need to have in sex ed. Right. And it's okay to talk about sex. It's okay to talk about sucking dick. If I'm in a relationship, I'm sucking my man dick. The fuck? Why are we acting like, oh, my God. Girl, you know you done ate some coochie before.
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No, everybody ain't ate coochie, though. But they need to. Like, I was with you till the... You... Okay, Lynn. No, I'm saying men, men, men, men. You said, girl, I know you ate some coochie before. What was girl? Because we LGBTQIA. Friendly, bitch. We are, but at the same time. Goddamn. You know what I mean.
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Well, I'm saying if somebody's talking about eating coochie, don't be trying to make them feel bad about it. Hell. If that's what they like, that's what they like. Let's stop making sex awkward and taboo conversations. That's all.
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So, yes. So, for me, I would say I thought you could get pregnant at any time of the month when I was a kid. That's a good one. Yeah, I thought you could get pregnant at any time of the month. Obviously, as I got older, I found out you can only get pregnant when you're ovulating. It's time for the ovulating. Yeah.
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Yeah, that's why I'm like, yeah, I'm not about to keep procrastinating. Because when I was younger, when I was in elementary school, I took Spanish for like three years. And I feel like it's not that I was good at it, but I feel like I could understand. Even now, I still kind of understand when people be talking to me depending on what they saying.
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You can only get pregnant when you're ovulating, y'all, which is like one week out of the month. Yeah. So that is a myth. You cannot get pregnant all throughout the month. It's hard to get pregnant. But I did used to think that.
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What I'm saying, if it's only one week out the month, and if you fucking a lot, it's like, you know what I'm saying? But I feel like if you fucking a lot in that week, then... These hoes be getting pregnant. That's what happens. Every time I scroll, it's a pregnant girl on my timeline. They definitely be getting pregnant. I don't think these girls got no problem getting pregnant.
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I'm trying to think. I don't know. I don't think I have... I can't think of any more.
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You don't have two more myths that you thought was like... that you found out weren't real once you became an adult? Now, to kind of add on to that, when I was really little, I really remember this. I think I may have said this on the show. When I was little, I remember the guy my mom was with at the time, his brother had gotten married.
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I specifically remember sitting in the kitchen with my sister. I was probably maybe like five or six. And I was like, oh, my gosh, I hope they wish for a baby. So I used to think that you had to wish for a baby. Like, I didn't know nothing about sex. So I used to think, like, when couples got married, they used to just, oh, I wish I had a baby. Because I didn't know how babies came. Like a stork.
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Yeah, like a stork. I was like, oh, I hope they wish for a baby. So that was something I definitely, I just thought they wished for babies.
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I for sure did. That makes sense. Yeah. I feel like I definitely thought you could get pregnant from kissing. Yeah.
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Yeah, I did. I used to think that, too, in elementary school. Don't kiss me. Do not kiss me at all. Because I'm not trying to get pregnant. Like, I definitely used to think that. And then I'm trying to think, what's another one? Okay, I have one.
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What a whore. It was like wearing the scarlet letter A. Well, living in Houston, it was always a lot of people with hickeys. Yeah, it's like, if you had a hickey in Orange, Texas... Baby. Really? If you had a hickey, it was like, oh, my God. See, I went to school with a lot of Latinos, and they used to say... They used to stay with a hickey. I'm weak! They used to stay with a hickey.
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But I want to get to a point to where when I go out of town, I can communicate fluently.
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I used to be like... Y'all nasty. They used to be getting down like a Hoover vacuum. Yes. And they didn't have no shame, neither. Like, when I used to have hickeys, I used to, like, try to cover it up with a little makeup, a scarf, something. You know what I mean? It'll be pretty obvious, though, because why you wearing a scarf and 80-degree with it? But I would try to cover it up with something.
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What? What? What? What was this? They laughing because they... Okay, so it was funny because when I was in school, when I was in high school, when I was in high school, it would only be the Latino classmates. They never used to care what the teacher name was. They just used to say, Miss, Miss. I swear. I swear. They did. It didn't matter from what class to what class we went to.
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And I don't have to worry about having a translator. Because although we did have a translator with us when we were going, you know, it's still just annoying not being able to communicate for yourself. Right, right. So that's a goal of mine. By the end of the year, I plan on being semi-fluent. Maybe we'll do a little Poor Minds talent show. Ooh, a talent show. And I'll read a poem in Spanish.
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It was just one boy. I was in, like, three periods with him. And every teacher, miss, miss, he never would say their last name. Oh, God. My stomach hurts. Why would you do that? Probably because I was thinking about him specifically. Because I took three periods with him, and he stayed with a hickey. Oh, my God. And then his girlfriend would be waiting outside the classroom with his books.
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I mean, with her books. for them to walk to the next place. Me, me.
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Okay, you got any more? I think that was it for me. That was it for me. Let me try to think. No, I don't think I have any more. So if y'all have any sex myths, Ty, you got any? You have one, Ty. The only one I can think of is that the bigger, the better. Now, definitely we want a good size, but I used to think it needed to be 12 inches, 2 feet long. Now, I don't want all that. Hold on, Ty.
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We talked about like a little boyfriend size, a nice 7'8". You know, that's a nice little size. But I used to think I needed a big horse. When I was younger? I mean, a child is high school technically, too, because you're still a child.
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I used to be the playpen like this. That's crazy. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And one thing about us, we love a good hygiene routine. So we are going to tell y'all all about good wipes. Absolutely. Y'all know toilet paper is not enough. After you do what you need to do, you also need to wipe with a wipe as well. And that's why I love these.
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They are hypoallergenic. They also are made with plant-based fibers. And they come in so many different scents, like Shea Cocoa, Lavender, Cedar, Botanical Bliss. They smell amazing. Yeah, so wipe yourself good and clean.
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i guess my item of the week is muse because i don't have an item of the week for this week so yeah it's gonna be muse beauty y'all know we have a new lip plumper that i have been using every single day like yes it's that good no i'm not being biased it's so bomb i have it on right now um the lip plumper and then also the jelly blushes i actually have those on too i have on peach i love that jelly blush thank
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cute. I have on Peach Bellini right now. But all of the products are amazing. So make sure you go to MuseBeautyCollection.com. Get your lip glosses, your lip liners, your matte liquid lipsticks, your blushes. And we are about to have a Valentine's Day sale. So stay tuned for that. Ooh, I love that. I just want to shout out Dee Dee.
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Y'all know Dee Dee been doing my hair for years at Rich Look Hair. And she provided, like, the little hair for my boho braids. And I just love it. It's literally, like, the best hair. It's so thick. It's the upscale wave. So if you're looking to get some boho braids, I'm telling y'all, I went on vacation for two weeks, and this hair was literally amazing. So...
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I'm tap dancing. Period. And we can have Lynn come because she just started violin. Oh, yeah, she did.
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If you want to get the boho braids and you're looking for some thick hair, like, you really only need two and a half bundles. This is literally two and a half bundles. It's so thick. It's the upscale wave. Go to atrichlookhair. Shout out to Dee Dee. Thank you so much, girl. You always be hooking me up with some good bundles. All right. So now it's time to get into the bow. Hey. The bow. Bow.
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The bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. All right. Bop of the week. Now, y'all know my bop of the week. I'm a little tipsy now, y'all. My bop of the week is usually like an indie artist, something that's like, you know, a little low-key. But I am making a mainstream artist my bop of the week this week because I am so disgusted, not at him, but at y'all for reacting to a hit. It's about to be summertime.
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We can do a whole little telly show. We do need to do a telly show.
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It's time to shake that ass. My bop of the week is Bruno Mars featuring sexy, red, fat, juicy, and wet. Because people have been up in arms, Bruno, you so nasty. Bruno been nasty. Y'all know short niggas is freaks. Yeah. Why are y'all surprised? Bruno been talking that shit on these tracks. He really have. I don't understand why people... surprised.
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And I just feel like y'all not no real fans of music because 70s and 80s, them niggas was nasty. In the 90s too. Not nasty, nasty. They been nasty. What, um, what he said? Slop on my knob. Like corn on the cob. He didn't say that. Like, come on. It's in your job. Well, since when are y'all like the moral police on? Oh my God, I can't believe he said pussy. Girl, that's why I know y'all shit dry.
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You ain't got that fat juice in the wedding. Excuse me? You don't got that fat juice in the wedding. Why would you say that? The dry girls is mad.
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Skim? Skim, because it's not fat. They said that to me. Because I was saying, like, if you don't like the song, like, you lame. He was like, yeah, it's giving parched, skim, and dry. I am weak. But, yeah, shout out. I love it. I like it, too. I think it's a good song. It's a cute song for the club. Y'all got to think about it. This is a song that's going to be played in the club.
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It's a song that can be played girls' night. Y'all getting dressed. Y'all getting ready to go have fun. It's a fun song. You're not supposed to, like, just listen to it on the way to church. Like, what the fuck? Y'all have to realize certain songs are for certain settings, okay? Bruno's song is for the club. It's for getting ready. It's for pre-games. And it's a good song, Bruno.
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Oh, my God. I'm going to have my leotard on. Oh, God. Oh, y'all can do a duet. I like that. Okay. Yes. I feel like this is a good year. It is. They get the calendar at SoMixie.com, right? Okay. Period. Period. But no, piggybacking off what you were just about to say, but I feel like 2025 is like a good year. Yeah. My mental health space is better. I just feel like... I don't know.
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Don't let them think you doing wrong. Shout out to Sexy Red, period. Shout out to Sexy Red, period. So what's your vibe? Mine is 30 for 30 by SZA. Okay. I like that song, but I love SZA. I'm a huge SZA fan. Okay, keep going because I have something to say. Well, I wasn't going to say anything else. I just really like this one. Recently, so yesterday. You know me. I don't be giving no in-depth.
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I saw the Keke Palmer movie with SZA yesterday. I'm going to review that on Love Lex P Monday, so make sure y'all tune in. So you know what I liked about the movie? Because obviously SZA is a baddie. Not that SZA, you and SZA look alike, because y'all don't. I just say all that to say, like, I was like, I could see Drea in an acting role like this. Really?
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Yes, because I feel like I didn't have any, like, expectations of SZA and her acting because I've never seen her act before, of course. Kiki killed it, per usual. I'm going to give a more in-depth view. But I said all that to say, I was like, I could see you doing, like, a little cutesy, fun role like that. Well, I always say that. I feel like that's the only roles I would do. Yeah.
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Like, it has to be something where I don't have to step out too far outside of myself, I feel like, to play the role. Because, I mean, like... I don't know. I just feel like I'm not passionate enough about acting to do something... To be! Yeah, like, no. Or not to be. I'm definitely not a real thespian. Mm-hmm. So... Thespian. So... Well, I said so. So, with that being said... I know. Damn.
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But, yeah, so I just feel like it would definitely need to be a role that I feel like is kind of, like, close to me. Yeah. Where I can still keep my same accent and, like, voice and everything. Because I felt like it was giving, like, SZA, but, of course, she's acting. But it wasn't, like, too far off of, like, who she is.
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It was cute. It was real cute. But, yeah. Yeah, I have to go watch that movie. I haven't watched it yet. Y'all tune in. And I went by myself because I like had to go like really early in the day because I was trying to make, I had went to the gym and then I had bought tickets. So I had to rush. So I went by myself and like everybody in the theater, like they went with their bestie.
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I was like, oh, I'm by myself. But it was super cute. So y'all go see it. Make sure y'all see it before Monday when Love Legs P drops.
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Yes, y'all. It's time to get into our favorite segment of the week. So, you know, if you have any questions or testimonials, you can always send them to askpourminds at gmail.com. That's A-S-K-P-O-U-R-M-I-N-D-S at gmail.com. And don't be sending no paragraphs. It's the beginning of the year. I feel like I need to do a PSA. PSA. PSA. I think I need to. And shout out to Bird. Shout out to Bird.
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I need to do. They probably like, both of them people, they probably like, who are these people? We are too used to it. But PSA, y'all, please. This is a whole essay. One paragraph, y'all. And we love helping y'all with y'all questions. You know, we love answering y'all questions, giving y'all advice. But I feel like, you know, you could have still put all of these in one paragraph.
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Okay. Okay. I live back home with our kids and take care of them by myself while he lives with this other woman in Florida. He's been there for about a year now. It's been a lot of back and forth. Mind you, we're not together anymore, but he expects me to sit around and wait for him to figure out what he and her are going to do with their relationship. I'm just not with it.
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I've told him multiple times that I'm no longer waiting on him because he constantly puts her before us, me and the kids. He recently came into town, went through my phone and found out I've been dealing with someone else. He flipped out, got mad at me and we got into a fight. He's never put his hands on me before, but he did that day. He felt like I should have told him about the other person.
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But I feel like I didn't owe him that because he lives with another woman in a different state. Why should I have to tell him I had sex with someone else? Now he says he can't trust me and wants a divorce. But mentally, I had already checked out. So it didn't hurt when he said that. Me and him are very close. We grew up together. He's like my best friend.
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So he expected me to be open and honest with him because that's how he is with me. Even though I don't agree with his actions. So tell me, am I wrong in this situation? First of all, who gives a fuck if he trusts you? Y'all be giving these men too much. He done moved to another state. He lives with another girl. That divorce should have been final a year ago.
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I'm just excited. And when I launched Love Lex P, y'all, I have been so nervous. Even recording it, I was nervous because... I feel like every time I've done this type of stuff, it's always been, like, me and you and I'm talking to somebody. Like, I literally did one episode of Poor Minds by myself. Well, it was Wind Down Wednesday a long time ago because you were out of town.
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I don't even know why you're still communicating with him outside of y'all kids at this point. You don't owe him nothing. Why is he even in the vicinity to reach your phone? You should be... Let me tell you something. I never tell my friends to leave they men. I always let them go back until they get disgusted. How you're not disgusted yet? I have no idea.
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That man, you should press, what's it called? A restraining order? Because he put his hands on you? It's only going to go downhill from there. It ain't going to get better.
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He's showing you who he is. He don't want you, but he don't want nobody else to have you. And we know how them end up, them situations end up. Okay? Yeah, I agree with that, sis. You got to let that go. I feel like any communication just solely needs to be about y'all children at this point because he's made his decision. Like, it's not no trying to figure out what him and the girl going to do.
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I feel like when he chose to be with her over you, he had made the decision. Even if him and her break up, I wouldn't even want him no more because I was never your first choice. Mm-hmm. So I think that you just need to wash your hands of that situation. Be safe because if he puts his hands on you once, he'll do it again.
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Um, so just be safe, girl, but don't talk to him unless it's about y'all child. I wouldn't even be considering the possibility of a relationship with him. It don't matter that y'all grew up together, that y'all know each other. Sometimes them be the worst people, them be the ones that burn you the worst, the ones you been knowing the longest. So that does not matter.
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You got to let that history go and find you a better, well, first heal, but then also find you a better, healthier situation for you and your kids. And I will say this. It's different. I don't believe in spinning the block no more. I used to. But I'll say this.
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It's a difference between you and a person breaking up for whatever reason and y'all going out in life and maybe finding each other together again. Ladies, if a man leaves you and he immediately starts talking to somebody or he leaves you for another person, he is choosing somebody over you and you're literally like, hey, I know you got this going on, but can we work it out?
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He's choosing somebody over you. Absolutely. You should never want that man back again because if it's not her, it's going to be somebody else he chooses over you again. He don't want you. And that has nothing to say about you as a woman. Stop internalizing who you are as a person because of what this man says. You're not a bad person. You're just not that person for him.
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But that was when the episodes were 10 minutes long. So, I'm not going to lie. Like, sitting down for the first time and recording, it took me, like, five or six takes. Really? Yes, girl. Yes. Because I'm so used to just bouncing back with somebody. So, when it's just you and the camera, it's a lot more difficult.
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I'm a 19-year-old college... But I'm getting my feet seen in it. I'm a 19-year-old college student trying to figure out life while also trying to have a bit of fun. I just got out of a year-long relationship, and I wanted to know how Drea specifically moves on when change is needed in life. Facts, because, bitch, I don't move on. Our relationship consisted of miscommunication...
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lying, controlling behavior, and misunderstandings. There were great moments and soul ties we shared with each other, but it ended because I can't stand going through relationship problems at such a young age. I'm still trying to work on myself, my career, and my future. Plus, I want to be free. I need to focus on my bag and get shit done. Your girl needs some advice, please.
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Well, I feel like she already on the right track. Like, it seems like she already has her head on right to be a 19-year-old. You know what I mean? Like, you know what you want. You know that that relationship was getting toxic. So you got the hell on. And that's what you should have did because, yeah, because you 19. You're 19 years old. You literally have your whole life ahead of you.
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You still in college. You a college student. You need to be focusing on school. Because, girl, take it from somebody who flunked like two classes their first year of college just because they was playing around. Stay focused so you don't have to retake them classes. Don't be letting that boy distract you. And it's going to be plenty more where that came from.
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You're going to be glad you let that situation go. Dudes I was dating when I was 19, I don't even know what they doing right now. Like, I have no clue. We have no communication whatsoever. I feel like you did the right thing. And with any relationship, any breakup, it's always hard initially. But like when time starts going by, it gets easier and easier with time.
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And then eventually you're going to end up meeting somebody else that you like. Just stay focused on your goals. Stay focused on school. Stay focused on getting your money. Because didn't she say she have a job too? I think she did. But stay focused on school. Stay focused on getting your bag. It's always plenty of time to worry about these men later on in life.
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Because there ain't never a shortage of them. So, yeah, you did the right thing, sis. I'm very proud of you. And we always say your type at 19 is not the same type as 25 and it's not the same type at 30.
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And I feel like if niggas is toxic at 19, they going to be toxic for real at 30. Because why are you toxic at 19? You ain't even been through nothing yet.
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Like, I understand when men get older and then they be a little jaded or they be a little, you know, extra and stuff. Because it's like, life done beat your ass.
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But at 19, you ain't really been through... He 19 at war. He is. And he trying to be at war with you. Let him go, girl. Let him go. All right. Make sure y'all email us at askpermines at gmail.com. MuseBeautyCollection.com. Go get laced up if you want to be a baddie. Period. Dre Nicole with three E's on YouTube. What day you drop? Sundays? Yes, I drop videos every Sunday. Every Sunday.
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than it seems so like props to like Wendy cause like when Wendy does her show you know she sits there for the first 30 minutes it's just her and her hot topics and she be having a ball and once I got into it I was like okay I'm a little more comfortable so the first episode I thought was okay but everybody loved it but I'm just excited because I know I'm gonna get better and better as time goes on yeah like with everything I feel like you know as time progresses you just get more comfortable and you get better
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So look, y'all got a lineup. Y'all got Poor Minds on Fridays, Dre Nicole with three E's on Sundays, and Love Lex P on Mondays. And then you get the new, then you get Poor Chronicles on Monday, too. On Monday, too. You get a double whammy. You get a double whammy on Monday, and you get the early episode release on Wednesdays if you're a Patreon member. So, yes, you damn near getting a full week.
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A full week of us. Yes. So, anybody that's like, I need more, y'all got, we giving y'all so much time, so much stuff. And then you can sit at home and watch your stuff, greasing your lips up with some glaze from Muse Beauty. Period. You know what I'm saying? We're giving y'all everything that we need to give. And drinking a little drink that time, man. Oh, hello.
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And looking at the calendar to see what day it is. Well, you gonna make it. But she created it. But she created it.
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I should have made a little drink, too. Thank y'all so much for tuning in. We hope y'all enjoyed this episode. Make sure y'all subscribe to everything. Go get y'all some Mixi Calendar as well.
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And we'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page.
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Do not follow that page, okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram left. one twitter one tiktok it is p-o-u-r underscore m-i-n-d-s all right and we got a hell of fake facebook page oh the facebook pages it's the our face the crazy thing is our facebook page actually have the least amount of followers so if you're on facebook the one that's ours
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got the least amount of followers the one that's not us got like 250,000 followers but y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content cause the caption is like whoever it is don't speak English cause their captions are like should men pay bill should men pay bill yes no check answer below block block fire fire fire Thank you.
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Yeah, because I was like, oh, start over. And I'm, like, on my phone recording the thing so I don't have to keep getting up. But you just like that in general, too.
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Like, me, I be like, keep rolling this shit. Yeah. You be wanting to start over.
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So I can see you starting over, like, five, six times. I was like, just stop! God damn it!
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So what else is going on? What else is new before we get into these hot topics? I mean, that's really it. I feel like I've talked about everything. Like, I have new products coming out with Muse really soon. We have a Valentine's Day sale soon. That is about to drop. I'm going to have promo stuff coming out for that really soon.
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Yeah. It's going to be a sale on the jelly blushes, the red matte liquid lipsticks, literally everything on the site. But yeah, I have that coming out really soon. Of course, like I said, I launched my YouTube channel. Y'all know I'm going to be doing like... Beauty products, beauty hauls, clothing hauls, all of that stuff, vlogs, literally everything.
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It's just kind of like, you know, coming into my world, me showing y'all a little bit more about me, the more personal side. So, and my YouTube channel is doing really, really well as well. What else have I been working on in my challenge? I mean, that's really it. Life kind of boring right now for me just because, you know, I'm not drinking and stuff. So, I be in the house, out the way.
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Chilling. My challenge. Staying focused. It is safe in there. Like, and I feel so good. Like, I feel like when I don't drink... This probably going to, I don't know. Like, I don't want to say this is going to be my last year drinking, but I think I'm about to become like a wine rosé girl because I just, when I don't drink for a decent amount of time, I really like how I feel.
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And then when I start back drinking, I'll be like, yeah, this is why I don't like. You don't miss it. Your brain is more clear. You don't have the brain fog. Like, I don't know. I feel like even when we went on our trip, we barely drank. Yeah, we didn't really drink that much.
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Because, I mean, I really wanted to start on the first of the year, but then we had to do the trip, and then I knew we had to drink for certain stuff that we were doing for that. But, yeah, that's really it.
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So in light of this being our new year, this is the Golden Glow because everybody's glowing today. We got our challenges. We got our goals. We're focused. This is the Golden Glow. Lex does have the cocktail version. Drea and I have the mocktail version. But in both, we have some pineapple, mango. We have some mojito syrup. So that has like a little bit of mint flavor to it.
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We also have a little bit of passion fruit. And then we topped it off with a sparkling water just to kind of give it a little bit of that fizz and that carbonation, but also just blending and making it less sweet. And then just a splash of lime juice on top. As a garnish, we have some mangoes and some blueberries. So a little bit of fruit.
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So we've had three guest episodes back to back to back for the new year, right? No. No. I don't think so. No? No, we had Super. Then we had a solo. Oh, okay, okay. Then we had... And then Janice. Okay, okay. So we are back for our second solo episode of the year.
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Um, it's been cold here, so I've been trying to channel some tropical vibes, okay?
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Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera. Entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver.
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Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with Love Lex P. Mmm, tasty. Mmm.
Pour Minds Podcast
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It has been a violent winter in Atlanta. It's done snowed. It's been treacherous. Oh, my. Two weeks of snow, too. Yes. Two weeks of snow. We missed the first week. Yes. And I thought we was in the clear. Then we came back. It snowed again. Then they was trying to say it was going to snow again on Friday. Thank God it didn't. But, yeah, this snow ain't no joke.
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I don't think it has snowed in Atlanta since, like, 2018. Yeah. So this is crazy. Yeah, it was 2018 because that was, like, the first, like, I remember I had just moved to my place. I hadn't been home.
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I understand when we see snow and we're not used to seeing it, but stop eating the snow. No, please. I seen somebody making a snow cone. I said, bitch, be fucking for real. Bruh, why? She was putting syrup on it and everything. And then she was eating it. Y'all nasty. That's disgusting. I know there's a piece of grass in there somewhere.
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Little pine cone. Little something, something. I don't know. These Atlanta streets are not clean, baby. Why would you eat snow? Yes. Uh, counterparts? They were telling me to add some, like, cream.
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And to make ice cream. Yes, girl. I seen it on TikTok. What? Child, stop doing that.
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Well, I mean, if that's your thing, you still certain parts of Atlanta, they still got a little snow live. Ugh. On the ground. Dude, that snow was lasting all year. Yeah, it really is. Literally, I swear, y'all, I seen somebody that I follow. I saw somebody that I follow the other day. They had literally posted, they still had like a good little space of snow in their backyard.
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But it's like 65 degrees today. That's crazy. Okay, well, I will say this too. When the sun is not out, like, it rained the other day. Mm-hmm. And so, from my apartment, I can see, like, the buildings, obviously, on top of the buildings that are lower than me. Yeah. So, it had rained the other day, and then the next day, the sun didn't come out. And, like, it was ice on the roof. Mm-hmm.
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I mean, you know, that's your thing. Go ahead. Go up there with a cup.
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You know, when you face down, ass up, and you just doing too much, throwing that ass back. I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm out tonight. Knowing I'm not... I don't feel nothing. I'm not... Oh. And just...
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Some people just kind of happen to be in the right place at the right time. But it's about what you're going to do with it because, yeah, you got this opportunity, but if you didn't maximize it, it just doesn't really matter. Right. And a lot of people, I hate to say this, and it's no shade, no seed, but a lot of people, like, they really aren't talented.
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So y'all have somebody who has like a little viral moment or somebody who are not even talented, I'll say, or have the skills, skills, I'll use the word skills because I want to use other examples, like somebody who come up on some money. Like I had a friend, one of my best friends from high school, right?
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And she had started a job and it was one of those jobs that like give you stocks whenever you first start the job with one of the benefits, right? Right. Something happened with the stock market and they all got a whole bunch of money. Like, I mean, she hit like a million dollars or something crazy, right? And she was going trips, buying bags, partying. And when I tell you she has nothing now...
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And it was like a stop. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, that could have been something that could have lasted you a lifetime. So that's why I say luck is cool, but that's why I'm not going to lie to you. I'm not that lucky of a person. Mm-hmm. I am not a lucky person. Shit do not be hitting for me, bitch. My shit do not slap.
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It is. I love having guests. I do. Like, it's great to get other people's perspective, you know, hear their thoughts. And it's just a good time. Like, I feel like we have rarely ever had guests on Poor Minds where it was, like, not good vibes. Yeah. You know what I mean? A few. It has? That I wasn't that fond of, absolutely. Okay, okay.
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My shit do not slap at all. But I think I have an amazing life because I know how to take advantage of my skills and the opportunity. Mm-hmm. So I think you can make things like, okay, it's like the triangle, right? You got luck, you got skill, and you got opportunity. So luck is cool, but I would rather have the skill and the opportunity if I had to choose out of that three.
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Luck is cool. But so lucky girl syndrome is a thing. I think that you definitely should want to have the skill and the opportunity for sure over having luck. But, you know, I don't know. I think I have... I think I'm kind of lucky when I really think about it. Yeah. Because I feel like a lot of stuff that be happening to me or that has happened to me, it doesn't happen to, like...
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the average person or it doesn't happen to like people on a normal basis. Like I could look at a lot of instances in my life and be like, okay, that was probably luck. You know, just being in the right place at the right time, meeting the right person at the right time. Like, but I think that you, I think that even with me being lucky,
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Having skill and knowing when to take advantage of opportunity is what has gotten me to the places that I'm at. Because I do think you could be lucky and not know how to take advantage of the opportunity. And that's where a lot of people fall short. Or like you said, mismanaging the opportunity when you get it. So, i.e.,
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getting a million dollars and not knowing what to do with it and now you broke it. Mm-hmm. I don't think that could happen to me. I don't like to say never. I do believe in never saying never, though. I do believe in that because you just never know where life will take you and what will happen. Anything can happen to anybody at any moment. But...
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I don't think I would ever be a person who gets a million dollars and ends up broke again just because I know what to do with it. I'm going to figure out what to do with it. Even if I don't know, I'm going to figure out what to do with it. I think people don't realize, and it's not to say that a million dollars is not a lot of money because it is a lot of money.
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But I think that when people see that kind of money in their bank account and they've never seen that before... They be like, oh, let me go buy everything I ever wanted. And that's cool. You know, you should definitely go buy you a house. You should definitely go buy you a practical car. But going spend crazy amounts of money. Like taking $50,000 vacations.
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Yeah, taking $50,000 vacations, going to Louis, going to Chanel, splurging, buying like $200,000 worth of stuff. That's craziness. My girl bought a Birkin. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I mean, and even with that, for example, because it's like, do nice things for yourself. If you get a million dollars, yeah, buy yourself a Birkin. That's $15,000, $20,000, maybe $30,000. One, no.
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Don't go buy teeth. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You get what I'm saying? Like, it's just all about what you do when you have opportunities. And I think people be thinking, oh, I got this money. I ain't never going, I ain't going to never go back. No, but you will if you don't know how to handle the blessings that God gives you. Right. I agree. Do you remember that song, Lucky, by Britney Spears? No.
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But it's way more people that I loved than people that I didn't. There's probably only like two people that we had on the show that I was like... You ain't never got to worry about coming back. You ain't got to worry about me. You ain't got to worry about me, baby. I can agree because I was about to say there's probably only like one or two. Yeah. You know what?
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There's a knock, knock, knock on the door. And see, we could, do we? But I don't know. I cannot believe you don't know Lucky. Lucky was a story. And I think it was like Britney Spears. The girl's name was Lucky. and she was, like, a Hollywood star. Oh, that was really her name?
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Yeah, like, Britney played the character in the music video, and the girl's name was Lucky, and she was, like, a Hollywood star. But, you know, all that glitters that ain't gold.
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They don't, you know, she likes to dance in them panties, and we gonna talk about it every week, but she really gave us some box. We not gonna talk about it every week, actually. This probably will be the last time. If I'm being completely honest. What you think about lucky girl syndrome? Well, to quote the great queen, Nicki Minaj. Okay. No, I'm not lucky. I'm blessed.
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But no, for real, I agree with you on the three categories. I would change blessed to lucky for me. Okay. Because that's just me and my spirituality. But I do agree that opportunity meets preparation and that leads to like everything that you need.
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so putting out that good energy setting those manifestations affirmations and intentions that is really the motivation to kind of keep going through everything yeah I agree with that I definitely think that what you get Like, what you get out of life is a product of, like, what you put in. Now, come on.
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Like, depending on what type of person you are, I feel like sometimes that's why people be feeling unlucky, if I'm being honest. Like, you feel like fucked up shit always happening to you or you feel like you don't have good luck because what are you putting out? You know what I mean? I feel like... I'm always going out into the world treating people how I want to be treated. Right.
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I don't do bad by people. I always try to do good by everybody. Even if situations don't work out, I'm not even like a get-back person. I feel like life going to get you back. Right, right. God going to get you back. God be doing all of my get-backs.
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Yeah. I don't have to worry about those things. I just move on with my life. And I feel like because I've always been that type of person, that's why blessings... Look, as you know, some people might want to call it flows into my life all the time because it's about what you put out. Some people are terrible fucking people. And then they wonder why.
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And if I'm really being honest, people who bad stuff always be happening to, I kind of just do always look at them and be like, I separate myself. Yeah, because why is something bad always happening to you? Why are you always going through it? Why? And especially when it be situations that I feel like sometimes are like avoidable. You know what I mean? But you always going through something.
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You the common denominator. You're not unlucky. It's just about the decisions and actions that you be making. That's why your life is going this way. So, I do want to make a point to what Ty said, because she said she will change lucky and blessed. Because I feel like, no, I'm not lucky. Because when I look at luck, I look at, like, a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity happening.
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That don't happen to me. I'm not lucky. Like, I'm not lucky at all. I don't win the lottery. Yeah, like, stuff like, I never just, like, walk across the mall and a man be like, oh, let me come by you with Chanel. I'm not lucky. Like, I'm not lucky. My shit be fucked up. It's never me. It's never me. But when it comes to blessings now, now I am extremely blessed.
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I will say like I just feel this show is just so different because we just bring people out they shell and they always have a ball. So it's very rare people come here and don't have a good time. Yeah, it's always good vibes and a great time. I can honestly say that.
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Like, my blessings literally overflow. So I do think it is... I don't think you can enter, like, I see what you're saying about interchange and lucky and blessed, but I don't think that that's the same thing. Because I feel like luck is something like, it's a chance happening and it can happen to anybody. It can happen to the worst fucking person in the world.
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Blessings don't happen to good people. That's how I feel. That's a good point. Luck can happen to the fucking devil. You mean blessings don't happen to bad people? Yeah, I'm sorry. Blessings don't happen to bad people. Luck can happen to the worst person. The worst person you know can hit the lottery tomorrow.
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The worst person you know could get something like a random viral moment and you see them on TV everywhere. And see, that's why I do feel like they're interchangeable because blessings don't always come from God neither. It depends on if you really want to get deep into the spiritual bag. Sometimes blessings don't be coming from him. They be coming from other places.
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I think everybody can get blessings. I do feel like they're interchangeable. I agree with you. I think luck and blessings are interchangeable because I think even with blessings, people can sometimes look at your blessings and be like, oh my God, that's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. I could never see something like that happening for me.
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It just depends on people's perspective and their religious background. Because some people are not religious, so they gonna look at it like, oh, this person is just lucky. But I definitely think that they're interchangeable. And I think for those that feel like, like think about blessings more than luck, they're not really worried about luck either. Right.
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Because we're not searching for that once in a lifetime. Right. Because everything, we know that everything that's going to come to us is for our better good and it's an alignment. You know what I mean? So I feel like it's kind of, people look at it both ways. Right. I think for me, I'm blessed.
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I feel that way too. I definitely feel like it'd be blessings and luck though. That's why I said I do feel like they're interchangeable because certain stuff that have happened to me is definitely just, it was a blessing from God because I feel this way. I feel like nothing in your life is going to happen unless God wants it to happen.
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If you a believer, if you really believe in God, then it's like everything that you get is coming from him. It's all coming from him and it wouldn't have happened if he didn't want it to happen. So, I definitely feel like, okay, this was a blessing. It was luck, but it only happened because God allowed it to happen. Right. And I agree with you on that because God will really try to guide you.
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Mm-hmm. So we can do a little catch up. We can. You know, what's new? We know you on your, what you doing, hard? 75, 75 hard?
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If you pay attention, because like you said, blessings can be something that's coming from another place. Mm-hmm.
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So if you're not who you pray to. Right. So if you pay attention to God's guidance, he gonna guide you the right way that you're supposed to be going every time. So you'll know, okay, is this a blessing or is this something that's, you know, shit covered in glitter? A lesson. A lesson. You know what I'm saying? So I definitely do agree with you on that.
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But like I said, I feel like when I think about, like, me being unlucky, um... Like I said, I just don't feel like things happen for me. Like, oh, a viral moment. And it's just like, oh, I'm on TV. Because, you know, you see some people who go viral. Next thing you know, they on the red carpet at the Oscars doing interviews. Like, stuff like that, you know, don't really.
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Like, if we get on the Oscars and we interviewing, it's because, nigga, we've been fucking working for six years to get there. Yeah. You know what I mean? So, I guess that's what I mean, but I can say I'm blessed.
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I am. I am. You still going at it? I am. I'm on day 41. Good job. So, yeah. So, I got 34 more days. I'll be done really soon. A few more weeks. Yeah. So, yeah. I'm excited. That's really it, though. Like I said, I feel like when you be doing challenges and detoxes and stuff, your life just be pretty boring. Yeah. Like, because what are you doing?
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But that's an interesting... That wasn't even the topic, but... Yeah, I mean, because the way I look at it, too, is, like, sometimes a person will do something and it will go viral, but they've been hustling for a long time. Right, right. So, I feel like sometimes even with these people who will finally go viral, they've been doing that shit for a long time. Like, they...
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that uh influencer that had that classy very classy very demure yes they have been LeBron has been doing content for a really really long time so it's kind of like is that look like yeah it took him out of there or her out of there I don't know where they go by but like it took them out of there but they have been putting the work in and so it's like can you really call that look well not with that person particularly but like if you think of like a bad baby
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When she said, catch me outside, how about that? She was on Dr. Phil being a badass white girl. But what she did is she took that look and she turned it into an opportunity. So, you know, that's what I'm saying. It's the difference between that versus the hot tour girl. She had the opportunity to make it into something that she didn't because she didn't have the skill, to me, personally.
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You know what I'm saying? I mean, that's why I don't... I don't know who that is. Yeah, exactly. That's what I'm saying, like... That's for these... These people know who she is if they watching. Yeah. You know I like to get into this news sometimes. Because sometimes I feel like, yeah, if no... If it was a big moment like that, everybody should know about it. Well, this is the thing, though.
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So, what's crazy about it is... that be the difference between, like, mainstream media? Because it was very mainstream. But the things that get mainstream is this. Like, they gonna talk about it all. Like I said, I'm not kidding. It was everywhere. And when was this? Was this, like, recently? Yeah, it was, like, what, last year? Maybe the year before last? And then she, like, started a podcast.
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She signed with Barstool. It was, like, a whole big thing. What happened to her podcast? Um, I think she just stopped it because something happened where she started not a Bitcoin. She got into something with Bitcoin and told everybody to invest and then she ended up pulling out. So it was like a whole bunch of legal stuff she's going through right now.
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But she's like in hiatus right now, basically. So... Either way it goes, like I said, but a lot of that blessing and opportunity and luck stuff that we go into, that's another topic that we talked about before. It's different for this than it is for this, too, at the same time. You know what I'm saying? That's fair. That's definitely a fair argument because, I mean... It is what it is.
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We just have to work a little harder for things that they don't have to work as hard for. Right, right, right. But I do think lucky girl syndrome is a thing. I think some people really just are lucky. I don't know, because I just... You know how I be feeling about this topic. I just always kind of feel like... Sometimes it just really be about what you do, though.
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Like, what you do with your life and the type of person that you are. Because I don't necessarily think that I believe that anybody just gets anything because they're lucky. Well, that's what I'm saying. That's the difference for me. I think if somebody has blessings in their life, that's because they're putting good in the world and they're getting good back. Luck can happen to anybody.
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Blessings happen to the good people. That's the difference for me. That's what I was saying. Yeah. So I do think lucky girl syndrome is a thing because luck can happen to anybody. I feel like blessings only happen to the blessed.
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Right. So I guess that's what I'm saying. Like I said, I don't feel I'm lucky at all. Not because I'm a bad person. Just because luck don't be on my side for some reason. But blessings? Oh, baby. God gonna show up for me every time when it comes to the blessings now. Okay, Ty. All right, Ty, what are we drinking today? What are we drinking?
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Like, I don't really go out to eat because I'm eating really clean. So, I can't really go. And if I'm just going to eat salmon and broccoli everywhere I go. Yeah. That's what I'm saying. I could just cook that at home and eat at home. So I don't really go out to eat. I'm not drinking. So I haven't really went to like any social events or anything recently.
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I'm almost done. Oh, good. I'm glad y'all like it. So since we're like into the spring, spring has sprung, we're talking about blessings and luck and opportunity. This one is going to be called Everything's Coming Up Roses, okay? And so what we have in it, we have some grapefruit, we have some lemon, some lime, some lavender syrup, and then I have some hibiscus syrup floated at the bottom.
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And then we garnish it with three dehydrated rosebuds. Ooh. So very floral, very light, very spring. And this is Everything's Coming Up Roses. Cheers. I love that. Rosebud, that used to be the cheat code for Sims to get a lot of money. It did. Because I used to play Sims. I love Sims. Girl, I used to play it all the time on my little desktop computer.
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That, and I used to be burning CDs online more. Ooh, I wish I still had them CDs. I'm sure somewhere at my mama house, I could probably find mine. Because my mama keeps everything. So I'm sure they in some box, some will. We are in the beginning of the year and I know we all have our financial goals. So we're going to tell you how to stay on track and reach all those goals with Rocket Money.
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I wish I would've had something like that. A time capsule. My best friend Jasmine is like that. She's
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has like photo albums like 10 photo albums full of like pictures of us from high school from college like literally and like i'm talking about y'all like books and books and books she still be wearing her high school t-shirts period when she go to sleep and stuff like when i'll get on facetime with her she be having on our 2005 homecoming i mean not 2005 2006 homecoming t-shirt and Thank you.
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I did see this list though for the month of March. like of all the things that's kind of going on in Atlanta. And it was a few things on there that I was like, oh, maybe I'll go do that. So I could like vlog it.
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Yeah, see, and I would go to that, but it's like I can't eat the tacos or drink the tequila. You can have a chicken taco. I don't eat chicken. You can have a salmon taco. Salmon tacos don't do it for me. You can have a fish taco. You like fish tacos? You like fish tacos. We be ordering fish tacos. I don't really like them, though. Like, I'll order it if that's all that's on the menu.
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And I go to, like, a Mexican restaurant. But I prefer... steak or chicken or something like that. So, you know, maybe once I'm back eating steak, we can hit it up. Well, I'm going to hit it up for you. I'll get some footage for you. Yeah, get some footage. You know what I'm saying?
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I'm there in spirit. Because I'm finna go. I have been seeing that, like, little events pop up on, like, my timeline. I just have a feeling it's going to be a really great summer.
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I have gotten my holiday weight off of me. I'm just feeling good. I'm back outside. And yeah, I'm just looking really forward to the summer and everything we have coming up. And I don't know. I just have a good... My spirit is high again.
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Yes, that used to be me. And what they used to be doing? They was like, yeah, girl, I'm in that thing. I'm beating it up. And I used to be, I would be like, you actually not... You actually not be nothing up. That's what I'm saying.
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I feel like she did a really good job in Enough. She was whooping that boy ass. She did a really good job. Like, that was a very serious role and I feel like she killed it. Like, J-Lo can really act to me. I feel like, and I don't feel like she can't sing. Like, I hate when people... She can catch a note. Yeah, like, I hate when people say she can't sing.
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I feel like, yeah, she can hold a little note, but it's a lot of people who just can hold a note. But I feel like that's where a lot of other things go into it as far as just having the it factor. Because I feel like even with her, they was probably like, okay, like, she can't just sing. But she can hold a note. She beautiful. She can dance.
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She had so many other factors that it's like, okay, this is a star. What do y'all think the it factor is? Because nobody has ever defined it. What do y'all think it is? Because I don't think it can be defined. I think it's about your aura, though. Like, people say, like, if I come in a room, hey, you just, like, you change the energy of the room or whatever.
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I think it has a lot to do with that and combining that with your skill, with, like, your motivation and stuff like that. I think it's around that.
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I don't know what it is about them fall and winter months, but I be struggling so bad, and then I'm kind of like, I'm starting to get out of my little funk, you know what I'm saying? Because, you know, when that sun's out, bun's out. I love the sun. I mean, I don't know. Like, I always say, maybe it's just because I was born in the spring, so, like, I be waiting for daylight savings time.
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I mean, some people, like, you just view them and you're like, wow.
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Like, you're just mesmerized by their presence. Like, some people, you know, just have that. And I see that a lot when I see people perform. And I'm just not an easily impressed person. But it be some people I look at, I'm like, oh, yeah, she got it. Like, and I don't know what it is. I can never explain it. I can never explain it. I don't know. But y'all have it. Like, I would say y'all have it.
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Like, when I first met y'all, I was like, oh, okay. You see the vision. It's the energy. Yeah, yeah. I just think, you know what I always say? Because I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but sometimes I just always feel like it just goes back into life just not being fair. Mm-hmm. I think that'd be like a tough reality that a lot of people don't want to accept.
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And that's why you can't really put a finger on what it is sometimes with some people. Because it's just kind of like it was meant to be that way. Like it was ordained. It was orchestrated that way. That's why it happened that way. Versus... I don't know. Some people, it just don't... Never happened for them.
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And I feel like no matter how hard they try, how much work they put in, it just don't happen. And it just be... You know, unfortunate and sad because life just isn't fair. But I do feel like real talent always finds its way. I'm not trying to be funny. No, because let me tell you why. Real talent finds its way. This is why I say this.
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Y'all know I always talk about, bitch, I thought I was finna be the biggest rapper, singer out. I used to go to the studio. Mm-hmm. I used to really be in the studio. Like, we laughing because it's funny now. But I really thought I was finna be baby Beyonce. You couldn't tell me. I was like, this is what I'm supposed to do. And that was not my... But I'm talented in other avenues.
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So I knew I was going to be on stage. I don't know what I was going to be on stage doing. You're not doing what? I just didn't know what doing what. You know what I'm saying? So I feel like real talent, if you're talented and whatever that may be, singing, dancing, writing, producing, you gonna find your way to where you need to be.
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So even though I wasn't on stage, I'm telling y'all, when I was little, me and my friend Jasmine, shout out to Jasmine. I don't want to say her last name because y'all be looking up people on Facebook and stuff. So me and Jazzy literally, we used to sit in her living room, me and her and Lindsey. And they used to play like they were E! News reporters. And they used to interview me, literally.
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Every time we would play this game, I would always be the star. So since I was little, I always would see myself on stage, but I didn't know what I was doing. Every time we would play this game, I would be like, oh, thank you so much. Like, I would always be thanking them for my work. I'm like, what am I doing, though? But I'm saying I always saw myself on stage.
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I didn't know necessarily it was gonna be a podcast. Yeah. But I ended up on stage. So that's why I feel like when you're really talented and it's ordained for you to share who you are with the world. Like, one thing I take pride in is that we make people feel good. Mm. Y'all can say what y'all want about our topics and what we talk about and what we do, but we make people feel good.
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And we needed to spread that to the world and give it to the world. So if your talent is supposed to be seen by the world, God's going to make sure of that. That's why I say real talent always going to find its way. That's fair.
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You feel me? I feel you. Okay, just making sure you feel me. You didn't look like you was feeling me.
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You know, I do have... Feel me out now. Feel me out. Feel me out now. I do have a different perspective, but I do. I feel like that's fair. That's fair.
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Okay. Okay. All right, let us know what y'all think. Do y'all feel like clout is more important than talent?
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Same, same. Like, I cannot wait for daylight savings time when it hit, and it done hit already, so we outside. Yeah, we outside for sure. It's going to be a fun, summer. Yeah, I'm excited. And I'm going to be done with my detox. Ooh, that's the first sip you have? I'm only drinking, but I'm not drinking shots and stuff no more. Like, I can't do it.
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What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And y'all know all the time we are going to tell y'all about BetterHelp.com. We are getting in that area where everybody had their New Year's resolutions, but they're kind of falling off right now. And I know one for me was to stay in therapy and be consistent. So if you are thinking about therapy or you're in therapy right now,
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Stay on track. Yes, y'all. Consistency is so important. And with BetterHelp, they make it super easy because it's very convenient. You could do it while you're at home or while you're on the go. So it's no excuses. And on top of that, it's really affordable. And they have so many different therapies that you could choose from.
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Yeah, so all you're going to do is go to betterhelp.com backslash poorminds. That's betterhelp.com backslash poorminds to get 10% off of your first month. Build your support system with BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com slash poorminds today to get 10% off of your first month. That's betterhelp.com slash poorminds. Okay. The only reason I want to bring this up...
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It's because I got that lick in me, first of all. And I'm going to take this moment because, you know what, we're going to start the time right now. Because this motherfucker is a low, down, dirty, greasy, thick-ass bitch that nobody gives a fuck about. And we are tired. And we are tired of logging on to X and seeing the shit that you have to say.
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And he said something about Slim Thug. He said, Slim Thug, the realest nigga I know or something like that. I know you watch Poor Minds with your thick ass. I know you did. He probably not going to see these stories. He not. He not. But you never know what he going to do. Because he got mad because I sat on the couch and said, you know, you lost to Kim Kardashian. You're not getting that again.
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I said what I said. Talking about Slim Thug. Slim is a real nigga. I don't fuck with Slim. But I... So now it's time to get into the... Bow. Bow.
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Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. I cannot wait to talk to you about something when we end this. Girl, it's just some tea I forgot to tell you. But it just came to mind when we was talking.
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Okay. Okay, so. I can't wait. I'm excited. Okay, so the bad topic for today is the wildest excuse you've used to get out of bad sex.
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Now, have you ever been like mid-stroke and you was thinking like, how the hell do I get out of here?
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I'm trying to be fine forever. I want to be like 50, 60 and fine as fuck. So, I just feel like, you know, a little shot... For a celebration. It's cool. But you're going to stick to the champagne and wine. But I'm really going to try to, like, just stick to champagne and wine. I'm going to be a champagne wine girl.
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Sorry, ma. Damn, ma. So, you know what? For me, I've never made, like, an excuse to, like, get out of sex. But back in the day, I haven't done this in a very long time, but that's when I used to fake. So he would hurry up and nut. Like, I used to pretend like it was just feeling so good. I'd be like, oh, my gosh, I'm about to cum.
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Just so it would make him hurry up so it would end quicker. Like, so I've never actually made an excuse. But I feel like a lot of women do that. That goes into, like, the faking orgasms and faking conversations. I feel like people be faking so it can end. And see, that's the thing. Like, nah, I'm not doing that.
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Yeah, I'm not doing that now, but in my younger years, in my early 20s... Even when I was younger, no. If it's bad, we not having sex no more. I'm not about to be faking. Like, you need to figure this shit out. Or you need to go fuck with somebody else. I'm not about to be laying in bed faking with you the whole time, over and over.
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It's like, if you went through it one time, then that's understandable. But it's like, if you keep having bad sex with somebody and faking, that's a choice. Yeah.
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Now, I will say I've never done it to where I keep doing it over and over again. But I can definitely remember times I had sex with somebody and I was faking it just so it would end. Why you ain't just tell them to move? Because I didn't want to do it no more and I'm not going to talk to you no more. That's even better. That's why it's like, move, get off me. Um, I'm not a vibe killer now.
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The vibe already killed if his dick bad. Right, you right, you right. I mean, like I said. The vibe was never there. That goes into me just being young. Like, to being young. I'm not a vibe killer. He's the vibe killer. He was, he was. But it was me going into like, you know, back... I always talk about this.
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Y'all, when we used to grow up, it would be magazines, Cosmopolitan magazine, how to make him cum, how to make him orgasm, how to be sexy in the bedroom. So growing up and viewing sex, I always looked at it like it's about the man and it's for the man. I never viewed sex as it's for me as well.
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So every time I was in the bedroom in my younger years, this is why I always say young people don't need to be having sex. Because y'all not teaching things that need to be taught. You don't properly understand what we doing. And what we're doing. What it really is. So, yeah, absolutely. In my younger years, I used to feel like I have to perform.
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I was thinking like Missy Elliott, pussy don't fail me now. I'm trying to turn this nigga out. So he don't want nobody else but me and only me. That's beautiful. No, it's not. That is. No, it's not, because we should not have that mindset. I know, I agree, but I'm saying that's good, kinda, that you wanted to be a pleaser like that. I have personally always been a pillow princess.
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So, before we get into the topics, it was crazy because we had somebody tweet about us that we want on the show. We're going to get him on the show. Ray Monse tweeted. He said, Poor Mines is the best podcast out and it's not up for debate. He did say that, and he know what the fuck going on. Shout out to Ray Montez. Yes! I love Ray Montez. I always say that. But yeah, like, duh.
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I have always been a pillow princess. As I've gotten older, now I be, like, performing. Because I feel like if you in a relationship with your man, you should want to show out for your man. Like, you should want to go above and beyond for him. When I was younger... In my relationships, it was like, no, what you going to do for Big Mama for real? Exactly.
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No, I was never like, no, I'm like that now. I love to later. I'm like that now.
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With my hands behind my head, just like that. I'm like that now, but in my younger years, I was just like doing too much. Why?
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Because like I said. What did you used to be doing for reference? You know when you face down, ass up, and you just doing too much, throwing that ass back.
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I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm about to not. Knowing I'm not, I don't feel nothing. I'm not. Oh.
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Yes, that used to be me. And what they used to be doing. They was like, yeah, girl, I'm in that thing. I'm beating it up. And I used to be, I would be like, you actually not. You actually not be nothing of it. That's what I'm saying. I was a performer.
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A sexian. And that's what I'm saying. I used to just make excuses and, like... Was it because you wanted them to go around and, like, go tell people, like, ooh, looks good in bed? Yeah. But go brag about that thing. I am weak as...
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Go brag about it. Let me show you what that thing do. But now I don't care about that. Because if you go around saying my coochie bad, it's because you didn't give me what I needed.
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Yeah, it's because you didn't do what you needed to do to get me there. In my younger years, I used to be going above and beyond my means. But you know, I was a waitress at TGI Friday. What does that mean? Let me tell you. You got to give good service. Okay. They take two sips of their strawberry lemonade, I'm back with a refeed. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Okay.
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Instead of going take the ones away and just giving you four more, I'm giving you a whole new batch. You know what I'm saying? That's great, though. But I feel like that speaks volumes about, you know, you as a person. Because it's just so funny to me when you tell me this stuff. Because I just think about how we were in the same settings and how I was just so different. When I used to waitress...
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I used to be checking on people every 30 minutes. Oh! Drea! Facts. Because I hated that job. I had one real waitressing job, like, working at, like, a restaurant and bar where I used to actually have to serve food. You know, Fox and Hound. Yes, I remember when you worked there. Me and my best friend Jasmine, we had just got, like, some little temp jobs in the summer.
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Like, temporary little jobs working as waitresses at this popping sports bar in Houston. Yeah. And I just hated it so fucking much. So, yes, I used to be in the back eating fries. Just bad. On my phone. Just bad. Didn't come check on people every 30 minutes. And I feel like, you know, it was the same thing in bed. I was not trying to be... I was not trying to go above and beyond.
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I was not trying to go above and beyond because even... Not to be funny, but even when I was younger, I will say these, like... I felt like when I was younger, I was like, I just know my coochie good. I could just lay here. Like, I don't have to do nothing because I know it's good. And I'm not going to do the most unless you make me feel like I got to do the most. Right, right. I feel like...
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And then, like I said, I would make excuses, but I would... Now, one thing I was good at in my younger years, I would cut them off. Yeah.
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I wasn't like, oh, let me go back and let me try to... No, we not... I'm going to get out of it. I'm going to do the most and I'm going to perform because I know I did my part. And then I'm not going to... I'm not going to lie.
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But you know what? I do kind of regret that because I feel like there is men still to this day That be talking to people and be like, oh, yeah, I used to talk to her. I was 19. I'm 46. I'm weak because I know somebody that you're talking about. It's one person that came to mind when you said it. Because we always talk about him.
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One person that be still telling people that he used to fuck with you. I don't know who it is, but maybe they burning hell.
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You know what I think it is, though? Because I'm not going to lie. We've been on a lot of people's podcasts, and... I'm going to tell y'all, this energy is just different. It is. It's really real conversation. And it's just like, I don't know, I always say conversation is a skill. And a lot of people don't have that skill. Like, just like playing football is a skill.
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And he won't stop. Yeah. Bro, especially when them clips went viral recently. Oh, for real? Yes. How do you know? Because they told me. Somebody said something. That he said he used to fuck with you? Yes. And it was around a girl that he didn't even know that I knew. Yeah. And he was like, oh, that's my old bitch. Who? You. No! The disgust. Oh, my God. No, it really be disgusting, though.
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Seriously. When you really see, like, and think about some of the people that you used to date. Like, people that... Dudes that I dated when I was like 18 and 20 and 23, I'd just be like, oh my God, I am repulsed.
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And that's why we always tell the younger girls that are like listening, that are going through a breakup, I promise you, if you're watching this show and you're between the ages of 18 to 28, your type is going to change. By the time you hit 31, 32, 33... Your type is going to change. That heartbreak, you are literally going to laugh at.
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You gonna look back at them niggas and be like, y'all are some losers. Ugh. Why was I there? I wasn't even thinking about him. And don't get me wrong, not everyone. Because I have some guys that I used to date. They cool and they doing great things. But like, some of them, I just be like, what the fuck was I thinking? And what the fuck was I doing?
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That one you just said, I wasn't even thinking about him. That's who I always think about because I know he be still doing that shit. He lame. He lame as hell. All right, let's move on. He be acting like a YN. He look like one, too. I don't know about that. No, YNs be skinny and tatty. I was about to mean he still look young. I was about to say, mm-mm. I didn't say all that now.
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Life whooping his ass. Beating his ass. That's how I know I'm blessed. God don't blame everybody who did me wrong. What Slim said. Color purple curse. I feel like that's why I still look good, too. Everybody who did me wrong, I sucked up all that energy. Sucked it up. Sucked that youth out. And that's why I say, oh, I love being a good woman.
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I love being a good woman and the woman who can walk away. It's always going to be me. Moving on.
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Okay, item of the week. Muse the beauty. Of course. I'm sorry, y'all. I was trying to sip my little drinky drink. It ain't nothing, y'all. I know. You would think it's liquor. I think it's like a placebo effect. Well, this is the thing for me. I feel like all I do is drink water. Like, with me doing my challenge, all I drink every single day is water.
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I'll do a protein smoothie, but I really only... That's like a meal, though. Yeah, like, I'll do a protein smoothie, but outside of the smoothie, all I drink is water. So, I think when I come here and then Ty be making me these drinks, you know, it just be delightful for my palate. It got a little something else in it, too. A little alternative.
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And it does have the CBD or THC little liquid in there. So, yeah. I think I be trying to convince myself. I think so. I think so, too. You right. Placebo effect. Yeah, I think so. But it's all right. It's all right. But, yeah, so, of course, MuseBeautyCollection.com. Make sure you get your lip glosses, lip liners, matte liquid lipsticks, jelly blushes.
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I also have on the mascara and eyeliner that's going to be dropping really, really soon. And, yeah, make sure y'all shop MuseBeautyCollection.com. My lip combo today is the Glaze lip gloss and the Chestnut lip liner. Let's see. Oh, okay. It looks good. I didn't do nothing too great. Yeah, I have on chestnut, lust, and glaze. That's my go-to. That's my go-to, period.
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And as y'all know, if y'all are getting boho braids, it's summertime. Go to richlookhair.com. Y'all get the luxe curl. Mm-hmm. Y'all, a lot of y'all had DM'd me asking me about my braids that I recently had. I'm telling y'all, that is the best. hair to use. Because you know what I see a lot? What? I see the girls talking about they get boho braids and they don't last. And I'm like, how?
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We really, we really Shaq and Kobe in this motherfucker. Fake. You know what I'm saying? I agree. I'm not lying to you. I just, you know. It's giving. What was the other one? MJ and Scottie? That's a good one? They used to play together? That was before my time. But it don't matter, though. We legends. I can't remember your time. It was. It was.
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It's because y'all not using good hair. Proper hair. You have to use proper hair for the boho braids because you wash them like regular bundles. I agree. So go to Rich Look. If you're getting boho braids, go to richlookhair.com. Get the Luxe Curl. Or if you want just some bundles, a little glueless unit made. That's what I have on right now. Hit her up. That's my girl Dee Dee. Period.
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What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Drea Nicole. And as y'all know, summer is around the corner, so I know y'all are trying to get y'all's weight loss goals met. And we're going to tell y'all about 4HERS.com and how they can help you. Yes, y'all.
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What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here. Period.
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If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to itemoftheweekpm at gmail.com. That's I-T-E-M-O-F-T-H-E-W-E-E-K-P-M at gmail.com. Send us an email and we'll work it out. We're going to figure it out.
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Get your product, get your business sponsored, and, yeah, make you some money.
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And a black business at that. But, I mean, it can be anybody. We don't discriminate.
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Any business is welcome. So now it's time to get into the bow. Hey.
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Oh. A bow. Bow. Bow. Todd, please. Todd, over there. What was that dance called? The shoulder? Uh-uh. What is this one? Lean with it. Oh, yeah, the lean with it, rock with it. That's what Ty was over there doing. And my white teeth. Oh, she do got a white teeth, y'all. She done took it way back. Way back. So my bop of the week is Lucky, but I'm just playing.
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My bop of the week this week, I'm not going to lie. I was very skeptical about this artist when she first came out because I was like, hmm. Now, I'm still a little skeptical because I'm like, is she kind of like biting off a scissor and biting off of the, you know, the community?
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She dropped another song and it's actually fire. So, Sailor. Do y'all remember she had that song? I hope you're happy. Got you a mini me. Bet you meet your mama.
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But what I'm saying is, when it all is said and done. I mean, I was a kid. You was a tiny tot. Yeah. You were a tiny tot. But what I'm saying, when it's all said and done, they gonna remember our name. Mm-hmm. Because we deserve it. Oh. Okay. Okay, my bad, my bad. Ty felt it. You and these lines. Right here, okay? Ty was into it. Ty, what you been up to? You deserve it all, sheep.
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It is so good. The jury is still out on her. Like I said, I want to see if she's in it to win it because a lot of times we see these artists, they come out, they sound like another artist and they don't last too long. But I will say, for me, this is really the second song by her that I've jammed and I've listened to. She's two for two with me.
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So, Cut Up by Sailor. That's my bop. Go ahead, Lil Dre. My bop this week is Push To Start by Tyla. Push To Start. By Tyla. So, I've already really, really liked that song ever since it came out. But she just came out with a remix featuring Sean Paul. Sean Da Paul. And shout out to Sean Paul. Except it's Sean Paul and Tyler, this song. Sean Paul and Tyler. So, that is my vibe.
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I love that song, y'all. Y'all should check it out if y'all haven't heard it. I feel like Tyler has done a really good job of staying relevant. She is a star. She is. I agree. I think she just needs a little work. Maybe saying she the next Rihanna. Hold your horses. That is what they be saying. They do be saying that, but too early. Hold your horses.
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It's too early, but I do think she's very talented, and I do think she's a star, too. Now, you know they used to do that with Ariana Grande and Mariah Carey. You know what I'm saying? I ain't mad at that comparison, though. Mm-hmm. But I will say, Tyla is a star. I think she needs to work a little bit on her public speaking, because sometimes she...
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I think she gets nervous in situations when people ask her something crazy. I mean, she's still really young, though. She doesn't know how to respond. Like, Megan, there was a recent incident where the lady on the Oscar carpet was like, I listen to Megan Thee Stallion's music and it makes me want to fight. What song of Megan's makes you want to fight?
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You know they always look at black women like we just going around punching people in the face. So everybody has been on her ass about it, but Megan just carried it with such grace. She was like, no, girl, body-ody-ody. It makes you feel cute. It makes you feel beautiful. Now, if she would have said Mona Leo, Mona Leo make you smack a bitch. She do.
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Now, if it would have been Mona Leo, I would have... Yeah, if it would have been Mona Leo, I would have said, you know what? Yeah, Mona Leo music do make you want to fight a little bit. But Megan, Megan is not a fighter. Make you want to dance, turn up. Yeah, get cute. You a baddie, I got good coochie music. So I think Megan is good at handling awkward situations on the carpet.
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So I want Tyler to get there. But Tyler is a star. Body T. She can wear high fashion. Cute girl. Very pretty. She can sing. Yeah, she has all the factors. So that's a good bop. I agree. It is.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
The thing that I put on the list, y'all, is Never Settles. And if you're an avid listener of Poor Minds, then you probably have heard me say this numerous times. Like I say this all the time. I've always felt this way. Don't ever settle for anything in life.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
If it's not exactly what you want, don't let people tell you that you cannot get what you want out of this life because it's absolutely possible. I had so many people when I was in my 20s telling me that the things that I wanted was unrealistic.
Pour Minds Podcast
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unreasonable and if I had listened to those people I wouldn't be where I am today it's not for anybody else to understand that as long as you know what it is and you're willing to put the work in to get the things that you want you don't have to settle and don't let people convince you that you have to settle it's usually people that are settling in their own life that try to you know make other people feel like oh you can't do this or you can't make that happen you're thinking too far outside the box how you gonna do that
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Uh, no boo. You can't do that. I can do whatever I want to do, okay? And I will. So yeah, don't ever... Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera. Entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I'm on that same tip, though. I deserve it all and more. Don't play me, okay? That's the mission. That's the motive. I love it. Got on my Dodgers blue. I love you. What's up? Yes. I love your head. It's so cute. Right. Hit up our girl. You know what I'm saying? We flourishing this year. It's going to be a good year. Like, we definitely have a lot of exciting things coming up.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with Love Lex P. Mmm, tasty. Girl, anyways. Okay. Now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show. Y'all know if y'all have any questions, any testimonials, send them to askpoorminds at gmail.com. That's A-S-K-P-O-U-R-M-I-N-D-S at gmail.com. Okay. I got question number two. Oh, I got to start. Sorry. All right.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I dated this guy I met at work for four months. He understood me and loved things about me that I never imagined a guy would be so attentive to. I admired him a lot, too. From the beginning, he was honest that he was a few months out of a long relationship with his kid's mother and that he wasn't in a place to date seriously, but he really liked me. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Was it because you wanted them to go around and, like, go tell people, like, ooh, it's good and big? Yeah. But go brag about that thing. I am weak as fuck.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
We can't talk casually without wanting more. We had a special connection and I never felt like this before. And that dick was so fire. How can I move on? I feel heartbroken even though it was a short amount of time. I feel like that should make it even easier to move on because it was a short amount of time. And then she said he don't speak to her when she see him. Girl, move on.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Because I feel like the least somebody can do is speak to you. I agree. Like, if he don't speak and he just act like you don't exist, I feel like he doesn't care. Like, the feelings for you are still there, but the feelings for him are not there. And that will be enough for me to just be like, good readings, I'm done with you because you not worried about me.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I think sometimes you have to force yourself to move on when you realize that somebody is not worried about you. They're not worried about you. Because also, I will say this. Men will say, men are hot and cold, right? So they'll be like, oh, I love you. You mean so much to me. We have feelings. And then they'll be like, hey, I don't want to hurt you. I'm not the man for you. We need to separate.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
But guess what? Don't listen to nothing they say. Listen to their actions. Are his actions matching that he loves you and that he feels you and that he wants to be with you? Or are his actions matching that he don't want to be with you? He's not ready for a relationship. He told you what it was. And not only that, his actions are matching what's on this side. Mm-hmm.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
So pay attention to the action. Do not listen to words when it comes to men. I'm telling you that. And this is me being honest. Do not listen to words because a man will drag you through the dirt and then he'll come back and be like, oh, no, I love you. I love you. I care about you. I care about you. Then two days later, he act in the ass. Show me. I need to see it.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I'm not listening. I don't care because words sound so good. Look at William Shakespeare, what he did. To be or not to be. And, well, if we're being completely honest, I don't even think that applies in this situation because it ain't no words. He not saying nothing to you. He not even saying hi. And that's what's even worse. That's what I'm saying.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
The actions match, but I was saying the words because of what he told her prior. Oh, our feelings are progressing too much. I can't do this. I can't... Listen to that. And pay attention to the... But the thing is, his actions is following that. So it's not like he giving you mixed signals. Like, he said he feel like he's progressing too quickly and now he acting like you don't exist.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I feel like we say that every episode. They probably like, bitch, spit it out. What the fuck is it? Y'all say this shit every goddamn episode. But the great thing is, every episode y'all getting closer and closer to us telling y'all what it is. Look, that's why I say positive. That's the gag. We getting closer and closer. Yes. Okay. Closer to my dream. Oh, my fucking God, bro.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I think that you should just move on. It would be different if he said that, and then when he see you, y'all are still gazing into the eyes, or he's giving you any type of hope that, you know, it could be something. But he not giving you no hope. He giving you nothing. And I always say, do a 30-day detox. 30 days, don't look at his social media. Don't look at his stories. Don't call him.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Don't text him. Completely do no contact for 30 days. You will literally not know they exist anymore. Seriously. So do a full detox, child. All right, Drea. Question number two. Okay. Question number two. Hey, Drea and Lex. I love y'all so much and hope y'all see this. I'm 21 and I've been with my boyfriend for six years. We're high school sweethearts and he's my first for everything.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Over the years, I've naturally gained some weight since high school, but he constantly brings it up in a negative way during arguments. He makes comments that make me feel insecure and it hurts because I've never made him feel bad about his appearance. Lately, he's been mean, starts fights out of nowhere, and acts like he doesn't care about my feelings.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I do everything for him, but he never acknowledges it. I don't nag or hold things in, I communicate, but he still makes me feel unappreciated. I know he's not cheating, I've checked, but sometimes I wonder if he wants to step out and see what's out there. He wasn't always like this, but after high school, he changed. Honestly, I'm tired of feeling disrespected and unvalued.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
God don't bless no man. I feel like you should leave. You should leave. You're too young. You're 21. You're too young.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
And one thing about it, I feel like, like I always say, I am a strong believer in the let them theory. You got to let people do them. So sometimes you have to walk away from a situation and you'll see what a person really wants.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
If you walk away from a person, man or woman, and they fight for you, they're doing the effort, they're changing, they're really showing up for you, that's a person that really wants to be with you. But if you walk away from somebody and they just, they're okay with it, they're okay with your absence, that ain't the person for you.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I truly believe that one day all the good men and all the good women will find each other and just be together. You know how old the earth is? Come on now. I don't know if this is going to happen. Come on now. We got to keep it positive. We've been here for a while and it hasn't happened yet. But I will say this. It's okay to walk away from things that no longer serve you.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
And if you're... Sometimes we have to ask ourselves, like, what am I walking away from? You're walking away from somebody who makes you feel unattractive, who makes you feel unloved. Walk away. Because you know what? I was in a relationship before a while, a long time ago, and I was gaining weight, and we started going to the gym together. That's what a real man going to do.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Hey, babe, let's go work out together. You know, we both gain a little weight. I always say it's not about what you say, it's how you say it. So I think that this is a young man who probably does want to be outside because if y'all are probably the same age, because you said six years, y'all were high school sweethearts. So y'all are the same age. Girl, that man got to grow. And so do you.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Yeah, sis, I feel like you should just let it go. Y'all are young. You're going to find somebody else. And I feel like that's unhealthy. Like, no matter what age, yeah, y'all are young. But I feel like if he always picking at you and saying negative stuff about your appearance, that's not something that I see changing.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
You know, I feel like it's just going to get worse and progress as y'all get older. Because that's not the way to motivate somebody to want to lose weight. If he wants you to lose weight or if he feel like, oh, you done put on a few pounds, like Lick said, maybe y'all should go to the gym together. Maybe he should offer to go on walks and stuff with you.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Because, like I said... Like, what did you used to be doing? For reference.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Maybe he should offer for y'all to meal prep together and eat healthier and y'all be accountability partners if that's something that he's good at and you're not. I feel like picking at somebody and talking shit about their appearance is not the way to motivate them to do anything. And if he doing it now at 21, he going to keep Thank you. Thank you. I don't know. Okay. Okay. Thank you.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
That's literally top five worst songs ever created. Closer to my dream. Getting higher. Like, girl, give me a fucking break. Oh, my gosh. I told you somebody on Twitter called me a demon because I said I didn't like that song. Okay. They were like, you are a fucking demon. Who doesn't like that song? I don't like it either, but can I make a confession? Why? There's a song... I said, why?
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Thank you. We'll be right back. Thank you. I don't know. Thank you. Thank you.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I have a song that I don't like, and I thought it was a safe space to say it, so I don't even know why I'm admitting this right now. I hate this song. When they play it in the club at the end of the night, I get pissed.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
What? I wanna dance. I love that song. Oh, my God. Now, you wildin' with that. I hate... That's a classic. I hate it. Yeah, baby, yeah. That is such a good, that is such a good song. You know what, just for that, we singing it for karaoke. No! Please don't make me. Just for that, we singing it for karaoke. Bro, I hate, and I love him. I love him down. What's his name, Raphael?
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Yes, and we saw him in concert. Let me tell you. We did? Yes, in New Orleans for Essence. Where the fuck do I... It's like I be there, but where do I be? Here, but I'm not here. I'm there, but I'm not there. Because I do not... Or maybe I was just drunk. We was drunk. We was drunk. Remember when... Shay was drunk, too. Shay cried. Shay say she ain't drank nothing since New Orleans.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
He did try to shake it off. Shout out to Thad. I said Thad! We was in trouble. We was, but we need that. We do need that. Yeah, we missed the Janet Jackson concert. I know. We was drunk. Everybody just was over. New Orleans, you have to be drunk in New Orleans, though. Yes, Mardi Gras going on right now.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Mardi Gras going on. I missed the cookout because I had to do some work with my homegirl. I've been helping her with her project. So I couldn't go to the cookout, which I was really sad about. It'll be another one.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
The cookout will be fun, though. But I'm definitely going to go to the rodeo before the end. Yeah, I'm going to the rodeo for sure. I'm not missing it. Shout out to Houston, Texas. Shout out to Houston, H-Town. Okay, go ahead with the first topic, Lil Drea. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Jerri Nicole.
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The IT Factor
and it's your girl Dre Nicole and we have a very exciting announcement today we have a brand new show dropping yeah so we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon it's gonna air on September 2nd and it's called Porn Chronicles we're gonna be doing so much stuff on there we're gonna be doing challenges if you can't go to Bill and O'Shea where the hell could you go?
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The IT Factor
If you can't go to Bella Notte, where the hell can you go? We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
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The IT Factor
oh my god everything y'all been wanting to see we gonna be doing it right here on patreon yes y'all ask us for so much well we finna give it to y'all every single monday and it's gonna be a time y'all know poor minds has grown into its own little entity well we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at poor chronicles so make sure y'all tune in september 2nd it's going down thanks
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Y'all, it's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests. You know they in they seats, jumping up and down, because they love to hear that. I mean, and lately we've been having a lot of guests. We have. Don't blame them.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
So for the first topic, I really wanted to talk about lucky girl syndrome. You know, like, have you ever had something fall in your lap with no effort and you didn't really have to go hard to get it? I think some people think that, like, I think people probably could look at us and probably think we're just lucky. You know?
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
I mean, it might not be true, but, you know, everything is about perception. I think that's the perception that people can have. And I think in life, some people really feel like some people are just lucky and others feel like they're just unlucky. Like they were just dealt bad cards. Life isn't fair. So how do you feel about the concept of being lucky?
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
Because then you have people who don't even believe luck is a real thing. Like, you have people who believe that everything you get in life is a result of the work that you put in. So do you believe in luck? I do. Okay. I believe in luck. I believe sometimes a chance happening, things happen, right? I think sometimes, like, I'll use social media, for example, right?
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
A lot of times somebody will have a viral moment. like the hawk tour girl.
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The IT Factor
We'll use her, for example. You know what I'm talking about? Probably not. I know. I know. I know. Auntie gonna catch you up. Auntie gonna catch you up. So the Hawk Tua girl was a girl that had did a random interview.
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The IT Factor
You know how them YouTubers be on the street interviewing people? And she was like, he asked her some question, and she was, like, talking about giving head. And she was like, you know, when I do it, I just Hawk Tua, spit on that thing. And it went crazy, right? Okay. It went viral. It was literally, you could not scroll TikTok without seeing the Hawk Tua clip. Mm-hmm.
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The IT Factor
So, this girl had this viral moment and she started a podcast, got all these brand deals. I mean, she's at these festivals, hosting, doing interviews. You know what I'm saying? So, I think that luck is a real thing because who in that moment, like, you know, we do funny shit all the time. And some things go viral and sometimes they don't. But sometimes things just hit.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
So, I do think that is what luck is. Like, sometimes things just hit and it's funny. But I think luck is cool.
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
it's a difference between luck and really having longevity with it because how lucky are you if you have a moment that doesn't do nothing like it's cool to go viral and make a little money but I feel like anytime you see somebody that is in a successful position it's not luck it's maybe luck mixed with hard work and opportunity but those three mixed together that's when you get some real shit but luck can only go so far so luck is cool
Pour Minds Podcast
The IT Factor
You know, I might get lucky and hit the lottery and get $5 million. But what's luck if I don't know how to keep that $5 million? So luck is cool, but what you going to do with that luck? That's fair. I mean, I definitely feel like, I don't know... I feel like it's a mixture of both to me. It's definitely like what you said.
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And I feel like a lot of people don't really realize that. How do you feel about now all of a sudden? Because I see this all the time, so I know you see it. Everybody want to move to Houston now.
Pour Minds Podcast
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It's over. Everybody is so obsessed with Houston. We Atlanta. Yeah. But it's like they just now catching on. Like, Houston been lit.
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But do you feel like that was like a real, obviously a pivotal point in your career, like when you did move away from Houston? Because we always talk about that with our show. Like you said, it's not a lot of big labels. It's not a lot of like huge multimedia outlets and stuff out there.
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But we always kind of say, we feel like if we didn't move to Atlanta, we're not sure how big Four Minds would have became.
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We definitely got our own culture. That's right. Rolled and chopped. Yes. Right. Houston is just different.
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Let me ask you this. And keep it honest. Why are so many rappers broke? Like, no, seriously. Rappers be broke.
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The one and only Houston legend, CEO, big boss, the young Texas A-Rod, KG of the gang.
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I think that's the same thing in podcasting too, like owning your IP. Because it's the same thing. Like we own.
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And we always say we'll never sell our IP.
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All right. So we finna get into the good stuff. Yeah, we gon' get into the first copy. But first, Ty, what we drinking? Okay. Let's take my shot, because it's finna get... Since we got the big boss of the North in here, okay, I'm throwback. I'm over 30. Let's go. Let's go. This one is called the Sugar Daddy Slim, a.k.a. the Double Cup. We're going to stay double cupped up this episode, okay?
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Can I have one? Yeah, of course. All right, so we have some reposado tequila. We have some blue spirulina, if anyone's familiar with that. It's really good for your health. It's very nutritious, protein, all that. We have some lemon juice, a little bit of agave. And then I added some thyme in there, and I actually shook it up with some fresh dragon fruit.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So not really dragon fruit juice, but you see the seeds are floating in there, just to give it a pretty little color to it. And then we garnished it with some thyme and, of course, those seeds. So this is the Sugar Daddy Slim.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I want that, please. And it's good. I got you. It's delicious.
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For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with Love Lex Peep. Mmm, tasty. How long you been a sugar daddy?
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Like, are you really a sugar daddy or do you just call yourself? I think he really a sugar daddy.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I think you would make a good side nigga.
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You know what I'm saying? So do you see yourself ever getting married? Did you see yourself getting married?
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I mean, you know, this is a safe space. It is. You know what I'm saying? We like to have a good time. Let's have it. First off, I want to say thank you for pulling up on us.
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You know what I'm saying? You sound like Oprah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And I was wondering, so I was like, who you did that for?
Pour Minds Podcast
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And I be cooking too. We are so domestic.
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Well, Slim, if I turn... Do you date 40-year-olds? But I want to get married. Okay, so if I'm not married by the time I'm 40, we outside.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Of course. We've been wanting you on the show for a long time, so I'm so glad we was able to make it happen.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Thank you. We be in the gym. I feel like you ain't seen us 50 million times. You know he be forgetting, girl.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay, Slim. Look, I'm telling you right now, the girls are finna be in your DMs. They are. They said, would he take you on a trip?
Pour Minds Podcast
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We seen it, Slim. When y'all see me on the boat, don't ask no... I don't want to hear shit in my comments, babe. Stop playing. Alex, you such a... You so easy. Look, times is hard. So are you the type to have multiple girlfriends?
Pour Minds Podcast
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You seem like a pretty honest person. I feel like one thing about it, you can't ever be mad when somebody is being honest with you about their intentions or what they want or expect. That's to be the problem. They don't, y'all, men do not know how to keep it real. Yeah. And that's what be making me mad because you are lying to me when I already know the truth. I'm expecting magic.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah. So how has your trip in Atlanta been so far?
Pour Minds Podcast
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And that's actually our first topic. It is, because we definitely want to talk about that. Let's talk about it. Go ahead, go ahead, Dre. Well, I was just going to say, too, for me, it ain't even about putting men through obstacle courses. It's about intentionality. Like, I think, especially me being 33 now, I know what I want.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So, it's like, if I want to be married, if I want to be in a committed relationship, I should date men that I know want the same thing.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But it don't sometimes. What about the women who did that? They stayed down with the men who said, oh, I don't want to get married, and their mind never changed.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Like in a hope later down the line, oh, maybe if me and Slim together for five years, maybe he'll change his mind and maybe we will get married. I'm going to always take you at face value as somebody who said you don't want this.
Pour Minds Podcast
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That's fair. But then I feel like that's just waiting. You just waiting around.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I 100% agree with that because I have had some great times.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah, try the sugar daddy. Sip it down and sip it down real good. Legs about to get slammed. Let's go, Legs.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So first things first, anything worth having is going to be hard to get. First of all, let me say that. So I feel like, first of all, you are not a regular man. So of course, a woman, the average woman that you slide in her DM, she going to be on go for it.
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But guess what, Slim? I'm not the average woman. Right.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I'm not going after no regular... Okay, I say this all the time, and I'm not talking about you. I'm going to use Lamar Odom for an example, right? Lamar Odom, when he was on the top of his game, he got a Khloe fucking Kardashian, right? He got a Kardashian, okay? And...
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
When you get that and you fumble it and the way the road that he went down, you really not, he not finna get another Khloe Kardashian, right? Kanye, he's not finna get another Kim Kardashian. So sometimes the women that are easy for you is because they not on that level of the type of woman that you really need. Mm. So I'm not even talking about you.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Sometimes these men who have money and they feel like, oh, black women are so hard because you can't really pull the type of women that are on your level that you need to be pulling. A bitch like me, I'm not on go. You're going to have to show up. You're going to have to do X, Y, Z. You don't have to convince me. I'm in the top 1%. Yes, I am. I make a lot of money. I don't have no kids.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Okay. Okay, y'all know every time we have a Houston guest on. You got a story. I have a story. Especially when it's Houston.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I don't got no baggage. I'm outside. I'm hustling. I'm working. Absolutely, you got to do the most.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I have been waiting to have Slim on this story because I have told this story on Poor Minds a few times. Drea knows this story. Tell me. Okay, so when I first moved to Houston, I was a young warthog. You know, just out in the land of Houston trying to find who I was. So, like, I came from a small city. I'm from Orange, Texas.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
And I agree with that, but I feel like it's beyond the money. Obviously, we don't need each other to pay for nothing. I feel like once you reach a certain amount of money, we're not arguing about no 50-50, who paying the rent, who paying. The money is going to come.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
It's not even about that because, yes, I'm a woman who makes money, and my sister can testify for this, and I was still cooking for my, rubbing his feet, doing all that because when you love somebody, it's about the love. It ain't about the money. The money don't come. I made it in my mind, I'm having a nepo baby. Like, I know what I want. Like, I feel like, so it's beyond that.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
It's not about you paying for stuff. That's a given. Look at me. What do I look like paying for something? Right. So that's a given. It's not about, I'm going to still follow my man and be, you know, whatever he needs me to be. But at the same time, yes, I absolutely want a man who's going to jump through hoops for me. I want that. Because I do the same for a man that's working.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Yeah, because you know why they're throwing it at you? Because they're of low value. Any woman that's just throwing it at you because it's a slim thug, you really think that's a valuable woman?
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
That's why I move with this energy. I think you are delusional because black men are not as desirable. You have been rich since you were 18 years old. You don't even know what it's like to really not have money.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But I just feel like you have a skewed reality because you are so successful. You have maintained your money. You're a smart man. You have a skewed reality, Slim. You really do.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
You know, like, I... So, I was just, like, starry-eyed when I moved out there. So, I remember, like, the first time I met you. What was that club, Drea, on Sundays that everybody used to go to? Carrington's? Not Carrington's. It was, like, where the Africans used to be at.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Well, first and foremost, first and foremost, we need to give background on what we're even talking about because we didn't even say what the topic is. So we were trying to talk about Slim had a video that has went viral recently where he was basically saying that he feels like black women require too much of black men for them to date us, to get some from us.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
And these women of other races, it takes way less to get what they trying to get from them.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Because I'm just so slim. I am from Houston. I'm from Houston.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But I think a man have to move different when you got your shit together, too, as a woman.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But it ain't, but it's not even about you always paying for stuff because that's a given. Anybody I deal with is going to pay for stuff. Of course I'm not going to pay for anything. Right. That's a given, but I'm talking about, I just feel like a man needs to, if you are a woman who have your shit together, a man needs to go above and beyond.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Oh, Belvedere. Yeah. So the first time I ever met you, it was at Belvedere. And I remember you were, like, back in the section. Like, you remember you used to walk in, and the section was way in the back. And I remember my homegirl was like, girl, come. Slim got a section. We was finna go in his section. I said, Slim, who? She said, I said, Slim Thug. I said, oh, my God.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
No, we're not, because I think as a woman, you should be equally yoked with your man. I'm not saying that the woman should not go above and beyond as well. Right. But I think that men are naturally the ones who are the quarters. You're trying to talk to me. You're trying to holler at me.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Jay-Z went through obstacle courses. He was doing everything.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Okay, okay. I wouldn't have left that person. I would have stayed. But no, let me say this real quick. That's the problem. That is the fucking problem right there.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I feel like that's why I always say successful men, men in your category, y'all don't really be wanting to be with boss women or women who like... Y'all want the girl that don't got nothing going on because she can be at your beck and call and do whatever you need her to do. But just like you be hustling, I'm hustling too. That doesn't mean I can't still serve my man, but I'm hustling too.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But that's what I'm saying, because you keep talking about simple shit. Like, we can hire a maid to do that. We can hire a chef for that. We talking about intellectual. Hell, I can pay the maid. We talking about intellectual deep conversation. And I'm going to use you for an example.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Because you dated... You had a LaToya Luckett.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
It's not. You can get that from a woman of value. You just have to put the work in.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I'm like 18, 19, not even supposed to be in here. Oh, wow. So I remember she took it to the back of the club, and I remember I introduced myself. I was like, hi, I'm Lex. Nice to meet you. And you were so nice and so sweet. I was like, okay, I know Slim Thug now. Like, I'm in there. Like, I know the man in Houston, Texas, right? So I remember, fast forward, you had a video shoot, Summertime.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Because you're not putting the work in. But you brought up the example of Beyonce and Jay-Z. And I feel like a lot of successful men bring that up, right? They be like, oh, we could be like Beyonce and Jay-Z. But you don't want a Beyonce, though.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
So why do you have to be being an assistant? It's like that. Why can't it not just be doing something nice?
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When was the last time you dated a successful woman?
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Probably Latoya. No, but if you're dating a successful woman now, so she's giving that to you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
So exactly, so a successful woman can do that.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Because I don't post the things I do for my head. I got you. I got a witness.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But, man, I feel like that's what make it hard for, like, successful women to find healthy relationships with men that are equally yoked with them. Like you said, a lot of the time, unfortunately, now that ain't going to be me, but women do be ending up with men that they have to take care of. And I feel like that's why, because men like you don't want, y'all be intimidated by the successful women.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
With Zero. Right. Swinging through the South Side. Oh, man. Right, baby. So I was in the video, right? And I remember I was like, oh, I know Slim. Like, we good. I was like, hey, Slim. He was like, hey, how you doing? What's your name? I said, oh, he don't remember me. He don't remember me. I was so sad. And I'm not going to lie. Then fast forward. I used to work at Dreams. Used to come in Dreams.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
No. That's not true. I feel like if a woman really loves you, she gonna do every... Like, she's going to do her best to do everything. Y'all really be cooking for y'all, dude? Yes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Man, that's crazy. I've never seen y'all cooking. Okay, so when I was in my relationship... I'm single now, but when I was in my relationship... I breakfast. What you cook?
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
She was cooking. Dinner. Yeah. Every, and I'm talking about for the whole house. She was cooking. I'm throwing down. I'm rubbing. I'm rubbing. And all my friends will tell you I can cook. I'm doing it all.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Because I love, it ain't about no money, no, I was happy with him. Yeah. So when a man make me happy, that ain't nothing, because guess what? I built my business so I could have freedom. Yeah. I don't want to work a lot. I work smarter, not harder. I see. So a real woman to me is somebody that knows how to have that balance. So I'm going to have that balance for my friends.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I'm going to have that balance for my man. And I'm going to have that balance for my business because that's what I want. I want to build a legacy.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Please. You know what I'm saying? We done done ever talked with no makeup on.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Well, I think that you said dealing with women of high level, and then you said black women are hard to deal with. Well, that just lets us know that black women... I said black women are hard to deal with? You did. I did? You said black women are hard to deal with, and you said... No, I don't think... Let me clear that up.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But everybody else is pretty. Because I'm a woman of value. I don't care what you got.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Used to get like a little chicken wrap every time.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
You, every single time you came in there, you'd be like, hey, how you doing? What's your name? I said, I done introduced myself to this nigga since time. Oh, man. And he still don't remember me.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But I got to give you some for you to stay focused on me.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
If my pussy is the only thing that's going to keep you focused and you're not the man for me, I don't like men who are weakened by the pussy. If pussy drives you to keep you focused on me, then we need to end this shit right now.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Like, that shouldn't be the main thing that keep you focused on me because I haven't gave you none. You still focused on other girls. If you trying to get to know me and you really like me, it's going to happen regardless.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Y'all want a real bastard. No, we get to know each other.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
No, because I'm not even a type of person.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
No. I'm telling you. First date. I don't expect you to not be fucking. We're not exclusive. We're trying to feel each other out. You can do what you want to do. So you don't mind that?
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I mean, but you know what? I never took it personal because each and every time, you were so nice. Yeah. You were so sweet. Always, always.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
That's not good. You should not have an orgasm until you're ready to have an orgasm. I do not have an orgasm unless there is some kind of mental connection there. We're not going to get a mental connection off of one date. Well, I mean, some people say they do. I haven't personally experienced that.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
There is no proof that a man has ever fucked.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
You could be born again. after having kids.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
There is no proof that a man has ever fucked me because I ain't got no kids. No receipt. No receipt. Same. Nobody has ever had sex with me. Same.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
No, because I feel like relationships need to be reciprocal. And from what you're saying, that's not reciprocity in a relationship. Because you talking about what you're not going to do, but then you want her to serve you. You want her to do all of these things. But you already said, I don't have the time.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
What are you talking about? And that's Cool, for Valentine's Day, but you literally just said, I don't have the time to talk to you every day. Well, I'm not going to lie. I don't want to take up for Slim, but I will say he posts a lot of stuff. He does a lot for whoever he's dating. A lot. That's fair. He does post, because he going to post with G. And it's really the same person. He does.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
So why haven't you married the girl you've been dealing with?
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Well, I admire how you double down on the shit you say, because I'm the same way. Oh, he not taking shit back. I be doubling down, too. I thought he was going to apologize. Because I always be wondering. I be like, every time something go viral that Slim say, I wonder if he be like, damn, I shouldn't have said that. No. Now I know you don't. No, he don't.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
And I will say, a lot of times people be wanting, like, the reason I see a lot of people, like, attack you on the internet, because you do be saying some wild shit, but I will say... I never have been the person to be like, oh, fuck Slim and all this stuff. Because at the end of the day, you have an opinion on your things. Maybe I don't agree with them or whatever it may be.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
But at the end of the day, as a black man, you do what you're supposed to do for Houston and the community. You do, yeah. And you definitely are a person who put... your actions behind your words. You do a lot for Houston. So it's kind of like, not saying that you can get away with murder, but it's like, you know what I'm saying?
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I will. Well, yeah. When you did, when you said the Diddy stuff. Yeah. And you did come back and, you know, but I feel like a lot of times.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I don't think it's about black billionaires. I think it's about billionaires in general. Capitalism is a thing, and you don't become a billionaire by being a great person. So I think a lot of the times these people, your mind doesn't process like that because you're not an evil person.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
So I have been around men of power who are, I've seen things in them that are, they're just evil people, not good people. And being a woman, we see a different side of men that you don't see because when they come around, they're not going to show you they're a big bro. Because you're an equal to them. That could be true.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Yeah, I never took it personal. Because, like I said, you were nice every single time that I met you.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
It doesn't matter how much money I make, how much successful tours I do, I will never be an equal to a man. They will never look at me like that. When I walk into a meeting, I'm a bitch. When you walk into a meeting, you're assertive and you know what you want. Totally.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
So I think with that, I feel like a lot of the times, yes, people do lie, but I'm telling you right now, as a woman who has been through things, it's more people who are telling the truth than people who are lying. So, yes, there's probably people who are suing Diddy that weren't telling the truth. But from somebody who... I have a friend who was personally used to work for him.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
She was a chef for him. Yeah. Who went through some very traumatizing shit. And it's like, it's just... I feel like sometimes we need to listen before we speak out. And you have such a big platform. So I think with situations like... Because you don't... You just be talking sometimes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Because you wouldn't do nothing like that. Facts.
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You forgot a lot of times. That's all right. I said this the eighth time.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Well, no, to be honest, I feel like that's just really it. I think that was the main thing that you got backlash for in the past.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
I think that was really it. No, that's it. That's it. I just feel like, like I said, it's more so kind of going back to what Lex was saying. Just the fact that like because you do have so many followers and you do have such a big platform and so many people that follow you. I just think it definitely offends people because they just be like, damn, why would he say that?
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Period. That's so funny. I wonder if everybody have met you on a video shoot. Because I feel like that's the first time I met you, too. Wow. But you probably don't remember. I've been tripping. Yeah, because I was in a video, too. Cups up, tops down. I think.
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Because you're speaking from a place of not knowing. Cool is your opinion, but you don't know whether or not these people actually did these things that... I've learned that the whole thing is just a sensitive topic. Right. It is because a lot of women have been through stuff like that.
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Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
And you're not, but you know what? This is the thing that's the issue, though. Because even though you feel like, oh, I'm just giving my opinion. You know how many lame-ass niggas and... And they say what Slim says is law. So anything that you say, even though you're like, this is my opinion, what your words hold so much weight to these people.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
That's why I move with this energy. I think you are delusional because black men are not as desirable. You have been rich since you were 18 years old. You don't even know what it's like to really not have money.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
So then you have these same people who are under these fake pages, who are under these blogs, and they are harassing these victims. So I think sometimes you don't realize how heavy and important your words are to a lot of people who follow you. You know what I'm saying?
Pour Minds Podcast
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You probably don't be thinking it's going to go viral.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Yeah, Kirko's home. Oh, man. But she was at the video shoot, of course. But, yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Well, if you want to take a stand, teach the young black youth how to be providers then.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Like you said, you going to take care of everything and how you did? Teach them that. No, teach them that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
No, I'm not. When I say a provider, I'm not talking about bills. When I say provide, it's beyond that. It's never monetary. I'm talking about you provide a safe space for your woman. You are providing more than just, oh, I'm here and I'm paying the bills. Because being a provider is beyond just paying the rent. You know what I'm saying? You have to be a safe.
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As a black woman in this world, we never feel protected. It's never nobody in these blogs sticking up for us.
Pour Minds Podcast
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No, we don't. That is not true. What the?
Pour Minds Podcast
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He said we're going to end up taking care of somebody.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I told you, Slim. That's what I'm trying to give you. You gonna take care of niggas. If I'm still single by the time I'm 40.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah. Oh, man. Because that was... I was like 23 when I was in that video. I think that was so long ago.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Well, what makes you think we don't respect them?
Pour Minds Podcast
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Oh, this is about him. You know, and that mean we don't respect niggas who got that shit.
Pour Minds Podcast
Why Yall Aint Give Me Nun FT. Slim Thug
Well, I can confirm, me and Lex can both confirm, y'all need to stop saying Slim Thug don't like black women because he definitely- He loves black women.
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No, I never felt that way either, but I feel like people probably try to put that on you because realistically speaking, a lot of men of your status and in your position, they don't like black women. No.
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Okay, next first date I go on, I'm going to give him some, and if he dump me, I'm going to go.
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all right bye y'all so for the second topic i wanted to talk about nepotism because i think that when it's other races right with nepotism people phrase it and that's like the goal like you're supposed to make a lot of money so that your children can reap the benefits of it but for some reason when it comes to the black community we have like these
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Super rich black celebrities like LeBron and then their kids are getting to reap the benefits or Will Smith and Jada. Their kids are getting to reap the benefits of all of their success. But people, and especially in the black community, are talking down on it.
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Like, I've seen so many people online saying, oh, Barney shouldn't have even got drafted to the Lakers that quick because he wasn't that good. Yeah.
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And whether that's, that's neither here nor there, but the point of becoming successful, I thought, is so that you could put your children on and your grandchildren and nobody have to worry about nothing or go through the same things that you went through. Why do y'all think that that's so, like a lot of black people are so against that?
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So it's all about they marrying a white woman.
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Okay, I'll say this, though. I do think sometimes black people are addicted to the thought of that started from the bottom right here narrative.
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But what I'm saying is black people are addicted to that struggle story.
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Okay. I am so weak. So how do you feel about nepotism? Like obviously with you being a super black successful man, how do you feel about nepotism? How many kids you got?
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So how are we supposed to create this generational that you talk about yourself?
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Okay, so you almost out of there with the child support.
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He said, and I ain't starting over. So you feel like that nepotism, like you're doing that for your children? Doing what I do? Like you're setting them up? Like you're giving them a leg up because you're so successful.
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What do you mean, 10 years? He said 10 years.
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Oh, I don't got 10 years, Slim. I'm 35. And I'm 33. I don't got 10 years either.
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I started my 10 years, and he wasted my time. So now what?
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I mean, it was straight. I just feel like I just have so much going on. We... Why are you sneaking in some of my... Like, why did you do that? What are you talking about? Drea... Wait. That's very weird, bro. What is weird? Because if you wanted some, you could have got it. But I didn't even do nothing. All you had to do was ask. This is my... What are y'all talking about?
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And then on top of that, you know the stuff that I'm going through? I haven't got my food stamps. Oh, my God.
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They done took all that stuff. So this is really all that I have. I didn't even know that. And I didn't do anything. You literally got mayonnaise on your cheek, bro. Oh. Okay.
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This is why I can't... Well, I was just a little hungry, too, because I didn't get my food stamps neither. You don't even get food stamps. You don't even get food stamps. You don't know my business. You don't know my struggle, so you can't feel my hustle. It's time to get into the bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow.
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Yeah. You're probably like, I really don't remember you.
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Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. So it's good. It has a lot of proteins, a lot of nutrients. It helps with, like, losing belly fat. It also helps with reducing your cholesterol and your high blood levels.
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But you know what, Slim? Real quick on that, because you said you put that in your smoothies. I want to say that it is very important. I love that about you. You be in the gym.
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You work out, and I think that is why, like, because I'm not going to lie, Slim, you're an attractive man. You're very handsome.
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We've been knowing each other since Belvedere.
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Belvedere, that was probably 2009, 2010. I was in high school. Yeah, I was outside. No, I was outside. I was grown. I'm older than Drea. I wasn't in Belvedere. I was in 2009. Yo, yo. Not yet.
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That was probably like 20, I said I was 23, so that was probably 2015, 2014. Yep. Yeah. You crazy.
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It's okay. But no, I was saying that you're handsome. You're fine. You take good care of yourself. So that's an important message for you to give. I work out every day too.
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Yeah, I definitely be. I don't work out every day like she does, but I definitely be in the gym.
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I have lost. How much weight I lost? I lost 17 pounds. This man. What he said. I can buy it.
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I mean, he would have remembered that. I know. He'd not be too.
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I'm not going to lie to y'all like... And they take care of niggas.
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I'm not going to lie to you, though. Being single and being alone doesn't scare me either, though. I'm not a person like, oh, if I never get married and have kids, that doesn't... I have community. I feel like... Now, I do feel like humans are built to have... Community sound wild, Lex. No, when I say community, I mean like my friends and my family. I got a community of men.
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But I say because, like, being single and being alone, that's not the worst thing in the world.
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Yeah, I'm not taking care of nobody's thing. I just feel like I'm not afraid to be single either. I more so, I'm going to be sad if I don't have kids. Well, I'm going to be sad if I don't have kids. But I feel like you can go have a kid with a nigga.
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But it's beyond the baddie. It's a lot of baddies. Everybody baddies. I feel like I have everything. My mentality and my morals and my values.
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Honestly, right now, I want somebody who is equally young and they want to build something. Like, I feel like I'm still building my legacy. I'm still building what I want.
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Financially, I want somebody that's equally yoked or more.
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You not having no more kids for them? That already take you off the running.
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Dre, bring in the bad topic because he gonna bring it back. Y'all ain't give me none. So, for the bed topic, I wanted to talk about is it toxic or is it true? So many men say that they want to be with, like, a good girl. They run away from the girls that are quote-unquote bad girls. But then in bed, they want a girl that's a freak.
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I feel like girls that are freaks, they probably done, you know, been around the block a little bit. So, do you prefer a lady in the streets and, you know... I mean, a lady in the streets, a freak in the sheets. Or do you prefer somebody that's wild 24-7?
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They weedy. I think you're supposed to have that good balance. Yeah. I feel like you have to carry yourself a certain way. But I think, like, when it's time to turn up in the bedroom with your man, you got to know what you doing. I agree. You supposed to be down for whatever. Yeah. I feel like, you know who did a good example of that? What he said.
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I feel like Cardi was a good example that although we don't know her, but I feel like she's a boss. She got her own money. But she was like, from what we could see, like a good wife. Nobody came out with no stories while she was married. What about this other weekend? But she's single. Yeah, she's single now. As she should be. She's doing what she's supposed to do. Cardi a milf. Cardi is fine.
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She's successful. She's funny. And she's actually very smart. She's like really into politics. So I feel like that's like a good example of that good balance. Yeah. Like you have somebody who is fun. They talk they shit. But they a freak.
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They handle business. I think that's a good balance.
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Okay. That's fair. That makes sense. I mean, we just talked about these in another episode.
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Yeah, we said we like that too, though. Women porn. I think a lot of women like to watch other women when we watching porn. Men are really not as smooth and as good as they think they are in bed. So it's very rare I want to see a man doing anything porn. Like, I want to see my man doing things. But not watching.
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I know that. So how do you what what is what's like your signature move in a DM? Like, are you an emoji sender? Do you send like a little smoke emoji? I can see you doing something like that.
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Like, if me and my man make, like, a video of us, like, having sex or something, I could watch that a million times because obviously I'm enjoying having sex with you. But, like, to watch a porn... So you be making videos? Yeah, I'll make a video with my man. Word. You got to stay on your time, though.
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I just never had to. That's not my... Like, no shade. That's like... But... Yeah, but I just feel like... You don't need to check that back. I don't need to check that back. But I also feel like if you're going to do OnlyFans, you got to go all in. You do these days. You got a few porn stars, OnlyFan girls on our couch. I'm not doing the shit that they do. Me neither.
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I think that the days of like... trapping people, clickbaiting people into joining your OnlyFans is over. Like, I feel like at one point, the girls was definitely getting guys to join, getting people to join, and all they was doing was posting stuff in their lingerie. But I think people done got hip to the girls doing that. So they not joining unless they know you really getting down.
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I think it's going to be like during the cold Reddit.
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It ain't going to be nothing. Let me start. We're going to follow that. One thing probably will pop up. You know what? I'm not even going to say that.
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It's not nothing bad. I was on live one time and I was in my swimsuit and my swimsuit had rolled down.
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But it wasn't like, I mean, it's titties. I feel like people always see my titties on the show. I want to see.
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Oh, yeah. So I feel like it's a good, it's good to have a balance of like good girl. I agree.
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Hmm. Yeah. No, that's right. Okay, so item of the week, per usual, y'all know I always get my units from Rich Look Hair. Shout out to Dee Dee. If you need your hair done, you live in Atlanta, go get you a cute little sew-in. She's got all the bundles. You're getting boho braids. You got the hair that you need. Shout out to Rich Look Hair for my glueless unit. Thank you.
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My lip combo today is the Glaze Lip Gloss, the Honey Dip Matte Liquid Lipstick, and the Chestnut Lip Liner. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here. Period.
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If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to itemoftheweekpm at gmail.com. That's I-T-E-M O-F-T-H-E-W-E-E-K-P-M at gmail.com. Send us an email, and we'll work it out. We're going to figure it out.
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Get your product. Get your business sponsored. And, yeah, make you some money. We love to support a small business now. And a black business at that. But, I mean, any business is welcome. We don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping.
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Yeah, so we have a brand new show dropping, y'all, on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bill and O'Shea, where the hell could you go? If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell can you go? We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me.
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We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh my God! Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon. Yes, y'all ask us for so much, but we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time. Y'all know Poor Minds has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles.
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Yeah, because you know why they're throwing it at you? Because they're of low value. Any woman that's just throwing it at you because it's a slim thug, you really think that's a valuable woman?
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So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down. Thanks.
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Swim. What? Actually, I do have to work tomorrow. I have to film tomorrow. So I'm working.
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We didn't throw you to the side. You take care of niggas.
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We don't take care of niggas. It is what it is, man. I don't take care of niggas. I take care of myself.
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I might be outside tonight. We're going to see.
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Yeah, we might be outside. We might be outside.
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So now it's time to get into the bop. The bop. Bow. The bop. Bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow. Okay, so Bop of the Week is the songs that we've been jamming this week. I always have like an off-the-wall Bop of the Week. So my Bop of the Week today is a Post Malone song. What? You know, Post Malone, he came in the game rapping, and you know how they usually do.
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They make the white boys rap, and they take over, and then they start making the music they really want to make. And when I hear his, like, more country music side, I'm like, you should have been doing this. I don't even know why he was rapping. I was never a big Post Malone fan of him rapping, but I actually like his country, you know, his little country side.
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So he has a song called I Don't Know How to Say Goodbye with Dwight Yoakam. I think that's how you pronounce his name. By who? Dwight Yoakam and Post Malone.
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What's it called again? Double Cup. The song is called Double Cup and the movie is called Double Cup.
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Were you one of the directors of the movie?
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Now, why you ask us to be in the movie? That's what I was about to ask.
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Okay, so, but talk about Double Cup, the song and the movie.
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I'm excited to see it. It's cool. Have y'all done the movie premiere yet?
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Okay, so make sure you invite us. So we going to come.
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We come to Houston all the time. My family is there.
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But the album is first. Album is first. So talk about the album.
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Yes. I love that for y'all. That's good. I'm excited to see it.
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Well, we can't wait to hear it. Yes, please invite us to the premiere.
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I am weak. You can start a new show. Anyways, Trey, what's your bop of the week? Yeah, so my bop this week, speaking of people from Houston, Ken and me have a new song called Cocky. I love me some Ken.
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That's our girl. They already know. That's our girl. We love us some Ken. She do. She really do. And so, yeah, she had a song called Cocky that just came out like a week. I think, or two ago, but it's been in my rotation. Hey, Ken, girl. Love Ken Down. So let me ask you this, Slim. Outside of you, who do you feel like is the best rapper out of Houston?
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I don't... I've never seen you with anybody. You're very low key. You are. Ooh, that reminds me. I used to stay in these apartments in the medical center. And this is when you had that. You seen him in your apartment? He used to have that silver Camaro. Damn. You cannot creep in that car. I said, somebody in my apartment is fucking sleeping. And y'all know I've been messy for a long time.
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Like, give you a top three. I'll give you three.
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You know, Zero pulled up on it, too. He came on the show. It was such a good episode. It was. Zero gets lit. I'll fuck with that. He going to drink.
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I would have to agree with that, though. I definitely, Zero is definitely, like, in my top three.
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Okay. And who else? I said I gave you three.
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Yeah. I'll put him in a different category. Exactly.
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He's a lot of dope Houston rappers for sure.
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Okay. Okay, go ahead, Drea. Okay. Now it's time to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is pour your heart out. If you have any questions, you can always send them to askpoorminds at gmail.com. That's A-S-K-P-O-U-R-M-I-N-D-S dot com. Now, today we only going to have time for one question. So, Slim, do you think that you give good advice?
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Okay, well, somebody needs your advice. So we gonna see what you gonna tell us.
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I love y'all, especially Big Lex P. Let's get into it. Don't say my name. So, boom, I'm 24, and I've got a full-blown bugaboo on my hands. Back in 2021, when we were both 21, I used to hang out with this top-tier college ball player. One weekend, he came home, invited me over, and we ended up doing the nasty. And, yeah, I ate the booty like Lex said, and he loved it. Wow. Yeah. I didn't say that.
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This is crazy. But ever since that one time, he has not left me alone.
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I said, that's that car right there. Was she black? I don't know because I never saw. What apartments was it? It was off of El Mundo.
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That ain't got nothing to do with me. Okay, but ever since that one time, he has not left me alone.
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Mind you, it's 2025. He got a whole girlfriend, and this man still finds ways to hit me up begging for a repeat. He want that booty ate again. Wow. She said, I blocked him, ignored him, everything, but he keeps popping back up. How would y'all handle this? Because I'm over it. Best. A girl who regrets going above and beyond. Girl, you is a booty bandit. Wow. Because what the fuck?
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What do you mean he just keep blowing you up? And it's all your fault. It is not my fault. Oh, my God. It is not... Her fellow booty bandies. I feel like I said that story, like, one time. What was the story? Tell me. It was... First of all, it was somebody that I was dating when I moved to Atlanta. It was an Atlanta guy I was dating, okay?
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And it was a... And it was cool. One thing about me in the bedroom, if we're dating and you want me to try something, I'ma try it. Okay. And it was a fun experience. I feel like I can tie everything with it.
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And he didn't ask me, but he started going like this.
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And I said, I know what you want. And I was kind of hesitant, but I was like, fuck it, why not? And I tried it.
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But, like I said, surprisingly, men do like that. Men do like that. But I also feel like, because people are like, oh, no, that's gay. Anything you do with a woman is not gay.
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Oh, it was like... So what do y'all think she should do? I think she should just tell him, hey, I'm not interested in talking to you no more. We need to use our words.
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Oh, I can't remember the name of them apartments. I cannot. But it was in the medical center. I know it was your car. You were the only person. Because that was when those silver, I don't know what you call it, when they used to wrap the silver. Chrome. It was a chrome Camaro.
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She said she regret going above and beyond. And she needs to tell him that. I think we need to... There's too much snickering.
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That is a little crazy, kicking a nigga to the curb after you ate his booty.
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Yeah, that is a little next level. I agree. Oh, Slim, I'll get you touching them toes now.
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Okay. Okay, period. Well, thank you for coming on the show. This was so fun. This was fun. I'm glad we finally did this. I feel like the only person from Houston we're missing is Kiki. Yeah, we got to have Kiki. He performed at our live show. Yeah, he came to the live show, but we haven't had him on Poor Minds. Just like you came to the live show, but we haven't had you on Poor Minds.
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Yeah. We caught Paul Wall, though. Because he came to Atlanta. Yeah, we had Paul Wall on the show. We've had everybody. Thank God we had B. King, R.I.P. B. King.
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B. King. Yeah, so I hope y'all enjoyed this episode. Make sure y'all follow Slim on all socials, at Slim Thug. Y'all catch Double Cup. We'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds.
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It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page, okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one.
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You were the first person in Houston with a chrome car. Right, right. So it was like, it was no question who it was when he pulled up.
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one instagram one twitter one tiktok it is p-o-u-r underscore m-i-n-d-s all right and we got a hella fake facebook page oh the facebook pages it's the our face the crazy thing is our facebook page actually have the least amount of followers so if you're on facebook the one that's ours Got the least amount of followers. The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers.
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But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content because the caption is like whoever it is don't speak English. Because their captions are like Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes, no. Check answer below. Blah, blah. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the captions mean. I like that DDG's Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude.
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I mean, yeah, it was a lot of like, she would have to have been like a nurse, something.
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Because y'all experiences are so different.
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Old school. No little Michael Jackson. Right.
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Now, I do want to talk about this before we get into the first topic, because I always use you as an example, like when I'm kind of having like a little rap debate.
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Because I feel like a lot of people like to say, oh, this person is so big and this person is not because they're international or they're... Um, they can go to New York right now and do a show or, and I always say I, and I could be wrong. So correct me.
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So, cause I remember you coming up in Houston and then you had a moment where you were in LA and you were working with Pharrell, you know, and you did that. And I felt like it, it wasn't cause that album was fire. Everybody was like, I don't take it. All that stuff. Yeah.
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it was a moment I felt like after that album you was like LA is not for me I want to go back home you chose that route so I always say y'all can't have Slim in these conversations when y'all are talking about international superstars or whatever because he chose not to be that because he very much could have done that it was beautiful working with Pharrell
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What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thought. We got a guest today. We got a guest today. Okay. Now, this has been an extremely anticipated episode. Long time coming. He actually pulled up on us on our very first live show in Houston at House of Blues.
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Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster with Rocket Money. Go to rocketmoney.com slash poormindstoday. That's rocketmoney.com slash poorminds. rocketmoney.com slash poorminds. Yeah. So I wanted to talk about, because you made a really good point Obviously, me being from Houston, too, like, Houston has so much culture and has always had so much culture.
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Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something. That's wild. Taco Bell is so good, and I'm not ashamed of it. For a while, I tried to act like, oh, I don't eat that. Ew. Girl, fuck y'all. I don't ever. But I don't even know why you was ever acting like that, because you don't be fucking up Taco Bell. I fuck up Taco Bell. But you're not scared of the mystery meat? I'm not.
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I don't like perfumes that come in, like, aerosol cans. Oh, like the... Kind of like the... Like a body spray. Like a Lysol. Like a metal. Yeah, I don't like when they come in like a metal. Oh, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so it's this one fragrance company. Is it the Arabic one? I think it's Mont... I don't know if I'm saying it right. I don't know if it's Montali or Montal.
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I think I know what you're talking about. But I never have bought one of their fragrances just because I don't like... Yeah, I knew that, yeah. I don't like the bottle. So maybe I am a bottle person. Yeah, that's the one I was thinking about. Is that an Arabic? It is. But people swear it smells so good. People say it smells so good. I heard that, too. But, yeah. Okay, okay. All right, now.
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I don't know how we got on fragrance. You know, we always going to get off topic. That's what we do. First, we went from talking about, you know, the originality of everybody having... podcast with their best friends now. And in some kind of way, we started talking about love, Spill. And before we get to the topic, let me ask you a question.
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I think people just have their preferences. Because to be honest, I don't know. Like, I think when people think of podcasts, they don't think of you having guests.
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If you had to eat... I was having a conversation with somebody last night. That little CBD shot, B. If you had to eat fast food, one fast food place for the rest of your life, like you had no choice, what fast food place would you be at? Let me see. Chick-fil-A. Chick-fil-A? And I don't eat chicken no more, but I feel like... So what would you do? Just eat fries.
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So you could eat fries for the rest of your life? Because, I mean, when I think about it, everywhere else, like, I haven't ate McDonald's in, like, a really, really long time. Like, years. I haven't ate Taco Bell in years. You missing out. You done passed up a fine, fine cuisine. Well, I have heard that they have an elite new menu. Man, what? I've heard the new menu is elite.
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I mean, when they be reviewing it on TikTok, people be swearing. Man, them little chicken dippers that you rip apart. Oh, no. And see, that's the thing. I think it's weird when people get stuff like, why would you get chicken dippers from Taco Bell? No, it's like, because it's like, it's chicken. It's like a quesadilla. I know.
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And it's wrapped up, and it got cheese on the outside, and it's real melty, and you dip it in the little sauce. Not you know about all they new menu. I'm telling you, I need a membership at Taco Bell so I can be a platinum member. Okay. They gonna have to prod Taco Bell from my cold, dead hands back. So I'm assuming that that's your answer. It's Taco Bell. Let me tell you something.
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It's really wild. Taco Bell is so good, and I'm not ashamed of it. Oh. For a while, I tried to act like, oh, I don't eat that. Ew. Girl, fuck y'all. I don't even know why you was ever acting like that because you don't be fucking up Taco Bell. I fuck up Taco Bell. But you're not scared of the mystery meat? I'm not. I done put mystery meat in my mouth before. Hey.
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Okay, okay, okay. All I'm saying is... Mystery meat in your mouth is... I'm just saying Taco Bell has variety. The variety of sauces, variety of drinks, variety of what meat you like. You want steak, ground beef, chicken, beans... Say it over there. Say it. I'm telling you, it is top tier. And then don't let you go to the Taco Bell cantina. They got margaritas in that motherfucker.
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But when we started, it was a podcast. All right, all right. So they probably like, they never used to have guests. And we used to always say that we don't have guests on our show. So they probably like, you bitches done switched up. Because we switched it to a talk show. Y'all done got Hollywood on us. We switched it to a talk show, damn it. We got to do what we got to do.
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Now, you know what I really did used to like from Taco Bell? The Diablo sauce. Ooh, come on now. But the beauty of being in 2025, they sell all of these sauces and stuff in the store. So you could just make yourself a healthier version of Taco Bell at home. Get you some real meat where you know what you're putting in your mouth, not mystery meat.
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And then you can still get the Diablo sauce, some tomatoes that are ripe, not the ones that are white. I don't like tomatoes anyway. Because I don't know why the tomatoes at Taco Bell are always white.
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I've never... Every time I order... They don't look ripe. I don't eat tomatoes. You know I hate tomatoes. Oh, yeah, you don't. You don't like raw tomatoes. I have never seen a tomato from Taco Bell. Yeah. Good point. I get a Mexican pizza, extra cheese, no tomatoes. You do have a good point there. Yeah, I don't know. Taco Bell is a no. It's a hard pass for me. But...
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Chick-fil-A used to be my favorite fast food restaurant. Okay, that's fair, that's fair. I would go to Chick-fil-A like three, four times a week. They was getting all my money. I'm not going to lie. That tortilla soup. That tortilla soup was bussin'. But somebody grandma be making that mac and cheese at Chick-fil-A too. That mac and cheese is good. I mean, they have a lot of great menu items.
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That peach milkshake that they be having in the summertime. Yeah.
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It's real good. I ain't heard of that. Okay, now. But, yeah. Or Wendy's, maybe. See, I don't like Wendy's. They fries is trash. I like they chicken nuggets. Okay, they spicy chicken nuggets. The spicy chicken nuggets. And I used to fuck up a, what is it called? The little dollar burger.
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Four for four? But it's a name for it. The little burger. The Biggie Junior? Mm-hmm. The little Biggie Junior burger. Shay. Shay. I used to fuck up a mini Junior Burger, a Frosty. Yeah. Now, I like the Frosty. Them Frostys be busting. So, I mean, I don't know. Wendy's might be a strong contender.
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It's not enough variety. What you mean? You got to think about the menu. Taco Bell, you can go there every day for a month, not repeat nothing, and have fine, fine dining every day. No, ma'am. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Calling it fine dining is absolutely crazy. Insane. Is that a fish filet?
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It would be McDonald's for Shay. Double fish filet. Y'all, every time I think, when somebody says fish filet, I think of my mom. I think I told this story before. Your mom liked fish filets? My mom used to love fish filets. My mom loves fish filets so much. A true tourist queen, just like Shay. When she was younger, my great aunt, she used to babysit her daughter, my mom's what?
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That was her cousin, I guess. She used to babysit her. She would pay her in Filet-O-Fish. And my mom was be excited. Like, when I used to come home sometimes, I used to bring a little fish, flail fish. She'd be like, that's why you my favorite daughter. Okay. All right, Jasmine. You ain't never brought mama a flail fish. I ain't mad at that.
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That's fair, but that's probably why they don't want to listen to us when we have guests. Because they be like, I miss when y'all used to be yelling at each other on the floor. That's crazy to miss that. Okay, but you know what I do think people miss? It was a fun time. I think people miss... I see people say this all the time.
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Because if somebody paid me some Chick-fil-A nuggets, I probably would have been happy too. And I think we also need to have the conversation how Pizza Hut has the best pizza. Come on now, that crust is golden. You know, that's debatable. Who got better pizza than Pizza Hut? Papa John's, better ingredients, better pizza, Papa John's. Papa John's thinks you're a hard ER. I don't forget Papa John's.
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Y'all need to pay me for that. Papa John's, remember he called us the hard ER? I don't eat Papa John's anymore. I don't really eat pizza like that anymore. But when I was younger and I used to like pizza, because I used to be a person that would eat pizza. Like, pizza is probably one of my favorite foods. Pizza is so good.
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Now that I'm trying to be healthier, I just don't really eat pizza like that. Do you eat, like, cauliflower pizza?
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with spinach? No. But when I would get pizza, I'm not gonna lie, I'm trying to think of the last time I've had pizza. Probably when we had it up here and they had Domino's or something, but I had a cheese slice pizza. I don't do Domino's. Don't do it. Edgewood pizza is good. They got good pizza. Edgewood pizza is fire. What's the name of that place that was by my house that is closed now?
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Da Vinci's was good. Da Vinci's was busting. So, like, I'm not going to lie. I'm more of, like, a local pizza person. I don't really order from, like, Papa John's, Pizza Hut, whenever I do. Pizza Hut is really good, but I will say Papa John's, they got the garlic butter on lock. That garlic sauce from Papa John's is top tier. It is. All right. But you don't like Domino's? I'm not a Domino's girl.
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Now, I do like their cheese bread. They have good cheese bread. Their cheese bread is top ten. But when we talk about crust, the ratio of cheese to sauce, Pizza Hut just got it on lock. And see, but Pizza Hut got nasty wings. They wings so nasty. I don't, I don't, I'm not a wing girl myself. But if I do eat wings, I'm going to J.R. Crickets now. If we talking about wings. J.R.
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Cricket's got good wings, but I guess I'm thinking of a more national place. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Damn, I feel sorry for y'all if y'all have never had J.R. Cricket's, man. J.R. Cricket's has good wings, for sure. Look at Shay. Shay is a grin. No, she was not a grin. She wasn't? No. You don't like... You don't like J.R. Cricket? They're babies.
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Y'all be liking the Arnold Schwarzenegger ass chicken. That's y'all problem. Oak it up, baby. No. I like me a little bitty wing. You know, Ty, and normally we be on the same page. I don't want no fat ass chicken wing. No.
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They're like, I miss the red and black background because y'all were so unhinged. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. I think that people miss that because y'all have to understand, though, like, we were... Not that we're not, like, hungry now, but we were a lot... more immature than we are now. Like, we've grown a lot. Y'all have to realize, like, we have been doing poor minds for a while now.
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By the time you order a fish plate with six wings, some fries and a cold drink, baby, that's your rent. Yeah. That's your rent. J.R. Crickets is expensive. Y'all need to come down on them goddamn prices. They definitely do. Ty, what's your fast food restaurant that you could eat?
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Oh, how I forget about Popeyes. Because I used to fuck up some Popeyes. Little red beans and rice. Oh, my gosh. Chicken strip.
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New Orleans listeners, please don't get mad at me right now. I hate when people from New Orleans say the Popeyes on Canal Street taste different, because it don't. But it do, though. It don't.
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It do not taste different to me. It don't really taste that different to me, but Willie's, though. Now, Willie's Chicken Shack. Now, Willie's Chicken Shack in New Orleans. Man, what? That chicken. That red beans and rice. And the red beans and rice. Mm-hmm. So good. I went to Willie's. I said, give me the biggest cup of red beans and rice you got. Oh, I had, Shay, can attest to this.
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I had about 10 stacks of them styrofoam bowls. On my dresser at the hotel. You did. You did. I remember. I was fucking them up. Oh, I was messing it up. Yeah, Willie's is good. But I mean, yeah, Popeye's would have been a contender for me, too. Okay. I used to eat Popeye's a lot. Yeah. Especially when we was at that old studio off of Metropolitan.
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Ooh, there was a Popeye's right there before you got on the freeway. And there was a Taco Bell across the street. I used to be trying to dip over there before somebody saw me. It was a Taco Bell. See, I was like, it was. I'd be trying to hurry up and be like, all right, y'all, I gotta go. Got to go to somewhere. Trying to get the Taco Bell before y'all leave the goddamn studio. Oh, no.
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Taco Bell just ain't never did it for me like that. I love me some Taco Bell. All right, let's get to the first topic, Drea, goddammit. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Drea Nicole. And we're about to show y'all how to get the best restroom ritual that you've ever had.
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So, ladies, if you going into the bathroom and just wiping with whatever, we're about to put y'all onto some good wipes. Yeah, y'all. Sometimes you need a little bit more than just toilet paper. And what I love about these wipes is that they are flushable. They're also hyperallergenic. And on top of that, they're naturally scented.
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Yeah, I don't even think it had anything to do with hungry. I just think it was just, like, not thinking about things before we said it. Like, we just would say whatever was on our mind. Now we're just a little more cautious about... with the things that we say. Because we have to be. Because we have to be. Yeah, we have to be.
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And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. Yes, so we have a brand new show dropping, y'all, on Patreon. It's going to air on September 2nd, and it's called Porn Chronicles. We're going to be doing so much stuff on there. We're going to be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bill and O'Shea, where the hell could you go?
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If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell can you go? We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
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oh my god everything y'all been wanting to see we gonna be doing it right here on patreon yes y'all ask us for so much but we finna give it to y'all every single monday and it's gonna be a time y'all know poor minds has grown into its own little entity well we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at poor chronicles so make sure y'all tune in september 2nd it's going down thank
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We're going to talk about scamming a little bit. So, like, what's one scam that you low-key respect? Okay, so... A scam that I respect. I'm not going to lie. First of all, stealing is wrong. You know, I'm not telling y'all to go out here and do anything. That didn't sound believable. Because I don't want people to be like, well, Dre and Lex said it was okay, so this is what I should be doing.
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And I just did, like I said, I did an episode of Scam Goddess, shout out to Lacey, a few weeks ago. And I truly believe... That one thing that... I hate thieves, okay? Let me just start off by saying that. But one thing that I see people do that I don't care about, it doesn't bother me, is, like, when people steal from, like, Walmart or, like, a Publix.
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Like, when they do the self-checkout... Oh, you talking about stealing for real, man? Yeah! That's a scam! Bitch, what? That's a scam! Ow! was thinking, like, will people be selling their food stamps? This bitch talking about really going in the store and stealing food. But sometimes people go and steal.
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Like, we've seen the people that'll go into, like, Ulta or Sephora, and they'll steal a bunch of, like, makeup items, and they'll sell them. Boosters. Boosters. I don't feel bad for that. We taking back from the man... What he took from us. Okay? So I'm not mad at that. I'm not mad at the booster stealing. I'm not mad if you're stealing for your household. Eggs is $69.99. Get it how you live.
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Okay? But now if you go into like a mom and pop shop You know, like, I don't like... Don't steal from them. But these big corporations, I don't give a damn. They have whole... What are they called? Prevention? What are they called?
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I think back then, it wasn't as many people listening, and we just were really, really blunt and would just say whatever it was that came to our mind. Like, crazy shit. Because when I be seeing some of the old episodes or, like, clips from the old episodes, I be like, I can't believe I said that. I know! It be really like, oh my God. And I would be dead serious.
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Loss prevention. They... Loss prevention is a whole department that gets paid millions of dollars. They'll be all right. They will be okay. They gonna chase your ass out the store, too. That happened to me one time. You know what scam that I used to do? I know you... Because Drea doesn't scream, right? I know, when I used to chase you, I used to be like, help. Oh, my God. No.
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I just used to be like, what is going on? Drea! Hi. What's up? You need something? But another scam that I respect, and then I'm going to let you answer. So this doesn't... I don't know because I don't go to the bank, the drive-thru banks anymore, but when I used to work at the club and bartend, I used to obviously have a lot of money, so I would deposit the money in the bank.
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So when I would go to the drive-thru bank, this happened to me like five or six times, y'all. I would deposit so much money in there, it would say, oh... So like the machine would be like, couldn't count your money, right? Please call to verify how much money it was. So the first time I did it, I verified the exact amount that I had. And they put that exact amount in my account immediately.
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And I was like, damn, what if I reported a little bit more? I was like, damn. And literally like a few months went by and it happened again. And I was like, okay, let me report just like an extra like $50, $100 and be like, oh, if they say something, I just miscounted it wrong.
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Happened again. I reported like an extra $1,500. Nothing happened. And it was like, because every time I would make sure I stuffed a bunch of money in there to mess up the machine. Child, the third time I did it, I remember I started adding like an extra $500, $600, $700. Bitch, have it been 10 years since the statute of limitations is over for that? It's your fault. I don't know.
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That's closed anyway. I'm like, I don't know if you should be saying that on the show. Incriminate yourself. I mean, yeah, it has been 10 years. I'm 35 now, bitch. I was, I ain't. It might be 20. Hey, you ain't lying. So yeah, that was a scam that I did. But y'all are the banks. Y'all all right. So I think sometimes when you are, I was a broke college student. I needed that $500. I needed it.
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Y'all don't need, y'all is not going to miss that $500. Money really ain't real anyway, especially now. It's really, it's digital. Shit ain't real. Y'all can add a little, y'all can just move that decimal. Yeah, see, like I said, I was going to say, like, when people be selling their food stamps, I don't see anything wrong with that. Yeah.
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Because I feel like if they give you a certain amount of food stamps that you're trying to get money for, you're trying to get cash for it because you know that you're not going to end up using them all before the end of the month.
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I don't see nothing wrong with that. Yeah. I think that that's an okay scam. I think scams where you're not really, like, hurting anybody. Or stealing... Like, personally, I think stealing is wrong now. Okay, now. All right. Don't forget that part. It's wrong now. Okay, all right. You know, you shouldn't do that. Right.
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I think any scam that you do that's against these corporations, I don't mind, if I'm being quite honest. But if you're... I don't like when people are scamming people like on the phone to get their bank information. Y'all been texting me talking about, I got a tollway ticket in Houston, baby. I ain't lived in Houston yet. years. And especially when I be doing it to the senior citizens.
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Well, I'm still serious about a lot of the stuff I said. To be honest. But I just be feeling like, wow, like we just really used to be raw and unfiltered. And somebody else has said, what did they say? They were just like, when Poor Minds first came out, there wasn't a lot of podcasts like that.
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My mama be calling me every other day. Nervous. Y'all be stressing my poor mama out. She be calling me every other day telling me about some scam she seen on the news and be telling me to be careful. And I be like, girl, I'm gonna be careful. She be like, don't be responding to them tics. And I be like, why would I respond to the tics? She trying to make sure her baby girl know.
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She do be trying to make sure, but I be like, you make sure you don't respond to the tics. I know not to respond when I be getting them tics. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, I think scams like that, when you're trying to, like, when y'all send... I just want y'all to get a job. Mm-hmm. That's all I want y'all to do. Just go work. Just go get a job. Get your fucking ass up and work. Yes, come on.
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Like, I just think it's so... Y'all be sending text messages all day, preying on people. Like, to me, that is so weird. And I think it's bad when you steal, like, big stuff. Like, I don't know, like, going up in the store stealing TVs and stuff. I just feel like you ain't got no type of cool. Yeah. You just be the part rolling out with TVs. That's right. That's insane to me.
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Now, a little lip gloss, a little mascara. I've sold that back in my day. They be rolling out with TVs and scamming the tomato for it. Bitch. That be you. Not a TV, though. Not a TV, though. I'll at least scan like a... You say you'd be stealing... If I had to steal a TV... If I had to steal a TV, what would I scan for that that's kind of like closed? Oh, eggs.
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If I'm trying to steal a TV, I'd scan some eggs. Bitch, you ain't making it off the stove. Loss prevention going to be on your tail, bitch. But you know what? Honestly, now I order my groceries online. I can't remember the last time I went grocery shopping, to be honest. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I've been going to Whole Foods. Now, them Whole Foods eggs be like $30.
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Bro, them little bitty ass quail eggs be expensive, too. But they so good. Are they? Are they? And I was just about to say, why would you want to eat a quail egg? Well, the yolk is very rich. So I love like avocado toast with a sunny side up egg. So I was just trying to see if I liked it, but it was really good. I was surprised. But that yolk is really rich. It's thick. I mean, yeah, it's thick.
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But I cook it sunny side up, but it's not, like, too, too runny. It's just, like, a little bit of runny. But how many do you need? Because I assume you can't just use one.
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Yeah, you do, like, two on the avocado toast. It'd be good, though. Oh, it'd be so good. Really? Yeah, it's good. Okay. It's good. I believe you. I probably won't be trying these. Uh, you know, I did it a few times. What about a quail egg ain't sitting right with my speech? Have you ever seen the ostrich eggs? I have. They're huge. Now, that's too much egg.
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What are those eggs called that, um, the, is it Koreans be eating? What? Is it beru? Oh, my God. Let me make sure I'm... The egg with the chicken in it? Yeah, let me make sure I'm pronouncing it right. I'm not going to lie, because one thing I'll say, I'm not ignorant when it comes to other cultures and other foods, so I don't make fun of it. I don't say it's gross.
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But it is just so interesting to me, because I wonder, the first... Balut. Balut.
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That's what it is. Okay. I know what something they start with. Interested, like, when the first person who ate a balut egg, like, what was going through your mind? Because they be eating their head. Like, a balut egg is like the chicken... Was infertilized. A hard-boiled egg, fertilized duck egg. Yeah. It contained a partially developed embryo. Yeah. So it be like... They be slurping it.
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And it's so crazy to think about because honestly, when we started it, it didn't feel that way. It just felt like we were just doing us and just doing something. Right. So now to see, like, there's a lot of podcasts that, you know, have the best friends who just be cutting up and talking about life. It is a lot of podcasts like that. Yeah, it is. I wonder where they got it from. Okay.
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They be slurping it. But they say it's good. They do say it's good. I hear it's good. They be seasoning it, putting soy sauce in it and stuff. Yeah. You know, and I feel like it don't matter how much soy sauce you put on the egg. Absolutely not. I think it would just be like the bones that threw me off. That's what you think with all you are? Yeah, I'll try anything. That one thing. That's it?
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Just the bones? Just the bones. I like to try different stuff. It would be something about eating an embryo that would throw me off. Like, just knowing. And you can see it. You can see it in there. I mean, yeah. Oh, you're looking it up tight. It's really graphic. It is. You can see it. The reason, I mean, I just feel like I could try it. I've done worse to my own embryos. I wonder if...
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I wonder if somebody ever opened it. Okay, tough. Y'all being real tough today. That's... You know, let's relax and lighten the mood, okay? All right, now. Keep going. Continue. Because what? I'm just saying. I'm just saying. I'll treat a balut egg better than my own. I done lost my goddamn train of thought because, bitch, what? You know, we just going to go to Ty.
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Yeah, it's good. It's good. You know I love spicy anyways, though. You do love a spicy drink. You love everything spicy. I love a spicy drink. He is. Cheers, y'all. Thank you. So make sure y'all check out Travel Queens. It just premiered two days ago. We are super excited. It was an amazing opportunity. Y'all have to run it up. Watch it on whatever platform you have.
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Please just run it up so we can get season two popping. Yes. We hope y'all enjoy it. Yes. If you're watching it on BET Her, it drops every Wednesday at 8 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. And if you're going to watch it on Thursday, like if you don't have BET heard, you can watch it on Hulu and you can watch it on BET.com. So yes, y'all, Travel Queens. Hashtag Travel Queens BET. Yes.
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Whenever you're talking about it on social media. Period. So we can see y'all posting stuff. But what's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And the time is finally here, y'all. This Wednesday, April 23rd, Travel Queens is premiering on BET Her. Yes, y'all. BET Her. 8 p.m. EST. Make sure that y'all tune in.
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See, this is what we not gonna do. Oh, you so original. This is what we not gonna do. What? I'm just saying. That's very original. I'm like, I think it's good to be inspiring, though. I think it's a good thing. Like I said, we need more black women on the mics. It's not enough for me. I want to see more. I love to have a lot of children. Absolutely, yeah. Okay, but you talking about me.
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And yeah, go ahead and check out this clip because we was having a ball. Yes, we went to four different cities having a time of our lives. So check it out. You guys ready?
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I'm Dre Nicole. And I'm Lex P. And together we are Travel Queens. From Charleston to the streets of Cardiana. We're eating good. That's up on Ellen. Drinking good. Cheers.
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It's going to be fun. We're taking you to incredible destinations with a special focus on the Black experience. Two Queens. One glow. Endless possibilities. Travel Queens. Series premiere Wednesday, April 23rd at 8 on BETR. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And we are here to tell y'all about Skylight Calendar.
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Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15-inch calendars by going to skylightcal.com slash poorminds. Go to skylightcal.com slash poorminds for $30 off of your 15-inch calendar. That is S-K-Y-L-I-G-H-T-C-A-L dot com slash poorminds. So what I was about to ask you two real quick is, like, what is a scam that you think is legendary? Because I know one that comes to my mind.
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A legendary scam. Okay. They didn't... Joanne. Joanne, the scammer. The scammer. So this is a legendary scam to me because just how young that they were. Y'all, there's a movie called American Animals. And it's about these kids who were in college. It's such a great movie. And they came up with like a big heist to steal one of the most...
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valued books in, like, art history that was at their college. And the things, the hoops that they jumped through to do this. And it was really kind of low-key, like, a perfect plan. I don't want to give the movie away because it's based on the true story. So it was one of those things that happened. I'm like, why would y'all ever think of this, being college students?
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And they would have got away with it, but you have to watch the movie. But that's probably, like, one of my favorite scams. Because if you try to steal art... Seriously, like, stealing art is very crazy, if you think about that. So, y'all have to watch American Animals. It's a really, really good movie. I've seen that movie before. Yeah.
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All these bitches is my sons. But I'm saying, I agree. Like, I guess when we started, back when we started, I didn't think about Poor Minds as a podcast. Like, I definitely just thought, like, oh, yeah, we just... Doing something. On the mics, doing whatever. Like, I didn't know what we was doing. Like, because it wasn't even us that thought to make it into a podcast.
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I was going to say, when they used to have them signs, you should be here. Ooh. But was that a good scam? Because everybody was doing it while it was running. While it was up and running, they was making a lot of money. Oh, my God.
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I don't know who owned it, though. I know. I wonder whoever started that, what they're doing now. Yeah, I wonder what they're doing. Probably. Probably on an island out the country with a new name. I need to tell Lacey on Scam Goddess to do an episode about that. Because she gets deep in her research. And she'll find it. Because you got to think about that.
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Everybody was like, what are you doing right now? You're doing nothing. You should be here. And they would be on a beach. On a beach. With that big-ass blue sign. Oh, my. That was a good one. Everybody was doing it, too. It was so many people on my timeline. They would be popping up out the blue. Every day, I would get on Instagram. Somebody knew on their story. You should be here.
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I'd be like, oh, fuck. They got you, too. See, that's how I know you smart. Because I used to be like, me? Should I be there? So why you never joined? I don't know. Air money don't make no money. Oh, I made some money, bitch, eventually. But I'm saying, why you ain't join them? I just, I don't know. On the beat. But I always used to look at them like, wow, they're living the life.
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I want to be there. I don't know. I was one of those people. I was always very skeptical about a lot of things. I thought everything was a scam. Maybe it was because of my mama because she think everything is a scam. So I just never used to trust that they would be making money like this. I think the people that I saw doing it though, it wasn't convincing. Because I'm like, I know you broke.
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So, I think that's kind of why I didn't ever sign up for it, though, because I already knew about pyramid schemes. Because I remember my... Because basically you're making money because all of these people are signing up under you, paying a membership. Right, right. That's how you're making money. Right.
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And I remember a long time ago, my friend was like, oh my gosh, I'm going to go, I got this meeting, I want you to come along with me. This guy I met, he's like a business, he's like a millionaire, and... He's going to put us on and whatever you need as far as your business. Like, oh, you trying to do media? He knows a bunch of people in the industry and all this stuff. Like, sold me this dream.
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And it was like, what was that business called? It was like Amtrax or something. Do y'all remember Amtrax? What is Amtrax? But it's basically like they sell everything, like groceries, food, and all this stuff. But it's basically the same thing. You sign people up. It's kind of like Mary Kay.
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Okay, but I don't want to say Mary Kay, because Mary Kay is kind of, but it's not, but it, you know, but it's kind of the same thing like that was. And I was just like, girl, I ain't not finna sell no goddamn fruit roll-ups. I'm trying to get in the media. I'm thinking I'm finna be some, right? I'm thinking J-Mac finna be here or somebody. Not J-Mac.
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Shout out to J-Mac. You know what I'm saying? I was so mad. So I know how to recognize a pyramid scheme from a mile away. When I used to sell insurance, I thought that was a scheme. Yeah. Yeah, it can be. I used to go door to door.
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I did that shit for like two weeks. And I went to like three houses. Yeah, because and then they make you do a whole interview process. Well, they make you do a whole interview process. And then even once you get like somebody to sign the policy or whatever, you get somebody to sign up for the life insurance, you still have to wait like a whole month or two before you get paid for it. Right.
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It was one of your friends that told us that we should turn it into a podcast. Because we was just doing a YouTube channel every week. And we didn't know what the hell we was doing. Remember that lemon pasta I made on our YouTube? It was so good. It was good. And you made a little Ghetto Bailey's. I did. The Ghetto Bailey's used to have everybody at the Christmas party.
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So, then, like, if the person ends up canceling or if anything just ends up happening, you won't end up getting paid. And it's only commission-based. So, basically, you going to work for free every day. It'll be, like, 50 people in a hot-ass room. Oh, my God. Making phone calls. Cold calls. Cold calls. You will literally have a list of phone numbers to call. And I was just like, you know what?
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I respect everybody who's cool. But this not for me. This just ain't for me, though. I don't got it in me. I remember when I went on a job interview one time, they were like, oh, this is a marketing job. They love to call it a marketing job. I'm like, oh, six figures? Wow. Oh, it's commission-based. Girl! I must have ran out that building so quick.
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And then they love to get the CEO to come and give you an inspirational, motivational talk. With that big ass suit on. I started off only getting one sale in six months. I was working here and I was calling people from those cold callies. And I only made one sale in six months and now I'm worth $50 million. This could be you. I was sitting right where you were. You just have to keep going.
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I know it gets rough. I know you might not want to make the calls, but just do it. Because what if I would have gave up? I wouldn't have my beautiful wife and my seven kids and my $10 million home. And my big-ass suit. And my big-ass teeth. They love a big-ass suit, bitch. And some big-ass teeth. Oh, my God. I was sitting. But you know what? It'll be 10 no's. All you need is one yes. One.
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Yeah, I was like, fuck that. And then they got the other people who work there. They're like managers who done had a few sales and now they're managers. So they be hype about their position because they feel like they're going to eventually be like the CEO. It's just all some scamming shit to me. Like, I don't know. There's not an easy way to make money. It's not.
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So if you ever hear something that's too good to be true, I'm sorry to be negative, Nancy. It's too good to be true. It truly is, yeah. It's no way to make, like, a lot of money real fast. I don't know why people are thinking that, unless you win a lottery or something in the eyes of daddies.
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Mm-hmm. So let us know, what's the biggest scam y'all have been involved in or anything? What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And y'all know tax season is upon us, and it's so important that you get your taxes right and get all your financial endeavors in order. So we're going to tell y'all about kickoff.com.
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I remember I drank it before I had to go to work. Was that the number? And I was so tipsy. Was that the same night? What same night?
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What unfaithful night? You know that unfaithful night. Girl, I don't know. I had a lot of, let me not say I had a lot of unfaithful nights. We talking about the night that, remember you got pulled over, but that was later on. Oh, that was late.
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And a black business at that. But I mean, We don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. All right, next topic. This is interesting. So the topic is, would you rather be rich and stressed or broke and peaceful? So if we break it down, like you rich and stressed, like, yeah, you got the money, but, you know, at what cost?
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Broke and peaceful, you know, you have no debt, no work stress, no toxic job drama, but you don't get luxury vacations, no shopping sprees, no eating out just because. You can't do nothing. But you're at peace. You're at peace. So would you rather be rich and stressed or broke and peaceful? Ain't no fucking such thing as being broke and peaceful.
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But that... You cannot be... You cannot change the hypothetical. Bitch, if you are broke, you have no peace. But you cannot change the hypothetical, Drea. That's not the hypothetical. The hypothetical is that you're really... I'm telling you my answer. The fuck? I'm telling you, I don't feel like you could be broke and peaceful, so I'm going to choose to be rich over anything.
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Because I feel like if you're rich and stressed, you could buy a piece. No, you can't. You can't. No, you can't. You could buy a little piece of piece. Girl, a piece of a piece. You could buy a little piece of piece. You could start going to therapy. Yes, you literally can. You could start going to therapy. You could start doing the work. You could go on some retreats. Okay.
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It's a lot that you can do when you have money. If you're stressed, to work on your stress, you can. A lot of people are stressed because they don't know how to manage the stress. I feel like you can figure out how to manage your stress, especially if you have some money. Right. If you are broke... You ain't at peace. I know that for a fact. You can't be. You ain't got no money.
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You can't even pay your bills. How are you peaceful? I have a little different view on that, though. So my first thing is, if you're rich and stressed, you know, obviously you have a busy schedule and this and that. But, you know, one thing that scares me is, first of all, people don't... Stress can kill you. Absolutely.
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So if you're rich and stressed, you can't even enjoy the fruits of your labor. Because I think it's crazy when I see rich people who work so hard, but you can't even enjoy yourself because you're so stressed out from trying to get to the money. But what I do also see that a lot of these people, like, if you go... And I know it sounds so cliche, but if you go to a lot of these, like...
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Because at that time when you made the hood, Bailey's, you was still living with me. Facts, facts, right, right. But I had to go to work that night. Like, I was still working in the clubs, and I had to go to work, and I was so tipsy. That back least had me so fucked up. And then I went to work, and I still was taking shots of Henny. I used to be young and reckless.
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villages, like when we went to Palenque and you see these people who don't have much and they don't have much of nothing and they are extremely happy. So I think sometimes the environment that we live in, the capitalism in our environment has taught us that you have to have all these materialistic things to be happy. So I do see where you're coming from.
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Because in the life I live, I could not be broke and peaceful. I couldn't. But that's because this is the environment I was raised in. And in America, that's what we teach you. But I do think on the other side that there is a life that looks like I don't have much, but I'm at peace because I don't need all that stuff.
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So I don't know what I would pick, honestly, because I don't want to be stressed because stress can kill you. But I don't want to be broke either. I don't want to be stressed either. But again, I think you can manage stress. You could better learn how to manage stress. That's not something that it didn't say you could do. Right. You know what I mean?
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So it's like, okay, if you're rich, but you're stressed out, figure out a way to manage your stress. Now you're just going to be rich. You know what I mean? Versus, I don't know. Like, I just think that when you are broke, if you cannot afford things, life is expensive. I just don't see how you could be peaceful in that.
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And like, I get what you're saying about, you know, using the example, like when we went to Palenque and stuff. That's fine, but I'm sure it's a lot of people. I feel like happiness is relative. Like, do we really know if people are really happy? You never know. It could be a lot of people who live there, but they still want more.
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But yeah, if this is your circumstance, if this is what you were born into, I think some people find a way to just be okay with the environment that they were born into. But at the end of the day, I personally always think it's human nature to just want more. I don't think that's true, though. I think that's... You want more. And that's okay. And that's why you have achieved that.
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But I think a lot of people... You don't... I think we don't understand some things because that's how our mind works. But we have to truly understand that some people are really... They don't want more. They are really okay with that. They don't want to... be on TV or travel the world. They don't want to see things. They are literally okay with where they're at. You know what I'm saying?
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So I think it's hard for us to understand because we want that. We want everything and we feel like it's so great and it's so fun. How could you not want this? But there are people that have completely different thought processes from us. But when I think of more, I don't necessarily think of somebody looking at more being traveling or being on TV.
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When I think about being young and reckless, me and my friends used to buy a bottle of Ciroc on Friday, the big bottle, and it would be gone by Sunday.
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You could want more for whatever it is that your goal is in life. Like somebody who lives in a small village, their goal might be just to be able to buy a home, buy an actual home with air conditioning. That could be a goal for them. I do. I think most people want more. People's definition of more varies from person to person based off of the life that you want.
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But I think most people want more in life. Nobody wants... to just be in a fucked up situation. I think the problem is a lot of people don't know how to get themselves out of those situations or they don't have the resources. But I also think, too, it's probably not a fucked up situation to them. Or wanting more, they probably feel like they have it all.
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If they live in a village and they're like, you know, my family's here. We're all healthy. You know, we wake up. We go get our water. We have our cat. Whatever that they're doing, that's probably they have achieved more. Some people really view their lives like I have everything I've ever wanted. You know what I'm saying? So that's why I said I see both ways because the life I live...
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Because you know why? The reason I say that? That's what I'm saying. I've been broke before, and I'm not going back. At all. Not going back. But I think that's because of the environment I was raised in. I can't say how I would be if I grew up somewhere else. I don't know what I would be content at. I was never content as a child. I always wanted to get out of Orange. I never wanted to be there.
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I've always wanted more, but that's me. You know what I'm saying? A lot of people are like me, but there are people who are completely opposite. There are some people who are still in Orange, Texas that feel like this is what I wanted. I did that. I grew up, graduated from Little Cypress, and I'm here. I'm living in my nice little apartment. I got my husband.
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The blue. And we would be at the liquor store. I'm not going to lie to y'all. Diddy used to have people waiting in line for that Ciroc like they was some J's, bruh. Essentially when the new flavors would come out. When the new flavors... I remember when the coconut came out. No, when that peach hit, the streets was going crazy. Facts, facts.
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I got my kids, and I'm content with this. I'm happy. I'm not rich, but I'm content with my life. I did what I wanted to do. You know what I'm saying? So I think there are two sides to the coin. But if I had to pick, yeah, I'm going to be rich and stressed. I'm sorry. I'm going to be like Dre. I'm going to go to therapy. I'm going to go to retreat.
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Baby, I'm going to be the best therapist money can buy. Agreed. I do agree with that. Y'all going to see me in Bali. Yeah, I do agree.
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I'm definitely... Working on my breathing. When I turn 40, I cannot wait to take my eat, pray, love moments. Like, I look forward to stuff like that. But I do think there is a lot of peace that you can find that's beyond of the wanting more. I think I talked about this on the show. I can't remember. I saw a TikTok video of this old woman.
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And she was talking and she said, at some point you have to stop and enjoy your life. She said, I'm 80 years old. And every time I had something, it was like, okay, but I'll be happy when I get this. Then I'll be happy when I get this. Then I'll be happy. She said, I lived my whole entire life trying to reach goals. And she was like, now I'm 80. And I'm like, I spent my whole life chasing things.
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I never enjoyed what I had. So I think that we do have to find a lot of peace in being happy where we are right now. Still chase your goals, but just have that balance, I think. I think a lot of times we get caught up in like, oh, I want to be a millionaire. You hit one. Now, oh, I got to hit five. Now I got five. I got to hit 10 or whatever the case may be. You've got a podcast.
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You got 1,000 views and whatever. Now, you always work towards something, but sometimes it's okay to take a moment and clap for yourself and enjoy where you're at right now. So I do think we need to find a balance of that. Yeah. Like being at peace, but also kind of, you know, it's all right to be a little working towards something, but also being at peace at where you are in life.
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Yeah, and I don't know. I feel like you can have both. Like, I hate when people try to ask, would you rather be this or would you rather be that? Why I can't be rich and happy as hell? Because it's like... I think because I think... Why the fuck not? Well, because you know what it is? I think because a lot of rich people... Are unhappy. Do we know that for a fact, though?
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Well, they say that. Well, they say that. I think people say that to make themselves feel better about being rich.
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I think what it is is that people think that money solves your problems and it doesn't. So I think that's the point that they're trying to make. If you're depressed, you're not all of a sudden going to become a millionaire and all your problems are solved. You see what I'm saying? That's fair, but I feel like it's always people that's not millionaires that say that. Mm-hmm.
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No, it'd be millionaires that'd be saying it, too. I mean, we've seen people who are millionaires commit suicide. Half the time, people that are committing suicide are these CEOs of these companies and things like that. And it's also broke people. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
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But what I'm saying is... I feel like people commit suicide no matter where you are in life, no matter how much money you make, no matter what your net worth is. I feel like you as a person have to be at peace. That's why I said I feel like you can have both. It doesn't necessarily matter if you're rich. It doesn't matter if you're poor. It's about a mindset.
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And people used to love the peach Ciroc with spring in a little pineapple juice. That red berry and cranberry juice. I never liked the red berry. It tastes like cough medicine. But people used to... They liked the red berry with the cranberry.
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Some people are committed to being miserable. Some people have mental health issues. It's a lot of different things that people are struggling with that has nothing to do with how much money they have coming in. I think it's about a mindset and choosing because I also feel like even if you have mental health issues, it's things that you can go to therapy.
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You can try to actively work on those things. Some people choose to just give up. You know what I mean? Or if people are stressed and it's a lot going on in their life, how do you manage the stress? How do you deal with the stress? Or are you just going to mope around about the fact that you stressed out? Are you going to try to find a solution? Or are you just going to sit in it? Right, right.
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You know, like, I think those things matter. And I feel like a lot of the time when the majority of the population is saying that stuff because the majority of the population is not rich, I think that, you know, people just trying to say that. Well, the reason I said that narrative, because I watched this divorce lawyer. I wish I knew his name.
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He's a divorce lawyer, and he always makes really good points. I'm a... By the time this comes out, I'm going to have Javi put the link with one of his TikToks. But the reason he talks about that so much is just because a lot of people do think, oh, if I was rich, it would solve all my problems. So that was the only thing I was saying. Now, I do agree with you.
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rich people not really happy rich people be evil but it is a lot of people that feel like oh once I got here and when it comes to anything money marriage kids getting a certain car getting a certain job you think once I reach this goal it'll solve all my problems and it doesn't and I agree with you you have to do that inner work yeah you have to do the work I don't know why people think they can escape the work right becoming a happy person is not something well I mean I do feel like some people are just naturally happy people yeah
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She like him. Drea! This is like the third week in a row that you brought that man up. Nobody. Lex P. R. Kelly.
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Okay. Club and college too. At Howard. But when that pineapple dropped, like you went to somebody's house and they had all the sarats. You were like, oh girl, you got money. I hit the jackpot, girl. What a simple time thinking niggas had money because they had Ciroc bottles in their home. Man, what? Because at my home, we had McCormick bottles. Now see? Now see? We did.
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I forgot what the fuck I was saying. I'm sorry. You was saying happy people. But I forgot what the fuck my point was. Some people are naturally happy people. Oh, I was going to say, I think some people are naturally happy people. And to be honest, I mean, we all started off happy. Did we? Yes. I came out the womb crying. I don't know about y'all. I came out that coochie crying.
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You was probably crying because you was cold, bitch. And you don't remember what you was doing. I was like, God! We is not about to sit here and act like you remember what you was doing the day you was born. I told you I do. I was crying. Girl, but no, I feel like we were all born happy. Like, if you go back to being a child, you were happy as a child. Life has hardened you.
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Like, life has made you unhappy. Life has made you not be content with yourself or content with the circumstances and content with what you have.
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Because you looking at other people or it might be trauma that you've been through. It might be a bad relationship. Now you closed off to love and you don't know if you want to give your heart to somebody again. You walking around angry all the time because these niggas got you fucked up. You know what I mean? Like, I think life makes people that way. I think we all start off happy.
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So at the end of the day... If you feel like you're not yourself no more or if you want to get back to being a happy person, you have to do the work. Yeah. And it's not easy doing the work to become a better person and a better version of yourself. It is not easy. If it was easy, everybody would be doing it. We would have a... World full of good people and we don't. And we don't.
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It's way more bad people than it is good people. Yeah. But I said that to say, I think that you can be happy and rich. You just have to do the work. And I don't know why people be trying to push, put the narrative up that, like, all rich people are miserable and evil. Because I just feel like... You can't generalize any group of people. I agree with that.
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You have good people and bad people in every group. But I think a lot of times when people try to categorize rich people as being evil, it's because sometimes people abuse their power. And that goes with just... That's in... Broke people, middle class, rich. Because you know what?
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Just like how we talked about when you had a manager at your old job that used to be so mean to you because she finally was in a position of power and she was abusing it. You can find that... She wasn't rich. She just had a little... Exactly. That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying. So it's going to be... Promotion. That's what I'm saying. I agree with you.
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It comes in every single, you know, community as far as that. But... It's like people abuse their power at every level, but I will say, like I said, I don't want people to feel like always chasing something and it's going to fix your issues. Like Drea said, you got to do that inner work.
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They don't want to do the work. They don't want to go to therapy and stuff because they don't be wanting to have to hold that mirror up. That's what it be. Ooh, they hate. Because I think a lot of the time people know what's wrong. And, of course, we're talking about mental health and mental issues aside. But people be knowing what's wrong with them a lot of the time.
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They know what they need to work on. And then they hate people that hold that mirror up to them and tell them about their stuff. Yes. They don't want to hear it because they don't want to do the work. It's much easier to stay the same and make excuses for why you are where you are than to do the work and realize that you your biggest obstacle. So, yeah. Ain't that a word? So, let us know.
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But I'm saying, though, that's... In college, me and my best friend, my roommate in college, we used to make the little trash can punch and we would save the bottles of McCormick. And we had them on top of our cabinet. How tacky is that?
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Big, big, big fucking difference. What's the difference? Oh my gosh. So there's a difference between being sexy and sexual, yes. There is sometimes you can see a woman or a man walking somewhere fully clothed and they just, ooh, sex appeal. Sometimes people just, they're just sexy people. Like they can't help it. It's the shape of their eyes, their mouth, the way they talk.
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Then I upgraded when I moved into my apartment in Houston, and it was the Carlos Rossi bottles. Y'all know the Carlos? The wine? Yes, but you know how they have the big jug. The jug. The sangria. The sangria was my fave. You are so ratchet. But that let you know how much we was drinking because we had enough to go around the whole kitchen. Oh, sure. And then... Uh-oh.
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Some people are just naturally sexy. I think a good example of that is Rihanna. It doesn't matter what Rihanna has on. She could have on a muumuu and she could just be, have a video of her just laughing and she just looks sexy. I think she's just a naturally sexy person. Being sexual is you deviants that be on Twitter all day tweeting about seven in the morning.
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Oh, I would love if I had a big fat cock in my mouth. Babe, did you brush your teeth yet? A horny frog. And don't get me wrong, I don't slut shame, I don't, but even men do that. I mean, I will post something that hasn't, I'll be like, oh my gosh, I hope I have a good day today. Well, if I was there dicking it down, you'd be having a great day. Ew, that's just being sexual. It's not sexy.
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It's overbearing. And it's just a lot. There is a huge difference. No, that's being an offender. Yeah, but I... You being a sexual offender.
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You harassing me saying some shit like that. That's past sexual. Yes, I think people definitely mix the two. I think sometimes you'll see a man or a woman take a picture trying to be sexy and it comes off cringe. Yes. I don't want to say names, but there was this...
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photo shoot I saw, and it was a celebrity, and she was, like, in a tub of, like, milk and Oreos, and it was just... Now, why would you say that? Because everybody know exactly who the hell you talking about. My bad. But what? I don't want to say who it is. There's a lot of people that do milk and Oreo photo shoots. Name somebody else. Oh, you said somebody else. Yeah. A lot.
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I can Google it real quick. But I say all that to say... Beautiful woman. Kev on stage did it afterwards. Exactly. See, see? After. And it wasn't sexy, Kev. It was a parody. And it wasn't sexy, Kev. You see? I say all that to say, I think when you try to be sexy, then it just kind of messes it up. I think when you're just naturally like... Teyana Taylor is another person.
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She's just naturally sexy. It's something about her eyes. And it doesn't matter what she have on. She got on some cargos or she got on a sexy dress. It just... Some people just have that. And that's okay. Not everybody is meant to be sexy. That's not like... The end-all, be-all, if you're not sexy, it's okay.
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But when you try to be sexy, there's a huge difference between being sexual and being sexy. Yeah, I feel like sex appeal is natural. It's just one of those things, either you have it or you don't. And like you said, if you don't have it, it's okay. But I just think we live in a time where everybody wants to be sexy. Everybody feel like they have to be the baddest bitch.
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They have to be the most sexy. sexiest or the finest. So that's why I feel like you have a lot of people who be trying to sell that image or give off that image when it's just not natural and you can always see through it. And I think, remember how we talked about how everybody think they funny? Everybody think they sexy. Everybody think, that's agreed. Nobody wants to stay in their lane anymore.
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Like nobody... I'm sexy so he nervous. And that nigga do not be nervous. Nigga hands be stiff as fuck when you around. Nobody's shaking, bitch. That was a bar. But you know what? That's a perfect example. Sexy red. I think the way that sexy carries herself and just be like, yeah, I'm sexy. That's sexy to me. Yeah. I think that's sexy when a person is confident in who they are.
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I don't give a fuck what y'all say. Any woman that a gay name herself Ming Lee... And you ain't from China. I don't know if I can trust you. People, because y'all put pregnancy on me. All I, and all it was, was I ate a can of beans and had a few shots of tequila, bitch. I just got back from a little happy hour at Papa Cito's. And y'all was like, you pregnant, like pregnant. Congratulations.
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She pregnant. Oh, she pregnant. And baby, I had just ate. So the only reason I'm being very, oh, he don't play about me. This nigga is swinging on the swing set right now. Swinging on the merry-go-round, baby. Oh, he playing all day on that PS5 Mario Kart, okay? That's crazy. That's like you having a sexual assault case and R. Kelly being like, oh, yeah, bro, I support you. Hey, I'm good.
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Why is my phone not on vibrate? How unprofessional of me. We was really some alcoholics, low-key. Literally. You know what? This is how bad we were. So we used to get the Ciroc on Fridays, and then we weren't supposed to drink on the job, obviously, when I was working at Dreams. So we used to put the liquor in water bottles.
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I'm good, bro. I don't need none of that support. I don't want none of your prayers. Somebody sent me something on my phone and said that a Hulk tied her. I don't know how the Hulk tied people. What would a Hulk tie her? One day I will get married. And my dad is not going to be here to walk me down the aisle. Things that I just always thought that he would be here for.
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And, you know, be able to experience with me. And I just know he would be so proud of everything that I'm doing. The woman that I'm becoming. How far I've come. Especially with my attitude, y'all. Because... Woo! I was something else when I was growing up. But... Like I said, it's just a bittersweet thing. She's not trying to be anything. So y'all can't relate.
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Niggas do be, because she's sexy, they do be nervous. We done seen it. We done seen it. So I just feel like when you're just naturally who you are, that comes off as sexy. Not you trying to be sexy. You know what I'm saying? Some people can look at... That's debatable. I mean, some people just being naturally who they are, it don't come off as sexy. And it don't come off as sexy. But it's okay.
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But it might be sexy to somebody. Yeah, it's going to be sexy to somebody, but I think that's the point that I'm making. It don't have to be sexy. Like, you don't have to be sexy. Who the fuck said you got to be sexy? Big sexy. Down! Before Big Sexy. Before there was a Big Sexy, who told y'all y'all had to be sexy? Right, right. You know what I mean? Everybody wants to be everything, I think.
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Social media has made people feel like they want to be everything. And people not okay with admitting what they not. Yeah. Which is okay. Everybody can't be everything. You can't be everything. You can't be everything and that's okay. That's the, I think we have lost the art and the love for being unique. Yup.
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And that's the issue. You see this girl. Everybody want to be like everybody else. Yes, you see this girl. She is hilarious. Now you want to be hilarious. And then you see this girl. She is very poised and educated and this and that. And then you trying to act like her. Then you see this sexy girl. You trying to act like her. Who are you? Why don't nobody want to be unique? Because...
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Like nobody wants to be themselves anymore. Everybody looks up to everybody else and wants to imitate, emulate them. People don't, and a lot of people don't have confidence. I feel like because they're constantly comparing themselves online all the time.
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Every time you get online, if you looking at a whole bunch of girls who have a certain body type and you don't have that body type, are you looking at girls who can go get their hair done every week and you can't go get your hair done every week?
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So it got to the point to where, like, we would stay the night at each other's houses, me and my friends at the time that I bartended with. Mm-hmm. And there would be so many bottles of water in our room. Like, we didn't know what was liquor and what was water. I remember one morning I woke up thirsty and hungover. I grabbed a bottle and I took a big old gulp of nothing but Ciroc.
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Girls who drive certain cars, who live certain lifestyles and you feel like you're not living that, then you're not you're no longer confident in yourself. And now you feel like you have to be like them. Look, I must be missing something. Yeah. I have to be like them in order to get those things, obviously. So let me try to act more like this person.
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Because then maybe I'll yield the same results, you know? But... it's no longer okay and cool to be yourself. I feel like back in the day, it was okay to be yourself because you didn't know what the next bitch was doing. It was no way for you to know. You couldn't even copy bitches because you didn't know what they was doing. Right, exactly, exactly. It wasn't no internet.
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It wasn't no social media. You can't keep up with nobody. Content creating wasn't a job. So now they see these content creators, how they live, to add to your point. So they're like, oh, if I want to be a content creator and make all this money, I need to do what she's doing. Right. When a lot of these...
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A lot of content creators that y'all see that have been OGs in the game, that have been making money for years, they were original. They were themselves. I always use Jackie as an example because y'all know I love me some Jackie down. Jackie has been herself since day one. Jackie is probably like one of the influencers I've seen that she has never changed.
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So when people started all of a sudden coming out saying things about her like, oh my God, Jackie has literally been this way since day one. Very much like, I'm that girl. I like this. I'm bougie. I'm very much giving this. Mm. But I still like to, you know, fuck around with the fuck around. You know what I'm saying? She's been that way since day one. So y'all just got here.
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But that's the blessing you get when you are authentically yourself. You get to go on and have an amazing career. You get to be somebody who transferred from YouTube to TikTok and whatever, you know, all the endeavors that she has. So I think we do need to get back to that. I know we got off topic from the sexy versus sexual. But I think that's a good point that you made. Like...
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There's so much value in being unique. Yeah. People don't want to be unique no more. They feel like they got to agree. People be afraid to disagree with people. They be afraid to really speak they mind because they afraid of how people going to respond to them or react to them or about not being liked. Who give a fuck about not being liked? Do you like yourself? Mm-hmm. Come on now.
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Like, I always say that, for real. Because I feel like so many people care so much about what other people think and being liked by other people. Do you like you? Because if you like you, then you wouldn't be worried what everybody else is thinking. It matters way more what you think about yourself. And I feel like... Yeah. We just live in a time where everybody want to be like everybody else.
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That's why everybody want to be sexy. Yeah. And that's why I say, another point to like, sexy doesn't say much. It's quiet. When you're sexy, sexy just gives like, I'm just, it's a moment. I always say that in general, though. I feel like that about sex appeal. But I also feel like that about confidence. I feel like people that are confident, not saying that they confident all the time.
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They not saying. always overly boastful or like, I'm that bitch, I'm this, I'm that. They just that bitch. They just exist. And people can see it. You know what I mean? They don't have to say it all the time. I always feel like when people are like trying really hard to convince you, they also trying to convince they self. Right. Because I think there's a thin line. You know what I'm saying?
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It be a thin line like, you know, you can pop your shit every now and then like, baby, I look good today. Or, ooh, it's giving what it's supposed to give. But if it's like all day, that's all you talking about online, like all day. I am so this. I am so that. It's just a thin line between like feeling yourself and it's like who you trying to convince.
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It ain't even got to be all day because if you doing it all day, you just annoying as fuck and your account need to get disabled. Oh, damn. I feel I need to take them out. Yeah, your account need to get disabled. Because who the fuck want to see that shit all day? But even if you do it every day, like, I feel like every once in a while, like, every blue moon, cool.
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You know how bad that is to take a shot when you're already hungover? Mm-hmm. But you know, they say, see, and again, yet another way that I know me and my friends was really borderline alcoholics. You know, they say you supposed to drink. When you have a hangover, it make you feel better. But like beer and stuff though, right? Nah, sometimes you can take a shot. They say hard liquor?
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But I just feel like if you have to say things all the time or try to prove to people, you not really that. And you don't really think that you that either. That's why you trying so hard to...
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come off sexy or you're trying so hard to come off confident or to say you sexy and say you confident all the time because you not really because if you was we could see it like that's your original point about Rihanna Rihanna don't go around saying I'm sexy I'm beautiful I'm fine I'm rich I'm this I'm that because she don't have to say that because you see what the fuck going on
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I don't even see the material. I just feel like, yes, like, be calm. Be cool. Because people always going to see what the fuck going on. You ain't even got to say it. The people going to be saying it for you. Yeah, I like to let people say shit for me. I just be like, hmm, because period. Now, when people say it, I do be like, period. Because facts.
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But I'm not about to just be like, because, yeah, I'm that bitch. I'm this.
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Like, it's just not that easy. I think it's like you said I think it's like let the people say it for you yeah let the people say it just let them talk for you you know what I'm saying period so let us know what y'all think the difference between being sexy and sexual is cause it's a huge difference Just because you slap some lingerie on and post a picture don't mean it's sexy.
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Or men, just because you slap some boxers on and post a picture... And some body oil. ...don't mean it's sexy. Like, I hate those videos when they be cooking and they be, like, rubbing on the chicken and stuff and spanking it. Have you ever seen those videos? Or eating a hot dog and doing this. Please. Please. I hate it. I hate it so bad. I don't like it either. It's just too suggestive.
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Very annoying. It's very suggestive because like, bitch, we see what the fuck you trying to do. And it's not, it's not clicking. It's not. It's not. Okay, so of course my item of the week is MuseBeautyCollection.com. Get your matte liquid lipsticks, lip liners, lip glosses. We have a lip plumper now and jelly blushes. And we also just dropped our new mascara and eyeliner.
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So make sure y'all go to MuseBeautyCollection.com and cop that, period. Period. And y'all make sure y'all go to richlookhair.com. Get all your bundles, customized units, and all that good stuff. She did an amazing job on my little ginger look here. So shout out to DeeDee at richlookhair.com. All right. So now it's time to get into the bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow.
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I don't know why I be wanting to do this dance. Because it just gives what it's supposed to give. This remind me of that girl from the Apple store. Y'all remember that girl? Oh, my gosh, yes. You know, she's like a menace on TikTok now. What's she?
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What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. We don't. You know what's crazy? So somebody had tweeted me yesterday and they were like, when are y'all going to start letting regular people come on the show?
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Sometimes regular liquor too, but we did used to drink beer. Like me and Lynn would go to our job when we worked at Sweet Lounge. We used to go to work the next day hungover and she would be like, you want to drink a Heineken? That is something. That is Lynn. Lynn is Jamaican. She is. That is a Jamaican. She love a good cold brewski. Girl. Not the red stripe. Well, we ain't have red stripes.
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She just be on there cutting up. What does she be doing? She just be on there cussing people out and just be being mean. I mean, kind of no reason, but it just be a lot going on. You got to get in them TikTok streets, girl. But I mean, so like she's popular on there. I mean, yeah, she is. Okay. She just be, you know, doing a lot. That's so funny. What a time to be alive. I'm telling you.
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Because we used to be up in that Apple store taking pictures on the laptop. Just cutting up for no reason. In there not buying a goddamn thing. Just in there after school. So, what you been listening to? So, I love this artist. I just love her voice. And I'm just glad that she's been consistently dropping great music. There's an artist. Her name is Akilah. She had that song, Bloom.
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I don't know if y'all remember that song. What is it you see? What is it you see? So, she has a new song called Wolf that dropped, I think, like, last month or something. But... She's just kind of like telling a man, like, you better stop playing in my face.
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So it's a good anthem if you got somebody playing in your face and you need something to hype you up, you know, and make you stand on business. Because you know how men do. They be in your face, treating you like trash, and then they want to cry wolf to try to get you back. You know what I'm saying? They love to act like, oh, I'm a change, baby, please, baby, please. I'm a young black man.
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You know, they love to do that. Okay. So, this is a song about men crying wolf. Men love to cry wolf because they cry, they get you back and start doing the same thing over again. Oh, you felt that, huh, AWOL? See, the men don't like that behind the camera.
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Oh, thank you, Ty. So, yes, shout out to Akilah. She has a song called Wolf. That's my bop of the week. What you got? So, my bop is Can't Hide It by Lil Durk and Jhene Aiko. Okay. I love a good, I love me a good rap R&B collab. I really do. And plus, you know, I love Jhene Aiko. I was about to say, I love Lil Durk. I was about to say, okay. Well, I do like Lil Durk. Lil Durk got some hits.
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I don't know what he did. I would rather be on the side of freeing him than not. Okay, I agree with you.
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Okay, now, I ain't mad at that. I ain't mad at that. Shout out to Lil Durk. I know he dropped an album. I haven't listened to it yet. I haven't listened to the whole album. I escaped my little Chicago moment I had, but I'm going to listen to it. I'm going to go back, you know. I did. I had a whole era. I don't know why I'm like that.
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I have, like, little eras of, like, music that I just... I listen to all types of music. Like I told y'all, I have a playlist that'll literally go from Master P to Dolly Parton, okay? Make them say... Literally, to Jolene, okay? But I have, like, little pockets to where I, like, really enjoy, like, a genre of music. I'm, like, in this really, like, pop era kind of right now.
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Like, the pop girlies are doing it. Kesha is back. Is she for real? She got a song with T-Pain. Oh, you don't have to send me the song because I like Kesha. Oh, my gosh. T-Pain is still that guy.
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And I just need y'all to really, like, stop playing on my man. Top! But, yeah, he brought Kesha back. Like, are you kidding me? So, like, I'm in this little, like, pop. I'm enjoying the pop songs right now. I think the pop girls are doing their thing. But, yeah, I have my little era where I was in Chicago, drill music real bad. You know who need to make a comeback? Who? Fetty Wap.
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And stop making makeup and make a comeback. Rihanna. No. Lady Gaga. Lady Gaga just dropped an album. She did? She's about to go on tour, bro. I had no idea. Oh, come on! Well, you have never put her song as a vibe. I talked about it the other week. You did? Yes! The episode. It was like, who did I talk about it on the episode with? I did. Lady Gaga.
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Then she, the song debuted on Super Bowl. I had no idea. Abracadabra. A hit. I'm going to just go listen to it. Okay. I sound just like it. You know. I gave you a good example. I don't think that it probably sounds quite like that. But oh my God, I had no idea. And I love Lady Gaga. I did not know she had a new album. Did you listen to the whole album? I haven't listened to the album.
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So we had to make do with what we had. We had a little Heineken. And I never would finish mine because I would be like, ew, I don't see how you drink this. I don't like beer. I do not. I've never been a beer girl. I don't like beer. You like beer? I love IPAs. Oh, okay. I forgot. Ty know her stuff. She's deep in that bag. Yeah, you like a beer connoisseur.
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Has it dropped yet? Let me see. Mayhem. Oh yeah, it dropped. The album dropped. When did it come out? I haven't. March 7th. So it just dropped a few weeks ago. But yeah, she dropped that single on Super Bowl. I love me some Lady Gaga. What a time. What? When we were in high school. The things that that lady gave to us are... Bad Romance was my song. Remember we sang it for karaoke? We did.
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We did sing Bad Romance. You know who else needs to make a comeback that I will be here for? I wouldn't mind if Britney got her shit together. I think she got one more in her. I just... She got one more in her, bro. I don't think so. You don't think so? I don't. I think she can do it. I don't think so. She need to get a little Timbaland track. He can bring her back now.
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What if she rip her skirt off on the stage? Fine with me. Fine with me. And start dancing in them panties. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Okay. Okay, guys. I just don't know. Like, maybe she could go on, like, a little compilation tour. I would love that. You know, kind of like how Escape did. Wasn't it like Escape and SWV? So, yeah, I feel like maybe she could do something like that, like her, Christina.
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Ooh, Christina. Because they not beefing no more. No, they not. But Christina can really sing. Oh, Jessica Simpson just dropped a new single. Jessica Simpson. And I used to like Jessica Simpson back in the day. Yes, and they said the single is actually good. Okay, we're going to have to go listen to it. Yeah, we're going to have to listen to it. Shout out to Jessica Simpson. Shout out to our girl.
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Ain't she from Texas? Yeah, Dallas. Dallas. Ashley Simpson had one of the best rock albums. On a Monday, I am waiting. And she's a Ross now. Child. I'm not going to even talk about that. She was deep in her bag. She got... Because her first... Who was her first baby daddy? It was the man from... Pete Witts? Was it Pete Witts? Yeah, it was. I think so. Right? Let me look. Yeah, I think so.
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And then she had a baby. Child, that is crazy. With a little Ross. Was it... Is that his name? I think it was Pete Wentz. Ashley Simpson, yep. Damn, I'm really too deep in the pop culture streets. I knew it was one of them from a boy band back in the day, from a rock band. I couldn't remember who exactly it was. But yeah, shout out to the Simpsons. Man, shout out to the Simpsons, the time.
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Because they probably like, what the fuck is an IPA? Well, I used to want to drink Coronas so bad because they just looked good. Yeah. With the salt and the lime, I was like, oh my gosh, they have to be good. Because my sister, I don't know if she still drinks them, but she used to drink Coronas. And I just, I wanted to drink it so bad. And honestly, bartending...
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All right, moving on. We're getting to our favorite segment of the week, Pour Your Heart Out. If you have a question, advice, anything that you need answered on the show, make sure you email us at askpoorminds at gmail.com. If you are a Patreon girl... Sorry, y'all. I'm struggling. I got it. If you're a Patreon girlie or guy, make sure you put that in the subject line.
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You get to skip the line, period, okay? Y'all, make sure y'all keep the questions and whatever you're typing real short, cute, and sweet, okay? Love y'all. You got some emojis on yours. I know. Hey, Drea and Lex, I love the podcast and the advice y'all give. It's super entertaining, and I learn something every episode. I'm 16 and started dating my first boyfriend last June.
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Things were great until he ended it due to problems at home. I took it hard but accepted it. Before I could fully move on, he came back asking to start over, and I said yes. At first, things were good, but when I wanted something more serious, he kept saying he wasn't ready. We started arguing, and I finally told him it's best we don't speak until he knows what he want. What do y'all think?
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I think that you're 16, and you need to go watch Peppa Pig. Why are you watching Poor Minds? That's what I said. Now, how you find out about the show, baby? How did you find out about these? Girl, you are 16. You need to focus on school. She said. And what college you getting into. These boys, he's not ready. He's 16. You not ready. She said, don't speak to me until you know what you want.
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She is 16 at war. She is at war with that man. Girl. Because I now want to know. That is not a man. He a boy. They both kids. Now I want to know how old he is. She didn't say he was no kid. I don't like this. You need to stop watching Poor Minds. He having problems at home. He could be with his wife. I hope not, because we got a case on our hands. I hope the hell not.
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When we used to have these frozen mugs and we would put the beer in it and the beer would literally freeze and get so frothy. Like, and they look, it looks so good, but the taste. It's not bad to me if you, like a Corona is not that bad when you put grenadine in it. But then I feel like that takes away from the integrity of the beer. Right. Yeah. So, but I like it with a little grenadine.
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I'm just saying, I don't be putting nothing past these men. You know how they be. Yeah, you right. And then 16-year-old girls be thinking that they be doing something. They be like, oh, my boyfriend's 20, my boyfriend's 21. Yeah, girl. I had a few friends like that. You are off totally, even trying to let a boy stress you out at 16. I honestly hope you aren't even watching this to get the answer.
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Because you don't even need to be watching Poor Minds. This is for grown folks. Oh, she going to tune in and she going to be showing her friends in class. Look, y'all, that answer my question. Girl, go study. I agree. You are 16. You supposed to be worried about your college applications very soon. I agree.
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Whenever y'all be writing in and y'all be worried about men and y'all be under like 25, I just, my answer is going to always be let it go. Let it go. Like another love. TKO. Yeah, just let it go. You can always find someone else. Like at 16, a boy or a man, whatever he is, should not be consuming your thoughts. Agreed. Agreed. All right. Hello, ladies.
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I'm a 22-year-old young intern boy from Dallas. Shout out to the Gritty Grove. My best friend and I admire y'all's friendship and the growth we've seen on screen. Lately, we've been dealing with some codependency issues and want to work on it. Do y'all have any advice on maintaining a healthy friendship balance? Have you and Drea ever gone through something similar? How did y'all grow through it?
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A self-proclaimed number one stand. P.S. Lex P and Drea Nicole, y'all are the baddest Leo and Taurus out right now. From a Sagittarius. Fire sign game. Do I love me a Sagittarius? Those are the emojis he put. Let me see. I seen them emojis at the end. Okay. So what advice do you have? For codependency? I don't know. I don't feel like we were ever just codependent.
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I don't think we have that personality trait. We're not codependent on anybody. Yeah. But I don't... Yeah. I'll say this. Go ahead. Go ahead. I'm sorry. Well, I was just going to say, I don't even necessarily know if I feel like that's like a bad thing with your friend. I think it is. You think so? Because I was going to say, I mean, I think it's good to have a friend that you...
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have a really strong bond with that you probably might feel like you could talk to them about whatever or you feel like they're always there for you. You know, they always a phone call away or you can go hang with them whenever you're going through things. Like, I think it's good to have those type of relationships. Like, I'm wondering if it really is codependency or... That's what I'm saying.
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Obviously, it's a point to where it's becoming unhealthy because what you're talking about is just being a friend and being there. Yeah. I think a little codependency comes when, it's becoming overbearing for one person. And they can't be there for you if they're not all the way there or what they have going on.
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That's why I said for me and my friends, I do have some friends that are... They are codependent a lot with their community. So I have let them know, hey... I don't mind being there for you, but like I said, sometimes when you call me, you got a lot going on, just check in with me. Hey, Lex, do you have the capacity to talk about this today?
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I think it's okay to draw boundaries with your friends because people think that drawing boundaries means I'm being mean and I don't want you next to me. That's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying, like, let's make sure that we are both in the mind frame to talk or have these conversations. So I think what y'all need to do is draw healthy boundaries.
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So maybe that's something that y'all need to practice. Hey, friend, can you talk today? Are you in the mental capacity to talk today? Because I got this, I got something going on I want to talk to you about. But if you're not in the headspace, it's okay.
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So just create healthy boundaries. I think a lot of times people look at boundaries like, oh, they're being mean, they don't want to talk, but we all got shit going on. So let's just be more respectful. Let's have more respect for other people's mental space. So I don't know if that's exactly the issue, but that's something that I've done in my personal other friendships.
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Like I said, I don't think me and you have ever had that problem. No. But... I think anything is worth talking about. We can say that. Any issue that we've ever had in the past, we always just be like, okay, friend, what's up? We finna talk it out. No matter how avoidant somebody is, you gotta put it on the floor. I agree. I think y'all just need to have a healthy conversation because...
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Whoever is feeling that way or if y'all are both feeling that way, there's a way to, like Lex said, set healthy boundaries. So y'all just need to have a good conversation and figure out what works best for y'all's relationship. Because you don't want to, you know, start feeling like... Yeah, it seems like y'all love each other. Whatever, so... Yeah, y'all love each other.
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And then at one point I used to call myself trying to drink a little cider. Oh, the angry orchard. And I used to love angry orchard. And then I like sake too. You know, sake is kind of similar to beer, right? It's like a wine.
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You know what I'm saying? All right, y'all. Make sure y'all tune in to Travel Queens on BET Her. Available on other platforms the next day. Check that out. Love Lex P. New episodes drop every Monday on my YouTube channel, Lex P, at 10 a.m. Yes, make sure y'all follow my YouTube channel, Dre and Nicole with three E's.
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I drop vlogs weekly and I also drop like, you know, beauty content, chit chats, life advice, all of that good stuff. So yeah, make sure y'all subscribe to my YouTube channel and shopmusebeautycollection.com. Period. Hashtag Travel Queens BET. And we'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff.
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And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P-O-U-R underscore m-i-n-d-s y'all are tagging the wrong poor minds page if you see at poor minds with no underscore that is a fake page do not follow that page okay they blocked me andrea and the poor minds page on both so we only have one instagram
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one twitter one tiktok it is p-o-u-r underscore m-i-n-d-s all right and we got a hell of fake facebook page oh the facebook page is our face the crazy thing is our facebook page actually have the least amount of followers so if you're on facebook the one that's ours Got the least amount of followers. The one that's not us got like 250,000 followers.
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It's in, like, the same family. We used to put that crown apple in the Angry Orchard. Oh, baby, we used to cut up. We thought we was doing something.
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But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English. Because their captions are like, Bamba Claude. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes, no. Check answer below. Blah, blah. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the caption is. I'm like, you want that DDG? Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude. I love that. Yeah.
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Dragging all them bags like that. I guess nobody ever told you how you must hold on to is you, is you, is you. One day, all them bags gonna get in your way. One day, all them bags gonna get in your way. I said one day, all them bags gonna get in your way.
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Ho, ho, bag lady. You gonna miss your bus. You can't hurry up, cause you got too much stuff. When they see you coming, niggas take off running. From you. It's true. Oh, yes, they do. One day, he gonna say, you crowd in my space. One day, he gonna say, you crowd in my space. One day, he gonna say, you crowd in my space. One day, he gonna say, you crowd in my space. So... backlight.
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It was so good. You said what? I said, that's too sweet. You're going to get a cavity. But you know what's crazy? I used to love sweet liquor. The thought, and Ty knows I hate sweet stuff. Yeah. The thought of drinking something sweet irks my soul. But I used to love, like, Crown Royal Apple was that girl. It was. It hit the streets in a chokehold. A chokehold. But it was so sweet. It was.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Girl, I know sometimes it's harder. We can't let go. Someone just oh so bad inside. Yeah, you can't deny it. You can't stop crying.
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Hey, now we finna break it down real good. Let's find them. Let's find them. Now where my grocery bag lady? Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go. And what about that grocery bag lady? I'm talking to my Gucci bag lady. Let it go, let it go, let it go. What about my paper sack lady?
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Get back, mama. Yeah. Shout out to my bag lady bitches out there. You got a bag? That's all right, bitch. Don't let that nigga play you because you got a bag, bitch. I don't know. I'm a bag lady. I'm a bag lady. You know what I got? I got that big bag. No.
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And thick. Oh, that shit was thicker than me. It was. On a Friday night. It was very thick. And it was hard to find at first. It was. So it's like, if you found a bottle of Crown Apple, you was really on to something. You was really doing something. And you had a gatekeep.
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I knew that Crown Apple had the streets on lock when I seen the strippers walking around with the Crown Apple bags to pick up their money. Ha ha ha. I said, oh, yeah, y'all got something. They still be walking around with their bags.
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But not the Crown Apple. They just switched the colors out. Just the OG purple one. The OG purple one. But when you had the green bag, you're like, oh, she came to get that money. She came to get it. When we was drinking Crown Apple, it was a time to be in the club, for sure. Yeah, it was. We was just talking about fragrances. That's when we used to wear our Bath and Body Works.
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What Bath and Body Works scent did you like? Japanese cherry blossom. Ooh, you was an exotic queen. Yeah, I feel like that was the beginning of my bad bitch era. Mm, mm. You know? Like, and then, of course, Victoria's Secret had everybody in a chokehold. I think, what was it called, the one I used to wear? Was it Pure Seduction? Ooh. It was something like that. I remember that.
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No, it wasn't pink, was it? Was it pink? I can't even remember what color it was. I know Love Spell was purple. Love Spell was purple, and it had me and my friends in a choke hold. Like, if you smelled like Love Spell, you were like that girl. We were all walking around. I mean, I used to beg my mom. Now, mind you, I grew up, y'all know, Orange, Texas.
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So we had to go all the way to Beaumont to get Love Spell because we didn't have Victoria's Secret in Orange. So if you were in Orange... Not sure what's going on, Rose. Yes. If you were in Orange, Texas with some love spell on, you had that guap. You was guapped up.
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And when she said regular, she just meant like somebody who's not famous or whatever. And I was like, I responded back to her and I was like, honestly, the listeners don't like when we have guests, period. So we're not going to frustrate them any further than we already do.
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Yes, I was with J Money getting that love spell. I am so weak. Going to a whole nother secret. Yes. We had to. We didn't have Victoria's Secret. That's funny. I never really wore a love spell because I felt like it wasn't exclusive enough. No, it definitely wasn't exclusive enough.
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Everybody was wearing it. So I used to be like, let me get some news. And I liked the vanilla one too. I don't remember the vanilla one. Yeah, it was a vanilla one. I can't remember what it was called. It's been so long. I need to go up in Victoria's Secret and see what they got up in there. I know.
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Because they probably do have some good everyday fragrances just to wear, like, if you don't want to put on something expensive.
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Because, like, when I go to the gym, I wear a lot of the Sol de Janeiro spray. Oh, yeah. You put me on that. And then Fleur has some really good inexpensive sprays, too. So, maybe I might go to Victoria's Secret and see what they got up in there for, like, a little everyday body spray. Zara has some good ones, too.
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I like... I've never bought any of their body sprays, but Zara has this perfume called Ebony Wood, if you like woody scents.
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They have this... I like that. They have this fragrance called Ebony Wood, if you like woody scents, and it has had me in a chokehold for, like, the past few years. I like to mix it with a lot of my fragrances, though, like layers. I don't ever really just wear it by itself, because it's a little... Too woody to wear alone. Yeah.
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But it's like a good addition if you have on another scent that's a little sweet. You get a little too deep in your bag when you get to talking about perfume, baby.
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You know, you be talking about the scents and the layers and the flavors and the texturizer. I don't, girl. I don't know. You know I wear the same shit now. La Vie Es Bel.
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Hey, I've been wearing these. I promise y'all, I've been wearing these. Every now and then, I'll switch it up. That's it. And Cassiopeia. Those are my three go-tos. I don't switch it up. You know what's crazy? They all have the same patchouli in it. All of them have that. That's all I know. That's what I stick with. That's what rocks with me. And see, Cassiopeia is another one of them scents.
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I remember when the dude at Saks, who I be going to to get my fragrances or whatever, I remember he put me on Cassiopeia like... Maybe at this point, like four years ago. And I feel like it was real exclusive. Nobody had it. That's another fragrance that now, it's like Baccarat. It is? Yes. Everybody be wearing Cassiopeia. Absolutely.
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And another girl tweeted me, she was like, facts, because I've been listening since 2021 and I've never listened to a guest episode. Right. Yeah, it's a few people that I see say that all the time. Like, they be like, whenever y'all have guests, I just skip over the episode. That's crazy because the guest episodes be really good. The guest episodes do be good. I mean, I don't know.
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But that's why you got to get into a lot of the other fragrances that are in fragrance houses. Because people be always going towards that one fragrance that's popular. But these fragrance houses be having so many other good scents. Like Mason Francis has so many other good scents outside of Baccarat. Right. Baby, I didn't even know fragrances had homes, bitch. Yes, Tom Ford is a fragrance house.
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Well, I mean, Tom Ford has a lot of other things outside of fragrances. But, yeah, they're called fragrance houses. Baby, I go to the apartment, bitch. I'm not trying to be in no fragrance house. Because, baby, that collection that you got is something serious. Oh, my little perfume collection. Yes, baby, I just mind my business and stick to what I know.
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I haven't really been buying any new fragrances lately though because I have so many to the point that I'm like, girl, you need to use some of these first before you start buying some more. It's, Because, you know, I think it's kind of crazy when people have whole rooms full of perfume. Because how are you ever going to use all of that perfume? Like, I get that it's a collection.
Pour Minds Podcast
All My Children
And, like, when people are collectors, they just like to collect. But I felt like I was kind of starting to get there. Does the bottle matter to you? The way the bottle looks? Yeah. No. Yeah. Because I see a lot of people be like, oh, I'm not buying that. It smells good, but the bottle is so ugly. I can't do it. No, I don't care about the bottle as long as the perfume smell good.
Pour Minds Podcast
All My Children
Well, you know, I'll be seeing a lot of people on TikTok. It'll come up on my FYP, and I'll just be watching because I ain't buying none of that shit. There's a guy, actually, he talks about the spray of it, too. Like, how it comes out, and he rates them. Like, oh, this is a bad spray. Oh, this is a good spray. And I know, personally, my LaVey's Bell spray is 10 out of 10. Well, I will say this.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Niggas is literally the easiest thing to get. It's not hard to get niggas. It's not hard to get a nigga. If somebody is single, trust and believe it ain't because it's hard for her to get one.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Honestly, people have to draw those boundaries. Like you said, you understand where she coming from.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Same. Because it's like, what you do? What the fuck you do? I hate a person who always try to make it seem like everybody else is the problem.
Pour Minds Podcast
It Gets Sticky FT. Big Sexy
Everybody a villain in somebody's story. You're right.
Pour Minds Podcast
It Gets Sticky FT. Big Sexy
It's like if I talk to you and it sounds like you're doing a job interview, like, oh, what's the bad thing about you as an employee?
Pour Minds Podcast
It Gets Sticky FT. Big Sexy
I like to get to work so early and work off the clock.
Pour Minds Podcast
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When you're not there, Will, you be on Instagram scrolling for like 30 minutes.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Oh, I feel like I always got to say what's on my mind. Me too! I always got to say what's on my mind. Like, if it's on my chest, I'm going to get it off my chest. I got to let you know what's going on. So I think that's a toxic trait. And then also, just, um... Sometimes it's hard for me to put myself in other people's shoes. Because I be feeling like people... Why?
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because I think people be stupid a lot of the time. And it's not right to necessarily look at people like that. I feel like God made me really strong and resilient. And everybody is not that way. Everybody was not blessed with those traits.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So sometimes you have to look at the shit that people do and be like, it's okay that they might not have the same level of confidence or realize that something is not okay and stand up for themselves. That doesn't necessarily make them stupid. You just differing. You know what I mean? You just stronger than this person.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And I feel like I used to always kind of look at people and be like, oh, that's dumb. You know?
Pour Minds Podcast
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And not really, and not care to have an understanding. Just looking at them like, that's stupid. I would never do that. You know what I mean? So I think that's probably a toxic trait.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I think the worst thing about me is I am extremely sensitive, but I have the nerve to be a bitch. Ooh, that's a good one. I am sensitive as fuck, but I'm a bitch. Like, I am extremely bitchy. And I used to always... Like, I feel like people got to be soft with me, but I don't want to be soft with people. And I think another thing is, like, when I shut down, I shut down.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Like, I don't do confrontation well. Like, if... I need to let time go by. Like, if me and you get into it, I need to have, like, two or three days and then I want to talk.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But I also feel like... I do need to calm down, but I also don't need to procrastinate. Because, honestly, I'll let shit go to, like, two, three weeks. And I'll be like, okay, we can talk now, I guess. But I be thinking, like, let's just move on. And I know now, like, I pride myself on being a great communicator, but I'm really not as good of a communicator as I like to say I am.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I be wanting to talk about the things that I want to talk about. Yeah. Or when somebody else want to talk about something, I be like, let's just... You know what I'm saying?
Pour Minds Podcast
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And so those are like the main two things I need to work on. I'm very, I don't like to, you know what, let me not say a bitch. I'm very assertive. And I think sometimes it's taken the wrong way. So I need to expect, but I need to learn how to take that too. And I think somebody's being bitchy towards me because they can just be assertive in saying what they mean, you know?
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I got to learn how to dish it in and take it. Mm. So, yeah, I'm working on not being so sensitive.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I literally cry because I'm like... Is she like that? No, she's very sensitive. And that's where we're, like, so opposite because she's very sensitive and I'm not. And just like she said, like, you know, she's not really confrontational. So a lot of the time, it's been times in our relationship where, like, I want to talk about shit right now.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And she don't want to talk about it right now. Let me tell you. Sometimes when I know we not seeing eye to eye on my phone, she be trying to avoid me and then I call her and I... So what's up? That's what she do. Let's talk about what happened last week. Because, you know, I let you make it for a week. But let's talk about it now. I didn't tell you. You always say that to me.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah. It's an amazing feeling when people start gravitating to you just for you being who you are.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And so we can talk about it. But it's so crazy that you said that because that's what I be telling Lex. I be like, if I tell you that something is wrong, she be like, well, I don't be wanting to argue. But that's your opportunity to tell me how you feel.
Pour Minds Podcast
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That's fair, because I feel like maybe I do be having to watch my tone sometimes. But the thing about me, my tone only get bad with people. I got to be real. You got to have me real fucked up, though, for my tone. No, you don't. Yes, you do. Yes, you do. I feel like anybody in this room will agree. My tone never get crazy with none of them. With none of them.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I just said, you got to have me real fucked up. Look at the tone. Look at the tone. Thank you. Point proven, because she done had me real fucked up a lot of times.
Pour Minds Podcast
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a lot of times, everyone else in this room has not, which was the point I was getting at. But no, but what I'm saying is, I just feel like in certain situations, like, like I said, but that's something I need to work on because I be having the nerve to, because everybody in this room can agree, I will walk in and be like, what the fuck?
Pour Minds Podcast
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Her phone be fucked up with everybody. My phone be fucked up with selective people.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Well, I'll say this. When it comes to my business, though.
Pour Minds Podcast
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When it comes to my business, this is our baby. I don't play when it comes to this shit. And I know the vision I have for it. So I think in the business world, I am a little more probably strict. And I don't mind having confrontation when it comes to business because it's not necessarily... It's not personal. It's business. I'm trying to get shit done. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So with business, I don't mind saying what I got to say and what's on my mind. We need to talk about this shit because it's money to make.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I see. I'm not really a grudge holder. I be letting stuff go because I just feel like after a certain period of time, I don't... It's too much energy. Like, it takes too much energy to care. That's why I think I'm... Because I just want to get it over with. Like, I just want to talk about it and then be over it.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You have like an energy about you that's just, it's very gravitating. Magnetic, yeah. It's like, I don't know. You know, people say that it factor. And you don't know what it is. You can't explain it. But some people just have it.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah, I mean, maybe. I feel like I don't care a lot about a lot of shit. That's why it's hard for me to hold grudges, because I really don't give a fuck enough to hold a grudge.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Drea's not a grudge holder, because I've seen where, like, you and a friend stop being friends. When I tell you when Drea is done, I mean, she will act like you are dead. You never existed. Like, never existed.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because I feel like that's the key to any healthy relationship. Like, you have to be able to talk to people about stuff. And that's coming from a place of when I was younger, Lex can attest to this. I used to be the type of person who I would just cut people off and not talk to you about stuff. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But that's not conducive to having a healthy, long-lasting relationship with anybody, whether it's a romantic relationship, whether it's a friendship, whether it's a relationship with your family. You have to be open to talking to people about it and cutting people off every time somebody do some fucked up shit to you or have you fucked up is not always the answer.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because sometimes what they did doesn't necessarily warrant something so dramatic as you not ever talking to them again. But I used to think everything was dead serious. Like, I'm not fucking with you.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You are so funny, but I want to start from the beginning. So you're from Savannah. Yes, research! Yes, we be doing our research. No, it's Tom. Tom! So I want to talk about like beginning, because I'm from a small town too. So did you always feel like, okay, I got to move. I got to get out of Savannah. Like talk about growing up in a small town and just having such a big personality.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You got to side-eye people like that. Because like you said, because if you saying that about her, what the hell you be saying about me when I'm not in the room? You be doing the same. You cannot convince me that a person that will go and tell other people their friend's business do not tell other people your business when you not around.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I don't like that either. Especially like when people fall out because that's when people are the most vulnerable and angry. Yeah. So if you get your feelings and you and a friend stop being friends and you start spilling all they tea, that says a lot about your character. Because I don't care if me and you never talk again. I'm not finna go around telling no secrets.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because like you said, what her car getting repo got to do with anything? Why you telling me that? Oh, my God. I didn't even know that. Mm.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I know that's right. Okay, so before we get into the topics, my girl Ty, what we drinking down today? Down.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So, in honor of our guest, Mr. Big Sexy, this one is called The Unshakable Walk. Yeah! And so, with this one, this one is a mock sale for him. Lex does have some vodka in hers. Me and Dre are still going strong. We are sober. Oh, Lord. This one has... some lychee, some blackberries, some raspberry, a little bit of lemon, little bit of simple syrup in there, and some thyme.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And then as a garnish, I used a lychee. I put a dehydrated raspberry in there and then added some thyme just to give it a little cuteness for the spring that's approaching down here. And then we topped it off with a little guava sparkling water. Okay. This is the unshakable walk, y'all. Cheers. Very refreshing. And tell them where they can find the calendar. Oh, yes.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Y'all can still order your So Mixy 2025 cocktail calendar at www.somixy.com. Thank you so much. It is very good.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay, do you like, did you taste the lychee? You liked it?
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And one thing about me, especially now with the economy, I like to save money on my groceries. So we're going to tell y'all about HomeChef.com. Yes, y'all. I love anything that takes the guesswork out of having to cook.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So I love Home Chef because they will deliver pre-portioned ingredients right to your doorstep, and you don't have to think about what you're going to cook for the night. And on top of that, they have oven-ready meals. They have microwave meals. So whatever your speed is, they got you. Users of Leading Meal Kits have rated Home Chef number one in quality, convenience, value, taste, and recipe.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yes, it gets all the ingredients delivered straight to your door. The other day, I had a cherry maple salmon that I made. It was so good. That sounds delicious. Yes. Cherry and maple, how can you lose? You know what I'm saying? And it was fresh, too. So what you're going to do is go to homechef.com backslash poor minds.
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Pour Minds Podcast
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and it's your girl Dre Nicole and we have a very exciting announcement today we have a brand new show dropping yeah so we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon it's gonna air on September 2nd and it's called Porn Chronicles we gonna be doing so much stuff on there we gonna be doing challenges if you can't go to Bill and O'Shea where the hell could you go?
Pour Minds Podcast
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If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell can you go? We gonna be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We gonna be spilling a little tea. Oh my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God. Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon. Yes, y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Y'all know Poor Minds has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down. Thanks. For the first topic, we really wanted to talk to you about gay men being straight women's pride. Because we saw where you talked about this before recently.
Pour Minds Podcast
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You were saying how you know you feel like you have been in that position in a lot of situations or a lot of relationships and friendships that you've been in. But we definitely wanted to get into that because I agree with you.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I did my little research. It went down, but it went a good way. I said, oh, he's spicy. I told Shay, I told our producer, I said, oh, he be getting spicy.
Pour Minds Podcast
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And see, when I think of it, I more so be thinking from a standpoint of like, you know how you'll be talking to some women and they'll be like, why need to give me a gay male friend? I hate that. Like to me, that's more so trying to use a person as a prop because why are you so specific in the type of friend that you need to find? I don't see nothing wrong with it.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Okay, but let me ask you this, too, though, because I see it from both sides. Yeah. Because I have a gay friend that I'm really, really close with. Like, we've recently gotten really close, and I love him down. Shout out to Clay. Hey, Clay. I talk to Clay so much, but we became friends organically. Yeah.
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Like, it wasn't like, oh, I'm searching for him, or he's searching for me, or... It was like we really became organic friends. But what I have noticed is... I feel like sometimes a lot of the gay men in the community, and I don't want to offend anybody, so y'all please don't eat me up. This is just honest. Sometimes, just like, I feel like women want to be our friends because of who we are.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I think a lot of gay men be trying to come into my life because they feel like, oh, I would love to be Lex's friend, or I want to be that one gay guy in her life. That's why I'm so cool with Klay, because it was genuine. But sometimes I feel like a lot of the gay boys be trying to, you know, they want to be a problem.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But you don't feel like it might be like some weird motives there, yeah?
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because why you don't get along with women? If you don't get along with women and you feel like, oh, well, I need some gay friends, you probably a little weirdo yourself. Any woman that be like, oh, I'm not saying you got to be a girl's girl, but I hate a woman that's like, oh, I got more guy friends or I don't want to hang out with the gay guys all the time.
Pour Minds Podcast
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That'd be weird too because like I said, as much as I feel like it's on both sides, the women who seek out a gay friend just because he's a male and he's gay, to me it gives like, you don't want to hang around women because you be feeling like it's competition.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Like, if I don't want to be friends with Drea because Drea goes out and Drea gets all the attention, well, I'm going to go out with Big Sexy because obviously the men going to want me because he's a man. That's the kind of energy. And the gag is they might want him.
Pour Minds Podcast
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It's ulterior motives there. And I think we're also in a time where people see relationships like Santana and Carisha. Everybody wants that dynamic. Everybody wants that dynamic. So they be like, oh, you see what Santana and Carisha do? I want to do that. So it's like, are you really genuine friends with him? Are you trying to have like an arrogant Tay-Ari type of situation?
Pour Minds Podcast
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You know what I'm saying? So I think a lot of times, like I said, it's not that genuine connection. Women be seeing... They be like, I need a prop. I need that accessory. They want somebody that's going to come over and do their hair. Yeah, and boost them up. Yeah, and hype them up. So that's why I said it can get really easy.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But I'll say this. I feel like if that's the case, you'll just keep attracting the wrong type of friends. And then that's more of a you problem, sis. Because why you keep attracting them type of women? Granted, I have been in situations where I have been friends with girls and they definitely were weird and was doing weird shady shit or hating.
Pour Minds Podcast
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But every single relationship that I've had with women has not been like this. So I feel like if those are the only type of girls you come across, you probably a little strange yourself. You probably be hating too. You know what I mean? And you can't take what you say you could did shit. But you can't take... Because one thing about me, I hype my friends up. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I don't care if you post a picture, whatever. I am hyping you up. So I feel like if you are a girl and you don't have one girlfriend. At least one. They probably not hating on you, but they probably feel like, well, I'm always complimenting her, but she never say nothing to me. Sometimes shit will start feeling one-sided.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I'm going to be on the drain every fucking photo. Where that waist at, bitch?
Pour Minds Podcast
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That's why I don't mind hyping none of my friends up. Because Drea has this lane that she dominates in. And that ain't got shit to do with me. What I got going on. Because this lane is what I'm dominating. So it doesn't take away... It does not take away from me to hype her up. Or to hype Ty up. Or to hype my... My other friend has a podcast as well, and I hype that shit up.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Because that don't affect poor minds, baby. It don't. Because you not, you, to get this flavor, you gots to come to Dre and Nicole and Lex P's marriage. Poor minds. You know what I'm saying? So I just feel like I don't buy that when women like, I ain't tried. Yeah, because how hard do you really try? Like, you not really probably a good friend yourself.
Pour Minds Podcast
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If you don't have at least one solid homegirl that you been down with for a long time, It's you, C. It's you the problem.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Hell no. Oh, I think you can teach somebody how to love properly and be... Ooh, this is good. Y'all got good... Well, I'm saying, think about our relationship and how much we grew together. And I learned, okay, well, Drea likes this. I can't treat Drea how I treat Ella or Lauren. That's fair, but to me, that's more specific to a person.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Like, being friends with a person for a long period of time, you start to realize, I need to be this way with them because this is what they respond to. Mm-hmm. I don't think you can teach somebody how to be a good friend, though. Either you're a good person and you have that shit in you to be a good friend, or you do not. I feel like people who are just bad friends, you're probably a bad person.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I agree with that because I feel like I'm kind of like that too. Like when I call people, if they got like a weird energy.
Pour Minds Podcast
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I be like, what's wrong with you? You know, but then you be having to realize it's not about you. So then I just learn to like give people they decency. Me too. Because I'm not really the type of person that will just let stuff affect my day. You know what I mean?
Pour Minds Podcast
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It's like, even if some shit happened, I might be in a bad mood for a little bit, but I'm not going to just be walking, moping around the whole day or for like days at a time. Some people, they need to go through it to get there. So I'm a moper, but I also don't bring other people in it. So if you call me, I'm not in a good mood. I'll let you know, hey, I'm not feeling it today.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So, yeah, so, like, I was going to ask you because people are always going back and forth about this online. You know, like, some people will say that they feel like children aren't necessarily gay when they're kids. It's about the environment that they're in. Personally, I do feel like my mom always told me because I have a cousin similar to you who was always the same way his whole life.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Yeah, just say something. You know, I feel like a lot of the time people just be having, like, that weird energy around them, and then they don't say anything. So then, as a human, your mind gets to wondering, and you can't help but think, okay, like, what's the problem? I can't stand when people who walk in the room, they just want everybody to feel their wrath. Yeah. I cannot stand. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Now, that is something that I hate. If you got something going, leave that shit at the door.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Leave it at the door. I'm not saying that I don't care, but we all got life going on.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Read the room. Read the room. I hate when people have the oppression Olympics. Like, oh, this has happened to me.
Pour Minds Podcast
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We definitely got to read the room. Okay, okay. So we're going to get into the next topic. Mm-hmm. So... We some talkers now.
Pour Minds Podcast
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If we really didn't have, like, a timed episode, we would probably be here for three, four days.
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Same, same. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Doreen Nicole. And y'all know we always tell y'all to get your finances together, and there's no better way to help you do that than Chime.com. Yes, y'all. Y'all got to get with Chime because what I love about them is that you can get your money up to two days early with direct deposit.
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Pour Minds Podcast
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It's definitely a black move because I can see it. You want to smell my punani? That's how she said it, too. I know. Because I can see it and I can hear it. And she was chewing on it. Oh, okay. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. No, it's not Friday. It's, um...
Pour Minds Podcast
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And she was like, we knew since he was, like, three or four. I feel like kids know. At a very young age. So how do you feel about that?
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No. What you think, Javi? Yeah. Oh. Poetic justice. Yes. Fuck. Javi got it. Because I remember with her braids and she was trying to be funny. Mm-hmm. See?
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It ain't even... No, not really because I know you. I knew all of yours. No, what I'm saying is this one is easy. Is it? Bye, Felicia. Oh, Friday. Well, the next time, this is so funny because me and Dre, I know we both grew up with parents like this. Oh, my God. So, I want to talk about growing up with naked parents. So, a naked parent is somebody who is just like a nudist at home.
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Like, you have to make sure when your friends come over, mama, you got some clothes on, you got to make sure they are covered up. Because one thing about me, my mom was always walking around the house naked.
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And I'm not talking about like, oh... Winnie the Pooh style with a t-shirt and no panties on and no bottoms. I'm talking about butt, booty hole ass naked from the rooter to the tooter.
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And it was so awkward too because then my dad would be there and he would be like foaming at the mouth and I would be like, bro. I know that's right. You need to go put some foam. See, I didn't have no daddy around when I was growing up. But that's what I'm... That's why I'm wilding out. Give it back. No, it used to make the dynamic even more weird.
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Because, yes, because it was me, my mama, and my daddy in the house. And she would just be walking around naked all the time. Like, I'm talking about doing everything naked. Cooking, cleaning. I'd be like, damn, you ain't scared of grease going to pop your titties or nothing. I'm serious. Y'all, that's one thing I can't relate to.
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Yeah, but see, I think that's a little different because, you know, even though you were, you know, gay, but you're still a boy.
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So, I do think, like, how would y'all feel about, like... a mom walking around naked and she has a son. Like, how do y'all feel about that? Because I think it is a little different to walk around in the nude and you have a little girl versus having a little boy. I think it's the same thing with men.
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If you have a son and you're walking around naked, like, but think about a man walking around the house naked with his little girl.
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It does, but I think it's the same thing when a child is young and I feel like it's different with... How y'all feel? Because I feel like
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I did, but I don't want to see it. I ain't see it that day, and I don't want to see it for the rest of my life.
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I'll say this. It more so got on my nerves, but it wasn't like something I was like, oh, oh my God, disgusting. It was just like, girl, put some damn clothes on. But now, it's so crazy because as I get older, I'm 35 now, and literally everything I do, I'm like, I am my mother. Me too. To the T. Being at home all the time, just wanting to be left alone, watching TV, the way I eat, the way I act.
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I'm literally turning... I'm naked all the time at my house.
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I am too, but I don't... live by myself I feel like once I have kids I cannot see even with a little girl like maybe as a like maybe as like a two-year-old or something but like once you get to like grade school I am not about to be walking around naked in front of my daughter that's just me though I don't see the point
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a little bra and panty cool like you said your mama used to walk around in her panties cool but like just walk around butt ass naked in front of my kid where is your robe where is your scooter that's how I used to feel about my mama girl where is your robe
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But I do feel like, like I said, it's not nothing that's nasty or weird to me. No, not nasty. But it's more annoying. So I feel like if you are a woman and you have a daughter and she's in grade school and you walk around naked, it probably just gets on her nerves. But now, I do think it's weird if you're a woman and you have a son and he's in grade school and you're walking around naked.
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But like I said, if it's a man and his son and they living together and he like gets out the shower and goes and runs and grabs some shorts or whatever, that's normal because it's like a locker room. But again, if a man has a daughter in grade school and he's walking around naked, that's weird to me.
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I think it's like if it's same gender, it's okay because I look at it like a locker room, a gym. When you go to the spa.
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It's the same body parts and it's nothing weird. You know what I'm saying? But I do think it's like when you have a different gender for your child, that's when things can get a little sticky.
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A little sticky. Yeah, because I've never seen my daddy naked. Never. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
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That's the only vagina you've ever seen outside the strip club.
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Yeah. Yeah. I feel like... Kids, for me, has always been a thing. Like, I do want children, but I want to make sure... I know people say no matter how much money you make, you will never be prepared for a child or whatever, but I just have to get to a point in life where I can afford a nanny. I do. Like, I know because I love working. Like, I love...
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just having a job and being busy and I know like I see like the single moms out there and I'm not preparing to be a single mother at all but when I do decide to have a child I know whoever I marry he's gonna be a busy person and I'm gonna be a busy person and I'm not finna be just staying at home and I'm not giving up my dream to stay at home with the child so I know I am gonna need that help whether it's a family member that I have move in with me but I'm gonna need to be in a position to where I have I have some help
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And I need to be in a house, you know, because I wouldn't mind having, like, a live-in nanny, something like that. Like, because, you know, we be touring, you know, some days. It's like, it's just a lot.
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So I feel like that's what motherhood looks like to me. Like, I'm going to be an amazing mother, yes, but I'm going to need some help because mom and daddy going to be busy.
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Yes, but I be saying the same thing. Like, I definitely need a nanny, and then my mom is retired. So, girl, come on out to Atlanta and come live in this house with us.
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Oh, for sure. She already be putting it in my ear, child. I already know. But I do think I'm still going to have a nanny as well, though. Because like Lex said, we do travel and stuff a lot with touring and stuff. And my mom is like older, so I just wouldn't want her having to travel all the time with me and the baby. Yeah. Okay, so naked mom, you not going to be a naked mom? No.
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Once you are not being breastfed anymore, you do not need to see my titties.
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Thank you. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Jerri Nicole. And we are here to ask y'all to do us a huge favor, but also, you'll have a chance to win a $150 gift card from Amazon. We just need y'all to do an ad survey. What have y'all used? What do y'all like? What don't y'all like? Tell us. We need to know.
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But it's easy. That's what I'm saying. Like, if women are single, it is not because they can't get a man. Right. People got to stop projecting it. Uh-huh. It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We got a guest today. We got a guest today.
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Pour into your pot. Peace. Okay, all right, so now it's time to get into the bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. Bow.
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You know it's time to get into the sex topic. Ah! Ah! I'm just saying, I'm having a ball. I am, too. I love when we have guests who are yappers.
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Not celibate because you have had sex before. Yes. But you're abstinent. You not having sex right now.
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Like you can't, like you would think that you can't trade me. Yeah.
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Yeah, when I think of celibacy or when I think of being abstinent, I think of, like, no type of sexual interaction at all.
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That is... Play with the shrimp is crazy. Oh, such a man.
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I feel like it needs to be like you're not doing anything sexual with another person. I know my little thing be like, stop scratching me.
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So do you get anything done to you? No! No. But you just do stuff to other people.
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Okay, but let me ask you, what started the... Was it like a bad relationship or somebody hurt you that made you decide to be celibate?
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I always use this as an example because... Depending on the man you choose can really affect the trajectory of your life. I agree. Wendy Williams. I truly believe that that man that she married... Everybody say that. ...was the downfall of her. And I am a Wendy Williams fan. Love her down. But a lot of times when you look at these women and the man that they involve themselves with, like...
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For example, it's so crazy. It's somebody else I feel like that about, too. Halle Berry did an interview the other day with Drew Barrymore.
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And she was saying, like, everybody always be like, oh, what's wrong with Halle and what's wrong with her? And she's like, why something got to be wrong with me? And it was so many men in the comments like, oh, Halle, I don't care how fine you are. You're 60 and single. Something is wrong with you. I mean, it was so many comments just being so nasty.
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But I need to say something to the straight men who date women and watch this. I need y'all to understand that some women truly believe it is better to be single. Yeah, me! It is better to be single than struggling with y'all ass.
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Because sometimes when I look at the women like a Taraji or not Sanaa Lathan or Tracy Ellis Ross, I'm like, they look like they having a great time. They like, what's wrong with them? Nothing is wrong with them.
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If you're blessed enough to find a great man that loves you, who honors you, who is loyal, y'all have a partnership and y'all are really building something, that is amazing. But when I tell you it is very rare to find that connection and it is a blessing literally from God himself, that's not on everybody's card.
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you can say all day oh that's my friend that's my best oh my god i'm so in love with him that's my man and when shit get real i feel like it's a mixture though i feel like sometimes it's led by lust and then sometimes people be led by loneliness because she said that yeah because she said that in the interview too she was just like it's nothing wrong with me i'm just not staying with a man who i know is not the right one but then i actually left a comment on there what you said i never
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I see you leave comments. I be leaving comments sometimes. You got to catch me. Okay. But I was just like, yeah, I was like, it's a lot of women. I was like, it's nothing wrong with that. But it actually is. It's a lot of women who stay in situations because they don't want to be single. Like, they cool with having the wrong man because they feel like that's better than not having no man.
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And I'm just like, yeah, when Betty Wright said that, I skipped that part of the song. Because, girl, having a piece of a man is not better than having no man.
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I believe that you got to go through things in a relationship, but it shouldn't be to the point to where I'm depressed, I'm losing weight, I'm unhappy, I'm crying every day. It shouldn't be that much of a struggle. I don't believe in that.
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I feel like if you have two people who love each other, who are, you know, sure where they're at in life, they are healed, we can come together and make something great and there ain't got to be no struggle all the time. Because if it's a struggle, I feel like that's not necessarily struggle. That's incompatibility. Exactly. Y'all not compatible. Exactly.
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If you and a person is always at each other's neck 90% of the time, y'all just not compatible. It's not struggle love.
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But people do be trying to convince themselves, oh, we just going through a rough patch. Y'all been like this for the past four years. Ooh. Hey, but you know what's crazy? On the other end of that, I always say that. Do y'all remember when Michelle Obama did that interview? She said her and Barack were in a rough patch for eight years. She did, but they were married. Yeah.
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But I think a marriage is what you deal with in a marriage and what you're willing to try to work through with your partner in a marriage. To me, that's completely different from boyfriend, girlfriend, boyfriend, boyfriend, girlfriend, girlfriend. Yeah. It's completely different because you made a vow to this person.
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And if you truly do know them and you know the potential of y'all relationship or you know what it was and that y'all truly are just going through a trying time, it's okay to stay there and work through that with your partner.
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But if you are in a relationship with somebody and majority of the relationship has been bad and the smaller part of the relationship has been good, you just need to leave that nigga. And also, you hoe-ass niggas is not Barack.
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Because you got to be willing to put that work in. And that's why I think sometimes some women, like Halle Berry, be like, you know what? I'm actually cool on these. Because I feel like I can find something else where I don't have to put up with all of this struggle of and all of this drama to... stay in a healthy relationship or be in a healthy relationship.
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Who be moving on. Oh, yeah. But I said, I love that about you. Because everybody be like, oh, super. So just get another one.
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My nigga done made me mad. Maybe me. I be sad. But I be like, you know what? Maybe it's rent. It's cool.
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I'm not going to lie. Me, at 35, I am making the most money I ever made. I'm the finest I've ever been, the most confident. I'm just so sure of myself.
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And I feel like where I'm at at this point in my life, like I said, yeah, it be hurt when you get your heart broke, but it's also like I know what I have to offer, but I'm also surrounded by, like, and I have an amazing community, like, between my family and my friends. Like, I be straight with a man or without. If a man leave me, the quality of my life does not change because I'm that girl.
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Still going to be in my high rise. Still going to be traveling. Still very much that girl. So I think that that just comes with time and maturity and knowing who you are. Because I think a lot of times women are scared to leave a relationship because they don't know who they are without this man. They have created their identity within that man. So it's kind of like, well, who am I without him?
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That was a... I'm telling you. But that just comes with, like I said, time and maturity. Because when I seen Halle Berry talking, I was like, okay, I feel her. Me too.
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When I see her, I don't look at her and be like, oh my God, she's 60 and single. I be like, hey, do what makes you happy and do what works for you.
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And it ain't no time limit on getting married. If she want to get married, she can get married at 65.
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And I hate when men say that stuff too. Like try to make it seem like something is wrong with the woman. Because niggas is literally the easiest thing to get. It's not hard to get niggas. It's not hard to get a nigga. If somebody is single, trust and believe it ain't because it's hard for her to get one.
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But it's easy. That's what I'm saying. Like, if women are single, it is not because they can't get a man. Right. People got to stop projecting it. Uh-huh. Y'all, we didn't even talk about the bed topic. It was dirty. It was dirty talk. Oh, shit. Oh, shit. Oh, we didn't. Because I was going to say, with you being celibate, do you do, like, phone sex and dirty stuff?
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But, like, what a little, like, FaceTime, you know, you playing with yourself.
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You don't be turning the shrimp to a lobster on FaceTime.
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You do got to be careful. I'm not going to lie. I really don't like send pictures and stuff like all, like I used to. Like, I feel like when I used to, like, start talking to a guy, like, I wouldn't care. I'm like, I'm fine. But because I always used to feel like, okay, if my news leak, my shit lit. So it don't matter anyway.
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But now I just feel like, not that I would be horrified, but I'd be like, I just don't want that to be out there.
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Yeah, like, I just don't want that to be out there. So I get it.
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But that's why you got to deal with it. No faith, no case. Yeah, but you got to deal with men who have something to lose, too.
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I think... 95% of the time when we see men doing that revenge porn, they posting to women because they don't got shit to lose and they be wanting the clout.
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Do y'all remember a long time ago when Black Tana was dating that guy and he was, like, taking pictures in Rob's robe? It was, like, all in her house.
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It was just so crazy. But that's how it be. Most of the time when you see, because he was really fine. I remember him being really, really fine. But it was like most of the time when you see like a fine dude or something, they be chasing after us.
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So that's why I was like, getting the man, it ain't that serious.
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Did you forget? They do be forgetting. They do be forgetting. They be having, they be thinking they bigger than the program.
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I had a man chase me down for three years. And I finally decided to... And I was just like, you... I will beat your ass.
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Is you cool? Bruh! When I think about that shit, I be like, what?
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I mean, when I went back to our first DM, he had been in my DMs for three years. And I was always just playing and, like, not... But I always say, when you do, it be them niggas, they be having a vendetta against you. Like, if you carve them for a long time, don't never deal with no nigga. I heard that before. Yes, I truly believe that.
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Don't ever deal with a man who been trying to holler at you and you been carving him for years.
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Because he is going to make it his personal mission. To her trophy.
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Oh, I followed him. I liked a few pictures, and then I posted a fine-ass video on my story, and he fell right into my trap. It's so easy. Go so easy. Baby, easy. I was like, it was funny because I screenshotted his page, and I sent it to my best friend. I said, ooh, I want him.
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No. Absolutely not. If it's over, baby, it's over for a reason. Let it go. I used to do that, but now, no. Like, when I'm done, done with you... Like, if we in limbo, then that's different. But I'm talking about really being done with somebody. Like, we broke up. I haven't talked to you for six months. I haven't talked to you for a year. No, it's... It's a wrap.
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And I think you just got to always keep in mind, why did y'all break up? A lot of the time, I think that if people sit and they reflect on why it didn't work out the first time, then you realize it's not worth revisiting. And I think a man, too, and an ex, and then y'all broken up for a long time. Now, sometimes it does work out. But most of the time, they come in just to waste time.
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Whatever situation that they were dealing with when y'all broke up didn't work out. So they're just coming back to something that they know that's comfortable until they find something else. They finna play in your face again. Always. Always. I've learned that every time that I used to go back with my ex, it was just so he could play in my face again. It was comfortable.
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We didn't have to start from square one. It wasn't the getting to know each other phase. It was like we could just go in and we fucking already. We get to skip all the booze. Yeah, so I just think they be just trying to get a shortcut and it's something fun to do. It's something to do until the girl that they was messing with come back around or they find somebody that they really, really want.
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I agree with that. That's a good point because I feel like people say that about women too. Like everybody be saying, oh, every girl like girls. But then how do y'all feel about the girls? Because going back to what we was just talking about, how do y'all feel about the girls that go and date women because she don't be working out with a man? They're not really gay for real.
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It just be peaceful going to sleep and you ain't got to worry about what a nigga doing. You ain't got to check in. Because it do be like that.
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Because, like, when the relationship be good, it be fun. It be a good time. But once you get to that point to where you worried about what he doing, he worried about what you doing, y'all at odds all the time, that's when stuff gets stressful. Like, I don't mind being in a relationship. And, you know, we're doing what we have to do because it's not stressful.
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But once it gets to that point to where it's more stress than it is fun, I gots to go.
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I agree. I gots to go. Okay, so item of the week. What we got this week, Drea? Oh, item of the week, of course, MuseBeautyCollection.com. Make sure you get your lip glosses, lip liners, matte liquid lipsticks, and jelly blushes. Oh, and I have on a lip plumper. Because I said I was going to start telling y'all my lip of the week. So, yeah, I have on the Chestnut lip liner.
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I have on the It's Giving lip gloss and the Plump It Up lip plumper. So, yeah, go to MuseBeautyCollection.com. They look good and juicy. Thanks, girl. You're welcome. I do what I can. Period. Okay. And per usual, y'all know I got to shout out Dee Dee with my little unit, my glueless unit. I be popping this motherfucker on and off.
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So if you need a glueless unit, bundles, all that, go to richlookhair.com. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here. Period.
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If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to itemoftheweekpm at gmail.com. That's I-T-E-M O-F-T-H-E-W-E-E-K-P-M at gmail.com. Send us an email, and we'll work it out. We're going to figure it out.
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Get your product. Get your business sponsored. And, yeah, make you some money. We love to support a small business now. And a black business at that. But, I mean, it can be anybody. We don't discriminate. Uh-uh. Any business is welcome. So now it's time to get into the bop. The bop. The bop. The bop. Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, period. What bop did I choose?
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So the bop of the week is like whatever song you've been listening to this week, what's on your playlist, what you've been riding to, jamming to. So I'm an R&B girlie. Y'all know I love to find new artists that nobody ever heard of. Y'all, this is such a good song. I love when I find good stuff. So, his name is Cinkmani. C-I-N-Q-U-E-M-A-N-I. And he has a song called Give You My Love.
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It's so soulful. I love a good love record. You know what I'm saying? I love... Oh, my gosh. It's such a good song. Yeah, so what's your bop of the week? Okay, my bop of the week. Pull it up. What you got for us? I know you be jamming.
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It gives that you be in the mirror like twerking, cutting up.
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I love Santana. Now, that video of y'all walking down the street, why you had that T-shirt on like that? Cutting up.
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No, you don't have to play it. You don't have to play it.
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Good at that. Especially, like, if y'all got the shades on or something. Like, I can see that.
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Not that y'all look alike in the face, but, like, how y'all walk and talk and the mannerisms. Like, I can see that.
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Okay, what's your bop, Drea? Okay, so my bop is this song called Baroque by Chef G. He like a New York rapper. Okay. You know, I really used to like Pop Smoke. R.I.P. to Pop Smoke. R.I.P. So fine. R.I.P. to Pop Smoke. But I was devastated when Pop Smoke died because I felt like he was really like on the brink of having a huge career. It was so off of him, so stupid.
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It was over something so stupid. And he really used to make hits. And, like, I don't know. I just love the way New York niggas make music. I love they little sound. Well, he think I would shake the room.
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I can't even talk about it. I know. He had so many good songs. So, yeah.
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Okay. So, it's called Brokey by Chef G. Uh-huh. I'm going to have to check that out. Yes. You got to check his music out, though.
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Yes. Let me ask y'all a question. What do y'all think about that new rapper, the white girl, Georgiana? What do y'all think about her? Uh-huh. Yeah.
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I heard the song. I wasn't liking it, but with Glorilla verse, I was like, I hear it now.
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Is that the only song that she has? I mean, honestly, she has more, but I've never listened to any of them.
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He is a cute little YN. You know what I'm saying? Not a little YN. Is he? Would he be considered a YN? I'm just old. That's my understanding. What's a YN? A young nigga.
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Okay, so yeah, I don't know exactly. How old is Duke Dennis, y'all? I don't think he's early 20s. I don't think he's early 20s. I think he's like late 20s.
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Oh, you know who I like? Oh. What's that basketball player that was in Kendrick Lamar video? The Not Like Us video? What's his name, y'all? Lamar? What's his name? DeMar DeRozan. Oh, okay. I like him. He real quiet. He talks about, like, mental health. I love that. I love an emotionally intelligent man.
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Oh, yeah. He's 35. He don't be in my bed. I got to look him up, too. You know how you always see athletes that always be dating the IG girls? He is just not like that. He's very mature. He talks about mental health a lot. He wrote a book.
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He be out the way. He be out... I love a man that's out the way. What's his name? DeMar DeRozan. Okay, I got to look him up.
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Yeah, I love his personality. He is so funny. Like, he seem like he's such a good time to be around. Every time I see videos of him. Yeah, I do. Who your celebrity crush? I don't know. I don't even think I have one. That I'm just like, ooh, he just... You like his wife. Grumpy. I think it's more about a vibe, though, because I'm not a girl that's, like, into, like, looks, looks like that.
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I just like people vibe. Yeah. So it don't necessarily got to be somebody who you think is, like, fine. You just probably, like, like how they carry themselves. Yeah, I don't know. I feel like I would have to sit and think about it. Like, for real, though, y'all. Like, I'm really trying to think, and nobody's coming to the forefront of my mind.
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Because the person I used to have a celebrity crush on, I would never.
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We gonna move on. We gonna tell you when the cameras turn off. Cause you out of fucking pocket for making that fucking baby. That's what he be doing. Okay. He's so awesome.
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Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera, entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver.
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It's the Pour Your Heart Out segment. If you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at askpoorminds at gmail.com. If you are a Patreon member, you get to skip the line, so make sure you put that in the header. And do you give good advice?
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I think you do. I can tell. Okay, so go ahead, Drea. We got question number one. Okay. Hey, Lex and Drea. I have been binge watching y'all, and now I need my favorite auntie's advice. I'm a gay male, if that matters, and the glue of my friend group, the one who keeps everyone connected. My friends always come to me for advice and comfort. 2023 was rough.
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I left Atlanta, moved back to Florida, and took a break from my content creator life to focus on my mental health. Since then, two friends have been dissing. One has a whole new crew and the other ignores me but stays out with others. P.S. She's boy crazy and throwing shady jabs lately. Am I overthinking it? Or have we just outgrown each other now that I'm no longer their comfort source? P.S.
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I agree. I feel like you definitely probably have just outgrown them and you do have to, you have to pay attention to like who check on you when you're going through stuff. If both of those people were really distant while you was going through your rough patch, do you really want to be that cool with them like that? You know what I mean?
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Because they have proven themselves to not be people that's there that you can depend on when life get rough. It seemed like maybe they're the type of friends where, like, when everything is all good and y'all having fun... They there and they down for the ride. But then as soon as you got some real shit going on, they being decent. So I wouldn't even want those type of friends.
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Because as you get older in life, you start to realize those are not people that are sustainable to be your friends for the long term anyway. So yeah, I would just... Keep it moving, personally. But I get it. Sometimes you've put a lot into relationships and you want to try to see if you can rekindle. So I do think big sexy is right. You can't see, but... Yeah.
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But I think they kind of have showed you who they are.
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Okay, question number two. Question number two. Hey, Lexandrea. I'm a 38-year-old lesbian with a child. His other parent is also in the community and he identifies as pansexual. Though I fully don't get what that means, so I just say bisexual. We were never in a real relationship, just a lavender marriage. Since turning 33, things have changed for me.
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I had a serious breakup with someone I thought I'd marry, but she wasn't on the same page. Now years later, she suddenly wants everything I wanted back then, but with someone else. It used to hurt, but now I don't feel the same, and I don't know why. I'm in a new relationship with a woman, and while her head game is phenomenal, we go months without sex.
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When we do have it, she focuses mostly on giving me head. Not complaining, but my body is changing. My vagina keeps... jumping like it's craving something.
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Fingers, hands, straps, bigger toys, nothing feels like enough. My friends straight up tell me, girl, your pussy is throbbing because it wants a real dick. I love my girl and I don't want to leave her, but I feel unhappier than usual. Lately, when men flirt with me, I actually blush. Something I never used to do. It's making me uncomfortable and I don't know what to do.
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And she did say it's craving something inside. Fingers, hand straps, bigger toys. So why don't you try that with your partner first? Because it's craving something. I think it's so crazy when people are in relationships and they don't speak up about what they want sexually. If this is somebody that you love and you love your girl and you want to be with her, have conversations.
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I believe 100%. I feel like if a woman can be, I believe a man can be. Because I think it's more so of human traits. I think in my younger years, I used to try to separate people. Like, obviously, there's differences of how women think versus how men think. But there's certain things that are just human traits. If a woman can, like... a woman and a man. A man can too.
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Hey, this is not working for me sexually. I'm feeling like I want to... So can we try this in the bedroom? So I think it deserves... Your partner deserves to have a conversation. And maybe, see, you might not be craving dick. You might just be craving a toy or something.
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And I think that when you're flirting with men and you're actually blushing, I think it's more so because you're wanting that attention that maybe you're not getting at home. A lot of times people confuse certain feelings for other things that's not really what's there and what's happening.
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So I think maybe have a conversation with your partner and see what y'all can figure out in the bedroom between y'all. And then if y'all are trying different things and you're still not satisfied, that's when you can be like, okay, something else is going on here.
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I feel like, yeah, maybe you just be wanting that dick. That's what I think. I think she just really want that dick.
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I don't know. I just feel like she kept saying all of these nice things about the girl, but then it was a lot of buts. But, but, but. I feel like if it's that many buts, you just ain't really happy in that situation.
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Yeah, you're not happy sexually, so. And she said they go months without sex. And that's what I'm saying. Who the fuck trying to do that in a relationship? In a relationship?
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Godspeed and good luck. You have been through a lot. Your child got a pansexual daddy and a lavender man. Girl, I don't know what none of them got. I don't even know what pansexual means.
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Yeah. Okay, okay. They're not attracted to a gender. They're attracted to people.
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All right, Big Sexy. Let the people know what you got coming up, where they can find you, all that good stuff.
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We got to do one the week and make sure it's the week the episode is up.
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Yeah, you know it's coming. Well, we've definitely been wanting you on the show for a while, so I'm glad we made it happen. Thank y'all so much. Yes, we love you so much, and we'll see y'all next week.
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Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to poor minds. It's P-O-U-R.
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I think that's human nature to sometimes be attracted to both. And as me, as like... Have I been with a woman before? Yes. But do I like it? Absolutely not. And I will never do it again. There's nothing about a woman... I just don't... But I know... I have friends, women, that are bisexual.
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underscore m-i-n-d-s y'all are tagging the wrong poor minds page if you see at poor minds with no underscore that is a fake page do not follow that page okay they blocked me andrea and the poor minds page on both so we only have one instagram one Twitter, one TikTok. It is P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. All right? And we got a hella fake Facebook page. Oh, the Facebook page.
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The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers. The one that's ours got the least amount of followers. That's not us. Got like 250,000 followers. But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content. Because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English. Because their captions are like. Bamba Claus.
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Blah, blah. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the captions mean. I like that DDG's Bamba Claude.
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It's on a star for a sign. What's the reason why? Always on my mind. Baby, when I see you.
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Baby, when I. When I might walk by. So I got to be right on time. When I see you. I scribble X and O's in my notebook.
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I have a friend that is bisexual, and she only dates bisexual men. So, I feel like it's very possible to like both. I agree. I think it's possible, too. Because, I mean, when I was younger, I dated, I used to date women when I was younger. Ooh! As I've gotten older, though, I've realized it's a little too much estrogen for me in one household.
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So it's just not for me, and I would prefer to stick with men. But I definitely think you could like both, because even still, now that I don't necessarily deal with women anymore, I see women all the time, and I be like, damn, she fine as hell. You don't need that cooch. I don't, because I never really... You know, I don't.
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And that's how I knew I wasn't really, like, bout it for real, because I was never that into eating coochie.
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So, I want to talk about, in the beginning, like, when you, because you and Jada used to be friends, correct? My granddad and my granddad! Yes.
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So, if you are on social media, you know who this person is.
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Yeah, y'all were... But I'm glad to hear that because, you know, a lot of times you talk to people and they be like, oh, I don't care. They didn't make me. And so it's good to see that you are still able to talk highly about her and y'all's friendship.
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Like, you are bad as fuck. Gorgeous. You're a virgin. You bad as hell. You a boss. Like, it's just a lot. And then on top of that, who you are. Some people just want you because of who you are outside of that.
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Those are her first, like, big spending pair of heels. And he told her to throw them away, and she was like, I spent my last on these. And, you know, I was almost evicted. So, I can't throw these shoes away. So, not saying to spend your last. I wouldn't say do that. But my budget, I don't really have a budget. I just be like, now I'm more careful with my spending.
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Now, when I first got into it, I was getting every damn thing. But now I'm just really careful because I feel like, especially in the times we in, child, you got to hold on to your money, honey. So, and I like a little budget, honey. Like, this bag right here is worth $7,000, $8,000 now. And I got her for $1,900. Yeah. I know that's right.
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It looks like the new collection. Yeah, it does. This the vintage one under Marc Jacobs. I know that's right. So you don't have a budget now on what you spend a month on clothes? Give me a ballpark figure. I would say a month. Right. I would say now I'm looking at either two bags a month that I really want or about $10,000 a month. Okay. It used to be.
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You talking about, see, that's how I know this couch got money. Girl, I'm talking about, okay, baby. Right, okay, right. I mean, because I feel like. Girl, you spend money on clothes, too. I do. I like clothes and a little shoe. Baby, I'm on fashion. The shoe matters. The shoe matters.
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Damn, that Fashion Nova with Klarna. But y'all know what's funny? Everybody has Klarna now. Even like Givenchy and stuff. They be having Klarna too. I didn't get that shark boot. That's why everybody got shark boots now. Oh my gosh. So do you offer styling to people? You know what? I do want to start doing it. I think you should.
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Like one, it ain't even got to be a celebrity. It can just be a girl that ain't got no budget and be like, here's my car. Go to the mall and get what you need. And you know, it's not going to be designer every time. Like I tell people, Be comfortable in whatever your budget is. Mm-hmm. It's some people out here you would never tell. Like, look at this dress, honey. You would never tell. Mm-hmm.
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Okay, swings, that shape. You would never know. Paris Fashion Week. Yes, ma'am. You would just never be able to tell. Like, it looks like a designer piece. It's how you accessorize it, your earrings, everything. You know, I got them in me too, so now.
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I'm going to do shoes. Yeah. I'm going to do shoes every time because I feel like shoes can be a statement.
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You know, make it, poke it out. But I think styling is like, you do hair so good. Thank you. But I also think that's another thing that you can like dip into because the girls need you. Yeah. On the red carpet. We ain't made it to the red carpet yet, but I get so upset when I see these girls. I know y'all got the money. Yes. And they be the main ones that got them under me.
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Yes, they don't want to pay for a little styling. Do they be thinking that they can put their shit on theyself? And no, boo-boo. They be on Clorna and Fashion Nova Lux with me. Right. See, Fashion Nova Lux do be having some cute stuff. They do now. They do. I'm a high-low girl. Like, I really believe in mixing. Yeah, mix your pieces. I feel like you can't go wrong with it. You got a question?
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
She gives a good intro. That's a narration right there, girl. I braced it down. First of all, how are you? I'm doing good. How you doing? I am great. Let me tell you, I always do this. I know the listeners be like, Legs, please give me a break. When I see people in person and it gives everything that it gives on mine, I just be like, chef's kiss. I mean, it look like you got on the Paris filter.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So I don't know if this was something I made up in my head. So I have been following your career for a very long time. I feel like there was one time you did like a live on Instagram or something and you said like you prefer having regular clients over celebrity clients. Yes. And I actually, I hear that from a lot of people. I've been going to the same girl for years.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Shout out to Needy, Rich Look Hair. I've been going to her for years. And when I tell you she does hair down and she was like, honestly, my best clients are just regular working girls. So I think this is like a teaching moment, too. So I think a lot of people who get in the game, the hair game or the styling game or nails, feet, whatever you do, they want them celebrity clients so bad.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So talk to the people about having celebrity clients and the downside of it versus, you know, having regular clientele and serving them properly. Yeah. Girl, don't go after them celebrities, girl. They're going to come after you. So when you come into business and you're just like, ooh, I want a celebrity, uh-uh. Because one thing about it, the everyday clients are the ones paying your bills.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
They the ones getting, you know, you have options with the everyday clients. The celebrity clients, they're always going to find someone else. And I had to learn that because I... I kind of got tired of doing my regular everyday clients. And I would say, like, 2017 to 2019, I was just, like, straight traveling. And when I got done and came back, those clients, they had found another stylist.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
And so I was like, well, damn. You know, y'all forgot about me. You know, I was texting them. I'm back. You know, they was like, oh, girl, Sinead ain't doing my hair, you know.
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Yes, right? And so, you know, I was just like, well, damn. You know, so I always have your... everyday working clients over your celebrities. And then with your celebrities, sometimes they can take months to pay you.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Right, now. They be like, net 90s and net 60s. No, I need a net now, honey. I did your hair, now I need to be paid now.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
And you know, I have to start taxing their asses. They had interest rates and waiting fees. Yeah. I need my money fees and rent fees and shit, okay?
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
but yes I do have a question so you always have made funny videos online as well like obviously we know you gonna serve a look makeup gonna be tea body tea everything but you have a really really good personality too and I remember you from back in the day we used to make the funny videos with your wig off yes With the wig, look.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I miss them days, right? Oh, my God. Yes, girl. I remember you from back in the day. So, do you feel like your personality has helped at all with building your clientele? Okay. Honestly, um... I would say 60% of your clients is going to come at you for your personality because you have to think about it. People are going through things.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Like when they come and sit in my chair, they're going to vent about their husband, you know, what they done did, you know, or their job and stuff. So they need a laugh. They want to look good too, but they need a laugh to just relax and just, you know, let it all out. Child don't cry with clients, laugh with clients. And they be really needing that. They need that healing, you know, time.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So, yeah. I think that's important because I always say that going to your hairstylist is like therapy. Right. Especially if you got a good one that you cool with. Right. For sure. You leave just feeling so refreshed and like a weight is lifted off your shoulders and you look cute. It's like two in one. Yes. And some of these hairstylists, they be so mean. They don't want you to talk. Yeah.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Okay, $25. Add on. It's so crazy because, like I said, I've been going to Didi for years. Didi knows all my business. Me and Didi talks down. And I think that's a part of the experience. I actually made a TikTok video a while back. And look, y'all, we know you can't be in the salon until you get that paper.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
What? Oh, my God. the exact same in person. Girl, y'all, it's always the pretty girls. Like, yes, with the compliments. Look, amazing. Thank you so much. Take one to know one. Yes, it does. Okay, so I like to start at the beginning. Just for the people that are tuned in who aren't familiar with you and don't know who you are. So you started off as a hairstylist. Yes. Now, do you have your license?
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I said we need to bring that salon feeling back.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
We used to go to salon and it's three, four of us in there. We got a good show playing. We laughing. We talking. It's like a lot of times, like... If you go to a salon, it's only you in there, which is cool if y'all have a relationship. But I like to be with other girls. Me too. And we talking and we chatting it up. We got poor minds.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I think we need that salon feel. Oh, I was just talking about that. Yes. The suites really messed up the industry. Because everybody have suites now. You can't even learn nothing. Like, from other hairstylists, you know, it was like when I was coming up at the salon with my aunt, it was five of us and I loved it. Like, it was a whole reality show.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You have these two stylists arguing and, you know, a client, you know. It was so, so good. So fun. It felt like community. Yes, and so fun, right? It's like a family. I feel like that's what they talk about with Beyonce a lot. Like how her mom had the salon and she grew up in the salon performing. It's just so many memories. Like growing up, I used to love going to the salon with my mom. Me too.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I used to be like, ooh, let me see what everybody getting. And they get that little finger wave, like French rolls. The snatch back ponytail. The baddest. Right. But you know, I do feel that. But you know, these days, I definitely be trying to get in and out. Like, if you got three people ahead of me, let me know when you almost done, and then I'm going to pull up. Yeah. Yeah, child.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So I'm saying, no, I say all that to say it's a lot of people who are popular and they're not virgins, but people want them because of who they are. So the fact that that busty ain't been busted wide open. Right. You a baddie.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You know, ooh, let me tell you, back in the 2010s, my aunt, she would have like, 15, 20 people. Girl. Girl, I was next. I was next. And you know, she'll be over there and she had two assistants. When I tell you she'll come in at like 9 in the morning, it'll be like a line of people waiting on her. She'll get their asses in and out. Ooh.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Oh, yes, she's thousands of dollars a day. I know that's right. That's good, yes, but I love somebody who can get you in and out because some hairstylists, they be slow because you'll be the only one there and then you'll still be there for like six, seven hours. You'll be there for two, three days and you'll be like that Damn.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I'm just kidding. Come back in the morning so I can finish that. Right. Uh-uh. I need now. Shit. What you going to take off? Right. I need some percentages taken off. Right. Go ahead. Go ahead, Dre. I don't know if you have another question. I was going to get into the first topic. Oh, yeah. One more question. Who was your, like, favorite celebrity client? Like, you was like, oh, I love you.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Not me and Ty. Ooh. I don't know. I mean, she unfollowed me. But you know what? I always got love for Megan, honestly. Oh, Megan unfollowed you? Yes. We... One thing about Megan and Ty, she was so fun to work with. And... She gets you the best gifts, like birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, like that girl. I don't know if it's an Aquarius thing, but Aquarius, they get really good gifts.
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And she, like, gave you some really, really good gifts. She was very fun. Even when, like, around the time I was working with her, her mom had just passed away. You would never be able to know because she was always so happy, upbeat. She never let nobody see her cry. You know what I'm saying? So I had a really good time working with her. When did she unfollow you? This is like 2021.
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I think because her best friend was in Kelsey. They was going at it online. And I had said something on the blog. I don't know if she's seen it. But I was just like, I don't like nobody being ganged up on. Yeah. And so I was just like, yes, Kelsey, stand up for yourself. You know, but it wasn't. What? What? But you know what? Because I was like, what was said? But, ooh, I don't know, friend.
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I probably would have followed you, too. It was my fault, honestly. Okay. You know, and that's when I really, like, slowed down from really commenting on stuff. Yeah. Because she probably took that as, like, damn, bitch, like, I thought we was cool. Yeah. But... And I think, too, everything she went through, she was probably doing a cleanse of a lot of stuff that she was seeing on my phone.
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I ain't got my license yet. Are you lying? But you know what's crazy about that? I would have never guessed. You know, she kind of spit it out to you. She said, I ain't got my license, honey. Oh, my God.
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Probably not personal. Because she probably knows your personality.
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Oh, I know they're joking, but still, I'm Eminem.
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And I didn't really understand what she was going through, but, like, now looking back at it, she was going through a lot. Yeah, she had a lot going on. Yes. Shout out to Meg. Shout out to Meg, honey. You kill me in fashion week. I see your looks. You know, yeah, her stylist is killing shit. Yes, honey. What was that? She was in Paris? Yeah, in Paris and in Japan and stuff, and she look amazing.
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Her body look good. Mm-hmm. She got me motivated going to the gym, child. Not me, but... I love the gym. Hey, you ain't in that gym, girl.
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I do go to the gym, but I be in there walking on a treadmill.
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I be up in there sweating bullets. Me too. On that stair master. Girl, on the stair master.
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Oh, you mean business. I be... Do you do it on like one incline or do you switch it up? I do level seven for 45 minutes straight and I burn like 500 calories. Oof. And, girl, when I get up off that motherfucker, girl, I be late the hell out. But, body T, I seen the stomach. Ooh, thank you, girl. Yeah, very flat. Very flat. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole.
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But you know, like you said, the best of the best don't normally have their license. It's just like a piece of paper to me, honestly. Okay. Because my aunt, who has a license, like, she gave me the hours. I just never went to take the test. Okay. If that makes sense. So, I learned everything from her. So, it's like, child, I can literally take the test and go past it.
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And y'all know we are some hygiene girlies, so we are here to tell y'all about Good Wife. Yes, y'all. Y'all been needing a little more than toilet paper. You got to use a little wipe back there when you done. That's why I love Good Wipes because they hypoallergenic and they come in so many different scents like shea cocoa, lavender, botanical blue. I love that. And they're free of harsh chemicals.
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You know what I'm saying? So if you need some wipes other than toilet paper, what you're going to do is go to your local grocery store like a Target, Kroger, or if you're more of an online shopper, it's on Amazon. So get you some Good Wipes, girl. If you want to upgrade your restroom ritual, you can grab good wipes at Target, Walmart, Kroger, and most local grocery stores.
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Just head to the toilet paper aisle and look for the bright aqua, rose, and emerald packages. They're also available on Amazon if you're more of an online shopper.
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and it's your girl Dre Nicole and we have a very exciting announcement today we have a brand new show dropping yeah so we have a brand new show dropping y'all on patreon it's gonna air on September 2nd and it's called poor chronicles we're gonna be doing so much stuff on there we're gonna be doing challenges if you can't go to bella no shade where the hell could you go
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If you can't go to Bella Noche, where the hell can you go? We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't. Oh, my God. Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon. Yes, y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time.
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Y'all know Poor Minds has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down. Stay tuned.
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want to get into the first topic we're gonna play a game called what's the real gag okay so we're gonna get into the game and we basically gonna read you some questions you either have to tell us a secret Or you can take a sip. Okay. Or you'll drink. I think they need another one. Hell yeah. I hear them ice cubes. Woo! Right. Clack-a-la-clack. I do.
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Right. Okay. Drinking all that juice. A little woozy, honey. Oh, yeah. What do you like? What do you prefer? How do you prefer to be addressed? Like they, them. Say he, she. You can say, okay. It's not because you're just, you know, respectful, but I don't care.
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I'm like, bro. Look, look, right. Look, day, look. Okay, okay. I don't get the day shit. I just don't. I don't get it. Okay. I do respect my friends. Like, if they want to be called she, she all day, honey. Yeah. Whatever. But day, I be like, I had a friend who, she was like, I'm day. I said, oh, you got a twin, bitch?
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Of course. So when you don't have your license, that means you can't wash hair with your package. Yeah, you can't shampoo hair. When State Boy come, we got to run. Oh, my God. It's out the door. And you can't work in a salon either. Yeah, you can't really work in a salon either. So I got to come washed. Uh-huh, you already got washed and vaporized.
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Right. Okay, girl. Uh-uh, right, girl, please. Because we were trying to make sure we were being, you know, respectful and correct. Yeah, I appreciate that, but you know. Okay, girl, because I'm like, okay, because she. Right. Give her another drink. That's my girl. Yeah, period. Okay, we can start the game because she do got a little bit. Okay, cool. So, question number one.
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The worst wig install I have ever seen on a celebrity.
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Girl, that's a lot of thinking, girl. We got time. I seen some bad wigs. Mm-hmm. I can think of a few. I can, too. Who you thinking? Okay. Honestly, I feel y'all. Okay. Kim Zosiac, that wig was terrible. Still. Yeah, you know, she like them pushback wigs, honey. Yeah. And they used to be stacked like a mountain on top of that wig, honey. Appalachian mountains.
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I agree with that one. I don't know. Let me, bad wigs. Ooh. Who had a bad wig? Shit, I done had a couple of bad damn wigs. I had one too, bitch. I had a few. It's on, y'all can look on it. It's on the top of the menu. Dre still got my bad wig. I do have it in my closet. You know what? I would say the worst wig I ever seen, this is the BET Awards, what was that, 2023? And Diamond.
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I'm sorry, Crying Mile Diamond. You know, I don't think she was, you know, she was liberty. Well, you know, she's a rapper, so. She came in there looking like little scrappy, she was a little scrappy, honey. Lady Kirby looking like, I can tell you that, honey. And I said, whoa, what happened in that car, girl? You know. That damn wig was just everywhere. It was just an everyday wig, okay?
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I get it, though. I get it. Sometimes you have them nice.
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I'm about to be Googling it. I can't wait to see your wig. Who is one influencer you think is overhyped? Who is one influencer I think is overhyped?
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What am I going to think if I have one at school? Oh, I got one. I got one. Let me take a sip. Okay.
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Alex Earl. Who is that? So she's like a... I don't even know.
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Oh, okay. But on TikTok. And it's no offense to her. I just don't get the thing about her. And I mean, she's always on all the beauty brand trips, the tarts, the things, and this and that. And I just, I don't... Yeah. It doesn't give what it's supposed to give for me. I can't believe y'all don't know who Alex Earl is. You're not a TikTok scroller, but I thought you were a TikTok scroller.
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But, you know, I still shampoo my girls. Hell, no. Okay, okay. But when Stable World come try, you know, we just... You be sneaking in shoes for us.
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I don't know Earl. Let me pull up the picture so y'all can see her. Girl, Alex Earl. Let me see. Y'all have never seen this girl? At first I was going to say, is that a singer? Y'all never seen her? I ain't never seen her. Oh yeah, she's got like millions and millions and millions of followers on TikTok. And what does she do? She just makes videos, get ready with me, beauty stuff.
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Oh, just everything. She's dating like a football player, but that came after she was already popular. She's a beautiful girl, but it's just giving like, okay. Mm-hmm. But you know who one influencer I think should be way bigger? Since we're being negative, we got to cancel out what I said. Clark. I love Clark. I love Clark, too. Clark is a good one. Clark who? Her name is Clark.
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She's real popular on TikTok, and she's a young black girl. She graduated from, I think, NYU. I feel like I'm in my 50s talking about Clark. Who? I got caught up with the girl. Well, she's young. She's like 22. She just graduated, I think, from like NYU or Columbia, one of those schools up there. And she's about to go to law school. But yeah, girl, she was about a million dollar house.
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In Chicago, right? Oh, Clark, you doing your thing. No, she doing her thing. Yes, we love you. Molly love you. She really is. So, okay, let's see. Question number three. Have you ever charged someone extra just because they got on your nerves? Oh, yes, I did. I know that's right. They got on my last motherfucking nerve.
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They came in. It wasn't a celebrity. It was just a regular client. And this is, like, one of my regulars turning. Girl, I'm sorry to spill your tea, Tiff. Tiffany came, her ass in that damn shop. I did some blonde hair. It was, like, the blonde color, uh, honey, you know, highlights. Bitch, like, Sierra highlights. And then she gonna say, oh, I think I wanna, I changed my mind to jet black. Oh.
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Yes. I was already doing it. Okay, so talk about when you first started doing hair. Like, how old were you? Like, when did you start doing hair? So, I was... This was back in 2012. I was working at TGR Fridays. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
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I would have charged extra, too, though. What you mean you changed your mind? Tiff? Yeah. Girl, and Tiff didn't know. I had to go outside for about 15 minutes to cool down, because I was like, girl, I done did this color for three days straight, like, girl. Mm-hmm. And I came in, and I did her hair, and I charged her ass extra. I know that's right. Mm-hmm. That's valid. Because that makes sense.
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Like, you wasting my time. Right. Like, tell me that. Yes, and that was some good color. But you know, I did make a wig out of that hair, so. Mood. Tiff, look, look. I had to, girl. Okay, I'm going to skip that one, Drea. Okay. Who's the messiest person in your DMs? Ooh, the messiest person in my DMs.
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The messiest person in my DMs. If anybody ever seen me in Lex's DMs. We're going down. I would have to say me and my girl Perez. He keeps the mess going. Is that the one that be like, chill. Right, yes.
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We get all the tea, and Perez know how to scoff for some tea. We get that tea, and we be talking about y'all asses. Oh, I talk about it.
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Hell yeah. Everybody do that shit. Nobody off. Right. I think everybody do that. I hate when bitches be, oh, you know, if it's not about the money, don't talk. Girl, please. Get your ass. You ain't got no money. Get out of there, motherfucker. Let me tell you what Kiki did. Girl, shit. Right. Where the money at? It's been all about the money. Right. Mm-hmm.
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Okay, Dre, I think you should do one more, and then I'm going to do one more. Okay. And then we'll go to the topic topic. Okay. Give me something good, honey. I'm going to think about this one. Who is the most famous person that ever slid in your DMs? Oh, my God. Oh, I got to take a drink. That one, honey. I cannot. Oh, I said I was the open book, but let me close my book. Okay.
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I'm running up to you now, honey. Oh, because, you know, just in case, honey. I know that's why. Oh, girl, let me take a whole glass of that. Oh, that tea is hot. I'm going to look at her. I'm going to grab that home as soon as you get up.
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I worked at TGI Friday. You did? What? I used to be slanging them. Ooh, yeah, honey. You got so many stories. I worked there for two months. Okay. I thought you was sweet. It was just a little 90-day probationary period. Okay, okay, okay, okay. Yes, girl. So I was just, you know, I was busting tables and child, the bills were behind. So, you know, child repo status, everything, honey. Yes.
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Okay. All right. Last one. Last one. Okay. What is... Hold on. Wait. I don't want to read this. Okay. What's the pettiest reason you've unfollowed a celebrity that you knew in real life? The pettiest reason I unfollowed a celebrity in real life. Well, this ain't really petty. What's the girl's name? Lala Hathaway. Now, who that? Hold on, let me look. Laina Hathaway?
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I thought she was a gospel singer or something like that.
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Oh, Laina Hathaway. Laina Hathaway? Let me look. Miss Hathaway. What did she do? You damn damn got away, honey. But it wasn't petty. It was because I did, I was late with her wigs now. I was late with them. Okay. She needed them for a show. And she disputed the payment, honey. It was like $5,000 something. She disputed the payment. I already sent the wigs out. Oh.
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And so when the wigs got there, I said, Miss Layla, can you please send my wig? I never got them wigs back. Oh, she just went down J-Hut. I found her. Oh, she did?
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Girl, that's a side part. Girl, that's my mother making wig from 2019, girl. She cut it to her molly. Ooh, I'm just playing. Okay. Girl, she look good though, but yeah, that's her ass. Oh, and she never gave the wigs back and you never got a payment? I disputed .com, honey, and the wigs are still in L.A. I don't know what I'm down with. I don't know if she got them. I'm going to find them hoes.
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Hell yeah, they over there. UPS, I don't know, girl. UPS lost and found. Did you at least win the dispute? I said, did you at least win the dispute? You know what? I was like, girl, you know what? I ain't even got that response to the dispute. Because I kind of took it like... I kind of, you know, was to blame for it. And so I was just like, you know, it's a business loss. And it is what it is.
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Yeah. But that was a good week, too, girl. I was, like, taking my time, wouldn't me? Because, you know, celebrity, you be wanting to... Even with your regular clients, you know. But I was like, let me pin these curls up and da-da-da-da. And I was late with them. And she needed it for a performance. And so, yeah. Yeah. Unfortunately. Now, Layla, you know you out of line for this.
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Because at least get them and send them back.
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You will never work in this town again. Yes. That's what I would have said. That's low-key stealing. You a thief. Now, don't say that to that lady. Mm-hmm. Layla, girl, I still love you, girl, but I had blocked ass. I ain't even gonna talk about it. I blocked. Period. Girl, she said, whoa, face my face. No. I don't know, Layla. Right, Layla. She might take something if she come over here.
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Right, you might have to hide your damn boots. Hide the boots, hell yeah. She gonna slide them boots in that bed somehow. Girl, she gonna sit on right back when she see the dog eat on everything.
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God, it's crazy. I'm going to say this. I'm tired of y'all with the Beyonce conspiracy theories about what y'all think she don't do. Obviously, y'all don't be knowing. We'll never know what she don't do. We'll never know. And two, so y'all know I got to report the negativity. There's a group of people online who are very mad because she's calling it the chitlin' circuit.
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And they're saying if you're calling it the Chitlin Circuit, then you need to go to the places that Chitlin Circuits actually went to. So you need to be touching the corners of the states that are small cities that Chitlin Circuits actually toured. But they not going to have a venue big enough. That was the argument back. They don't have the capacity to hold it.
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So, you know, I was like, let me start doing hair. And so I started doing the girl's hair at the TGI Fridays. And so like, that was my little side money. And so the managers and stuff, they kind of like, it kind of like overshadowed my work that I was really there for. And so I started being lazy, eating on the clock. And so they was just like, you fired.
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And they're like, but your Beyonce created and generate revenue for these smaller towns or smaller states to start holding these artists and doing that. Because you want to be a pioneer? Be a pioneer. So it's been a lot of backlash of her naming it the Chitlin. I mean, yeah, but I also... Yeah. I'm not going to lie. I think Beyonce, I'm not going to lie.
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I'm not mad at her for doing it this way, but I do believe, hell yeah, go to these cities and make these motherfuckers travel for you. We going to see who going to buy tickets then. Baby, because I would have been in Tuscaloosa.
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I would have hosted it for your ass. Yeah. I mean, I agree. That's fair. But then on the other hand, I just do always feel like people just always going to find something to complain about. Like, yeah, she calling it the chitlin' circuit tour, but I feel like it's not that deep to where people should be outraged. And Beyonce donates. You said it is.
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She does philanthropy with, no, but she has donated a lot of money to these smaller cities that have black rodeos. And so she has done her job. Chitlin in the church. Yeah, because I mean, it's all big cities. I understand that, but I still don't feel like people should be that goddamn outraged by it. You know, like people just be up in arms about everything. Yeah.
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With the chitlin', she could at least hit one little chitlin'. One small. You could hit one little chitlin'. Yeah. One little chitlin'. I mean, she going... Well, never mind. No, she ain't going nowhere. She not going nowhere. But like I said, I feel it on both ends, because like I said, I just really don't think... those cities have the capacity to hold.
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And the reason I say that, we went to Macon, Georgia. Macon, right outside of Atlanta for an 85 South show. That traffic, they couldn't do it. They didn't have enough people to direct the traffic. And this was for 85. And 85 is big, but obviously they're not Beyonce. So if a Macon can't handle 85, what you think a Birmingham or a Tuscaloosa is going to do with fucking Beyonce, bro?
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I mean, I'm not going to lie. I understand that's an Alabama game, but this is Beyonce, baby.
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Mm-hmm. Yeah. So, basically, Shay was saying, like, in Alabama, they can handle the capacity of, like, the roll tide, and it be a lot of people, and they can handle it. So, but I do agree. I feel like she could have found one little, at least one little city to do it. But I'm not mad. I'm going. Yeah. We gonna see, y'all. We gonna be there with our hats on and our cowboy boots.
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And so I said, damn, what the hell am I going to do now? So I just really stepped out on faith, like advertising on Craigslist, Instagram at the time, just kind of got started. And like, I was charging like $25, $30 to do Silk presses, sewing curls. Ooh, I wish you'd still charge $25, $30 now. Because now they're like $1,000. They be taxing. Yeah, exactly. Nowadays.
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You know, I've been waiting on this moment, personally. Yeah. I grew up... We're going to get into topic number two. But topic number two, I wanted to talk about gaslighting yourself. Okay. Because we always talk about other people gaslighting us. But I think people never really talk about how sometimes we gaslight ourselves out of opportunities or... out of doing certain things in life.
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So, like, what do y'all think about gaslighting yourself? Do y'all think that that's something that people actually do? Well, I think we definitely gaslight ourselves out of situations. And I also think we gaslight ourselves when people are dealing with us. Yeah.
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So, I think sometimes, like, if you're in a relationship or a friendship or you're at work and you have a manager who is talking to you crazy and you're like... Well, you know, maybe he's stressed out or she's stressed out. And the only reason they're doing this is because, no, they're disrespectful as fuck. Yeah. And you need to check that shit.
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I think a lot of times we make excuses for other people out of love or you feel like you need this job. But I think we need to stop staying in spaces where we aren't felt valued. And I know I did that. I stayed at TGI Fridays for 10 years. They didn't value me. Right. Mm-hmm. You know what I'm saying? I think even at my job that I had, I was so good at my job and they fired me.
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Remember I walked to your house in my little bit to the side flats?
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And I was so sad I lost my job. I was sad too. I was so upset. But one thing about me, Andrea knows this about me. When I start anything, I don't care if I'm working at Burger King. I don't care if I'm at a Fortune 500 company. I'm giving my all. And I know, like, as a person who has, I run my own company now versus being a worker, we give so much to these jobs.
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And we have these people who treat us like, if you die, they're going to have somebody there tomorrow. So if you aren't appreciated, it's okay to move around from these spaces. If you have a friend who is treating you like you don't like to be treated, it's okay to move around from that friend, especially in relationships we do this. You will have a man or a woman who is talking crazy to you.
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Oh, he stress work. Stop making excuses for people because at the end of the day, there is no excuse to treat somebody bad, period. I agree, yeah. And treating people bad is a reflection of how your life is going. I've seen that quote. When you do people bad, it's because your life is bad, bitch, and leave me out. Right. You know, I learned from my mom not to take BS from people.
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Now, I used to put up with it, like, at jobs and stuff and give it my all, like you said. But I guess because it happened so much, now I'm like, girl... Who you talking to? Yeah. And it's like, girl, you, let me cut you off. You know what you did. Oh, girl, you know, and they call you. I just want to know why you ain't called me the last couple. Girl, girl, you gone. Mm-hmm. That girl.
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I mean, and that's the thing about people. I feel like people definitely usually know already what it is. They just be trying to see if you peeped or you picked up on something. Girl, I don't miss nothing. So when y'all are in those situations now, like, how do y'all take up for yourself? Like, what do y'all do when you feel like somebody gaslighting you and they playing in your face?
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Are they treating you bad? How do you take up for yourself? Girl, I be at home sometimes. I let that shit go by and I be like, bitch, you should have said this. Let me call that motherfucker back. Look, I know we apologize about this shit, but look, bitch. Yeah. Your ass, you know, and it's a whole other argument. But I love to stand up for myself.
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I used to be so afraid to do that because I felt like I didn't have the power to. Especially as a child. Like, ooh, girl, people run over me in school. But I also had a I don't give a fuck mind. Like, girl, you know. To hell. But now it is so good to stand up for yourself. It just makes your mental, like, better. Like, it just makes sure you be like, damn, bitch, you did that.
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So did you always have a passion for doing hair, or did you just start doing it because rent was due? So, I always, like, my sister used to let me go to the salon with her. And I would always, like, just watch the stylist, the people come in and leave looking so different, so pretty. And so, I was just fascinated. And I was like, I want to do this. Like... I think I was just made for beauty.
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You know what I'm saying? Pat yourself on the back. So it is very important to stand up to yourself. Don't let anybody mistreat you, run over you, take advantage of you. Especially if you are, like, an entrepreneur or anything. Like, uh-uh. Yeah. That can't fly in my book. What about you, Dre? How do you take up for yourself? I agree.
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But I feel like I have never really had a problem taking up for myself. Like, I will cuss you out with the quickness. I'm like that now. Yeah. You got me fucked up. Absolutely not. I feel like if you don't take up for yourself, who else going to take up for you? And if you don't take up for yourself, people think that they can keep playing in your face. And you're about to keep playing in my face.
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Like, one of us got to go. And it ain't going to be me. It's going to be you. You got to get the fuck on. And you cussed their ass out, and now they think you crazy, girl. Now you crazy. Now they looking at you. Like, you the problem.
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You started the shit, girl, so I ended it. You the one that was being rude to me and mean to me. Nah, I'm wrong, because I said something. I don't know. I think you definitely have to take up for yourself all the time, and people should advocate for themselves way more than they do. Like, I don't know. I think people often don't take up for themselves because they're scared to lose people.
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Like, they scared to lose the person. Like, oh, if I say something to
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something to them and rub them the wrong way they probably not gonna fuck with me no more if they treating you bad and they not a good person you don't need to care if they fucking with you either way i agree with that you need you got to cut that baggage out your life that bad god wants you to get rid of that like so you can progress to the next level so it's like girl i think that's something i'm definitely working on because babe i don't take up for myself my friends take up for me
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Yeah. I'd be like, somebody say something to me, I'd be like, in bed, I'd be like, yee.
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Yeah. I am a cry baby, like, everything, like, but I'm also like, everything makes me cry. If I'm happy, if I'm sad, if I'm mad. So, I sometimes, like, I avoid conflicts a lot. And for me, it's not necessarily that I'm scared to lose that person. I'm just like, It makes me uncomfortable. Yeah, it does. And sometimes it's like I be wanting to take up for myself, but I just be like, you know what?
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Okay. I just be like, okay, like, all right. I just, you know. I'm like that in relationships. I'm like that, like, with my sister. My sister's a tourist. Like, sometimes my sister, like, my sister went off on me last week. And I was like, okay. And I didn't talk to her for, like, two days. She was like, what are you doing? I was like, you hate me. She's like, girl, what is you talking about?
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Like, I am just like that. I don't know why. But it is something that I know that I need to work on. And I also need to not, I'm working on not being so sensitive too. Yeah. Because a lot of times I will take the tiniest things to heart. And I'm just like, oh, somebody does one thing. I'm like, they hate me. I'm like that, too.
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If somebody don't reach out to me, I be like... Because I always reach out to my friends, right? And I'm the type of person, like, they call for advice. Like, bitch, you going through it? Let me pull up at your house. Like, you know what I'm saying? Get you back in the mood. But who the hell going to check up on me?
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This is a rare breed, honey. You know what I'm saying? I'm being honest. It's how you keep just glazing over that pussy. That pussy has not been touched. It's in pristine condition. It is. Because I've seen some blown out pussies. I get on X videos. I know what goes on. It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds.
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And I just be like, well, bitch, you know, you was depressed two weeks ago, and I came and got your ass together. And you're like, girl, now you ain't reach out to me in a couple of days. Now, like, girl, what's going on with you? Yeah. Mm-hmm. I have a friend like that. I have a friend like that. And then, like, I'm kind of the opposite.
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Like, I be feeling like, okay, if you're going to call me, and if I don't call you for, like, two weeks, it ain't no change in our friendship. You know, like, maybe I got something going on. And I feel like sometimes that's how people have to look at it, too. Like, maybe the other person's life is just a little busy. We still cool. I still love you. But she felt that way, too.
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Like, she was like, I just feel like I'm always calling you back. first, and you don't ever call me. And I was like, well, girl, I didn't know we was keeping tally.
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Because if you think about it, hair, fashion, makeup, it all goes together. It all completes the look. So I was like, let me do hair first, you know, to get my bills paid. And then I really fell in love with it. And, like, it's not a job for me, honestly. So it honestly just doesn't feel like work. Like, if you have a passion for it, I think that it'll never feel like a job to you.
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I'm not that friend. I don't give a fuck if I call you four days in a row. It's going to be a fifth.
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Right. I'm going to call you. Me too. I mean, if I want to call, I'm going to call.
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I don't keep tabs on, oh, I called her last.
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And I'll call back to back if you don't answer. Oh, I hate that. Oh, that's mean. And now you can send the video notes too, bitch. What you doing?
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If they answer the phone, I'll call back. If she don't answer again, I'll be like, hey, I called you. Girl, I got a friend that'll call you like four times back to back to back, girl. And I just be like, girl, did somebody die? What happened? I'm like, what you doing? Right. What you doing at 7.30 at night? Girl, it's probably 2.30, girl. What's going on? Shit.
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But I do think if your friend never, like if a person never call you first, then I do kind of feel like that's a little bit of like a red flag. What do y'all think in a relationship, though? Wait, if the person never call you first? Yeah. Or if you always the one that's like... You know what's crazy? I think I like... I'm a creature of habit. So, every day, my man calls me first in the morning.
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I don't play that shit. You call me in the morning first and you text me. And I'm not being like, oh, he has a... No, that's just what we do. Sometimes I do call him first or text him first in the morning every now and then, but... I think that's just a thing that we do. So it's not like, oh, he only... Because throughout the day, we're calling each other and we're texting each other.
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But how we get that day started, because he is a extreme morning person. He wakes up like 5, 6 in the morning. Dang. So I think it's like a pattern that we have. But again, I don't keep tabs on it. I just know, okay, his day has already started. I'm still asleep. I'm not a rise and grind ass bitch. Me either. I rise... Rise and roll. And then I'm going to grind. Right. I rise and shit. Right.
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I don't rise and grind, baby. He is a riser and grinder.
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So I don't necessarily keep tabs on that. But like I said, my relationship, my friendships, anything, I don't keep tabs.
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Now, if you're early dating stages and you're always calling him first. I think that's like a red flag because men love to chase. In the beginning. Right, they do. Yes, honey. They do. I agree. I feel like if he really feeling you, he going to be blowing your phone up, especially in the beginning.
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If he not calling you in this early on, I feel like as a relationship progressed, you know, y'all done got used to each other. He probably not going to call first all the time. Yeah, yeah. But in the beginning, I think if a man really like you, yeah, he going to pursue you. So if he not calling... That's what I say. I get my man for about 11.
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And once it's 11, I'm like up and I done scrolled enough. I'm like, oh, let me see what he doing. I'll call him. You'll call him. You know what I'm saying? But yeah, I don't think you should keep tabs on stuff like that unless it's like early.
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Like, if you look at the icons today, the Janet Jacksons, the Beyonce's, I just feel like they never retired. And that just, I think it goes for hair, too. Any passion. Yeah. So, you said you learned from your sister? So, I learned from my aunt.
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Pour into your pot. Okay, now it's time to get into the bed. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Okay, so the bed is our sex topic of the week. But we're going to obviously do something a little different. Okay, girl. For you today. Because, you know, I like to pry in your business a little. So, you are asexual, correct? Yes. I'm whatever the hell sex look, honey. One thing about me, I'm not asexual.
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I know what I like. I like men's, honey. Okay. You know, I like my men's, honey. I did not know that. Yes. I think that was like back in 2018, 2017. You know how the motherfuckers get. They get confused and shit. Yes, yes. You know, and then they be like, well, hey, I'm gay, you know. But, hell yeah, I like my men's. Okay, so you do like men. Okay. I never knew that.
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This whole time I stopped here. But I'm a virgin.
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Maybe that's what y'all mean. Yeah, I'm a virgin. Well, good. But I do remember, like, seeing that you said you were asexual. I didn't even know what the hell asexual was at the time. I didn't even know what the hell I claimed that shit. Well, the reason, like, I heard you say it a while back as well, but you're so private with your personal life, and I've never seen you with anyone. Right.
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And you never talk about your private life either. So I'm like, okay, maybe she still identifies as that. You know what I'm saying? So you like men. So what do you identify as sexually? What you mean, like, my, uh... Yeah, like, do you identify as, like, gay? Yeah, you can say gay. Gay.
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Shout out to Angie, Eastside Atlanta. Period. My girl, yeah. So, she taught me everything. Sewing, she was there from the beginning. The beginning, yes. I love that. So, who was your first, like, celebrity client? So... Very first one. What y'all consider celebrity? Like, is it reality TV or... You know, I'm a little strict.
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Okay. All right, so you do your topic then. The one that you said first. Because my topic was about the asexual, but you said you wanted to talk about her being a virgin. Yes, I did. I wanted to talk about being a virgin and navigating dating. Right. Like, how do you do that? How do the conversations go when you normally tell a guy, look, I don't get down like that. I'm not having sex with you.
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They be like, what? And see, I'm a Scorpio, so they be like, you cannot. Right. It's like, girl, you're lying to me. Like, you're lying. But I be like, I'm dead for real. Like... I don't know. I just think that sex for me, like, I love cuddling, hugs, and, you know, just being under someone. But just having sex all the time, like, it was this one guy who I had went on a date with. Mm-hmm.
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And he was like a sex freak, honey. Like, ooh, girl, just talking about what he would do to me. And I just said, look, we ain't even got our appetizers yet. You talking about what the hell is going on. Right. Child. Bye. That's a turn off, too, if you start talking about sex too early on in the day. Right. And I'm a virgin, like, uh-uh, you trying to break me in and shit, girl.
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Break me in, ain't no house. So, are you waiting for, like, marriage? Are you waiting for that special, like, person, a serious relationship? Like, what are you waiting for? Or do you not want to at all? I don't even know what the hell I'm waiting for, girl. Okay. God could have somebody in my damn bed tomorrow, and I just... Get it up, honey. I locked the key, honey, okay?
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But I honestly... It's just nasty out here, y'all. It's like... Let me tell y'all, I had a friend who, like, was just taking it safe and just caught HIV. And it's just like... Girl, if that was me, like, I don't know what the hell to do. And it's just like, you know what I'm saying? I'd be so scared. Like, you just never know. Like, you know, but honestly, I don't know what I'm waiting for.
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I mean, I think God will, you know, get me someone. Yeah, bring the right person. I'm not going to lie to you. I had a friend who, she was a virgin all throughout high school. And... She waited till, like, college. And I remember I finally, like, because it was, like, seven of us in high school that were really close. And when she finally lost her virginity, she was like, it was horrible.
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It was this, it was that. I'm like, oh, my gosh, you waited all this time, and it sucked. And my first time, I lost my virginity when I was, like, 15, 16. And it was a magical time. It was my high school sweetheart. We were in love. Baby, I loved him down. And I always think of that like a good, like, my first time was a good memory for me. Mm-hmm.
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So I say all that to say, like, now that you're, you know... Right, you've said that before, though. Like, my first time was, like, I remember it like it was yesterday. So I feel like since you've waited so long, at least, bare minimum, make sure it's with somebody, like, you've been with, you're in a serious relationship.
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Because even if y'all do break up and not be together, you want it to be, like, a good memory. Right, a good memory. Yeah, like somebody who really... Versus somebody like, oh... Right.
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That's what I was going to say. I'm sure you probably think about that, too, because that's something that I would think you have to worry about as well is just people even wanting to date you or wanting to try to get it because nobody got it before. Ain't nobody got the body, honey. It's just like, you know, don't nobody know what the birthmark, what the mole is, honey. It's just like...
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they be wanting it. Yeah. Like, ooh, and they be knowing too, girl, like, when I be in the club, them men be flocking, honey. For real? Yes, girl, with they shirts off and they, girl, they be acting like, like they security guards, honey. They just like, come over here, you know. Yeah. My girlfriends, you know, just act all shy and shit because I am shy in real life and that's another thing.
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I'm a little strict when it comes to celebrity. Like, I think of like, you know, actresses. Right.
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Mm-hmm. I'm so shy. Like, what people see, like, on Instagram, ooh, girl, in person, I just be so reserved. Like, ooh, yes. Yeah. Really? That's so funny. And that's why I say, I think, too, on top of that, you being a baddie, like, you are bad as fuck. Gorgeous. You're a virgin. You bad as hell. You a boss. Like, it's just a lot. And then on top of that, who you are.
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Some people just want you because of who you are outside of that.
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You know what I'm saying? No, I say all that to say... It's a lot of people who are popular and they're not virgins, but people want them because of who they are. So the fact that that pussy ain't been busted while I open.
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It's a lick. This is a rare breed, honey. You know what I'm saying? I'm being honest. It's how you keep just glazing over that pussy.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
It's in pristine condition. It is. Because I've seen some blown out pussies. I get on X videos. I know what goes on. Do you watch gay porn? I have watched gay porn before because Mandy sent it to me. Shout out to Mandy from Decisions Decisions. It's not Horrible Decisions anymore. But Mandy has sent me some shit before. Yeah. You know, she likes to pay. She do like gay porn.
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They be sending me that shit. They be like, girl, and they be some big pieces, honey. They be like, how the hell they piece get that big? You know what's crazy? So I'm not going to lie. I be seeing the baddies. Like, they be bad, like titties done.
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And then they having a little, they be having a pee-pee. Right. So, they be having a big one.
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You acting like it be little. I know. I be shy about it.
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Hey! But I do think it's categorized by list, right? So I feel like if you were, like, actress or if you were a rapper, a very known rapper and stuff, you're A-list. Well, you're A-list, yeah. But then I feel like the reality stars, they be like B-list, C-list, unless you a Kardashian. Then they A-list. Yeah, they're A-list. Okay. Mm. But I'll go by whatever you consider.
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It be big, honey. You know, it go down on X, honey. Oh, my gosh. And they be on the show on that motherfucking thing.
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It be swagger to the ground. I be like, whoa.
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What happened, girl? Did you... You know what I'm saying? So, do you attract a lot of straight men? I do. I attract a lot of straight men. And I love my man to be... I like trade. So, trade is like... The girls can holler at him. Yeah, they don't be normal. I like a little bit of femininity. You know, you just never know.
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But I like a masculine man, honey, because I feel like I am the girl of the relationship. I'm soft. It's not giving anything else but a lady.
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It's giving lady. It's giving, you know, classy. It's giving, you know, it ain't giving these... We're Friday, you know. Right. So, I need a man. I need a masculine man. I'm not going to lie. I'm probably more masculine than you. Damn. I am. If we was walking together, they'd be like, look at that trans girl, man.
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You know what I'm saying? I still got my heels on. Girl, look, walking and talking. And my sneaker's like, what's up, hoe? What's up, nigga? That's what I'm saying. It's giving. It's very, like, you, and because I know it's a thing in the community, they say the girls that are, like, non-detectable.
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Yes, like, I think because you're so well-known, people know, but, like, if I saw you, you're not detectable at all. A lot of people still don't believe me. Yeah. I wouldn't if you just told me. I don't know if I believe you either. I need to see that pussy. You know what? I had a girl in a mall one time. She did not believe me. And girl, she was like, I just don't believe you.
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Like she was like, I've been following you for so long and I just can't believe you. I said, let me see your hand. I said, do you feel this? Oh, don't you let them know? Right, I said, girl, you know, it ain't, it ain't, you know. I think, too, everything about you is petite. It is. So usually when you look at people, they see big. Look, my hands are probably bigger. Yes, they is. Uh-huh.
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You know, I was size 10, so you know. Oh. You were a team, too, though.
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No, girl, they gonna look at all of us and be like, it ain't now, one of them. Let me get all y'all numbers, honey. Are you dating, though? Are you dating right now? No. No? I ain't got nobody that's up my roster, honey. You know how God send you somebody, you should be like, I ain't got nobody up my roster right now. So are you looking, though? Are you like on the prowl?
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I wouldn't mind looking, you know, for a little something. You know, you got to have, you know, something going on or something, you know. Yeah. Change or something. Yeah, yeah. But I just love a man that really gets to the small things, like the details, you know. Like, how did you know my car needed gas, you know? Or how did you know I needed some toilet paper, you know, or some tissue?
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Or how did you know this? You know, so. I like that. I love a man that listens. Yes. Yes. The romance. Romance ain't dead. Right. It's not. Romance isn't dead. And I feel like it's just a lost art form. Like, man, that's just not romantic. They not. They like all that hood shit.
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It's tax time now, so girls, watch your taxes, okay?
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He don't want you. He want that check. Oh. Right. My God. I had a cousin that got got like that. For real? Girl. So, girl, she met a man, right? And she got a new car. They both stopped working in May. Girl, she had a man, honey, and he was, I flipped $2,000 into $20,000. And, girl, she gave him down there all that tax money, honey. Did he flip? Never seen it again. He flip shit.
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He got the hell out, okay? Oh, my God. I said, girl, I knew your ass was going to give him that money. And she was like, I was like, girl, I told you not to do it. That is terrible. We got to stop. Don't give no man no money.
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He going to flip it on the next girl. Oh, yeah. You know how bad it is to, like, if you give a man money, then you find out, like, he on a date with a girl? Yes. He took that money. He took that money. Child, stop giving me money. I've been pulled up on that date seat. What? That's why I can't be in a relationship, honey. And every time I see him, too, I would be like, so you got my money? Right.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Okay, so my first something something was Bambi, Basketball Wives. Okay. And, you know, I did her hair and she had like 13 bundles. You know, Bambi got a little small head. Oh, Lord have mercy. She wanted me to put all them bundles in their head. But when I tell y'all she shot me out, everybody started coming. Like, back in the day, Instagram, like, shout-outs was something. Everything. Yes.
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Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Where's my money? I walk up to him while he on a date. Do you have my money? Let me call my brothers and cousins, honey. But you know what I will say? When you're a good person, so this is for the ladies who have given men money and it didn't work out in their favor. Because I know you gave that man money out of the goodness of your heart. Because I'm going to say this.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Not that in this situation I gave a man money, but it's like even if you give a man your all in a relationship, let me tell you how karma works. Because I am not a believer in karma. I've said that before. Because I think sometimes it's just things just happen. But I had something that happened to me, what, two days ago? We got a text in the group chat.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You got, you got, honey. Oh, it felt so good. It felt so good. And that's why I said God don't play by me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So sometimes when you do good things for people and you may feel hurt, just wait. Just wait on that karma, honey. Especially if you're a good person. I agree. You chosen, honey. God gonna spin the block.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
He gonna be like, damn, that by that nigga. Yeah. Got in the car and sit in. You know, damn, that's why he... That's why he got a big thing. Right. That's why he a paraplegic. Right. I see. Oh, sorry. Too far. Too far. I'm sorry. A paraplegic is crazy. I'll be dead! I've been trying to paralyze people. We just had a little fender bend. Okay, okay, okay. My bad.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
But I also think it's the difference between doing things and expecting something back and just doing things out of the goodness of your heart. So I feel like everything I've ever done for anybody in my life, my friends can attest for this. I'm just doing it because I fuck with you that hard and because I believe in you or I love you. I don't need no payback for nothing. Right.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So when I tell you God... I had a moment. Me and Drea had went on a trip. I had a moment where I just woke up and I was just crying and I was thanking God because I cannot believe this is my life. Yes. And all the struggles I went through, everything that I did for people that maybe took me for granted and stuff, you know what? God gave that back to me tenfold, baby. Yes, he did.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Like, I done let friends borrow thousands of dollars and they didn't pay it back. And I just be like, you know what? You can keep it. Yep. And... Honey, God will find a way. Next week, I have a booking, $20,000. I be like, damn, girl. $2,000 turned into $20,000. It's just like, hey, man, thank you, Jesus. He always going to look out for you, for sure.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
And I always say, too, because my mom taught me this. Don't ever lend people money that you not going to be okay if you don't get it back. Of course, y'all need to be paying people back. Don't just go around not paying people back. But at the same time, you shouldn't give it out if you can't afford to spend it. You know what I mean?
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Because a lot of the time, people not going to give you your money back. And that shit is fucked up. Yes, it is. My mama taught me, like, the same thing. But I have such a loving heart. Yeah. And I'd be like, well, damn, if it was me, you know, I want somebody to help me out. Yeah. And I'd call my mom about it. She'd be like, what'd I tell your ass about giving that damn money?
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You could have gave that to me. Yeah. Where they at? Where they stay at? I ain't going to get it from you. Mine ain't worth it. Shit. Oh, that is so funny. Look, just calm down. They going to get got. But that's why you continue to get blessed all the time now. Because you got to give it hard.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Now you shout a motherfucker out, you ain't going to get nothing done. Right. Damn near Beyonce can shout your ass out. You ain't finna get no clients. So it's just like, Instagram, the algorithm changed. But, um, did her, and then my first real, real, real big celebrity would have to be Portia Williams. Okay. I'm a Porsche fan. Me too. I love her.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
And one thing I will say about, like, hairstylists, social media influencers, you have stood the test of time. You know how, like, we'll hear about a hairstylist and we never hear about him again? Or a social media influencer and you never hear... So the fact that you've been in this game for a long time and you still killing it, you still, that's a, them blessings. That's a good thing, honey.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I'm like a Nicki Minaj, honey. Hey, still going, honey. Okay, still. Okay, yes. Can't stop that train. Right. Thank you. Boom. You know what I'm saying? Okay, so now it's the item of the week. Drea, what you got for item of the week this week? So for my item of the week, of course, it's going to be MuseBeautyCollection.com, which is my cosmetics brand. Yes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Make sure you get your lip glosses, your lip liners, matte liquid lipsticks. We also have jelly blushes. I also have on the eyeliner and the mascara right now, which is coming out really, really soon. So, of course, I had to bring you a little gift. Because I know you a makeup girl, too. Yes, girl. Yes, I wanted to give you a little basket in the spirit of Valentine's Day. So cute. Of course.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Girl, this is everything. I hope you like it. I love a good gloss. And a good mascara, honey. Oh, I got you, girl. Girl, you know they're looking like mine now. My PR pop. Layla, have the right look. I'm going to have the right look.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Oh, shit, man. Now, the mascara haven't came off yet. Not the Ruby Woo.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Oh, Lord. Yes, God. But, yes, the mascara haven't came out yet, but it's coming out next month, and I'll make sure I send you some. Thank you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So, wait, what you got in there? Some lip glosses. I gave her some of the jelly blushes. I also gave her some of the lip liners, and I think it might be a few matte liquid lipsticks in there as well. Let me tell you, that jelly blush, if you do, like, a light makeup look one day... I love light makeup. Oh, that jelly blush gonna...
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
It'll just give you, like, that little rosy cheek. That's why I said it's giving, like, oh, my God, you investing me. Uh-oh. That's what it is. That's when you need to do a commercial. I'm going to end up like this. Right. Okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
That's a good idea. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here. Period.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to itemoftheweek.com PM at gmail.com. That's I T E M O F T H E W E E K PM at gmail.com. Send us an email and we'll work it out.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
We're going to figure it out. Get your product, get your business sponsored and yeah, make you some money. We love to support a small business now. And a black business at that. But I mean, we don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. So now it's time to get into the bow. Hey. The bow. Bow. Bow.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
And when a, it's, okay, so I'll say this as a consumer. It's different between like, if you do somebody's hair and, oh, their hair looks good versus doing somebody hair who is known for being polished.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Bow. Bow. Bow. Okay. So I say this a lot. One thing I have curated all my social media accounts. My algorithm is fire. So I'm a music head. I'm a music girly. And one thing I love is like seeing a new artist that I haven't seen before. And I'm like, how did this come up on my timeline? Because my algorithm is fire. I found this small artist. She only gets like 14,000 listens a month.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
But when I tell you, it's so many superstars out there that we just haven't even heard of. This song is such a good song. So her name is Sid Franklin. The song is called Plastic Waterfalls. Hmm. It is such a good song. It's basically about, like, she's in love with this guy and everything was plastic. It was fake. It wasn't what she thought it was.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You know, you see a waterfall and you feel like it's so beautiful. Then you get up close and it's plastic. Yes. When I tell you I'm... I'm a lyrics girl. So the lyrics in this song are just so beautiful. It gives like an R&B vibe. So yeah, that's my bop of the week. Like I said, music ain't dead. Y'all just not looking for it. It's such a good song.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
It's very rare that I come across a song and I'm like, oh, I'm excited about this. So yeah, Sid Franklin, Plastic Waterfalls, fire. I'm fucking with you, Sid. I'm rooting for you. Okay? Go download that. All right. What you listening to, Drea? So, I like lotto and Playboi Carti new songs. Oh, I haven't heard it. Oh, Blick something. Yeah, I like that album. Oh, I got that Blick Blick.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I like the little intro. I like the intro, but I just also, I love when the girls get on the track and just be popping they shit. Yeah. You know what I mean? So, shout out to lotto. Shout out to lotto. Playboi Carti because I didn't, I was like, he hadn't really been making no music lately, have he? That's because he been over there giving Iggy Azalea hell. Nah, see?
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Like, if you do a Porsche hair, a cash doll hair, like, that hits differently.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
He's been torturing that lady. Okay, he has. Because he had a nice little run at one point. Remember he had that song, everybody was singing, woke up to niggas talking like, Yeah. I think that was his first song, right? Yeah. But then he had a few more songs after that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Well, you know what I think? Yes. Right. Torturing. I told you he torturing. But I think his music now is more so like, it's kind of rockish. Yeah. Rock, that rock rap, oozy kind of vibe. Okay. So I think it's just. Maybe that's why. Yeah, he's making music, but I don't think it's like for us. It's probably overseas or something. Yeah. It's not for us. He making K-pop. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Because, like you said, shout-outs aren't the same, but if cash dolls shout you out, you're getting booked up. Because they known for hair. Yes. Yes. So, that does hit a little different. You know what I'm saying? Like me, if I recommend a good bean, I like beans. Oh, come on. I love a good bean plate. If I shout out some beans, the people going to buy it up. No, they not. What a bean, honey.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You know they're hitting a 5, 6, 7, 8. Right. You know, so. Okay, that's a good bop though. I like Lotto. Lotto talks that shit. She does.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Y'all know I'm an R&B head, honey. Same. It can go from Carrie Hilson, you know, to a good old Tynesha Kelly. Ooh, you got deep in your bag. Yes, I got deep in that bag, honey. Ooh, yes, ma'am, honey. I mean, A. Marie. Ooh, I love me some good A. Marie. Mary J. Blige. I mean, I love R&B. Of course, the queen of rap, honey, Nicki Minaj. Hey, Barb. Yes, honey. She's that girl will always be.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I love her. I mean, I'm very versatile with my music, but I love R&B. I'm a hopeless romantic. So what have you been jamming this week? What's your song that you just cannot stop playing? And it could be new or old. New or old, yeah. It could be new or old. I really ain't been getting into the new music, y'all. That's fine. It's hard. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
It's like, maybe it's because I'm not really doing my research on, like, the underground artists that haven't really made it yet. But, like, I was just on my way here listening to System A Marie. Period. Her Touch album. I was listening to Falling. Don't be afraid to touch. Right. Don't be afraid to touch.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You know that, huh? That was at the South. Jill Scott is another one, honey. She was, ooh, girl. Love Rain. Love that song. Okay, so you an old school.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
We love a little old school. And that's why I said, when you have an ear, it's hard to enjoy music now because the mainstream stuff is not necessarily enjoyable. Right. Yeah. The Grammys just passed, and I don't know what their agenda was, but Chapel Rowan. Yeah. I've never gotten to her. I tried to listen to it, but when I saw that performance. Right. That song has been stuck in my head. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Oh, my God. She's all it takes. I did, too. I tried to listen to some of her music, too, after the Grammys. and I was just like, okay, you know, actually, it's not bad. So a long time ago, I tried to listen to it and I was like, I'm not good. After that Grammy, I said, I get it now. I see the vision. I get it too. What's his name? Vincent Boone. He flips off these beautiful things.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
He's like, Chris Brown, you ain't the only one tumbling. You need to stop talking about people flipping because remember last time. What? Last time you talked about somebody flipping off a building. What happened? What I did? You talked about somebody flipping off a building. No, I don't. I promise. Never mind. Shay know what I'm talking about. We're on the same way.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I don't be remembering nothing. What? Who flipped off a building? We gonna do this. Somebody flipped off a building. I don't know. Did I get dragged? Did I get dragged? Yes, you got dragged on Twitter. We both did. Oh, my goodness. Flipping off a building. Oh.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Because I got drugged to hell. We definitely got drugged. Oh, my God. By our ponytail. Let's move on. Let's move on. Okay, so before we get into this last topic, because we finna wrap it up. Alonzo, this has been so much fun. It has. I love you. I love you down.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I love y'all more. Like, honestly, I love... I was telling my friend before we got here, I was like, oh, my gosh. I just... I never know how people's energy gonna be because we've been doing this a long time and sometimes you see people online and they're so bubbly and so this and that and then you get in person and they're like...
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Oh, hello. Yeah. She felt it. Ooh. She's healthy. Alonzo, Lex talk about beans every episode. She don't mention some goddamn beans. I'm working on that Bush's deal now. I mean, it's coming. It's coming because you've been doing all the endorsement. I have built, like, it's immune to it. You know what I'm saying? I have built up that fiber intake. Did you ask her about 40?
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Yes. So for all the listeners out there and people who are fans of you, thank you for being who you really are and showing up and being your real authentic self. You have educated us today, me, about you. And I know I can call you girl.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
One of the girls. One of the girls, honey. So do you give good advice? Yeah. Okay, so we finna do our advice segment.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
This is called Pour Your Heart Out. If you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at askpoorminds at gmail.com. If you're a Patreon member, put that in the headlines so you can skip the line, okay? So I have question one. Mm-hmm. All right, so it says, I'm 32, and I've always dated my age or older.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I'm a guy that likes guys, by the way, and I'm in Atlanta, so y'all know it's a shit show. I met this guy who, on paper, checks all the boxes. He's 6'8", very handsome, has a great job, was raised right. Y'all know that's rare nowadays. And we've met a few times in person. It's been a vibe so far. The thing is, he's 27.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Now, I've dated men five-plus years older than me, and they were all a joke in one or multiple ways, but dating younger has never been in my ministry. Would y'all keep seeing where it goes or be like, fuck them kids? I'm a lover like y'all. I came from love, and I'm cute, so I know I'll find my person, but never in a million years did I think he'd be younger than me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Curious to hear y'all's thoughts. How old? He's 32? He's 32. And the man is 27. Yes, and he usually dates older. Girl, go see that nigga. Yeah. Go see that nigga, honey. Don't judge him. Right, don't judge him just because of his age, honey. I can see if you said 23 or 21. You know, ooh. Then you on the butter line. Oh, Kelly. Oh, you know, so. Yes, go see that man, honey. Go see that man. You 32.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You're getting older. Everybody's getting older, honey. He checks all the boxes off. You need to go check on him. Because if you don't, I will.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
They think I got balls anyway. But Zach, uh-uh. Now, see, I agree. I definitely feel like if he was a little bit younger, then I can understand you having your reservations about it. But 27 and you 32, like, have a good time. See where it go. I mean, because it might not even end up being something that serious, but just see where it goes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Don't just not give him a chance just because he's younger than what you do today. Yeah. Because I usually date older. I like my niggas knocking on... Death's door. Damn. And my man younger than me. Not one foot in the grave, y'all. When I be like, where you live? And they be like, puny nursing home. The coochie gets wet. I was like, insurance policy looking, right? You can't sign my name on it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You know what I'm saying? But my man is younger than me. He's 32. I'm 35. I'm about to be 36. So I feel like sometimes it be the ones that you least expect. That'll take you by surprise. Yes, they will. Let that six amen take you for a roar. Right. You might like it. Six, eight, honey. Ooh, likes that. I agree. Okay, question number two. Hey, Lex, Drea, and Ty.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I watch Poor Minds religiously and decided I want to pour my heart out, LOL. I cut off one of my close friends since high school, and I don't know how to feel about the situation. I have a two-year-old, and from the moment I found out that I was pregnant, she told me damn near every minute to get an abortion.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
i've had an abortion before and it just wasn't an option it confused me because she never told any of our other friends to get an abortion and they are like two or three kids in her mom died while i was pregnant and i still made a way to her home going even though i was high risk i've always been there for her daughter buying gifts every holiday and birthday but she hasn't even seen my son other than pictures
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Then she messaged me on New Year saying her resolution is to be a better friend to me. That really rubbed me the wrong way because I've always been a good friend to her. I could be a little defensive, but do you ladies think she is a weirdo or am I just overreacting and she was trying to give me friendly advice? Thanks, ladies. So I'm seeing it from two points of view.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I be saying the same thing. I be like, you need to carry some Beano in your purse. Right, girl. But she say she don't be farting. That Beano is naturally in my DNA. Oh. It's in me. The beans I made it. You know what I'm saying? A bus, honey. Okay, so I have a question. Go ahead, go ahead. So I wanted to know, how do you stay with the trends?
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So her reaching out and saying, I'm trying to be a better friend, and you still getting offended by that. Like, damn, what can't she do? So I think if somebody is genuinely saying, hey, I'm trying to be a better friend, because I had that conversation with two of my close friends like a couple of years ago, and I'm like, I'm trying to be a better friend, and I will.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
And you got to give people a chance, especially if you really care about them. So that's one. But I think it's more to the story, because her telling you to get abortion, she don't like your baby daddy. That's what it's giving. She didn't want you to have them kids because it may be attached to an ain't shit nigga. Because a lot of times you be trying to save folks.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
I done saved a few folks in my life. And I done been saved a few times. R.I.P., R.I.P. But I say all that to say sometimes your friends can see things that you don't see. So tell us about your baby daddy so we can give you a good... Answer. Did she say that friend didn't come see her kids?
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Yeah, she said she has always been there for her friend's daughter, but her daughter, I mean, but she's never came to see her son, only outside of features. So, see, that's why I caught that. Yeah. Because now the child's here. Right. It's already here. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, okay. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, like you said, she probably telling you to get an abortion because of that man. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Either that man is a no good man, or she might be fucking with that man. Ooh. Ooh. You never know how somebody's feeling. Exactly. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Everything to do with who the man was. Yeah. Because she said, too, that she feel like she told her to get an abortion, but she never told none of the other friends to get an abortion. Maybe they got a good baby then. Yeah. Or maybe they married in relationships. We don't know because you didn't provide all of that context. You was giving her one side of the story. But... Give us more.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
But I mean, in some cases, though, people do be being weirdos. And they do be hating. Yes. Yes. So sometimes a girl tell you don't get pregnant because she like, because you're going to live a glamorous life. Right. And I'm going to be here by myself. Yeah. Mm-mm. Do what's best in your heart. God won't give you this time. I agree. Do what's best for you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You know, you can't... I feel like when it comes to situations like that, not trying to be funny, but if it's coming down to you having a child, you shouldn't be taking your friend and, like, no way. It's between you and your man.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
But now that the child is here, as far as y'all's friendship goes, if this person is somebody that you care about and you're truly happy around them, reconcile the relationship. But if you feel like life is good and I'm cool not being your friend, that's your answer right there.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You know, it's up to you. I'm all about chance. Give her one more chance. One more chance. Okay, Alonzo, let the people know. Okay, let me ask you this. Do you still take clients to do their hair? Yes, I do. Okay, so tell them how they can book.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Because just like you just said, you know, back in the day, the girls used to love to wear 10, 15 bundles in their hair. Now, these days, I feel like the girls be going for a more natural look. So how do you stay on top of the trends and just knowing what's always up to date? You know what? Honestly, I would... See, back in my day... Child sound like I'm 85 years old. Okay, tell.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
She be cornered. Right. Cornered. I don't know what the hell she need. I'm saying, girl, 2027, shit, we might not be. You just never know. With Trump ass in office, you know, it's just too much going on. Get up. It might be a wrap. It's going to be Europe in a minute. Shit. So I was just like, ooh, girl, you know, but yes, I do hear. I do. I miss doing clients here.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Like, I used to just do nothing but make wigs in the house. And I'm like, damn, I need to get back into, you know, doing that because I get bored at home. So, I'm back. Okay, so, how much can somebody expect to spend? So, if you want to... You know, if you want to get your full lace wig, you got to get the hair for me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Because I be bringing plastic hair, like plastic waterfalls.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
The Amazon hair. We need real hair, okay? Right. Now, stop on Amazon wigs. I ain't going to lie to you. They be looking good. Ooh. But a ballpark amount be about $2,200. Okay. Some tax money. Now, do you accept after pay or Klarna? I need before pay. Okay. You know... No installment. Right. I don't know if, what is it, Acuity Scheduler has, Karna. I don't know.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
If they do, you know, put your social security number if you got a good credit. Right.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Frontal. Do you do sew-ins? I do do sew-ins. So, anywhere from, I would say, because you got to get the hair for me. So, like, let's say if you get like a 22, 24, 26 in a sew-in. That's like $1,000, $1,200. Okay. Do you still make you part wigs? Mm-hmm. I still do you part wigs. Well, you know what? My assistant girl that does them, she does them really good. She moved back to Africa.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So now I got to find somebody. I mean, she make them tracks flat. Yeah. And, girl, I was even like, girl, how do you do it? You know, so... I think the more practice I get on it, it'll be better. Because I'm talking about them damn wigs was seamless. It was like she had a special type of cap that she get made, and the way she later tracked, it feel like it's nothing in your hair. I love that. Yes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
So, what do you offer for $250? Nasi. God damn it, I got to get in where I'm at. A prayer. I'll give you a 10-minute call.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
Right, a little how to do a curl for five minutes. My ball, bitch. I'm trying to keep my ball. That's a good old quick week, you know.
Pour Minds Podcast
Stylin And Profilin FT. Alonzo Arnold
You can find me on Instagram. I am Alonzo Arnold. I've been on X or Twitter now a lot. It's I'm Alonzo, bitch. And TikTok, AlonzoArnold6. So, yeah, I'm all over. Okay. Thank you. I love you down. I love y'all, too. I feel like we've known each other for 30 years.
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Right, we will. Okay. Mm-hmm. Now, look, I'm going to try to convince you to get that clarinet on so I can get my soul in. Come on, clarinet. Look, clarinet, clarinetta, honey. We need a black version. What's the black version? Okay. Clarissa. I think clarinet is the black version. Right. Clarissa. Mm-hmm. Clarissa.
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Okay, y'all make sure y'all tune in to Slay Nicole with 3 E's. Every Sunday, she drops new vlogs, all the beauty content you need. Every Monday, we got Love Lex P. We're reviewing all the hottest shows, movies, and everything. And of course, every Friday, you got Poor Minds. Wednesday, we got new Patreon episodes. The early release, because Monday, we got new Patreon episodes.
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You know, the girls... See, my clients, because I did, like, a different type of hair, they didn't really like all that hair. Like, I had some clients that liked, you know, getting all that hair. But I always went for the more natural, realistic type of approach. So, I think I always just been, you know... Ahead of the game.
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So we are giving y'all content all week. Go get your hair done. You know what I'm saying? Pull up a chair and watch all the content we giving y'all, and we'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds.
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It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page. If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page, okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have... one Instagram, one Twitter, one TikTok. It is P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. All right? And we got a hella fake Facebook page.
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Oh, the Facebook page. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers. The one that's ours got the least amount of followers. That's not us. Got like 250,000 followers. But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content. Because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English. Because their captions are like. Bamba Claus. Should men pay bill?
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Blah, blah. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the captions mean. I like that DDG's Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude. I love that video.
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You whisper softly in my ear. Makes me unwind. When you touch me, let me know you're mine. I'd rather be with you because I love the way you scream my name.
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I'd rather be with you because you hustle hard to take care of me. I'd rather be with you.
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Tonight's the night your fantasy will all come true. I am your woman. I belong to you. There is nothing.
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Like with the baby hairs. I never, you know. I was just about to say that. Uh-huh. You know, them girls, they love, baby, they take their whole frontal. They be the back of your head. Yes, God. And it be a whole bundle of that. But sometimes it be way down here.
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Make me feel this way. I'd rather be with you. I'd rather be with you. I'd rather be with you. Boy, I'd rather be with you. Oh, hi. Hi, hi. Hey. Yeah. Oh, I'd rather be with you. Yeah. Yeah. Boy, I'd rather be with you. Oh, this pussy. I'd rather be with you. Yeah. Yeah. Boy, I'd rather be with you.
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She gave a little Tony Braxton. Hell yeah. Baby.
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You can't even see. I don't see how the girls even drive. This shit, they just be, ooh, my hair. Between the edges and the lashes.
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A war is being fought. Yeah. They be close down here. But I will say, I think the baby hair trend came from... And I love a little baby hair, but when I have the frontals, like when that lace get a little old and it's lifting, you need that baby hair to kind of... You do. You know what I'm saying? I like baby hair, too. I'm not against them. I just...
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Like, to me, the only person that I think that can do some good baby hairs, and I think that really took it, is Eric and Tay. Yeah. Like, Eric and Tay, he, I mean, even natural looks, he does amazing. Just all around amazing hairstylist, so. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And I think, too, it's like that soft baby hair.
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Yeah, just forth, and they're like a curtain and a... Mm-hmm.
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That was grown hair. You cut their hair to make it look like this. Now why am I in it? They do their real hair like that. Yes. Girl, I got to make it work. You know when you get your hair braided, these braces old, girl. I ain't got time to get my hair done. I think the older they look, the better they look. I think so, too. The older they look, the better.
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But when them edges start falling out, when I tell you I got a bob right now, right here.
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Yes. So Ty, our beautiful Ty, what are we drinking today? So, look, I had to do some Instagram stalking. And, man, this is for the baddest in the room. Okay? That Instagram ate honey. All right? So, this is for you. This is called the baddest in the room. This is a mocktail, but you can add whatever spirit of choice. We have some grapefruit.
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We have some strawberries, some lavender, some basil, and a little bit of lemon juice. And then we topped it with a sparkling water. A little bit of agave as well. And we garnish it with some floating strawberries and some basil inside. Mmm. So, cheers. This is the baddest in the room. Cheers. Cheers to you, Alonzo. Thank you. So, I do have a question real quick. Have you ever been a wig wearer?
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Mm-hmm. I like the U-part, V-part. Okay, so, but you've never been like a lace front girl? I haven't, but I just can't lay that front down. Yeah. Like, I need the baby hair probably. Yeah. Because when it lifts, then I'm over it.
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But I'm a braid girl. Braid or U-part wig. Okay. Okay. That was done with you parts back in the day. What? I used to love me a you part. Yes, honey. You was eating down. Okay. It was you, honey. Yeah, it's me. Yeah, right. Uh-huh.
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Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We got a guest today. We got a guest today. Let me tell y'all something. Y'all know this person. They are one of the best hairstylists ever to exist. What? One of the most funniest people online. And on top of that, a fashion killer. Don't play. Always puts it on. We have the one, the only. Yes. Yes. Thank you for coming. Oh, you know, I jibbed it.
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Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera, entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver.
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I do want to ask you, have you never drank liquor? Or you just, like, gave it up? You know what? I never drank. But, you know, when I was doing Megan Thee Stallion here back in 2019, it was BT Awards weekend. She had me to do, like, two shots of D'Ussé. And I didn't really feel nothing. For real? Oh, you got that D'Ussé. It felt a little hot and heat. Because that D'Ussé gets your D'Ussé.
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I was a little tight. I was like, I don't really feel nothing. She was like, what? You know, them other girls, they was getting shy. Half a shot, they was on the floor. Yeah. I was just like, girl, get up. I had two, honey. You know, child. I was like, damn, this is my first time drinking. So 2019 was your first time drinking. You just didn't like it.
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You was like... Yeah, I was like, it didn't really... Yeah, it didn't really do nothing to me. Like, I smoked weed before with my brother. That shit didn't do nothing to me. Really? I think I have a natural high. I don't know if that's something. It is. Or if he has some bad weed. I don't know. It's probably a mixture of both. Look, because I said when I smoke, give me the Reggie.
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A little Reggie. So do you have any vices, though, like hookah or anything? You just all... See, that's why you're smoking. High off life. thank you just you know so i want to get into the fashion now and i'm about to get in your business because i'm not gonna lie so i am a fashion nova girl i am a shin type of chick period i gets what i can get A Shein type of chick is crazy.
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Okay, so I'll say this. What I do sometimes is I like to go to people's pages and get inspiration. And like, oh, how can I recreate this look on a budget? You know what I'm saying? But I can do that most of the time. When I go to that, when your page, you can't recreate that. Because you'll be having some pieces, baby. Thank you. Some pieces. So I do want to ask you this.
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Do you have a budget of like, how much do you spend a month on clothes? Be honest. Try it. Ooh, girl, let me tell you something. If I was on my last and I had something I really needed, I would get it. Mm-hmm. Because you know who kind of gave me that idea? Kim Kardashian. Okay. She did an interview, and Kanye West told her she had these anniversary Christian lubes and heels.
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I definitely pay attention, too, because, like, I feel like if the guy I'm having sex with, you need to go to the bathroom and wipe that dick off. Get a warm rag and wipe that dick off. You know, I prefer, you know, I like a little concierge service. I be bringing it.
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you're logged in on my shit no i'm not it's one no the fuck i'm not i have my own netflix no it's not it's not netflix it's something i have my own amazon no no no i'm not saying hulu what i'm saying is it might have been an accident or something because i promised to god i logged in on one of my it was a hulu or one of them things and i said who the fuck got the caption in spanish that wasn't me i promised because i got
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All of those that you just named, I have mine. I can't remember what it was. I'm not saying that you didn't. But something is connected. Yeah, so I've been watching all my shows, and I've been, like, putting the English. But I'm watching them in Spanish, so that's how I know that wasn't me. I'm saying I watched them in Spanish, and then it's the English subtitles. Muy bien, muy bien.
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Not Spanish subtitles. Muy bien. But no, so somebody had left a comment on Twitter the other day, and they was like, oh, you need to do the Poor Minds intro in Spanish. I'm working on it. I got y'all in a month. Give me a month. I need to do the Poor Minds intro. I like that. So yeah, I'm on like week, I forgot to say that. I'm on week three. Good job. My Spanish class.
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Now, you know I'm deep, deep, deep in, like, TikTok world. You need to look up Ash Trevino. Who is this? A mess. And I want you to speak Spanish before her. The TikTokers, they don't know who I'm talking about. What did she do? She's a Hispanic lady, but she's just always in drama and tea, and she's a real dirty, dirty MF-er. Really?
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And she be acting like she can speak Spanish, and it be so funny.
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She can't. She can't. And that's why I want you to read. So how do you act like you can speak? She be like... Y'all, I promise. I'm not making this up. The people gonna know. If y'all know who I'm talking about, they don't know. I'm so deep in TikTok world. That's not right, though. That's like making fun of a hot community. No, but she's Hispanic, though. Oh.
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She's like a... You know how J-Lo can't speak Spanish for real? That's what she be doing. Oh, okay. Remember when J-Lo did that? J-Lo, love you down. Stick to the rom-coms. That is so fucking funny. Oh, my God. Because one thing about it, I will play with J-Lo all day, but when it comes to them rom-coms, eats down. She do eat down. Eats down. Stop playing with her.
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But, yeah, that's all I really been up to. So, shout-out to everybody. Not shout-out to everybody. We keeping it going. Ty, what you been up to?
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I love that for you. Because like I said, I just want to create something that everybody can come here and grow.
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Yeah. How we going to shake the room? Shout out to Pop Smoke. All right, all right, all right. Okay, so what are we doing? We about to get into the first topic. Let's do it. So for the first topic, I really wanted to talk about, which I feel like this kind of flows back into what you were just talking about at the beginning of the episode. Having big dreams, but not having the work ethic to match.
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And I just want to say, like I said, every morning I wake up and I just show gratitude to my life anyways because I feel so blessed to be able to do this and do this with my best friend. But also to... Thank you. That really touched me.
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Because I feel like it's a lot of people who want to, you know, be successful in life. They have things that they want to do. They have goals. They say, oh, I want to be here in four years. Oh, I want to be here in five years. But the work ethic ain't matching what you're saying you want. And at the end of the day, I always say, you cannot pray for something and not do the work.
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People be thinking, oh, just because I'm praying, just because I'm praying, God going to bless me. You still got to put that work in. And unfortunately, a lot of people just do not have that get up and go, that drive, that ambition to accomplish their dreams. It's not that you don't have the talent. Sometimes you just ain't got the ambition. So how do you feel about that?
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Or how do y'all both feel about that? So I'll say this. I get it. First of all, it's hard to find good help if you do have the money to hire people. It's very hard. It's a trial and error, hit and miss. But I'll say this. even if you can't afford to hire help, you got to do it yourself. That's what I was going to say. Let me tell you something.
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When me and Dreya first started out, Dreya was like, let's hire somebody to edit. I said, boy, I got $269 in my account. So I was like, well, I guess you don't edit. So guess who's going to edit? Me! Me! I used to edit the episodes. I used to set the camera up. I used to do all of it. She did. Because I wanted it. And I hate to say this. Y'all not hungry enough.
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And I'm not even... I feel like I'm at a place where I can preach to people, but I'm also still not nowhere near where I want to be. But I'm still out here working. Now I can afford to put people in a position. Baby, I can't make no damn drink. We need a bartender. So guess what? I'm finna get somebody here to do that. Right. I can't work these cameras.
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I don't even know how to turn these motherfuckers on. So I'm finna hire somebody. I can't take no pictures. If you want your business to expand and grow, you either gonna figure out how to do it yourself or you gotta make some money to hire some people in those positions. We are past the days of getting discovered.
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You're not going to be at Walmart singing or doing some content and somebody just going to discover you and be like, oh, my God, let me put you in a movie. Everybody that gets discovered now is because they're putting content out every day. Then it comes across like a Kevin Hart's desk or, you know, somebody important desk that can put you in position. Mm-hmm.
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So I just feel like y'all are not hustling enough. Y'all see somebody, like, for example, I think his name is LaRon. He's a skater. He's a tall... Oh, he's so handsome. He skates really, really well. I think he's out in Atlanta. So he did the D Squared fashion show, right? And he's, like, skating around doing... It's LaRon, right? Yeah. He's skating around. And I mean, he's so graceful.
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But today, like I said, every time I get on Instagram or Facebook and it shows you what you posted four years ago, three years ago, and I see this post, it just really warms my heart because I'm really out here doing it. So how does it feel to be a boss bitch? I'm not being funny. I never thought I could... I always knew I was special, right? Like, I always knew I was different.
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And this is probably the first time people are seeing him. So they're like, oh my God, if he can do it, I can. But yeah, but Leron has been, and I hope that's his name. He has been creating content for years of him skating. Mm-hmm. He didn't just pop up at the D Squared fashion show. Y'all be seeing, like, y'all saw us maybe for the first time when we had maybe T-Pain on or whenever we had T.S.
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Madison on. You didn't realize, oh, we've been working since 2019. Y'all be seeing people for the first time and think they just popped up, and that's not nobody's story. That's not nobody's story. So I just think the laziness, talent is not enough. Y'all be thinking y'all are so fucking funny or y'all are so fucking, y'all can sing so good.
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You can rap so good and you can just wake up and just sit on your ass. I don't care what nobody says. I always use like Britney Spears for an example. Britney Spears, y'all can say what y'all want about them dance moves about her voice. Them panties. I don't give a damn. I'm talking about old Britney Spears.
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I just be wanting her to lift them up a little more. They just be so low. I be scared her coochie gonna pop out and say hey to them. Yeah, like they be so low. I be thinking they gonna fall down. But I will say this. At a young age, Brittany learned that work ethic. Beyonce has that work ethic. That's who I look at.
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If I can't do it myself, there are things that Shay gets done that I could never even think twice about doing. I don't even know how. Some of the stuff that Shay does, I be like... What? Thanks, girl. Exactly. But you know what I'm saying? That's what you're supposed to do. If you can't figure it out, get somebody who can figure it out.
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But realistically, most people are in those beginning stages of their business, so they can't get people to do stuff to hire them. But that's what I was about to say. Like, most people can't hire somebody. They can't hire a team of people right now. So it's like, you got to do that shit yourself. And people just don't be wanting to do shit. They be wanting everything to just come to them.
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They be feeling like, oh, it's just supposed to fall in my lap because I'm so amazing and I'm so special. No, it's a lot of special people out here. But even the people who you look at, who you feel like, oh, they're so special, they put the work in majority of the time. You know, it take work and it take grind and hustle to get to where you're trying to get to in life. What you think, Ty?
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Yeah, bring it to the bed. I like that. It is. Sometimes we be in the bathroom together. We take the trip together. So I'm in there peeing and he's wiping off. We like, that ain't good. Yeah, but then see, sometimes you just gotta go get it yourself too because niggas be taking too long. Yeah, that's true too. They be taking too long and then they start melting. Melting? We'll be melting.
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Same. No matter what. And I like that you said that I'm a winner. That's the difference between a winner and a loser. I'm going to outwork you every time. Because if I can't do it, I'm going to hire somebody who can. And it don't matter what it looks like to the public. It's getting done. No, it's just if I can't do it, I'm going to find a way. I'm going to find a way. That's what I'm saying.
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I'm going to find a way. So whether the way is me doing it myself or hiring somebody, it's getting done. You're not going to outwork me. You're not going to release. We have released Poor Minds episodes for six years without missing a beat. That's crazy. People always say that, and I guess when you really sit and think about it, it is a little crazy. Who you know do that?
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But I never knew what my life would look like not having a job. Like I said, I've been working since I was 15 years old. And growing up, you know, my mom had a good job. My sister had been working since she was 15. Everybody in my family just, you go to college and you get a job. I don't have any entrepreneurs in my family. I never knew what that looked like. Mm-hmm.
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52 weeks. 52 weeks, six years. But even with us now, us launching, we both have been talking about our personal YouTube channels for a long time, but we released it when we knew it's got to be consistent. I'm never going to miss a Monday. Yeah. I'm never going to miss a Monday. Yeah. I can't. I mean, I feel like with anything that you want to be successful at, I always say consistency is key.
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And I feel like that's like the most mundane advice that you could give people. Cliche advice, you know, is to just tell people be consistent. But it's so fucking true. You have to be consistent at whatever you want to excel at. It's no other way around it. Like, I mean, of course you have to be actually good at it. Yeah. But being consistent a lot of the time gets you further than being good.
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Absolutely. And I feel like this. Even if you spend an hour a day, I make sure I spend an hour every day doing something. Like now, for Love Legs Peace, this is so new. I spend an hour a day on Love Legs Peace doing something. Whether it's planning out my episode for the next week, getting something together, something. Just one hour. It's not that long.
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So when I see people, they be on social media all day. But you ain't promoting. Nothing about your podcast. Nothing about your makeup line. Nothing about nothing you got going on. You just tweeting. You don't want it. Yeah. You don't want it. Do you feel like it's more of a thing with, like, our generation and the younger generations? Because I feel like all the people had work ethics. Oh, yeah.
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They didn't have no choice. They had work ethics. They had to go. They asked to work. But I think that's why we are like that. Because we are a product of our parents.
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Like, our parents instilled in us, like, you got to go and get it. That hustle mentality. Yeah. A lot of people don't have that hustler's mentality, like... And I'm not saying you got to necessarily clock in, because one thing about you, you're going to quit a job, but you are a hustler. And you're going to figure some shit out. You know what I'm saying?
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I think people just... People are so comfortable, too. It be some people who are so, like... To me... When I was really, really broke was when I moved out here. And I was just never comfortable. And I don't like that feeling. That's why I was like, I have to make something shake. I can't live like this. Yeah.
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And I'm not... I just think people who are just comfortable with where they are, and you think... You're always supposed to clap for yourself, but if you are not making a living... doing the shit that you love, you're not going hard enough. I agree.
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I think it's so crazy and so wild how people can have nine to five jobs and work 40 hours a week, but then they have their own personal endeavors that they want to work on or business that they want to become successful. But you won't even take 30 minutes out of your day every day when you get off work to work on your business that you want to launch.
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But you're going to work every week, working 40 hours for somebody else, making them richer. I just think that's crazy. And like I said, I'm speaking from somebody who used to be at my job working on poor minds. Well, friend, they probably not trying to get fired.
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So when I see people who are business owners or when I saw people who were creating content and they were doing it full time, I'm like, what does that look like for me? I don't know. So the fact that I've done it for this long, four years is a long time to keep yourself afloat and not only keep myself afloat. Amen. Hallelujah. Keep myself afloat, stress-free.
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I'm not saying that that's good advice, but what I'm saying is I wanted it that bad, though. I was ready to risk it all because I know I'm fucking good. And I know what I wanted out of life. And I know this is leading to a dead end. Poor Minds was not. So I say all that to say I was able to maneuver it around so I could do poor minds at my job.
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But once it got to the point where I couldn't, I would get off work and I'm working on poor minds. Yeah. I was working on it. You got to find the time. I made the time. You got to find the time. And I think a lot of people make so many excuses like, oh, I'm tired from work. Oh, I'm tired from this and I'm tired from that. I just don't have it in me to put an extra 30 minutes.
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I agree. People do get discouraged by their first failure. They be like, oh... But then you don't see how many times people that's successful failed. Just because you don't see it don't mean we wasn't failing.
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Girl, I had like three before Poor Mama. Do you remember that first ad company we worked with that they was like, oh, we not working with y'all. Yes. Because we couldn't get our ads right and on time. And we were so sad. We were so sad. Because we was finally getting ad checks. We wasn't making that much, but we was finally just getting something. Right. And we were just like, oh, my God.
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And then when they let us go, I just thought it was the end of the world. But I was like, you know what? That's all right. Somebody else going to come along. Yeah. Yeah, and it did. Yeah, and it definitely did. So, yeah, I just feel like your work ethic has to match your dream. The bigger your dream is, the bigger your work ethic got to be. It's no in between.
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And like I said, I really don't have sympathy for that. Because I will say, coming from somebody who did it, I did it.
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If I can do it, like, you know how you always see those people that give their Oscar speeches? I can do it. You can do it. I'm telling you, do y'all realize, like, Dolce, she was, like, a YouTuber, like, five years ago, like, doing all that stuff.
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A Grammy award. That's why I know, baby, I'm getting that daytime Emmy. It's only a matter of time. I just got to keep doing it. Yeah. You just have to keep going, and you got to put that work in. Like, so that's why I say, one thing I do believe is, like, it's hard when you're in certain positions. It's going to be harder for other people. But it's just all about how bad you want it.
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Y'all got to get a little hungrier for me. My stomach be growling.
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It is good. I taste that ginger. I love a ginger beer. It's probably even better with a little tequila.
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Yeah, yeah. Well, mine is good. You're going to have to make this again once I start back drinking. Oh, we can run them all back. You better take one shot and be gone. That's my hope. That is what I'm hoping for. I'm hoping that that is the way that it goes. Because that's really my goal with doing this challenge. I wanted to build back up my tolerance.
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Because I feel like my liquor tolerance was just so high. Like, it would take a lot for me to get drunk. Like, I miss when I would get drunk off of, like, two shots and a little cocktail, you know? I'll be like, my tolerance ain't low, but it's not high. Your tolerance is high. That's the lie. No, I'm talking about now. Like, if I take two or three shots, I don't be drunk, but I be good.
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Like, I took two shots today. I'm like, I feel a little one, too. Like, I'm feeling a little... I am not about to play with you. You know what I'm saying? Y'all don't be letting licks fool y'all. She be taking like seven shots. No. And still don't be drunk. No. I used to, but now... I be... Like last week, I got a little tipsy. I took like three, four shots last week.
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It's not that I'm like, I pay my bills and I'm like, oh, okay, I paid my bills, I made it another month. Thank you. I pay my bills and I'm still able to do for the people that I need to do for and do the things I need to do. I'm able to invest in my future, invest in other businesses like Love Legs P. I'm able to do things and... I am just... I just cannot say enough.
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I was... And you had like two drinks. Two, three, four. No, because my drinks were mocktails. Because I have been... For some reason, when I have a drink... mixed with the sugar, I be getting a little sick. For real? So I've been doing, like, the mocktails, but I'll take a shot. Mm-hmm. So, yeah, two, three shots, I'm feeling... Not your lips start moving. You know what I'm saying?
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It's differences, hands down. But I told y'all the story. Oh, this is hard. I'm not going to lie. This is really, really hard for me. Oh. You don't know. I don't know. Okay. No, I'm going to pick Pony. Pony? I'm going to pick Pony because it's the intro. Ooh. Yeah. Yeah. That's Timbaland. I know. It's the beat for me with Pony.
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And it's the way he's sliding. I'm just a bachelor. I'm going to have to go with Pony. Looking for a partner. And I remember, and then growing up in the 90s, he was so fine with them baby hairs. Oh. And I remember... Yes, and I remember the video. He was fine as hell in that video on that damn... That was the first time my coochie jumped. I told that story before.
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But also... I think the first time mine jumped was when I seen that D'Angelo video. Which I never really thought D'Angelo was, like, fine like that. It just looked nice. But his body was tea. Tea, yeah. And... And then it went, like, down. And then I think that was the first... It was the first time I ever was like... I want to see that dick. I wonder what's down here.
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I wonder what that look like. Because I had never seen one yet. I wanted to see that dick. But I wanted to know what it looked like. Topic two. Finding true love on dating apps. Is it possible to meet your husband, wife, friend, or life partner online today? I think it is for some people. I don't think it is for me. But I think it is for some people. I was talking to my injector.
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Shout out to Helen. Love you, girl. But yeah, I was talking to Helen. She was doing my Botox like a few weeks ago. And she was just basically telling me how she met her husband. Oh, she did? Well, she met him on... She said she met him on Hinge, but then she ended up getting off of Hinge for a little minute. And... Or something happened where she couldn't be on the app no more.
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But then she had already got his information. Oh, good. So they were, like, communicating. But, yeah, she met her husband, and she said he's, like, the best person she's ever met in her life. Oh, their wedding pictures were so cute. Yeah. So I do... So, like, having that conversation with her, I definitely feel like it's possible...
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And she said that happened, I think, maybe two or three years ago. I can't remember. But, yeah, I think it's possible for some people. I just think I'm at a point, I think both of us, I mean, I can't really speak for you, but I can speak for myself. Like, I just think, I don't know who know me. So, I don't know how much I would trust meeting somebody on a dating app.
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Like, I really, like, thank you, God. Like, I'm so... I am so blessed. And no matter how bad it gets, I'm just dramatic. You're living in answered prayer. Yes, I really, I truly am, like... And I'm glad that we're actually talking about this because obviously that's going to get into the first topic because I do want to do a catch up. But I'm just like, man, we did this.
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Because how I know you don't know who I am and have, like, real motives for wanting to date me. Like, do you genuinely want to date me for real or do you want to date me because you know about poor minds? I mean, yeah. Or is it because you know about poor minds? Like, I don't know. So, I just feel like for us, it would be kind of hard. No, you don't think so? On that one app... Yeah.
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I want to get on Raya so bad. That's where the... I mean, I'm not talking about like, oh, it'd be... No, it'd be like A-listers. Ben Affleck was on Raya. It is. Like, it'd be people like that on Raya. I feel like that's the one app I would flourish on. I mean, it is, but it's like, I know a good amount of people that have Raya, and they say the same thing that they say about Hinge and Bumble.
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Isn't it another one called Bumble? Yeah, I think so. Huh? The league? The league? It's kind of... Oh, it was kind of like Raya? It's invitation only. Yeah, and, like, I don't know. Like I said, I know a few people that have Raya, and they be saying, like, it be the same bullshit on there, too. The niggas just got more money.
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Like, because, I mean, it's more credentials to get... You need more credentials to get accepted on that app. Yeah, yeah. So, I mean, it kind of filter people a little bit better. You just going to have a more richer... Ain't she, nigga? That's what I do anyway. Yeah, so you don't need Raya. You doing well. Oh, fuck. Okay, so I'll say this.
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I do feel like with dating apps, you can find a friend, a husband, a wife. I do feel like, but I do kind of agree with you. I think the kind of woman I am, I don't think that a man, I don't think I would even attract a man who feels like he has to use dating apps. Like, if you get to the point to where you feel like you have to... And this is no shade.
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Because I think dating apps are amazing for what they're supposed to do. But I don't think I'm ever... I am old school. I want to meet you in person first. I love meeting somebody and just having a vibe. I like seeing a man for the first time and being like, damn. And seeing the way he walk and seeing the way he talk. I don't... I'm just... I feel like the last, like...
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Like I said, of course, you know, conversations start on, like, a Twitter or Instagram or things like that. But it can be like, hey, how you doing? Oh, let's link up. But there's nothing, like, I keep it real short and cute. Okay, we can go on a little date or something. But I got to see you in person. I got to feel your void. I got to know what's in your mind. I just need that in person.
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I got to, it's something about the way a nigga walk that I can tell, like, oh, yeah, you got it. Like, it's just something about a walk. I can see it in the walk. You gonna see the walk when you meet him for the first date, after y'all get off the app. No, it's something, like I said, and every time if I talk to you on a dating app, they never got that walk.
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I ain't never dated a nigga from the app. They never had that walk.
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And I will never stop clapping for us. I will never stop tooting my own horn because a lot of y'all have just started watching and y'all are just now tuning in. And I know we talk about this a lot, but... When I tell you blood, sweat, and tears, for real, and we are just now getting started because when y'all see this episode, we still got a big announcement to make. Two big announcements.
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But you think that the niggas that use Raya got their walk? They might. Because Raya a little different. Why? Because they got money? Yeah. Girl, goodbye. No, but I feel like... Um, like I said, uh, uh, I'm not saying Rhea is different. That's not what I'm saying. But I think... That's what you're saying. Well, no, Rhea is different because, like I said, it's a little more exclusive.
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I'm not on there, but I'm saying it's a little more... You saw this. I didn't make it.
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If I told you the dude that I know that's in there, you'd be like, what the fuck? I know a lot of people. I'm telling you, like, I wouldn't be surprised because I know a lot of people that have rails.
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I know a good amount of people, at least probably like 10 people. But I guess the people that I know that's on there, like the guys they be coming across, and I'm like, okay, that's a little one, two, a little something, something. They with them? No. But they ain't got no game like that. My game is... My pimp game's strong. I just feel like it doesn't matter what app you on.
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Niggas is gonna be niggas. It don't matter the tax bracket. It don't matter the race. It don't matter nothing. Men are gonna be men. I do agree with that. But it's just hard to date out here. It is very hard. I see why people go to dating apps. Like I said, personally, for me, I just don't really think that's something that will work for me, especially at this point.
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Maybe like six years ago or seven years ago, I could have got on dating apps. But right now, as it currently stands, no. But I get why people get on there because, I mean, where the hell do you meet people at? Where the hell can you go? And especially in Atlanta, like, especially living in cities like Atlanta, Houston, Daly, Chicago, all of these places, everybody know everybody. Yeah, yeah.
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Everybody know everybody. It's hard to meet niggas that don't nobody know. Or that somebody that you know, friend or whoever, ain't went on a date with them, too. It's just really hard. Men that are single, that are not married, that don't have multiple children... It's hard out here. I get why people get on dating apps.
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They be like, shit, maybe it's some niggas on here that God ain't released yet. I don't know. That we don't know about.
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I be like, damn, he ain't got no little stock up there that he can just drop real quick. Mm-mm. Drop them out of nowhere. Yeah, I don't think dating apps are for me. Like I said, I'm just old school. I want to meet my man in, like, Whole Foods or something. Target. Target. We're not supposed to be shopping at Target, my bitch. Oh, yeah. Well, wherever. I want to meet him somewhere like that.
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I'm just old school. Like, I don't think dating apps are for me. I don't even want to meet people on, like, Instagram, Twitter, and stuff anymore. Like, sliding my DMs nine times out of ten today is not going to work. You know how many... And you know what's crazy? What?
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know if i said this on the show or not the older i get the younger the men get in my dms yeah i mean i got these young i mean they be so young what tt gonna do with you oh my god i'll be like it'd be so many dms i just leave on ignore and it'd be like oh you are so young i know a nigga too young when he called me some fine shit oh Some what?
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Exactly. That's the thing that the young boy said. We too old and mature for that type of language. My little shit. My little fine shit. I mean, it do. I am a bodacious, voluptuous, beautiful woman. Don't call me that, though. That's some young nigga shit. Yes, it is. Yes, it is. It is. I don't like that. I'm a beautiful woman.
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Huge announcements. Like, God is real, y'all. I'm telling you. You got to put your head out. What Kim say? Get the fuck off your fucking ass and work. And work, man. Y'all ain't got that hustle in you. I'm telling you, I put this on everything. People can look out on the inside. I'm built different. Baby, I do what I does and I gets it done.
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And we wear Spanx. I do. Y'all young girls, y'all need to get into Spanx and body shapewear. It smooths you out. It makes you look good. Get it together. Yeah, I don't know. I definitely think it's hard out here for people. It's hard to find somebody, you know. But I think, too, like, dating apps have hurt the dating world as well. Because not everybody is replaceable.
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People be thinking, oh, this don't work out. I'ma just get on Hinge and find another one. You know what I'm saying? Not everybody is replaceable. I had to have a conversation with somebody the other day. And let them know, baby, good luck. Because this, you ain't going to find this. This ain't on Hinge, baby. This is not on Bumblebee. You shouldn't have had to tell him that, though.
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No, I mean, I didn't have to tell him that. But it was like, yeah, yeah, I know. I know. Because, I mean, nobody's perfect. People be fucking up. Yeah. And niggas be forgetting.
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Godspeed. Because go out there. Go out there. Mm-hmm. You know what I'm saying? I believe in letting niggas free. Hey. Me too. Go ahead and go out there. I'm not gonna give you no warning. Yeah. You go see what's out there. Go see. Yeah. You see what the fuck going on. Mm-hmm. So, yeah, I feel like...
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For people who have found true love on dating apps, I love that for them, but I don't think that's something that's for me. I tried a dating app for 30 minutes one time, and it was just horrifying. It was horrifying. I've never tried one. I have never had an account on a dating app, ever. I've thought about it, but I never actually went through it. This was like 2020.
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It was before Poor Minds had popped off, so it had to have been 2019 or 2020. Because I was still working at, not European, what was the other place? Regis. Yeah. And I remember me and my coworker were sitting there. Shout out to Shamice. And she was like, girl, make you a hinge. I think it was hinge. Girl, I was on there for 30 minutes. I said, no, ma'am. What was the reason why you just got off?
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Because the people, it was, I'm sorry, I never, I was sitting there swiping for 30 minutes. And I was swiping left on everybody. Mm-hmm. On everybody. There was no little fine shit on there. Nothing. It was no fine shit. It was no fine shit on there. All you niggas was unhinged. That's what I'm saying.
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They are unhinged. I can even see from your picture if you got a little one-suit. I'm just like... Mm-mm. So, yeah. Dating apps, not for me, hon. Yeah, I don't know. It's not for me either, but I love to hear the success stories. I do, too. I really do. What do you feel about... How do you feel about ones like Christian and Mingle?
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Do people still use... Is Christian and Mingle still, like... You know they got farm... What is it? Farmers something. Farmers. Farmer market. That's a Christian app. Well, no, it's for farmers.
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Only farmers? It's something farmers. It's something like farmers only. Now, you talking about where the niggas with money at. That's where they at. Now, that's who you right.
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See, now you're thinking. Oh, I know. I'm finna go. The farmers be having their papers. I'm finna go get those. That money be long. This ain't textile. Yeah, I'm telling you. Okay, you right. I wonder if they got one for oil and gas, niggas. Chevron. Only Chevron. Big tycoon. But no. That's a good answer. So, I think Christian Mingle is still a thing.
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I don't care what people say about me, but I get it the fuck done. Six years and not a week missed. Toot the horn, Greg. I just feel like, you know, you got to toot it. I've been tooting it. Yeah. And I'm going to keep tooting it. Toot it. Toot it and do it now. Mm-hmm. Because at the end of the day, if you don't give yourself a pat on the back And be proud of yourself.
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Yeah, that's what they actually call big tycoons. Big tycoons. I like that. But I do think that Christian Mingle is still a thing. But like I said, maybe Christian Mingle, but sometimes people that are super religious and men, they don't be the best. People are evil. You think like religious, overly religious? No. Well, let me say this.
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I think some people probably slide in Christian mingle that may not necessarily be really true Christians who are really about the word. That's the scary thing. You never know who you're talking to. There was a man on Hinge who was killing women. So I feel like it's scary because you never know who you're talking to. So I'm always, I'm just in person.
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Yeah, that's what I think for me has always kind of been the turnoff for me when it comes to dating apps. It's like, yeah, you just never know who you're meeting. And granted, when you go on a first date with somebody, you essentially don't know them either. But it's just something about meeting somebody online and you don't know anything about them and you... Probably don't know.
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Nobody didn't know them. Right. I think... I can't remember the last time I dated somebody who we didn't have mutual people that we knew. Like, nobody know. Yeah.
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Like, every single guy that I dated in the past few years, it's always been... Even when I went on that first date to Paris, I knew him through a mutual friend who had been knowing him. Yeah. So, it wasn't, like, a random... I knew where he worked. I knew his... Like, I knew people who had vetted for him. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Like, versus somebody on an app, you from Taiwan. Yeah.
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I don't know you. I don't know no niggas in Taiwan. Hey, you know what I'm saying? I don't know no Taiwanese niggas. That's what I'm saying. So it's a bigger risk. Like, on Instagram, I can see how many mutual friends we got. So I can ask. The last guy I dated before my last relationship, we had a lot of mutual friends. And I said, hey, girl, what you know about him?
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Oh, girl, that's my, oh, I know him. That's my homeboy. Like, you know, I do that. No, I'm out. I mean, you got to. I feel like you just got to be safe. It's so many crazy people in the world. Man. And they be praying. Like, I do feel like people be on those apps praying on people. Oh, absolutely. You know? Absolutely.
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Especially because, you know, we've said this before, they will especially pray on lonely women. And lonely men, too. I'm not saying that women don't be out here doing crazy stuff, too. Hell yeah, because remember, what was the name of that fucking movie? What was it? Baby Rain? Baby Rain! That lady was crazy as fuck. But he was dicking her down. Remember, he was having sex with her. He was? Yes.
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No, he wasn't. Yes, he did. They had sex. No, they didn't. Oh, later down the line. Yes, they did. He had sex with her because he admitted maybe that was my mistake that I ended up... Because he was like, I shouldn't have did it, but he definitely fucked that lady. Yes, he did. He did fuck her. Yes, he did. Very much. Not that y'all said it. He did. He did.
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Her curtains needed fixing. Her curtains. You never seen Baby Reindeer? Yes, her beef curtains. It was good. It was very, very good. But yeah, he definitely fucked that lady. I mean, yeah, but goddamn, he couldn't fuck her? No! And if she go about her, he go about his beef. You fucking a crazy bitch when you know she's all... I can get fucking somebody in bed. On the first date, yeah.
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And you see you found out they crazy. But knowing somebody crazy did. And I'm not victim shaming. Because she was crazy from day one. From day one. Thank you, Sa. She said, can I get a Diet Coke? Baby reindeer. Oh, God. Okay, moving on. Moving on. This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole.
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and it's your girl Dre Nicole and we have a very exciting announcement today we have a brand new show dropping yeah so we have a brand new show dropping y'all on patreon it's gonna air on September 2nd and it's called poor chronicles we're gonna be doing so much stuff on there we're gonna be doing challenges if you can't go to bella no shade where the hell could you go
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If you can't go to Bella Notte, where the hell can you go? We're going to be doing talk to me, chit chat with me. We're going to be spilling a little tea. Oh, my God. No, you didn't.
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Bow. Okay. Okay. So, aftercare 101. The things that people forget to do after sex. Let's talk about it. Okay. Because I feel like number one on the list is... Take your ass to the bathroom. Oh, I'll get pissed. I just feel like these shouldn't even be conversations that we should have to have at this point.
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But we do have young listeners that probably don't know, so we're going to take this time to educate. That's fair. But yeah, take your ass to the bathroom and pee after you done getting that D. A word.
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Go pee after you get that D. Let it out. Yeah. Grain the main vein. Yeah. Yeah. You have to pee after. I don't feel right not peeing after sex. I be feeling like, thank you, Jesus. I be feeling like I gotta go after. That's because you had an orgasm. Yeah, I be feeling like I gotta go. Mm. Tell me you want to go. Okay, number two. Wipe down or take a shower. Just don't roll over.
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Now, I do agree with that. I always, like, have me a little honeypot wipe or I hop in the shower. I take a full-blown shower. You got to wipe it down. Well, wipe me down. Because sleeping in that sticky icky is crazy. Sticky icky. Why would you sleep on that? If you wake up in your pussy crunchy... Or your stomach stuck to the bed. Oh, stuck to the bed is nuts. No pun intended.
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Yeah, stuck to the bed. I'm not going to lie, like, yeah. I definitely pay attention, too, because I feel like if the guy I'm having sex with, you need to go to the bathroom and wipe that dick off. Get a warm rag and wipe that dick off. You know, I prefer, you know, I like a little concierge service. I be bringing it.
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I say this all the time. God is not going to bless you with more until you're happy for what you got. And I feel like one thing about us, we was happy with them little 60 listeners. Like, we definitely always wanted more, but we still just couldn't even believe that many people was listening to us every week. I mean, I'm not going to lie. Even with my new channel, like...
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I like that. It is. Sometimes we be in the bathroom together. We take the trip together. So I'm in there peeing and he's wiping off. We like, that ain't good. Yeah, but then see, sometimes you just gotta go get it yourself too because niggas be taking too long. Yeah, that's true too. They be taking too long and then they start melting. Melting? We'll be melting.
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The glaze be melting. Like, ripping? Yeah. So, like, you know, when it first, it be like thick. Oh, okay. Then... It get a little runny. Because of the body heat, it be making it melt. Girl, you are nasty. But y'all laughing because y'all know what I'm talking about. And then it start cutting. And it be like, hurry up.
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Too far? Peeling it off is... Because you're doing to be crusty. You could just go rinse it. That's what I'm saying. You ain't got to peel it. I be kind of making sure I get in there. You got to rinse it.
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Yeah. Yeah, you got to get that foam wash. What I told when Glamazon said, you got to boil that dick up. You do got to boil that dick up. Boil it up. So, yeah. Got to keep it sanitary. Yes, I definitely think you should clean your sex toys after every use. Absolutely. Absolutely. Like, please do not be rubbing it out with that old crust from the last session.
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There don't be no juice residue. There don't be no juice residue. Straight Sahara. Okay, now see. All right, all right. Change the sheets regularly, especially after a sneaky link. So first of all, I'll say this. After any link? You're supposed to wash your sheets after no link. Wash your sheets once a week. If you don't have more, I feel like this. I'm not the clean police either.
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I probably, I'm averaging like 15K views per video. Yeah. And I mean, obviously that's different from poor mine because we get 100,000, sometimes half a million. I'm happy with that. I cannot believe 15,000 of y'all want to hear me talk. That's how I feel about my YouTube channel. Because I average about the same. Like I'm getting about 15,000 like views a week or whatever.
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I wash my sheets every Sunday. Yeah. Every Sunday. And then I also have two, three pairs of sheets that I can rotate. So, one Sunday, I may not feel like washing my sheets. So, guess what? I'm going to just change them out. I agree. Weekly, if you're not washing your sheets weekly, it's time to get yourself together. So, Sadie having them dust bunnies in there. Do we double, do we up and up?
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And then, you know how somebody said they wake up with whelps? Bitch, you got Dorito chips in your bed, hoe. Yes, you need to wash your sheets every week. I ain't gonna lie, I do agree with that. Every week, no excuses. No excuses. Y'all do know our skin sheds every day. Every day. But you should always be washing your sheets every week. Hair, all that stuff. Mm-hmm. Okay. Hydrate.
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Six is a workout. Absolutely. Keep you a little glass of water. And I think that if you drink a lot, like, I always do this, like, I drink a lot of water anyway.
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But the day you know you about to get some, that coochie be leaking. Mm-hmm. Soaking wet. If your coochie is dry, I promise you, you're not drinking enough water. If you drink water, that coochie be... Oh, oh, that splash waterfall. Okay, now see, I do feel like you should be hydrating on a normal basis in general. You should be drinking at least half of your body weight in water every day.
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But, you know, keep your little water by the bed because it gets a little sweaty. Yes, I agree. A little too turned up. Okay, so we talked about that. Air out the room. Nobody wants stale sex, ma'am. I just, you know, I feel, I be feeling some type of way about airing the room out because why do we stank in there? Yeah. Why do it stink? I just feel like, why do the room need to be aired out?
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What is causing the smell? Why do it smell like that? Why do it stink? I just, I don't know.
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I like the smell of sex. Yeah, me too. If it smell good. Yeah, like, I like the smell of, like, bodyssey. It smells good. Like, if you are clean, the smell of sex, you don't need to air it out. I'll be like, mm. It's the pheromone. But you know what? What's that saying that people say to the room stank? Yeah, people do be saying to the room stank.
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And, like, I never want to do it to the room stank. But I think the stank is, like, figurative. No, I think you probably do be stanking. Because remember we had, you remember that conversation we had with Skeet that time? Right. And he was like, back in the day, people coochie used to say. Oh, yeah, he did say that. He know. Because he was back in the day. He finna get on your ass.
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He was back in the day with the pilgrims, bitch. He was fucking pilgrims. No, for real though, like, I feel like Feminine hygiene has come a long way. Yes, it has. Is what I'm saying.
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So, it shouldn't stink ever. No more. Unless something is wrong. If it stink, go to the doctor. Call 911. Someone please call 911. Someone please call 911. Because something ain't right. It's a little bacterial vaginosis going on. Maybe some other thing. Yeah. But yeah, it should not stink. It shouldn't stink. But I don't mind the smell of sex. Because it don't stain. Mm-hmm. Stop doing that.
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And yeah, it's like, to start something new, like fresh from the ground up and to already be getting those kind of views, that's a lot. You know what I mean? I'm grateful for it all.
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All right. So, yeah. Brush your teeth. Brush your teeth. Or use mouthwash before kissing. Now, it's not about... Especially after... No.
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Yeah. I like that. Like, I would literally, like, it's sad. I could be riding the pain. I'm finna hop off and put it in my mouth. Yeah. I feel like that's normal stuff when you having sex. Yeah. But, yeah, I mean. Mouthwash, I'm not doing. No, we finna getting real. Before kissing again, like, I feel like, yeah, when you done.
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But, you know, they say you're not supposed to brush your teeth until the next day. After? Yeah, but I don't fucking believe in that shit. But I remember I read that shit in a sex ed book when I was in high school. Why? Because if you brush your teeth, you can create little sores. Little sores in your mouth, little scratches in your mouth.
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And if the person got an STD, he can get in the sore and then boom. Now you got chlamydia all up in your mouth. Y'all see that video on Twitter that was going viral of this guy? Fun facts.
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I guess it's not so fun. It's not fun. But he was rapping and the girl, it was a girl and a guy behind him fucking in a U-Haul. Mm-hmm. And everybody was like, they fucking, but they using a condom, but she was giving him head with no condom. Yeah. But they was like, what's the point?
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Yeah, because, I mean, I feel like I'm not fucking no nigga who I feel like I can't brush my teeth right before I give you head. I'm going to make sure my sores are closed. What? Like, that's wild as fuck when you really think about it. Like, that's literal insanity. That is kind of crazy. It's insanity.
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Like, I'm not going to brush my teeth before I go fuck this nigga because I don't know if he got chlamydia.
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For real, though. Shout out to Kendrick. I deserve it all. Okay, but anyways, let's do a catch-up. Obviously, we haven't had a solo in a while, so what you been up to? What's going on? How's life treating you? Life has been great. I had a really, really good Valentine's Day sale for Muse. It did really amazing. Oh, yeah. How was it? Because you had a, I just want to say, you had a beautiful model.
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I agree. That is crazy when you put it that way. So, yeah. Let us know, what are some aftercare things that y'all do after sex? And I'm sorry, I feel like more on an emotional level, I do like to cuddle after sex, too. Yeah. Like, I want to lay on your chest, and I like to see the soft meat out. Play with them little hairs. Yay! On the chest, not... Oh.
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i'm doing a little thing you be pulling it okay that's wild all right item of the week go ahead item of the week of course is musebeautycollection.com make sure y'all get y'all lip glosses lip liners matte liquid lipsticks jelly blushes all of the above we have some new products coming out soon of course i have on the mascara and the liquid eyeliner that will be dropping really really soon
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So stay tuned for that. And as always, you know, my lip combo is Muse Chestnut Liner, the Plump It Up Lip Plumper, and it's giving. Mm, period. And per usual, you know, Rich Look Hair. Always supply me with the hair. RichLookHair.com. Shout out to my girl, Didi. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole.
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Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week. But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here. Period. If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode.
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So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to itemoftheweekpm at gmail.com. That's I-T-E-M O-F-T-H-E-W-E-E-K-P-M at gmail.com. Send us an email, and we'll work it out. We're going to figure it out. Get your product. Get your business sponsored. And, yeah, make you some money. We love to support a small business now.
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And a black business at that. But, I mean, any business is welcome.
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Any business is welcome. And now it's time to get into the bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Bow. Okay, so Bop of the Week. So I'm going to switch it up. Y'all know I usually do indie artists, and I'm always shouting them out, but I do want to do a mainstream artist this week. So y'all know I am on the Tate McRae train. I love when the girlies are in their lane, in the pop lane.
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I did. I did gorgeous. Just gorgeous. Jesus Christ. So, yes, it did really well. So, the Valentine's Day sale did really, really well. I'm excited because it's about to be springtime.
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We haven't had a pop superstar in a long time, and I feel like the girls are doing a good job. Sabrina Carpenter is amazing, and Tate McRae. is so good. She has got it. She's not trying to be nothing else. She is a pop star, so she dropped her album. She has a song called Blood On My Hands featuring Flo Millie. And I don't know, Tate McRae just has a little swag about her.
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It doesn't give try hard. It doesn't give like she's just doing too much. She is just a cutie girl. She can dance her ass off. And that's what the pop girls are missing. Y'all not dancing no more. We need a hot boom cock. A hot eighth count. Break it down. Okay? That's what the world means. The world is missing the boom kacks. Shout out to Lori Ann Gibson. Shout out to our girl.
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So yeah, Tate McRae, I think it's an amazing album. I think the rollout was good. I think that she understands herself as an artist. It was kind of shaky for a little bit for me at first, but I think her team, they're figuring it out and they're getting it together. So I'm rooting for the girl. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Shout out to Tate McRae and Flo Millie. And that's a good placement.
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Flo Millie, keep doing your thing now. I don't know this word. Period. So, I don't have a new bop this week. That's all right. But, you know, I be feeling like it's my duty. To please that booty. As an elder. Because you might be calling us unteachable. We are elders. It is my duty as an elder to put y'all on the old school music that y'all don't be knowing about. And I don't know.
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I've just been in a little era of listening to the Osley Brothers a lot. I don't know if it was because he had popped up on my timeline talking about what he listened to during sex. Ronald Osley. Shout out to him. But I was like, you know, I be actually listening to you during sex. Okay. So... I don't know. I just been listening to so many songs. I got a nice little playlist.
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Between the Sheets, For the Lover You, Groove With You, Choosy Lover. I could keep going and going. Voyage to Atlantis. That's me and Lex on. Oh, Atlantis. Yeah, that's a good one. That's a good one. So, yeah. So, I've just been in, like, my old school bag. I've been feeling it. Feeling the love. I think the longevity of the Isley Brothers isn't talked about enough, too.
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I cannot say on camera, but I'll let you know off camera. But yeah, the sale did really, really good. And now I'm like gearing up for my... I'm going to do like a big like spring campaign. Yeah, yeah. Like promo campaign because I have a lot of new products coming out. And you know...
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These men have been making music since, what, the 60s? They was making music since my mama was three. Who? Who? Who? Who died?
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What's his name? Chris Jasper. Oh, well, rest in peace to him. Yes, RIP.
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That is sad. The keyboard player. And I will say this. We don't give them their flowers enough because, like I said, they've been making music since, what, the 50s, the 60s? Mm-hmm. No, I'm serious. No, they really have been making music.
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I was not playing when I said my mama was three. Yeah, yeah. So I think that to be relevant for this long, like, you still making jams? Still. I have something devastating. Because he had a song, like, with Beyonce, right? Yeah. A year or two ago. And that song was good. I have some devastating news I found out the other day that I had no idea. I just don't really feel like it's that devastating.
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And I want to apologize to everybody out there. Because I'm not going to lie to you. I'm not going to stop listening to this song. So everybody knows my favorite song in the whole wide world is Life by Casey and JoJo.
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I did not know that R. Kelly wrote that song. I just found this out. I just found this out like 48 hours ago. Just like a bird.
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I was actually mad when the person told me because they know how I am about stuff like that and I don't take it as a joke and I don't take it lightly. And I'm like, there's some things you can just keep to yourself. You didn't have to tell me that. It's good that you know now, though. It's not going to change anything. But that's good.
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I mean, technically, you still supporting him. Well, y'all just going to have to cancel me behind that. Yeah. I'm sorry. It's not happening. You know what's really crazy, though? What? That out of his whole catalog, that's the one song that you don't want to give up. That's the one. I'm not giving it up. You're going to have to pry it out of my cold, dead hand. That's crazy. I'm not doing it.
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Do you know you got 30 minutes? Do you know you have 30 minutes? Ten. Ten. Girl, anyways, we get into our favorite segment of the show. If you want your question answered on the show, make sure you email us at askpoorminds at gmail.com.
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spring baby my birthday is coming up i'm gonna do a birthday sale can i get like something can i get like a collaboration yeah like i want to do a lip we can but i feel like i've been said that to you years ago like i feel like my signature i'm ready when you ready yeah i want to do like a lippy yeah you want to do like a lip kit yes i want to have like a lex p lip kit okay like i want it to be like you know something cute and fabulous
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Okay, I got question number one today. All right, I'm 31 and I got engaged last year in Aruba after being with my man for five years. When I got back to the States, I was beyond excited to ask my closest friends to be my bridesmaids. But when I asked my best friend, the one I really wanted by my side, she told me no.
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I was completely thrown off by her response, so I brought it up later to get some clarity. She still said no, explaining that she felt left out of my private proposal. I eventually accepted her decision, but it made me feel some type of way about our friendship. Her reasoning just didn't make sense to me. Fast forward, and now she's coming back, saying she does want to be my bridesmaid after all.
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At this point, I'm super conflicted. My gut is telling me to say no, because honestly, it's giving weird vibes. So ladies, how would you handle this? Would you let her back in, or is it too late? Baby, you had a chance and it came and it motherfucking went. If I ask you to be in my wedding and you tell me no and you think you can come back and change your mind, absolutely not.
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Especially if your reasoning for saying no did not make any sense to me. Because my proposal is not about you. It's about my wedding. It's my wedding. People are very... It's my wedding, and I'm asking you to be a part of my day. Do you know what this is giving? Do y'all remember on Girlfriends when Joan was being so mean to Tony because she was getting married? And then guess what Tony did?
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She told her ass, bitch, well, you ain't got to come. So I think that you should let her stand on that. But no, but then Toni didn't stand on it, though. Yeah, she didn't. But she let her be in that wedding with that ugly-ass dress on, because remember, she cut her dress up when she was there. But it's just like, people be doing too much.
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If you try to make your best friend's wedding about you, starting from the proposal, it's not going to get better. She's going to be around and being a Debbie Downer. If my friend got proposed to, even if I was there or not, it could have been a public proposal and something happened where I wasn't there. I'm still not finna be upset. I'd be like, daddy, why you ain't make sure I was there?
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Talking to the man. But other than that, bitch, this is not about me. My friend is finna get married. Yeah. So I don't think you should allow her in the wedding because she's already showing you how she feels. This is not about you. Yeah. So no. Okay, stand on it. Period. All right. Okay, question number two. Hey, ladies, big fan, y'all are hilarious.
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I had a best friend since 2017, more like a sister. Last year, I noticed she was MIA for everything. My birthday, my engagement, all of it. We talked, she apologized, and I thought we were good. Then I broke up with my girl, but doubled back for some coochie tickling. Okay. Bitch. Let the door hit you where the good Lord sleep you. Once you walk out, don't come back no more. Good fucking bye.
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Like, I just feel like y'all got to be okay with people. If somebody is okay with walking out of your life, you got to be okay with letting them walk. Yeah, maybe you tripping on it a little bit because y'all been friends for so long, which is understandable. That's a human response to have when somebody hurt your feelings.
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But I would be cool with letting that bitch go because you just walked out of my life. No explanation. You're going to tell me that you've washed your hands of me. Bitch, I washed my hands first. Yeah, I think if somebody doesn't want to be in your life, just let them. I believe in the let them theory. No matter what is going on, let people do it. You can't.
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You can't cry, nag, complain, pray nobody in your life. If they want to be there, they will be there. Let them. Let people do what they want to do. Yeah, like, the fuck? Goodbye. Goodbye. Mm-mm. Let that hoe go.
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All right. So, uh... Make sure y'all tune in. Poor Minds every Friday. Love Lex P every Monday, 10 a.m. Dre and Nicole with three E's on YouTube every Sunday. But yeah, that's it, y'all. Thanks. Oh, so Mixi.com. Oh, yes.
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Yeah, let's do it. Maybe we could do it for your birthday. That's enough time for me, darling. Yeah, I feel like, because then we could do, like, a proper rollout and really, like, make sure it's, like, real cute and put together. Yeah. Get, like, cute packaging and stuff. Yeah.
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Period. You know what I'm saying? And we'll see y'all next week. Bye, y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out. Y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to Poor Minds. It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. Y'all are tagging the wrong Poor Minds page.
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If you see at Poor Minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page, okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the Poor Minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram.
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one twitter one tiktok it is p-o-u-r underscore m-i-n-d-s all right and we got a hell of fake facebook page oh the facebook pages our face the crazy thing is our facebook page actually have the least amount of followers so if you're on facebook the one that's ours got the least amount of followers the one that's That's not us. Got like 250,000 followers.
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But y'all know it's fake if you actually look at the content because the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English. Because their captions are like, Bamba Claude. Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes, no. Check answer below. Blah, blah. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the captions are like. I like that DDG. Bamba Claude.
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Thank you. I was the kind of guy that tried to dog you out. But I ain't that kind of guy you try to make me out. You found out when you turned to my baby. I showed them other brothers how to treat a lady. I let you drive when I ride that Mercedes. And I ain't tripping or acting shady. Cause baby, you know.
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But yeah, so the sale did really well. Like I said, I'm gearing up for the new products that's coming out my spring campaign because it's going to be big. I'm going to have like models and stuff. And then just still doing this goddamn challenge. But I am 34 days. And you look amazing. Thank you. You literally have a six pack now. I do. That's crazy. It is crazy. I'll be like, God damn.
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oh oh oh my god this is me I can't wait to see you I want to be with you again and every time you're out on the road I strip and whenever I'm doing a show don't you forget that I'm your main chick who got that game chick one in the same chick the one you can hang with I
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Feel like I should enough, that's when I feel more I give you this, give you that, what you need love You know I gotta holler at me if you need love And affection, cause I be your protection Kinda hard job, but I do it to perfection And you can tell that I ain't tryna let you go I get with you when I can, so that's how I let you know And you be trippin' cause sometimes I gotta go But you the first one I holler to, right after my show's
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And I was tripping in a sense. I was tense for my body loose around you. What I'm going to do without you? I got to get it together. Say whatever. But since I met you, my life seems so better.
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Thanks, friend. Yeah, I do. I really do. I have a little six-pack now. And I feel like my legs, I was just telling Ty when we was in the kitchen, I feel like my legs are getting big, like, bigger. Yeah. Like, they're getting, like, toned. Yeah. I mean, you look, body always been, see, but you, it gives, like, workout, girl, now.
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Like, your body gives that you go to the gym. And see, I can't wait till I really start having, like, muscle definition, though. Yeah. Like, in my legs and in my arms and stuff. Mm-hmm. But, yeah, I'm 34 days. I haven't missed a day working out in 34 days. I've been doing 10,000 steps a day. And I haven't been drinking. So, I'm just still doing my challenge. So, I still have, what, 41 more days?
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You're going to push through. You're going to get there. Yeah, I'm going to get there. And I'm going to be done right in time for my birthday. Like, I'm going to be, I think April 8th is my last day. Ooh, we're going to have so much fun for your birthday. Yeah. We are, because we have something so big and so huge coming up. So, I'll say this.
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Okay, I'm not going to say anything, but April 22nd is Drea's birthday. If you are a poor mindstand fan, whatever you are, you need to be in Atlanta April 22nd. I'm going to say that. Because we're going to do something really nice. Like, yeah. And y'all are invited. And y'all are going to be invited. So, April 22nd, make sure y'all in Atlanta.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
yeah so that's really it for me like girl just boring working working out eating meal prepping boring I feel like when you're doing a detox and you're doing a challenge life is never that exciting but that's why I was saying I want to go somewhere like this weekend or next weekend like I just feel like I need to get out of Atlanta and go do something because I feel like my life's just been so repetitive because I don't be really wanting to go nowhere because I don't want to be tempted to drink so what you been up to
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
Uh, I'm going 75 days hard, drunk as fuck. I'm just playing. Honestly, okay, like, I didn't give up liquor, but I don't drink anyways. Like, I'm not a heavy drinker. Like, I drink the days we record. I lost, recently I lost 15 pounds, but half of that because I got really fucking sick. Like, I'm still kind of getting over it. Yeah, you look good. But yeah, I've lost 15 pounds.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
I want to lose, like, 10 more before... Oh, I almost said what it was. Before your birthday, I want to lose like 10 more pounds. But honestly, like I said, you know, I've still been on my church journey, my therapy journey. I'm still doing very, very well. I'm getting better mentally.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
Like I said, I be catching myself kind of slipping down that slope, but I can catch myself better now and quicker now. I've been doing a lot of work internally. And one thing that I'm working on this year, too, is I'm really trying to pour into my community, right? Like, especially black women, black creators, anybody.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
Like, I'm trying to make sure whatever knowledge I have to give to them that I'm helping people build their platform. I'm not even being like, oh, break me off and give me a percentage. Nah, like, I really want to see more black women doing this. I want to see more black women on tour. I want to see more black women just creating content. I want to see us in these spaces.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
So that's something that I've been doing, too. Like, really pouring into people that are close to me, people that DM me, ask me for advice. And like sharing my platform and doing what I'm supposed to do. So that's something I really, really want to do this year is like uplifting us. As black female creators. Like, I really want. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And we are here to tell y'all about our brand new e-book and e-course bundle, Pour Into Your Pod. Yes, y'all. We have been working on this for a while. And we're so excited to put it out and give it to y'all. Because we know so many people have been asking us for such a long time about how to start a successful podcast.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind. Where a drunk mind speaks so but the whole. We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. I feel like, when was the last time we sat on this couch, just me and you? I don't know. It's been a minute. We using high demand, boo. Oh, my God. Boosting busy.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
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Pour Minds Podcast
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This is the e-book that gets straight to the point and gives you all the direction you need to start your podcast today. Absolutely. And you can trust that we are putting 100% good information, no filter into this book. And it's going to help you build your brand. And it shows you exactly how we built Poor Minds and made it into a six-figure company.
Pour Minds Podcast
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So make sure y'all head to poorminds.com to purchase your e-book or the e-course. And we also have it available in a bundle for you so you can get both. Poorminds.com. Pour into your pot. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Duran Nicole. And we are in a time where everybody is creating content, selling things online.
Pour Minds Podcast
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Pour Minds Podcast
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Pour Minds Podcast
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Check out squarespace.com for a free trial. And when you're ready to launch, www.squarespace.com backslash poor minds to save 10% off of your first purchase of a website or domain. Yeah, because you know what? And I want to shout out to Kev on stage real quick because y'all do this every three months to my dog. Y'all think Kev on stage funny? Yes, he's funny.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
And not only is he funny, he puts people in position to win. During the pandemic, this man had a whole comedy series where he was putting comedians on. Y'all literally sit on Twitter, and this is no offense because I be on Twitter a lot, but y'all sit on Twitter and y'all tweet all day. You think you so funny. Y'all be networking with the wrong people.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
Instead of bashing this man, he can get you a job. I just don't see the benefit of bashing people who are doing good and putting people in position. And somebody said to me, Tyler Perry puts people in position, but he's not above criticism. Asking if Kev on stage is funny is not criticism. That's not a critique. And Tyler Perry might not be above criticism, but he also not on Twitter.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
He not responding to y'all neither, so y'all don't know what he above. Y'all are doing that because y'all think it's funny, y'all think it's cute. I just think it's so crazy that if I can look at your timeline and I can name ten things you hate, but I can't name two things you like, you might need to take some... You're a negative Nancy.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
Yes, and this is coming from the number one hater in the world. Or Nathan. Whichever, you know. You know what I'm saying? So, I just feel like that... I see the things that Kevin... I hate when you call yourself the number one hater. I am a hater. I love to hate down. I do. I don't know if I would call you a hater, per se. I don't give a fuck what people call me. Bleep that out. But...
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
I think it's been five minutes. Okay, but I do, I will say, like I said, seeing people like Kev on stage share his platform and give people, you know, a space to be introduced to other people that are funny and in that space and do what they do, it's like, it's amazing. And I'm like, okay, you know what? I want to do the same thing. I can't do it on his level yet.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
But, you know, eventually I do want to have my own. I've always said this. I want to have my own production company and I want to be able to produce other things. But I feel like I can start right here with my platform and making sure I just do what I can to share the knowledge and share the wealth. So shout out to KevOnStage. Shout out to Kev, yes. Yeah. Me and Kanta.
Pour Minds Podcast
Toot It N Boot It
Okay, so let me say this first of all. Today, the day that we're recording, obviously when y'all see this, it's going to be past it. But today is February 26th. Today literally makes four years since I quit my job, okay? To become a full-time entrepreneur. Yes.
Pour Minds Podcast
H'eron Heroines FT. Blynn Cuhh
That's something like Drea. I could definitely see that.
Pour Minds Podcast
H'eron Heroines FT. Blynn Cuhh
You have to brush it and wash it. You have to brush it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Whispering seem... Whispering seem sneaky. Like how Lex just said, I used to be like, hey, can you put my stuff to the side? And then the tab come out and you done putting your card down. But I already paid. Y'all don't got a word about me. Right, but why you whispering? Because I'm shamed. I got $10. What do you mean, why am I whispering, bitch?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I'm weak. Oh, okay. Time, my bad. What we drinking, time? What we drinking? This one is going to be called The Forbidden Kiss. This is good. You like this one? Okay, Jolly Rancher? A little bit. Okay. It might be that desert pear syrup that we added to it. I think y'all like that a little bit. It has some cranberry juice in it, a little bit of lime.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And we did, for Lex, we had a little bit of vodka in hers. We got mocktails over here. And then we topped it with a little bit of ginger beer just to kind of give it a little bit of that bite to it. And then we kind of did, as a garnish, like a medley of berries. So everyone's is different. I have strawberry, raspberry, blueberry juice.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
The girls have some blackberries and strawberries and raspberries in there. So just kind of a cute blend, just as we prepare to go into the month of love. So this is the Forbidden Kiss. Cheers. This is really good. That raspberry was really juicy. You're going to have to remake this when I'm drinking again. Okay, I got you. Bad, juicy, and wet, huh? No, you know that's right. Bad, juicy, and wet.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Okay. Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera, entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with Love Lex Peep.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
It's giving our personalities chill. Just in the feel with it. You feel me? Okay. You know what I'm saying? So what's up, girl? Nothing, girl. Just another week. Just another week. Let me ask you a question. Because I saw somebody post something very interesting. And I'm not going to say what it was or what it was. I'm going to just ask you this.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Gonna be about 20 questions. A lot of the questions that y'all sent me were kind of similar, so I merged some of the questions together. And yeah, I'm gonna let y'all get in my business a little bit. Let y'all be a little nosy. I know I don't normally do that. What did you learn from your early to mid-20s? I just lost my dad. I'm 21. I'm not sure how to keep going. Any tips on how to keep going?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Hey Dre, asking a genuine question. Do you get lip fillers? Okay, this is another question I feel like I answer all the time, but I don't mind answering it again. What is your take on having a lot of female friends? I never really been the type. Are you making a personal YouTube channel because poor minds is changing or canceled? Let me clear the air with that. What's up, y'all?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Drea Nicole. And we're here to tell y'all about ZocDoc.com. If you're a person who always puts off going to the doctor, this is for you. Yes, y'all. It's the beginning of the year. Y'all need to make sure that y'all go get y'all well checks with y'all primary care doctors. And ZocDoc makes it so easy to find a doctor.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
They have over 100,000 doctors with all the specialties. So you can get mental health doctors, dental health doctors, primary care, and urgent care. Everything. Everything. Yes, you can even book an appointment the same day. And that's what I like. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes I want to wake up and go get my teeth cleaned. ZocDoc going to help you with that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So all you're going to do is go to ZocDoc.com backslash poor minds. That's Z-O-C-D-O-C.com backslash poor minds. If I had needed this product, it's what I use. So that's ZocDoc.com slash poor minds. Z-O-C-D-O-C dot com slash poor minds. ZocDoc is a free app and website where you can search and compare high quality in-network doctors and click to instantly book an appointment.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Stop putting off those doctor's appointments and go to ZocDoc.com slash poor minds to find and instantly book a top rated doctor today. Go ahead, Drea. So for the first topic, I wanted to talk about toxic positivity and is it hurting our mental health?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So basically, like, do you think that you could be positive to the point that it's toxic to where it's making people not recognize, like, the real issues that people have to deal with on a daily basis? Like, because people are always telling other people. No, you got to be positive. You got to have a positive mindset. You can't let stuff get you down. You can't be depressed and stressed out.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You got to pray. You got to have faith. All of these things that people are always telling people when they're going through, you know, the trials and tribulations that life throw at you. Is there a way that you could be being too positive to the point that it's toxic? Absolutely.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I feel like one thing that I've learned with like mental health and dealing with things like that, we have to be realistic. So I saw this good example. I think it was a TikTok I had seen. I do not know who said this. Maybe y'all can find them. I hate when I reference what people say and I can't remember who said it. But basically this guy was talking about life. And he was saying...
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Life has ups and downs, right? So the reality of it is, of course we want to be happy every day. Is that realistic? No, because life happens. People die. You lose money. You lose a job. You lose a friend. It's life. There's no way to be... It's not normal to be happy every day. God gave us emotions for a reason so we could feel all of them, right?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
If somebody is born somewhere... And then they move when they're a tiny tot. Anything under the age of, I'll say, five years old. They're born somewhere and they move when they're five and they're raised in this city. Is it okay that they claim the city that they were raised in from five and above? Yeah, I think five is a young age. So, yeah, to me, that's fine. I'm saying, though.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
and it goes up and down. When you're dead, that's when it's steady. So whether it's a high up or a high down, think about it. A person who's happy all the time, say they're on drugs. That's what makes them happy all the time. That person is losing themselves off of a drug or whatever because they're steadily being high because they're off of a drug. You know what I'm saying?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Or whenever you're sad all the time, it's one emotion. To feel alive, you have to feel all those emotions. Mm-hmm. So I think it's realistic to tell people, yes, be happy. Look for the positive things. But you know what? It's also okay to tell people, hey, it's okay to be sad today. If you don't want to get out of bed today, feel that. Go through those emotions, but don't stay there.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Because as much as you go down, that heart got to beat. You got to go back up. So I do think it's a... It gets too much with the online, the self-help and all that self-help books and the self... I'm going to teach you how to stop it. Tell people it's okay to feel. It's okay to cry. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to have these moments because that's a part of life. We're humans.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You're going to feel some emotions. It's not... realistic to be happy every single fucking day, bro. It's just not. So, yeah, I do believe that toxic positivity will make people, draw people further into depression, to be honest. How do you feel? I disagree. Just because I feel like some people need that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, some people need people around them, supporting them, pouring into them, telling them that things are going to be okay. Um, that's what gets some people through things, you know, and then I think you have people who just want to deal with stuff on their own, which either way, however you choose to deal with things, either way is fine. But I think some people need that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And, um, I don't think in telling people to have faith in that things are going to get better and being positive and trying to give them a positive outlook. I don't think that necessarily means that you're telling them that they can't be sad. Right. Or to not feel their emotions. You know what I mean?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, I feel like you can still feel... The person can still feel their emotions, and then a friend or a family member is telling them, you have to pull yourself out of these. Yeah. Because you do. You know what I mean? You need to. Like you said, life is about... You have to feel the emotions and stuff. But, like, if you stay in that emotion, a lot of things could go wrong.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, when people are sad and depressed, and I feel like they don't want to... do anything and stuff sometimes. I think a lot of things... You can lose a lot of things in the process of, like, sitting in that. Right, right. You know, so I think sometimes people do need people around them to tell them, like, no, you have to get up.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You have to pull yourself out of this funk because it doesn't last forever. Because I think, too, when a lot of people go through things... They think it's going to last forever. Like, people be thinking it's the end. And it's not. And sometimes I think a lot of people need that reminder that, like, this too shall pass. Yeah. And that's what I'm saying. I agree with you on that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
That's what I'm saying. You do need somebody to tell you, hey, don't stay in this. But I think with the social media aspect of it, the gurus, I be seeing these gurus with no degree and no nothing like... wake up every day and choose yourself and choose, like, yes, that's what you're supposed to do. I do need to hear that. But also, they're not saying, you know what?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
It's okay to sit in bed sometimes. That's what I'm saying. It's two sides to it. So, yes, tell these people to get out of bed, but also tell them if you want to have a day to yourself, to be sad and to cry, that's okay, too. I just think there's, like, two sides of it. And a lot of times, these people try to push this narrative, like, I'm happy and I'm great all the time.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I think it's weird when people are adults. Like, move somewhere when they're adults and they claim... Right. I think that's a little strange. Because, I mean, no. If you live somewhere for 20 years, if you live somewhere for 15 years, that's where you from. Now, if you move somewhere when you're five years old, you probably don't even remember the place that you originally lived.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Most of these, like, self-help and motivational speakers, they're not telling you the hard days that they have. And I think that's what's good about our show. Because, bitch, we talk about our wins, but we talk about our losses, too. It's real. Because life is real. It's not always peaches and cream. No.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Right. Yeah, I mean, in no shade, but I think that that should, like, is that not, like, common sense at this point, though, that everybody has bad days? Like, literally, it's nobody walking this earth that is happy and happy-go-lucky and... and in a great mood every single day. Like, life happens. Things happen. You know what I mean?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Whether it's you losing a job, whether you going through financial issues, whether you going through a breakup, whether you lost a parent or lost somebody close to you, whether it's a friendship breakup, whatever. I mean, you could have tripped and fell in front of a whole bunch of people down an escalator or some shit, and now they ruined your day because you embarrassed. Like...
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Things happen to everybody. And I use that last example because I feel like that's something that's not so serious. Like, that's something small that's not really that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. But it be little stuff sometimes that could fuck your day up. Like, nobody has great days 365 days out the year.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Unfortunately, we are in a time where people look up to these people on social media and they believe that they're being honest and real. Well, that's why I need y'all to put y'all thinking caps on. Ain't that what we learned at elementary school? Yeah. Critical thinking. Critical thinking. Use your critical thinking. But you have these people on social media. They follow them.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And these people are posting four or five videos a day. And even with relationship goals, they are looking at these couples. Then all of a sudden, this couple breaks up. And the girl talking about, oh, he was beating my ass. Or he talking about she was cheating on me. And you be like, oh, my God. The same couple that set up their tripod and act like they just got out of bed. Bro, the same couple.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I see. The same couple that be acting like it's a prank. That's what I'm saying. Yeah. Oh, you know what the prank I hate? I just seen this. It was a prank and a man had, like, this life-size doll laying on him. And she, like, walked in and was, like, beating up the doll. It was so lame and cringy. And everybody in the comments was like, oh, my God, this is so good. She loves you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Because in what world do a doll look like a person? But anyways, that was... But I say all that to say, though, but you do have gullible people on the Internet. You know what? Keke Palmer made a good statement the other day. Because she just came out with this book that I actually want to read. But she was basically saying, like... Yes, what's it called, Shea? Master of Me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So she was promoting her book and she was talking about how you have to realize you are in your bubble. We are in a poor, cruel bubble. So we can only get back and feedback what our people see. And we are so big in some of these people's world, but it's people that'll come on our face and be like, who the hell is this? You know what I'm saying?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So I say all that to say because we look at people who look at others like, you really believe this shit or you're buying that shit? But it's a whole other world out there. It be people that have 15 million followers on their Facebook page or their TikTok and I have no idea who they are. And they believe that they're hanging on to every single person this word, every single word this person says.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
That's what I'm saying. So, I just... I saw something. Like I said, I'm not going to say it. But... Like, for example, my sister, we were both born in California. And my sister moved, you know, when we were, she was about, she was five and I was two. And I'm from Orange, Texas. I'm not from California. My sister is from Orange, Texas. She's not from California. And I just think it's so weird.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And I'm like, he's spewing bullshit. And I can see that. Bullshit's
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You know what I'm saying? But she made a good point of we are in our own little world. And, you know, sometimes we have to think outside the box and put ourselves in other people's shoes to understand what they're feeling, what they may be experiencing and things like that. So I think that's important to understand. So.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Yeah, some people really, they probably even look at us and look at the things that we complain about and think it's silly. They probably be like, oh, and even as extreme as like us losing a parent. Okay, y'all lost a parent, but look at y'all. Some people really look at us like that. You know what I'm saying? So they be like, okay. Well, you lose one and come back and tell me how you feel.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But it'll probably be somebody who never had parents, who grew up in a foster home. So they like, y'all complained about what? At least you had the experience of having a dad. But see, I think that's the problem with people, though. You have to stop comparing traumas. Like, what I went through is just as fair as what you went through. You know what I mean? It's just as equal.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, one is not greater than the other. Just because you never had a parent... I ain't had no daddy around when I was growing up. Why did she do that? Because she didn't. Same though, same. It was all my heart experience. I mean, and it was a hit. I had one, but I still like that song. You used to sing that when your daddy made you bed? I used to sing it in front of him.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
My bad, go ahead, go ahead. But yeah, it's like people have to stop trying to compare traumas and be like, oh, well, what I went through is worse than what you went through. Losing a parent is fucked up and not having a parent is fucked up. And it affects different people in different ways. It was a trauma for you, and losing my dad is a trauma for me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, you can't say that, oh, because we have the success that we have and we have the things going on in our life that we have going on, or because we look the way we look, that... It didn't hurt us losing our parents. I think that's a stupid-ass mindset. But what I'm saying is... But listen, but that's what I be talking about.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You have to try to... Not saying it's stupid, but just look at where they're coming from, though. And I think that's what we have to do sometimes. Being in this position... All the reason I say that... Well, they need to look... I hear you, but I feel like it goes both ways. Absolutely. They have to look at where we're coming from, too. I think that that's crazy to think that way.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I'm never going to not think that way. No, yeah, yeah. I agree with you, but what I'm saying is... In this situation, if somebody is judging me and being like, oh, I don't feel sorry for Lex, and I'm not saying people out there feel that way. We're just speaking hypothetically.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But if somebody was out there like, I don't feel sorry for Lex and Dre for losing their parents because look at their lives that they live. At the end of the day, they're viewing me like this, and I am the more fortunate person in this situation. Because I'm not looking at anybody like that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And whatever trauma that you went through, you're fighting some kind of demons in your head to look at another person who is struggling or going through something and looking at them like that. So I say all that to say it's my job to not judge them or put myself in their shoes because they're not there mentally. Their emotional intelligence isn't where I'm at yet. So it's my part.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I feel like, not that it's my job, but instead of attacking them or calling them crazy, I'm like, you know what? I really am praying for you and I hope God gives you the grace that he gave me to grow and learn. Because I used to be that person. You know what I'm saying? I feel like I could feel that way about them and then still be like... you sound stupid as hell. But I'm still praying for you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You hoes is ordering filet mignon, medium rare, Brussels sprouts with parmesan, truffle mashed potatoes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And I hope that God give you the peace that you need. But get up out my goddamn comedy. Yeah, yeah. No, I feel you. With that bullshit. Yeah, but I do think... Two things could be true at once because I don't... I just am at a point in life where I feel like I don't have to be nice or extend grace to people that don't extend it to me.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
People be like, oh, you can't claim from here. You were born here, bookie butt. Girl, wherever you were raised at, I feel like third grade, and I'll even take it further, give you some more years. Third grade and up,
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But my thing is I'm also not going to say anything to you either because I really don't be saying shit to people a lot of the time. I'm just going to block your ass. I used to not be a blocker. I'm a blocker now because it's gotten to the point. Do you know, I tweeted, I tweeted, I said, I love the fact that Adam Sandler puts his wife in all his movies. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Because one thing about it, Adam Sandler going to cast that wife, baby. I don't care if she's playing a bellhop. She going to be in that motherfucking movie, bitch. And it was so many people like, y'all are just, you're just finding this out? You're just, somebody literally said to me, how you reviewing movies that you just found out?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Did I say I just found out that Adam Sandler was putting his wife in movies? Because if you know me, you know I talk about movies all day and night. And if you did, did you say you was a motherfucking guru? Movie guru? Even if I did find out, why is that not, like, just something that I'm saying? I hate when people, oh, you just heard this song? This song old. I just heard it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Go away from me with this Apollo. Go away from me with this Apollo. Period. What is wrong with y'all? Because what do y'all be talking about, for real? Like, I just think people be angry. And I be thinking it's funny a little bit. They love to bring their pitchforks. They do, because it's like, why are you so mad? Adam Sandler is not finna put you in a relationship. Oh, my God.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Why are you so upset? They are. And they were like, how you didn't know this? He puts his children and his friends. Don't forget that. I know this. I was talking about relationships and stuff, and then I was just tweeting about how I love men and women that are in relationships, and they look at it as a partnership.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I was talking about that to someone, so that's when I was like, I got on the topic of Adam Sandler. One thing about me, I'll be having a conversation in real life, and it'll remind me of something. I'll just tweet about it real quick.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I know Adam Sandler puts all his friends and his kids and everybody. I was talking about the love he has for his wife. Yeah. Because a lot of y'all have wives and won't even buy her a fucking daisy, bitch. So, yeah, I was talking about the love he has for his wife. A fish fillet. A nothing. A nothing. Yeah, I don't know. People just be angry.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And that's why I believe you can never have too much positivity. Never too much. No. I don't think the world could ever have enough positivity because most people are negative as fuck for no reason. Listen to the things you just said. They could have just scrolled past that tweet and not said nothing. You know how many times I see some bull schnitzel that somebody say. It's okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Wherever you at from third grade to your senior year in high school, unless you're like an army brat and you from all different places, because there are some people like that where they really not from somewhere because they moved around a lot. But third grade to your senior year, that's where you from.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
That's my new word. You know how I see so many... You know how many times I see shit online that I be like, what the fuck is this person talking about? Like, you sound crazy, whatever. But why do I... Yes, for what? I don't know. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Well, I think that y'all are from California because I feel like wherever you're born, that's where you're from. Like if that's on your birth certificate. That's where you from. Right. But I feel like you were raised in Orange. Yeah, so I claim Orange. Like, I don't live Cali, girl.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Because, I mean, you don't remember... I wouldn't claim it necessarily either, but, I mean, it is where you're from, though. Yeah. But you probably don't even remember living there. And don't. Yeah. And don't. That's why I said... And she probably don't either. Well, she does. She does? She remembers our house. Oh. And she remembers, like, our dad and stuff like that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But, like I said, I'll even give people, like, to third grade because I feel like... Where you're from is, like, what really shapes you. Mm-hmm. I don't give Cali girl at all, because I'm not from there. I wasn't raised there. Like, Orange, Texas really raised me. Like, that's where I became, oh, I'm so sorry, y'all. I thought my phone was off. Now, ain't that unprofessional of me?
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Oh, Jesus Christ. Um, but Orange like, you know, raised me. That's where I became who I am. So I feel like wherever you're going, wherever you're at, where you're going through like your adolescent stage and all that first love, first date, first everything's like, that's where you from. You know what I'm saying? I just wanted to make sure I wasn't tripping. You know what I'm saying?
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Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I'm only ordering... I ate before I came. I'm only going to order an appetizer and one glass of wine. I'm going to put a separate tab. Exactly. And I'm not going to lie. If you... Look, I love my girl Kiki, but Kiki orders down. Because whispering seems sneaky. Like how Lex just said, I used to be like, hey, can you put my stuff to the side?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And then the tab come out, and you done putting your card down. But I already paid. Y'all don't got to worry about me. Right, but why you whispering? Because I'm shame. I got $10. What do you mean, why am I whispering, bitch? You hoes is ordering filet mignon, medium rare, Brussels sprouts with Parmesan, truffle mashed potatoes. With extra truffle. Au gratin potatoes.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Bitch, I don't even know what an au gratin is. Of course I'm embarrassed, bitch. I ordered a Caesar salad with no crouton. Yeah. The fuck? I know, I'm saying back in the day, but it was different, though. Yeah. So... It was easy to split tabs. Restaurants used to split tabs. Now, I mean, it's different now. I'm not going to lie to you. When I go to a restaurant, I'm here to eat. I don't care.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
One thing about me, I'm very cheap still because I like to save my money, but one thing I'm going to always spend money on is food. Food is a part of my experience in life. I feel like when you taste the different flavors of the world, you're living, okay? And I'm a tourist. I love food. So now, yeah, throw that card in the middle.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And like I said, our friend Kiki, Kiki orders six appetizers, two entrees. She don't even eat it all. She just want to taste everything. If you go out to eat with Kiki, baby, you got to be ready to throw that card in. I think we're all like that. So I think that's okay. But I'm very mindful. So I know... When we in certain settings, I know certain people, it's not going to pay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I know when I got to whip that cash app card out. I'm going to just say that. You know what I'm saying? I know when I got to do that cash app shit. Yeah. And hey, y'all, hey, you know what? Instead of everybody laying their cards now, put it on the cash app card. Because y'all ain't finna slide to the waitress. Put 80 on this one. Wofford. And 120 on the raft. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Well, I feel like for trips, though, that's just a good idea in general. Oh, yeah. I was in my bag when I thought that. Yeah, I think when people go on group trips, it should be like that anyways. That was so smooth. It really was smart. Like, yeah, when you go to the club or when you going out to eat and you on a trip with your friends, I feel like it should be one person in charge of paying.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Because, you know, people be trying to say things about what to and this and that. So I was just making sure I wasn't tripping. No, I don't think you are. I think that that makes sense. Like, why would you claim somewhere that you didn't live for that long and that you don't remember? you know the people be tripping over they city. So somebody said that to your sister?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And with that cash app card... To minimize confusion. Everybody's sending this person their money, and this person is the person that's going to pay with their cash app card. And it just be... And then when you got the cash app card, you be feeling like a baller. I be like, I got it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Girl! I was like, bring the tab to me. I got it. Broke bitches. I had to give payback on everybody. I'm trying to feel like a baller. I was in a section full of bad bitches. Get sent another bottle. And from far away, it looked like an ethnic. No, it's because it's black. Because it's black and it's hard. It's like a metal card. And it got my signature on it, too.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And you know I got a good signature, bitch. That hoe was looking fly. But, okay, back to the topic. I do feel like finances shouldn't come between friendship, though. And I can say that. I can attest for... No! No, finances... I feel like finances can come between any fucking relationship.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
No, I feel like it shouldn't because... Now, if somebody is using you and they're doing the most, okay, I understand. But if it's... like, somebody's just not up, and you're up, and they're not up, and y'all be having conversations, and they're letting you know.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I just don't mind help, like, because I used to be that person, so I don't mind helping or doing what I can, and as long as they communicate with me. And one thing I can say for... I have friends that make way more money than me, and I have friends that make way less than me. I feel like we all just... It's a community. We all trying to figure shit out, you know what I'm saying?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But I think finances... are tricky because if we would just communicate, none of this stuff would even exist. Open your mouth and talk. Stop being embarrassed. I mean, I agree. I feel like that's what I had said earlier, too. Like, it doesn't really matter to me if somebody doesn't have money. Like, that's not going to affect our friendship.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
It won't affect our friendship until it's things like that. Like, feeling like you're using me, feeling like you're trying to be sneaky. and get over you borrowing money and not giving it back. Because I consider myself a gracious, a generous person, too. Like, I have helped a lot of people out over the years. But it's just like... People be trying to take stuff for granted, though.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You know what I mean? And then that's when it can become an issue in a relationship. I agree. That's why I said I feel like finances can fuck up any relationship, whether it's a marriage, a partnership, a business partnership, a friendship, a family-ship, any of that shit. A schnitzel-ship. It can fuck up any relationship because that's the number one reason.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Money is one of the number one reasons. For divorce? For every breakup across the board when it comes to any relationship. That's one of the number one reasons people stop being friends, stop fucking with each other. It be all the money. Because then, too, when you start getting money, then sometimes people around you start feeling entitled to your money. And that's a whole other topic.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Let me tell you something. You ain't entitled to shit around here, but I always made that very clear. Even when I worked at Dreams and I had $2, you're not entitled to these wings, bitch. Don't come in here feeling like I'm finna give... No, I've always been that way. I draw boundaries. I mean, you have to. I feel like that's important.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
No, they didn't say that to my sister. Okay, I'll say what it is. Somebody said that Meg needs to stop claiming Houston because she's from San Antonio. Because Meg was born in San Antonio, but she was raised in Houston. Right. Meg moved to Houston when she was very small. Like, she doesn't say, she doesn't hide that. Yeah. So, I was just like, the girl is from Houston. She was raised in Houston.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You have to draw boundaries with people because that's when people will try... to take advantage of you. You know, and I say that from a place of, like, I didn't always draw boundaries with people. I feel like I always been the type of person, if I got it, you got it. Like, that's always been the type of friend that I was, especially when I was younger. Like, now, not so much.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I mean, like, if you my friend and I fuck with you and I'm doing something and I know you can't pay or I know you going through some shit, I'll pay your tab or I'll help you out. But as far as just always across the board being like, I got it. I got it. You good. Now... Absolutely not. You got to keep your wealth. Yeah, exactly. And if you helping everybody out, how you going to do that?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
That's why I said. Sometimes you got to put people in position. We talked about this on the other episode. Circle's small, and that's for a reason. Yeah. I don't need no Cali bitches asking for my money. Okay. Or no orange bitches. Or no orange bitches. Or no Houston bitches. Nobody. None of you bitches. None of you bitches. Not tell what you think. Because we didn't even ask you what you think.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I hate... I like... My group of friends, we're the ones that throw our card in the middle. But I have had times in my life where I wasn't the... You know, I wasn't in this position. Yeah. But I would be the one like, you know, I came before. I let people know. I came before. I mean, I ate before I came.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I'm not in it type of thing, but I don't necessarily like to sit there and count everything throughout. Yeah. Like, just don't count. I would rather just stay home and avoid the embarrassment, avoid any of that, and just keep it moving. I'll be the next one. Yeah. Because I'm going to eat. I agree. Because then, too, even if you say you ate before you came, everybody going to be like, mm. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Yeah. Girl, what you ate? Because it's giving. Why would you save your appetite if you knew he was going to eat? If you knew he was going to eat. Yeah. Girl. But I'm about to be 40 soon. Like, we can't be doing this little dip and dap type of thing. You know what I mean? Before she came. Hungry as fuck. Cinnamon toast crunch. Melanin filet mignon. Girl. Thumb it touching your back. But it's okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Of course I'm embarrassed, bitch. I ordered a Caesar salad with no croutons. Yeah. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind. Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. Whew, I just took a shot. Sorry, my throat burning. You know what?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Yeah, she was just born in San Antonio. She was born in San Antonio. I mean, I don't know. Is she supposed to say that every time she do an interview? I don't know. I mean, thinking stuff like that be weird. Because like you said, it's like people who was born on military bases and stuff. And that's where they was born. But they grew up somewhere completely different. Or multiple places.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Pour into your pot. Okay. So now it's time to get into the bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. The bed. Bow. Bow. Bow. Okay, y'all. So, for the bed topic, I wanted to talk about if no foreplay is needy. Because I saw a tweet on Twitter, and I had retweeted it. And it's so crazy because all I said was no. And it got a whole bunch of retweets. I guess the girls felt that. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So, the girl, the original tweet, the girl was like, have y'all ever dated a man that was so fine, and you was just so physically attracted to him, X, Y, and Z, you didn't need. Foreplay. I said no. Never met a nigga that fine. I always need a little head. Always. I always need my coochie squared. Oh my God. So... Yeah, so it's like, excuse me? Like, no. Never met a nigga that fine, ever.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You need foreplay. I think that's essential when it comes to sex, but that's just me. Now, obviously, considering time restraints, you may not always have time for foreplay. Like, you know what I mean? If you're trying to get a little quick in before work or before you got to go to an event, church maybe, I don't know. Mm-hmm.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
If you trying to get a little quickie in real quick, then, yeah, you might not have time for foreplay. But, like, just on a normal basis, me and this man don't never be doing foreplay because he's so fine. My coochie just wet off the rip. No. Mm-mm. And they do be like that sometimes, but... Like a little quickie or a little having fun. Yeah. But I always... But honestly, I feel like it's weird.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
As a woman or a man, whatever you like to date, you don't like foreplay? Yeah. You don't like the build-up? I think foreplay is a part of sex. Sorry. I don't know. When you said that, I just started thinking about the Chris Brown song. What? Residuals. We be like building up. Because that's what we doing, bitch.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But sometimes military people be tricky too. Military babies. Why? Because they'll be born in Germany, but raised in Utah. And they'll be like, I'm German. Girl. They are, though, technically. I mean, they are, but you know what they be doing. But I'm saying... You know what they be doing. To me, if you're from somewhere, you are, like, that is what you are. You technically German.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Because you got me fucked up. Because what are we doing here? We're getting all my love, bitch. Clearly not you. Because you ain't even doing foreplay with this nigga. You not getting all his love. Because he eating somebody's coochie. He eating somebody else's coochie and it ain't yours. Who's eating all my cooch? You not getting all that nigga love. He giving it to somebody else. Okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Again, like I said, foreplay is a part of sex. If you are dealing with a man or a woman who is not going down on you, not caressing them titties. I love a titty caress. I love a titty caress. I love when a man just kiss me up and down and round and round. Oh, sorry. I love to, you know... Bring it on back. Reel it on in. Yeah, you right, you right.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I just feel like foreplay is a part of sex, so I think that is a little bit childish. Whoever tweeted that, I bet you she's, like, in her 20s. She probably young. And she was just trying to say something to... She was trying to say something to impress the nigga that she fucking with who be watching her tweets, and she didn't expect Dre and Nicole to answer it and respond to it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Well, I will say, too, young coochie be hot. So it be hot and ready. It be hot and ready. It really do. As a person who once had it. That coochie still be hot and ready. I mean, and it's not old, but it's older. It's seasoned. It's seasoned coochie now. Like, back when I was in my 20s, though, it was young, hot, and... Like, my early 20s, it was young, hot, and ready.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Now, when you be in your early 20s, I will say, it take minimal effort. Yeah. It takes way less effort to get you there. So, I mean, I kind of get where she coming from, but even back then, I used to be like... Yeah. I couldn't open my legs. I know. You would have let that thing out. Keith Cliff was going to... Javi was going to put the cat emoji right there. And I almost did it.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I had to think about it. That's why I was like. Oh, my God. But, yes, like, look, it was always like, so what we about to do? I was just like, rev that engine up. You never start your car and just take off. You start your car and let it rev up. And what happened if your car ran out of oil? Mm-hmm. That bitch finna break down. It's gonna break down. Might blow up. Hey.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So, yeah, you absolutely always need foreplay. So, ladies, stop letting these niggas get away with not eating your coochie. I'm sorry. I always have thought that was so weird when girls be like, oh, I deal with a dude. He don't eat my coochie, though. Then why you with him? If you see me with a... It's wild. If you see me... Know that he ain't nothing from the rooter to the tooter.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Please know he eating Fat Ma. Ooh, full meal. Full meal, Thanksgiving.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Off the bones, huh? Getting them neck bones and them collard greens. Thanks. Because what? Like, what do you mean he don't eat it before he beat it? That's enough out of you and Heathcliff. What? You cutting up. I'm not. I'm chilling. I'm just saying. I think that is asinine. That is crazy. But, I mean, it goes both ways, too. Y'all got to start sucking that dick, too. They do.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Y'all ain't giving... Y'all ain't sucking that dick good enough. But I'm talking about, like, I used to know people where they would be like, oh, I be sucking my man, like, dick or whatever, but he don't eat my coochie. Only time that happens if it's that time of the month. Well, I mean, I feel like sometimes that will happen in a relationship. Yeah. I'm talking about in general, across the board.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But you don't know nothing about the German culture. You don't know to be German. That's where you was born. Like, I feel like that's just, like, somebody that was born in America, and they might move somewhere else and may not know much about American culture because they moved at a young age, but, like, you're American. You're not from, like, say they moved to Asia. You're not from Asia.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, you always giving him head, and then he never giving you head. I'm finna get, like, Remy Ma on that video. Like I said... Wait, what video? Remember that video where that man was giving her head while she was driving? No. Remy Ma, don't look at me. I didn't do that. Remy did. But why do you know about it? She was like, because it was one of her... It was a music video? I'm conceited.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I got a reason. And the nigga was giving her head in the video. She was like... Ew, he was? Yes! Now I'm going to go back and watch it. No, you couldn't see it, but it was like... I don't know, obviously, he wasn't doing it for real, but the fact that it was even, like, X'd out. I got to pull it up for you. That is crazy. Remy Ma.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
He was like, she was like... Because, you know, that's what niggas do. Now, see, mm-mm. But, yeah, I just always thought that was a crazy thing, though. Because, like, if you giving him head, he need to give you a little head. I agree. I agree. I really want to show you this clip now. I want to see the clip because I am intrigued. Oh, my God. I hope it comes up. I wonder how Pampus feel. Oh.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Oh, it's not the video. Hold on. I know somebody got the video. Oh, my God.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Okay. Go ahead, Remy. It's them bangs. Remember when everybody used to have them bangs? Did you ever do the bangs? I did the Chinese bangs one time. And I didn't like it on me. I have a very small forehead. So let me tell y'all something about makeup. My table's way down here. Bro, it just was... It looks so dumb. So one thing about makeup that I learned is that we have to stop... Makeup is...
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I was doing... What? They was probably way up here. Remember when Beyonce had this bang? No, they weren't up here. It just looked funny because I have a small forehead. Like, look at my forehead. It's not big. So, even contour... I don't contour my forehead anymore. Yeah. You contour your forehead if you have a big forehead. Right. You contour your nose if you have, like, a big nose. Yeah. Like...
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You contour your chin if you have a long chin. Like, I contour my cheeks. I have fat cheeks. You know what I'm saying? I contour my nose a little bit and my cheeks a little bit. But that's it. I don't do my chin and all this. I don't need all that. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So, Chinese bangs, I feel like, works on people with, like, a bigger forehead and styles like that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But they definitely didn't look good on me. Baby, the Chinese bang had me in a chokehold. Oh, God. I just had an epiphany. Oh, Nikki. Nikki, the chokehold you had on the girl. You could not tell me nothing. I had a Chinese bang. But what I used to hate about it, especially, too, because my skin is, like, oily. Like, even right now, like, my little forehead getting a little shiny.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And I would be like, uh-uh. I could never have that hairstyle longer than like a week or two because my bangs would always get so greasy and I used to have to wash them every day or they would be looking all stringy. Yeah, I hate a stringy. I hate a stringy bang. I hate stringy hair. I hate strings. Besides the violin. Shout out to Lynn. Okay. Okay, let's move on. Let's move on. What's up, y'all?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
It's your girl, Lex P. And it's your girl, Dre Nicole. And y'all know we love simple recipes that you can cook at home that are quick and easy. So we're going to tell y'all about HomeChef.com. Yes, I love HomeChef because they have so many options, y'all. You can do 30 minute recipes. You can do pre-portioned ingredients.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You're not Asian. I don't think you're from there, but I feel like if you spent more years in Asia, like... Your... It's a difference between... What is it called? Your... What do we talk about all the time? I don't know why my mind is going blank. I go off of what... Your race and your... What is it? Nationality. Nationality. That's too... It's totally different. Right. Right.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
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Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
All right, item of the week. Item of the week? Of course. MuseBeautyCollection.com. Make sure you get your lip glosses, your lip liners, your jelly blushes. We also have some new products coming out really, really soon. Next month, actually. So stay tuned for that. We're going to be doing a whole rollout for that. And yeah, also make sure you shop the Valentine's Day sale.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
MuseBeautyCollection.com. What's your item of the week? My item of the week is just go to Love Lex P. We deep in the game now, y'all. We doing pop culture. We talking about gossip every week. We deep in these people business. We got lawsuits, reality TV shows. Everybody is on some bullshit right now.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So if you want to get caught up with all the latest gossip, you know, Wendy not here, but Lex P is here to save the day. All right, so tune in. Love Lex P. Go subscribe. That's my item of the week. Go ahead. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. Y'all know we have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But do you have a product or something that you want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds? Your opportunity is here. Period. If you have an item or you have a business and you want to get it promoted, we are now having slots available on the Poor Minds episode.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So if you would like to get your product featured for Item of the Week, all you need to do is send an email to itemoftheweekpm at gmail.com. That's I-T-E-M O-F-T-H-E-W-E-E-K-P-M at gmail.com. Send us an email, and we'll work it out. We're going to figure it out. Get your product. Get your business sponsored. And, yeah, make you some money. We love to support a small business now.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And a black business at that. But, I mean, any business is welcome. We don't discriminate. Any business is welcome. Now it's time to get into the about. The about. About. About. About. About. Okay, so y'all know I'm a big Keanu LaDae fan. I love her down. I feel like, oh, I just wish I had the money to invest in everybody in the world that I just love. She has a song called Weakness.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But I go based off of people's birth certificate. So if your birth certificate say that you American, you're American. If your birth certificate say you're German, you're German. Yeah. It doesn't... Because I don't feel like... Even when you go to these places, like, people that are born in Germany, they don't really have a different look or anything than people that are born here in America.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
It came out on her last EP that she dropped. And it's just basically about how a nigga just... Got her weak in the knees, bitch. And we love a good weak in the knees song. You know what I'm saying? So, yeah, I love Kiana. I feel like one thing that we don't talk about enough in music is tone of voice.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I was talking about this with Shay a little bit because she was showing me, like, some freestyles about Saweetie. And I don't care what y'all say about Saweetie. Y'all be like, oh, she can't rap. She just needs to be pretty. Saweetie got that tone. She do. She got that tone. So it's... I don't give a fuck who, what somebody rapping about. It sounds good. We are...
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Creatures, they got to sound good in our ears. Same thing with Sexy Red. I don't care what y'all say about Sexy Red. It sounds the fuck good. Keanu LaDae has that voice. It sounds good. Summer Walker, same way. She got that tone, bruh. SZA, she got that tone. Yeah. Even, look, Boss Man D'Lo, he got that tone. I was bad in fucking school. Yeah!
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I'm telling you, tone is such a major thing when you're making music. Like, and Keanu LaDae, she has such a good tone. I feel the same way about Aaron Ray. He has a good tone. But anyways, yeah. My bop of the week, Keanu LaDae, Weakness, Fire. Go listen to her EP. It's bomb. Yeah. My bop of the week is about to be residuals because I forgot how good this song... And it's such a good song.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
That song is so good. Amen, Chris Brown. Okay. One thing about Chris, he don't come out with some hits. Why are they doing that? Because, like, you know, I'm going to just say this. Residuals is probably one of the best R&B songs I've heard in a good, like, two, three years. Yeah, I mean, it's a good song. It just, what, it came out end of 2023? It's good. Yeah. Yeah. That's a good song.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Sounds like a year old. And I'm like, have we ever talked about that song? No, we haven't. We haven't. I know we said, let's get back to the begging music. He's making the begging music that we want. Who's getting all my love? Tell me who. Oh! But I am... You know, I got to give you a critique, Chris. I didn't like the video.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You should have been sitting outside of somebody's house with a boombox on your knees and crying. We needed a storyline. If we bring back storyline music videos... You remember how Keith Sweat had no... What was it? You know you want... Twisted. Do y'all remember the end when she was climbing the rail and she got struck by lightning and died? I know y'all don't.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Well, of course we don't, Lex, because that song came out in, like, 1992. And I was three, and I was like, I don't even remember that. I do remember it. That's how I told you about it. You remember it because you've probably seen it recently. No, you won't. I remember Drew Hill in my bed at the end. She was a lesbian. He thought she was cheating with a man. Oh, yeah, I do. I remember that.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Let's bring back storylines in these music videos. Ray J, One Wish. Oh, yeah. That's how Chris Brown should have did it. Ray J got it right. I'm telling y'all, please. He was out in that rain. I'm not a refactor with the one who said.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
He was for real. That's how he be begging for Suki. Did you know, fun fact, that song was about the lady that just passed away. R.I.P. to that young lady. From 702. That was his girlfriend. Did you know that song? Irish? Mm-hmm. Oh, that was some hot tea there. A little bit of tea. Yes. I did not know that. That's his girlfriend. But the thing about Chris is he's such a big global artist.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Or even, like, to me, the culture isn't really, like, that much different. In Germany? Yeah. No. I don't feel like the culture isn't really that much different. Have you had their chocolate? It's very different. Well, I'm... Okay, chocolate. But I'm saying, like, the culture in itself.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You can remake the video. You still got time. And we gonna watch it. Yeah. Do it. Do it again. Do it again, Chris. Do it again. We were not pleased. No, I'm playing. No, it was a good video. I don't know. I haven't seen it. He was about to say, it was a good... That's how you know he's about to get in your professional line.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I was about... Because really and truly, the song is good, but that's why I stopped myself because I'm like, I ain't seen that video. No, it's a good video because it highlighted from his tour and it ended with him and the girl. And you know, it was a good video, but I feel like, give us one more. Give us a movie. Remember how Michael Jackson did Thriller? Give us a movie. Or... What?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I'm not going to say his name. Oh, fuck no. All right. Everybody in the room talking about something. Hey! Now, that was a movie. That was a movie. It was very... Oh, I know. I know. You shut the fuck up. I know. You actually want to get started. You swiped your mouth closed. Exactly. And now you want me to be quiet. Mm-hmm. You know that was a good thing. Hey!
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
God damn it, we're not talking about that right now. Okay. All right, so now we get to our favorite segment of the week. Pour your heart out. Yes. If you have any questions, testimonials, send them to askpoorminds at gmail.com. A-S-K-P-O-U-R-M-I-N-D-S at gmail.com. Ooh, I'm sorry, AWOL. I've been hollering at you real bad.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
That been AWOL the whole goddamn episode. He over there like, how he need to insert that? He need to insert that goof in the fucking video so the people can see. I'm sorry, AWOL. I'm sorry. Okay, go ahead. Okay. Okay. Question number one. If a guy is in a relationship and you used to date him but you've decided to keep things friendly since he has a girlfriend, you still hang out occasionally.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
He even gave you a birthday gift that seems a bit worn or like something he didn't spend money on. He says he can't find the receipt to exchange it, but I think that's a lie. I don't mean to be ungrateful, but I still feel like bringing it up and don't know how. This raises a question. Should a guy in a committed relationship be giving gifts to another girl, even if they're just friends?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, I don't feel like the culture is, like, that much different from, like, American culture versus, like, if you were to go somewhere like Tokyo. The culture there is completely different from the culture here. If you was to go somewhere like, um... Ghana, the culture there is completely different than what it is here.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
During our time together, I always asked him to be honest if he was serious with anyone. Eventually, I learned he was indeed serious, but he said they weren't official yet, which meant he was involved with both of us at the same time. She clearly has no clue about this situation, but I'm left carrying the weight of it, making it tough for me to maintain our friendship. Just knowing that it hurts.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
He apologized, but is it just me or does knowing the person that he was dating at the same time hit differently? Especially because he told me he wasn't. Now he's chilling all in love while I'm the one hurting trying to be his friend. I feel heartbroken because he's fine and not carrying any burden since she doesn't know. Meanwhile, I'm the one he lied to and I know, so I have to carry the weight.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Thank you, girls. First of all, first and foremost, motherfucking most. Girl, if you don't leave that fucking nigga alone, you talk about ghosting him. He don't give a fuck. He's in a whole relationship. You can't ghost somebody that's in a relationship. You just need to block him and move on with your life. And yeah, I'm sure she cute or whatever, but I'm sure you cute too.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And just because she's cute, that doesn't give him a reason to treat you the way he treated you and to lead you on the way that he led you on. That is not okay. He is not a good person. He does not have good character. And that is why he does not deserve to remain in your life. Then he gave you a gift that he probably gifted to somebody else or probably took back from somebody and gave it to you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, girl, he don't care about you at all. And you deserve so much better. Let him be with sis because he chose her. This is my advice. When somebody choose another person, let them lay in the bed with the decisions that they made. He made that decision, so he got to stay there. And that's it. It ain't no coming back to you now because he had a choice and he made his choice.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Let him stay over there. Move on with your life. And girl, fuck him. Fuck that nigga. Fuck him. Let me play devil's advocate for a minute. He weak as fuck for that. Let me play devil's advocate for a minute, because I'm going to tell you why you weak as fuck. Because you were talking to this man knowing he had a girlfriend. Eat my blackberry.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
No, because I got to be real with my ladies for a second. You were talking to this man knowing he had a situation, and you thought you were going to come into this situation, and he was going to choose you or whatever the situation may be. Only for the letter to go on, and you talking about she's so beautiful, she's so beautiful, and that's when I realized what it was right there.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I don't think the culture in Germany is, like, that much different to where it's, like, I need to say I'm... Yeah. The reason I think it's so different, because when I think about culture, one of the first things I think about personally is, like... Ain't that where hamburgers from? Yes, I think he is. And you know I love a little burger. Yeah, you might be German. Facts.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
A lot of men and women, I'm going to say people in general, y'all don't have confidence about yourselves, right? So y'all think y'all going to go in this situation with a man who's dealing with, or a woman who's dealing with a nigga who got money, or a man who's dealing with a woman who's beautiful, and you feel like that'll raise your confidence up because I can take... Her nigga.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, for example, I can take Dre and Nicole. I'm on a date, and I'm chilling with Dre and Nicole, nigga. Only for him still to be like, oh, I'm not leaving Dre and Nicole. So your intentions were wrong from the get-go anyway. You were using this situation, what it sounds like to me, to boost up your confidence because you felt better about going on a date or hanging out with a man...
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Oh, you sounds like you looking up to his girl. You don't want him. You wanted to match what his girl had going on. Well, to be fair, she said when she started dating him, she did not know he had a girl. She asked him to be honest and he wasn't being honest. But once you found out, you decided to stick there. I do feel like you should have hauled ass after that, though.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Once you found out, you stuck there. Not only did you stick there, you went and snooped and found out who his girl was. And I'm not mad at you for that, but you started putting yourself in the competition with this girl who doesn't probably even know you exist. She don't. She said it. And that's what I'm saying. We have got to stop doing that to each other as women.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I don't give a fuck if she look like Tommy Pickles, bitch. You, when a man tells you he's dealing with somebody, leave. Tommy Pickles is wild. Three hairs. Okay. The bald bitches be pulling. Okay. Okay? Okay? You got it. That's all I got to say, girl, but move on. Tommy Pickles is crazy. Okay. Next question. Okay. This is mine, right? Mm-hmm. Okay. Hey, ladies.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So, I've been dating this guy for the past two years. We've recently talked about getting more serious, marriage and kids, over the last few months. One day, we were having a conversation, and he decided to share something with me that he thought I should know so I wouldn't be blindsided. He shared that he made a mistake and slept with his cousin, who isn't really his cousin by blood or marriage.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
She was adopted into the family. Shout-out to Dre and Nicole. He felt I should know because she might be around at family events from time to time. And he wanted to be transparent. He reassured me that there was no feelings between them and that it only happened once on a drunk night when she came on to him. I was really shocked and upset because it's not like an ex that I'll never see again.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
This is a relative who I could be in the same room with from time to time. Thank you I don't Thank you.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Points were made because my parents met on the little... Hey, I'm on something.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But I think when I think about culture, one of the first things I always think about being a foodie girl is I think about food. Right. I think about like fashion and things like that. So I feel like German culture to me personally is very different just from the food they eat. They eat sausages. Yeah. A lot. What is it?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
You did? My mom loved a hot dog, bitch. Oh, see. We used to go to Wiener Schnitzel, but that's when I realized I don't like weenies, so I started eating hot dogs without the weenie with just chili and cheese on it. That's how I used to eat my hot dogs as a kid. Yeah. I hate a wiener. I hate a wiener. If Shay look up at me one more time... Shay, freaky ass Shay, please. Like, seriously.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
And then, wieners are just so nasty. Like, if you know what's in it, like, it's just all type of, like... Schnitzel. Bull... Yeah, bull schnitzel. That's what's up in that shit. I'm fucking crying. That is exactly what it is. A bull schnitzel is nuts. A bull schnitzel is what it is, for sure. But that's why I'll say, I think all cultures are so different.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I mean, even... I mean, obviously, we've been to Europe. And I can see they speak a different language. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I just feel like that's why Europe is so... It's such an interesting place to me because... They're so close, but it's whole different cultures that are right next door to each other.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So I do understand what you're saying as far as like the life that they live, you know, like the nine to five stuff like that, you know. But again, I just be feeling like wherever you were raised at is like where you're from. Like, wherever you were raised at, like, that's where you from. I don't care what your birth certificate says.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Whatever culture you were raised in, like, or wherever you were at, that's where you from. I lived in Houston for 10 years. I'm not from Houston. I'm not from California. I was born there. I am from Orange, Texas. Yeah, I mean, that's fair.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But I guess I just be thinking about, like, if somebody, like, you die and your obituary is going to say, born in Antioch, California, people going to be like... Don't want to say in my city. People going to be like, who the fuck is from California? But they wouldn't say that. Yes, they would. No, they wouldn't. My people going to get up there and say, no, Orange, Texas, 409.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
No, they're going to be like, who? was born in California? Because you never say.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But you are. Oh, I'm not. But you are, though. I'm not. You are. We should do a poll. What you think, Ty? I think it is where you're raised at. Like, you can be, you will say, I'm born in this city, but I was raised in. Yeah. But you have to preface, but I feel like if you're from somewhere else and then you grew up somewhere, you still have to say where you from. No, not necessarily. It depends.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
No. Because, I'll say this, okay. Say somebody was born in America, and then they move to Tokyo. Okay. And they speak Japanese very fluently, and English is their second language. And then they come back. So I feel like that's when you need to say, like, oh, I was born in America, but I'm Japanese. You know what I'm saying? I'm Japanese.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Like, I grew up, but, you know, I'm from here, but I'm Japanese. Yeah. You Japanese. You know what I'm saying? I just feel like ain't nobody, it ain't finna be no Cali bitches at my funeral. It ain't. It ain't finna be nobody. Well, it might. You never know. You might make some more friends from Cali. I'm not making no more friends. You might make some more friends. I am good on friends.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I feel like my circle is good. I know y'all be like, oh, Lex, I want to be your friend. I am good. I have a good circle. No Cali bitches. No offense to the Cali bitches out there. I'm just, no, not happening. You might, though. You could never say never. You might meet somebody and y'all just click. She might be from where you're from.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Y'all don't be supporting me enough for me. Y'all ain't booked me at Spanky's yet, bitch. What the fuck is Spanky's? The local club. It's still open? Hell yeah. Is it the only club? It is. I'm playing. I don't know. I haven't been there. I only go there for Christmas. But, yeah, Orange. Do y'all have a downtown? Yes. Like with skyscrapers? The skyscraper was my house, bitch. I'm weak as fuck.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But I guess what I'm saying is, like, you know, we found out that Charleston can't have buildings over a certain height.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
So they don't have any skyscrapers. There's no skyscrapers in Orange because it's like, who going to be in there?
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
They need to keep their feet on the ground. Oh, my goodness. There's nothing bad, but I know my city, like, it ain't nothing, it's just chill. Y'all don't need no high-rises in Orange, Texas for what? Y'all need to keep that rent low. They can see Houston. Girl, they need to keep that rent low, eat the boudin, keep the boudin intact. Orange is good, and I love my city, but it's a country town.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I like when we dress like this because it gives our personalities. Does it? Yes. It's giving like bougie. You mean business. You mean business. You finna walk into a business meeting right now. I'm finna go punch somebody in the chest. You don't do that. But I'm saying, I'm aggressive. You've never punched nobody the whole time I've known you. But I'm aggressive. I'm just saying.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I don't believe that high-rises should be everywhere. Yeah, I wonder if it's high-rises in Nacogdoches now.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
I don't know because it wasn't they had a downtown though but it was like brick roads I was like oh you know we in the country well you know there's a Lamar in Orange Lamar Orange State College yeah it's the college there's a whole bunch of people that went to my school that went to my high school went to Lamar well they went to Lamar in Beaumont probably oh in Beaumont you right Lamar's in Beaumont that's the popular one but Lamar had a branch in Orange too
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
The college. Yes. Okay. Lamar State Orange College. Lamar Orange State College. And it's attached to the one in Beaumont? Yes. It's a branch off of it. Just like HCC. Okay. You know what I'm saying? You know how HCC had different branches around Houston? It was the same thing with Lamar. They have a Lamar in Port Arthur, too.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Oh, okay. Okay, that's all I just had to ask. Like I said, stop playing with my girl, Meg. She's from Houston. She gives Houston. She just gives Houston. And I feel like, why would y'all not want her to be from Houston? Like, that's a big thing to say. Meg is from Houston. Like, stop. Because they want to claim her and San Antonio. Y'all got the Alamo. Y'all got enough. Yeah.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
Yeah, I was about to say they had Selena. And y'all got SeaWorld. What was Selena from? Corpus Christi. Yeah, she was from Corpus Christi. She wasn't from San Antonio. I said it was San Antonio, guys. Two things. Meese? Meese? No. That happened. I'm not letting you live that down ever. That's what the... You don't got to let me live it down. That's what they be saying, not me. Okay.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
That's what they be saying. They probably still do. His kids probably be in class. Me, me. Not you passing down. It was hereditary. Mm-hmm. Oh, God. The whole family.
Pour Minds Podcast
Bullschnitzel
But no, they got the Alamo and they got SeaWorld. Mm-hmm. It's the two things that San Antonio... And some good tacos. Mm-hmm. They don't need me. That's all I had to ask. Ty, what are we drinking today, my girl? Technically, she is from San Antonio. She was born in San Antonio. That's why we're going to get Meg on the show so we can ask. I can ask her myself. No, that's fine.
Pour Minds Podcast
Mystery Inc FT. Sistas Who Kill Podcast
There was a woman, 62 years old. Her name was Stephanie Brinson. Her husband has been in jail since like the 90s. She went to visit him, conjugal visit. So when they do these conjugal visits, they get like 30 to 40 hours in these like apartment style things. Hours? Yeah. They can stay there for like a whole day, you know, if you're married. So she, I mean, this is her husband.
Pour Minds Podcast
Mystery Inc FT. Sistas Who Kill Podcast
So we finally made it happen, and we have the one, the only, the beautiful Mara and Taz from Sisters Who Kill Parking! Yay! Thank y'all so much for joining us. Yes, thank y'all for coming.
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Yeah. I feel like, to piggyback, because I remember, like, of course everybody know the, what's her name, Jodi Arias story. And, I mean, everybody knew she was a monster in XYZ, but it's like when she went in jail, now she's, like, writing books. Her books be sold out. Like, men be writing her, like, and they just sensationalize it like she's a celebrity. Yeah.
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And it's so crazy to me because it's never, and I'm not saying that a black woman deserves that, because at the end of the day, they're still... You know, murderers. But it happened with so many white people. Right. Yes, yes. It's like they get turned into, like, Beyonce and Jay-Z or something. You know what I'm saying?
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The girl, I think her name was Centoya Brown, when she had killed that guy, and everybody was just like, she needs to be in jail. At the end of the day, she killed somebody, but it was like, she was a victim.
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Like 100% a victim, but then you look on the other side of, what was the lady's name? Y'all, I'm really bad with names. The movie Monster, that Charlize Theron. What was her name? Oh.
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Shay, Google the movie Monster and see what the lady name was. But it was, she had basically the same story. And I mean, people were protesting. They were up in arms about, you know, her getting, you know, being arrested. And she had killed multiple men. It was like she was on the run. What's her name, Shay? It was Aline Wernos. Aline Wernos, yeah. That's her name, Eileen Wuornos.
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But I feel like they kind of had the same story. And it was just like, I mean, everybody was on her side. Like, oh, she's a victim, she's a victim, this and that. But it's like, in her story, after a while, she started hunting these men. Yeah. She was hunting them. Literally, people were still protesting her. And in Centoya's case, she was literally defending herself.
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Yes, I said one thing that I wanted to make sure that me and Drea do this year is share our platform with other women in this space. Because I feel like... I hate when people say, oh, take the mics away. Take the mics away. No, we need to get more. It's not enough of us in this space, truly. Like, I don't feel like it's enough of us in this space.
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So I always think it's crazy how black women are treated versus, you know, white women in these stories. But that kind of brings us to our first topic that we want to talk about today because... Um, we want to talk about like when black women go missing. So we want to talk about it from more of a victim standpoint. You know, it's kind of like, who cares?
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Um, I think this was a point that was brought up recently with the Gabby Petito story. I mean, it was everywhere. You couldn't get on Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram. And it's so many black women that that's their same story. You know, they go missing due to their partner or somebody, their father or whatever, mother, anything. And they call it the missing white woman syndrome.
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Like, is it real? Do y'all think media is finally starting to change? Or is it kind of still the same when it comes to white women victims versus black women?
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Um, and I know this might be a little... Y'all gonna be... But I think that's the same thing with R. Kelly. What? The fact that people are just always like, free him. His music is just too good. Y'all gonna sit up here and say that R. Kelly not let... At the end of the day, look at his crimes. I cannot separate the art from the artist. I can't do that. I can depending on what it is.
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Like, if it's just because, like, for example, Cynthia Erivo. Okay, y'all feel some way because she took that lady from that other lady. Whatever. That ain't, you know. I got other problems.
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That's what I was about to say. I think people have a lot of other issues with her.
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Well, yeah, but I'm just using that for the people who use that for an example, not her African-American comments. Yeah. Even for Ariana Grande. If people don't like, stuff like that is like, okay, whatever. But if it's like something as serious as the crimes that R. Kelly did. That hurt people. Yeah.
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Yeah, that literally has victims, women crying and saying how this has affected their entire lives. And it's always like she said, oh, they were fast. They went out looking for him.
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And then I hate when people complain about, oh, this is what y'all talk about. I'm like, there's so many different genres of podcasting out here. Y'all just not looking. Y'all just not looking.
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Yeah. So I think every now and then we do have a case that kind of, the case of Naziah Harris. Yeah, I was just thinking about that too. Yeah, because that's what I was really like. I got so caught up in this case in January of this year. So Naziah, if y'all don't know, Naziah Harris was a 13-year-old girl who was allegedly murdered by her aunt's boyfriend.
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And they had a sexual relationship between them two. She had allegedly gotten pregnant. He found out. And, you know... She went missing. She went missing. And I think sometimes... Now, I do like the fact... I feel like TikTok has kind of changed things a little bit. A little bit. Okay. And I'll tell you why. Because I feel like a lot of times these stories, like... I'm not going to lie.
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Did I turn on the TV and see Naziah's story? No. But I was able to get on TikTok because now we are in a time where... People don't really go to, like, we don't have, like, the Nancy Grace anymore. You know, Nancy Grace, every time you turned on the TV, she was on, what was that lady name that killed her daughter? Jodi. Not Jodi. I can't remember her name. Casey. But her daughter was Casey.
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But she was on her ass every day without letting up. We don't really have that anymore. So I can say it's a lot of TikTok creators who do true crime and they specifically focus on black victims, especially young black girl victims. So I feel like TikTok really helped get her story out there. And that's why a lot of people started talking about it.
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And it ended up being on court TV and stuff like that. Yeah. So do y'all kind of feel like TikTok helps or hinders things?
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So what do y'all think, like, are the best ways that, like... Has anybody ever reached out to y'all like, hey, this is what's going on. Can y'all report on this so I can get my story out there of what's going on? How do y'all handle stuff like that?
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When I tell y'all, there is no stories about black women on there. No. Oh, yeah, no.
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Like, I'm scrolling. They have all these American murder, American mystery, and all these, you know, women who... And like I said, I'm not taking away from their stories because at the end of the day, we're still women and we're still victims. Right. But I did not see... I think the only story that I saw... I need to start.
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I should have wrote down these people's names, but I didn't know I was going to be bringing up... What was the girl's name? She has a short film on Netflix. It was, like, in the 80s or 90s, and she was in L.A., and she was going to get, like, a soda out of the store, and the Chinese owner... Oh, her anniversary just came up.
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Yes, and he basically shot her because he thought she was stealing, but shot her at, like, point-blank range, like, right in her face. Oh, yeah, I know who you're talking about. I'm sorry, I can't think of her name right now, but that's, like, the only story that I've seen on Netflix. Mm-hmm.
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I'm sorry. I just want to say her name. I just Googled it. It's Latasha Harlins. I just wanted to say her name just so, you know.
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Right. Are y'all afraid to tell stories like that when it is like gang related stuff? Stay strapped up. Stay. That's her answer to everything. I keep that strap on me. Because I'm not going to lie. It be sometimes, like, I'll deep dive into stuff. And, like, because I had this whole, like, moment where I was, like, really deep into, like, all the Chicago drama.
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That little girl was something. That was crazy. I had deep dives, and I mean, I was just glued. I mean, I was Googling. She had me Googling, and we was watching it together. It was so good. It's so in-depth, though.
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I was in private school. Girl. But I said that because I remember I was talking about it on the show for a little bit. And it was people in the comments like, Lex, keep it cute. Watch out. You making jokes. I'm like, I am not. From Orange, Texas. I don't want no... I don't want no... Baby, I've never talked... But, you know, it's crazy about that stuff is that it's still going on. Mm-hmm.
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Like... Yeah. So, for stuff like that, that's why I said I tread lightly on certain things. Do y'all feel like y'all have to tread lightly on, like, certain stories that y'all do? Or y'all have to be like, I don't care. Look, we just reporting these stories.
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She went to visit that man. He's like, hey, my wife passed out. You know, something's going on. So they're like, oh my gosh, you know, and she passed away. They don't know. They did an autopsy. That man strangled her. Why? Because he's a murderer, and that's what they do. What's up, y'all? It's your girl Lex P. And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds.
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Right. So y'all were platonic friends. Correct. Okay. You didn't like him though? No. Not even a little bit?
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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They do. I need me a go St. Patrick. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So, I understand Yandy. I can understand Yandy waiting two years. That's a little different. You know what I'm saying? But if you literally... You know, they have whole websites where, like, you can find men who are in. Specifically.
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Ever since. Okay. So what made y'all get into like the true crime stuff?
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Yeah, they definitely do. They 100% do. I think it's across the board for sure. You see it on Love After Lockup. There be them old men that be dating the young girls that went to jail for like robbery or something. And they be running it up. A lot of the... No shade to the city girls, but a lot of the city girls are in jail. The city girls type girls, you know, from scamming, robbing.
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You know, they was running it up, swiping people's cards when they're not supposed to and doing all that. But they go to jail and they find these men who are still willing to give them a chance. Were y'all scared? Like, with the scammer?
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I had a situation happen to me. Um, I just told this story on Scam Goddess. Shout out to Lacey. Um, I was dating this guy, and he's not even a scammer, okay? Mm-hmm. He is a very wealthy guy from his business. Like, and I know exactly what he does because he actually has helped me with my business. Mm-hmm.
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So, but what he did was he had, like, a little connect, what he thought was a connect on flights. Mm-hmm. And that person was the scammer. So we had went on a trip and he was just so pressed to fly on American. And I'm like, well, I like to fly Delta. I feel like I remember. Yes. But I'm like, whatever. Like, why are you so pressed to fly American? So we flew American. First class, baby.
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Went to a beautiful resort. Had a wonderful time. Came back first class. Okay. This is my man. I'm in love.
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I'm posting to my close friends like, this is the one. You know what I'm saying? He icy the whole trip. I'm like, oh, it's so cold in Mexico. With all your ice, baby. I'm having the time of my life. Then I get on Facebook. Because, you know, obviously... My government name is not Lex P, so I get on my Facebook, my real Facebook that my friends and family are on.
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I have this message, and they're like, hey, they say my full government name, middle name too. You took a flight to such and such Mexico on this date with, he said his full name, and you used my miles. I need to know how you got my account and how you, girl, I must have deleted him and blocked him so quick. I said, oh!
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I was so mad. You were about to have me in prison.
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I was so mad because the thing is, you are literally wealthy. Why did you do this?
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I think so. I think he was being cheap. Really? Yes. I don't think he has a thrill of it. I just think he was like, okay, because honestly, the resort we stayed at, it was like a $2,000 a night resort. I think he was, he had, we had went shopping. He had bought me some stuff. He had sent me some money to get ready. I think he was just like, man, look, this bitch done cost me 15 bands.
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That shit. When the person messaged you, did you just, like, block the person? I blocked him, and I kind of, like, deactivated my Facebook for a few weeks. Yeah. I was, like, incognito. And at the time when it happened, because he didn't DM me until, like, months later, and me and him had fell off, so I don't even think, did I ever tell him? I think I did tell him.
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I think he just laughed it off because he's so nonchalant about stuff like that because he was probably like, oh, yeah. I think I did tell him he was like, oh, yeah, I found out that dude was scamming because, honestly, I don't think he knew at the time. Mm. Because he thought it was going to be, like, a type of, like, buddy pass type of situation. Oh, I gave him X amount of money.
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I can fly free for the year. But he didn't know this guy worked for American, but he was stealing people's miles and stuff. So I think whenever he found out, he was like, oh, yeah, he was on some whatever. And I just got my money back from him because it was like, you on some bullshit. And after that, like, we started, you know, talking again. And we had flew to different locations, Delta. But...
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Yeah, but I think when it comes to, like, crimes and stuff, I'm snitching. I don't know nothing. But also, when a man doesn't want to tell you what he does for a living on the first date, don't ask. That's the red flag. Don't ask. Because, like, what y'all do for a living? If y'all go on a first date and somebody's like, oh, what do you do? Oh, you know, I do this. You're proud of it. Mm-hmm.
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If you are a successful person in your field, you are proud of what you do. Baby, I do not shut up about poor minds.
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You know what I'm saying? So if you're on a first date and you ask somebody what they do, they're like, oh, you know, I got some businesses. I'm a street pharmacist.
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I got some investment properties. You know what I'm saying? I'm an investor. Okay. Niggas love to be investors. They love a good Robin Hood. They do. Don't let a nigga have a lot of... A little acorn. Acorn.
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Oh, my God. Okay. So, we gonna move. We gonna move. Have y'all ever dated somebody, like, though, behind bars? Like, talked to them? No? Okay, good.
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What you mean? That man that your ex that passed away.
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And it's your girl Dre Nicole. And we have a very exciting announcement today.
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Yes, y'all ask us for so much. Well, we finna give it to y'all every single Monday. And it's gonna be a time. Y'all know Poor Minds has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September 2nd. It's going down. Thank you.
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So let me ask y'all this, because I am really, I'm deep in the true crime streets, okay? Mm-hmm. But, so what I've realized, being a fan of, like, true crime stuff, is that you really have to be careful on how you report these stories. Because you have to remember, although it is entertainment for some people, they're still victims. They're still families.
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Ever since I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera, entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years, I've heard your requests, but now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all, let's get into the tea with Love Lex Peep. Mmm, tasty.
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Okay, so now it's time to get into the bed. Ow. The bed. Bow. The bed. Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow. All right, y'all, I'm a little tipsy now. I had a shot and a half, so I'm feeling good. Okay, so for the bed topic today, we're going to talk about the connection between crime and sex. I'm sorry, y'all, I'm having a ball. Yeah, me too. Because I'm just, I love to get in the true crime thing.
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Oh, my gosh. Okay, so y'all know, obviously, I'm going to get into the topic. I'm going to tell y'all what it is, I promise. So, I remember this Snapped episode, right? Okay. It was this story about this lady in Atlanta, and she had met the bachelor of her dreams. He got money. He in a high rise. He does all this stuff, and she found out he was dating other women. I mean, it's in Atlanta. Hello.
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What would you think? Mm-hmm. And she went to his house, and they had dinner. She, like, cooked him dinner or something, and they had sex. And she waited till he fell asleep, shot him in the face while he was asleep, left, threw the gun out the window, and she almost got away with it. Do y'all know why she didn't get away with it? It's because a random person found the gun.
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And they connected it back to her. If she would have, like, really took that gun and hid it somewhere... they would have, like... Never found it. Never found it. It was a random person that, like, saw something glistening in the grass, and they were like, ooh, it's a treasure. Let me go pick it up. And it was a gun, and they turned it in and connected it back to her.
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So, I want to talk about crimes of passion with sex. Do y'all think the thrill of crime and sex are connected? Or is it more so, like, sometimes the dick be too good, and you be losing your mind?
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So how do y'all go about, like, choosing which stories to talk about, which ones to not? When do you know to kind of, like, you can laugh and make a joke, when not? Like, how do y'all... Get in that territory.
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So do y'all feel like most of the cases that y'all do, it's because of a woman scorned? Like, a woman scorned, like her man, she snapped.
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Oh, she didn't know what to do with that thing. She was mishandling that thing. She didn't know what to do with it. That's all right. Mishandling that thing is great. And she's in jail now, right? Mm-hmm. Oh, my God.
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Because I would have thought that would have been a life sentence. Yes, I... You know what? I think it's... But, you know, you can plea for a lesser sentence. I don't... Okay, so I can say this. I do understand... If self-defense. If it's self-defense, you don't need to go to jail at all. Because if it's you or me, like, I'm choosing myself every time, you got to go.
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Crimes of passion, that gets a little, because it's like, you can't control your emotions. So how do I know you're not going to fall in love with somebody else and do the same thing?
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It's so crazy to watch Snapped because you see a lot of these stories and a lot of these women are free now. It's stories of, like, stuff that happened in, like, the 90s and they're free now. What's her name? Selena's murderer is up for parole this month.
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Oh, she's getting... The streets is not going to be friendly to her. She won't be out that long.
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But it's crazy to me because I've never been to jail. I've never been to prison. Don't plan on going. But to me, I feel like for her, it's like... You want your freedom, of course, but, like, you should stay in there.
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And I'm one of them. She better not let me catch her at the local Target. Okay. It's going down.
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That's true. But I do want to get on a point that you said, because you were saying, like, you're an adult. You need to learn how to control your anger. And I 100% agree with that. But you motherfucking people need to stop playing with people, too. Because you're going to come across the wrong motherfucker, and now you're laying on the ground gurgling because your throat's slick.
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You got to understand, everybody don't got something to lose. You know what I mean?
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She's going to be on that stand like this, pressing play. I told you I wasn't deleting this shit. Period. But no, I do feel like, like I said, any crime against somebody, you do, of course, need to hold yourself. But y'all have to stop playing with people. Like she said, some people just have nothing to lose. I don't play on people's top. I don't play with your time. I hate to say this.
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I hate to talk about this. But... It was so crazy. Y'all probably have never heard of this story, but we're from... Well, I live in Houston. She's from Houston. There was a story, Mercedes Moore. Yeah. It was a case where... And I truly don't believe that Mercedes Moore knew that man. I really don't.
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It was a case where a man was stalking her, showed up at her house, strangled her to death, then ended up, you know... Unaliving himself. But the narrative online was like, oh, y'all, because she did OnlyFans, so you know what comes with that. They don't look at women who do sex work as people.
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So the narrative came, oh, y'all need to stop getting men for their money, and if you don't like him, stop talking to people. Let me have a choice to spend that money. They had a choice, right. But honestly, I don't think she knew that man. I think he was probably like a subscriber on her OnlyFans and was stalking her. I truly believe that.
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But on the other hand, I will say for women who like aren't in sex work and you're like using men who don't even live that type of lifestyle. Like this is for the girls who really be trying to like prey on men who don't have much and they're literally giving their last to you or vice versa. Yeah. Men who are preying on women who don't have much and they're giving you your last.
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And then they find out you're playing them. It's not even worth it.
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It's not worth it to be, like, using somebody because you're going to catch them on a bad day. The economy is hard, okay? Right now, eggs is $63.99, okay? Eggs are highest. Stop playing with people for money, and that's not the game that you play. You know, I always say this.
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So, yeah. Have y'all ever, like, deleted an episode or something because, like, it was just becoming too much drama around it or anything?
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Leave the sex work and stuff to the girls who know what they're doing, and they know how to talk to these people, and they know how to navigate that world properly. I feel like it ain't no proper way to navigate that world. But it is, though. It's people who are... They know how to keep themselves safe. They know how to keep themselves safe, you know?
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And I'm not talking about the pimps because y'all ain't safe either. I'm talking about the women who really know how to navigate, keep themselves safe, and know what they're doing. You know, there is a way. And I think the problem is a lot of people try to separate themselves. Oh, this isn't sex work. I'm not doing this.
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I'm not... If you are selling any kind of fantasy, you talking to a man and he's feeling some type of way in his loins and he's paying you and it's just that, That's sex work. You know what I'm saying? So I do think that if you're going to take that route, stop making people feel like you care about them and that you love them and that you're going to be with them on both ends.
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Like I said, men and women, because that shit gets scary.
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And I tell that to all women, if you a sex worker or not. I even told, I think it was something you was doing. You was on live one time. I said, girl, get out your fucking window because it just be the little shit. It be the smallest shit and somebody going to find where you live. Yeah. I post in front of my white wall. I got a white wall and that's it. That's all y'all finna see.
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That's how we be feeling, too. They be like, they'll forget about it, y'all. No, we done deleted the episode before. But that was in the beginning. Okay. We had to delete some shit a few times. Right, right, right. Okay, so y'all have been doing the podcast since what? 2021. 2021. So do y'all feel like being black women in this space? Are there a lot of other black people in the true crime genre?
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But taking pictures in my house. I'm not doing it. Or posting where you at while you there.
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It's scary. And I think for me... It's crazy, because when I was in Mexico with the scamming flight, that's when I found out that Mercedes had passed. And it was so crazy, because I remember going through her Instagram, and I'm just looking. I'm like, this is probably a picture that he looked at, because she's just innocently taking pictures in front of her house, in her house, around her house.
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This was probably like 2021. Because this was definitely before my mom had.
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She was like 30. Yeah, she was probably like 31.
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Us sitting here is vulnerable. Right, right. I think... And I think another good point is, like I said, just being aware. Because you just never know. And... Like I said, delayed posting, like that can literally save your life. I tweeted that the other day. I said, discernment can save your life.
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And it's unfortunate that things like that have to happen for you to like wake up and be like, oh my gosh. Because think about how many people listen to y'all podcast. It only takes one weirdo. Think about how many people listen to Poor Minds. It only takes one fucking obsessed weirdo. And like I said, I think it's, a very fine line.
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Like I said, with Mercedes' story, it was so awful because I'm like, this girl lost her life and all y'all keep talking about is, oh, well, she was in sex work and they dehumanized people so bad. But at the end of the day, she was the victim. She was stalked. She was stalked at the end of the day. I don't care what... Even if she did know the man and she was taking money from him, that was her job.
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She was on OnlyFans. So they do probably sometimes have conversations with these people. You know what I'm saying? She wasn't even scamming him.
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Oh, my gosh. It was so... I was so disgusted and frustrated at that narrative at the time. And we didn't have the platform that we do now. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. And I just remember, like, wanting to say something so bad because there's, like, these men on these large platforms just victim blaming, victim blaming.
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And I think that's something that we definitely need to steer away from because, like I said, I know what I just said, so I don't, y'all finna be like, oh, she's contradicting herself because I did say stop playing with people and stop doing that. But also, we have to stop victim blaming as well.
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Well, the reason I said that about the crime of passion, I think it has to be between two people who are familiar because I think that's when it's people who aren't familiar, like with the Mercedes case, I wouldn't count that as a crime of passion. Even though in his head, he probably felt like he was in love and this and that.
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I think that's when you start getting to the territory of mental illness.
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So I think I would separate crimes of passion from people who have a mental illness because anybody can become victim of a crime of passion.
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Yes, they do. But I think it's a mental break and it's a moment because you never know what can make you snap.
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You can never say never. Until it happens. Until it happens to you. You never know how somebody will take you there. But versus somebody, that man probably been weird for his entire life. You can't sit up here and tell me, like, if we, if he was alive.
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Right. If he was alive and they were able to deep dive into that, that's another thing. Her case didn't get deep dive into, I think, because she was not only a black woman, but she was a sex worker. Because they should have deep dived into his history and his life to figure out, to give everybody just more answers.
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Exactly. So I think it's a difference because if they would have really looked into his history of who he was, it was a lot more victims. The red flags were there. Mm-hmm. Um, so people like that, I'm like, those are the people that need to get, you know, locked up for life and throw away the key. You know what I'm saying?
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Because if you leave them out, if it wasn't her, it was going to be somebody else. If he would have not unalived himself, he would have kept going and did it to other people. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes I do feel like crimes of passion, it's kind of like a... They snapped, you know, truly snapped.
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And like I said, I'm not making excuses because there's still victims in all these situations. But I do like to feel that it's a little just different.
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It was like that case in Florida. Y'all remember when that lady found out, like, her husband was, like, assaulting the kids at her daycare? She owned a daycare. And she didn't even shoot him. She shot in the air, like, warning shots. Like, I will kill you if you continue to do this. They were getting into it. And he didn't go to jail. She did. Warning shots are illegal. Yeah.
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Yeah. So it's just like, in that moment, she snapped because she's, in her mind, trying to protect these kids. You're a monster. But the way the legal system is, I mean, I need to see what happened to her. Because they were trying to put her away for a long time. And the internet was like, no, put him away. Yes, and they would not. They would not lock him up. They would not lock him up.
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I swear to God, I was thinking that. I had your back, ten toes down. Yeah, like, bitch, the fuck you thought? I said, I don't know. She would never do that to you. Did you think?
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Lex knows I don't want you to know these. She's not going to tell you the truth. I said, girl, she would never do that to you. Look at me in my eyes.
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She was so pressed. She was very pressed. That was so strange. Looking back on it. Literally. Thank you.
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So is there a lot of drama in the true crime podcast world? Like, oh, they got this from my podcast and they, you know, they stole this information. Because in our podcast genre, it's always people beefed up and fighting.
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All I really wanted was some of your time and said you told me like when someone else was on your mind what you did to me. Can't say what you did to me. I thought that you were someone who would do me right. I said you played with my emotions and you made me cry. What'd you do to me?
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Can't take what you did to me, hoe-ass nigga.
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We'll see y'all next week. Hot break. This is the hot break.
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Like, it don't... It don't affect you much?
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But I think it was a good point in saying, like, most of the cases, though, because I used to be that way, too. Like, oh, my gosh, this is scaring me. This is scaring me. But most of the cases are, it's by loved ones. It's by people that they know. You know what I'm saying? Like, random crimes do happen.
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But most of the time when we're hearing these horrific stories of things happening to people, it's by somebody that they know. So I think that's a good point that you made. You're making sure that you're surrounded by, you know, good people that you know. I mean, obviously these people didn't know that, you know, their best friend or their husband was a murderer or something like that. But...
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Where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. We got some guests today.
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That's what I think like kind of doesn't make me so paranoid when I deep dive into these stories. And I think sometimes too, it helps me kind of like, okay, this is a red flag. So I can notice this in somebody. Like if you acting a little funny, you all of a sudden talking about insurance. You know what I'm saying? Something going down. What's going down?
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Okay, y'all. So first of all, it's very rare that we have two guests sitting on the couch with us, okay? So I just want to say I am so excited to share my platform with these beautiful women today. I have been trying to facilitate this link up for a long time, but y'all know me. I don't be remembering what I did yesterday.
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And he was on to something, too, because that bitch took him out the game. The first story I saw that y'all had, that I really fell in love with y'all was, damn, what's that lady name? She was the wife of the NBA, Shara Robinson. Shara Wright Robinson. Yes. Yes. Yes. That was like... Because I remember when... I don't remember when it happened because obviously I was a teeny tot.
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But I just remember the story just being like everywhere. And it was just so like insane. Mm-hmm. And I'll say, and I do have a question, because you said it takes, because y'all got really into some details. And I think one thing about these true crime stories, especially when they're popular, is we're pretty much hearing the same story over and over and over again.
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Like, I'm sorry, I don't need to hear about JonBenét Ramsey anymore. Ask her again.
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We have heard every single version, every single conspiracy theory. So what approach do y'all take when it's a story that's so big that people have been talking about and you can like, okay, well, we have something different to offer y'all with this story, especially with a story like Shira.
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Yeah. So y'all start from the beginning, beginning with it.