Libby Ingram

I cannot put a neurotypical ideal or what I think it should look like because they're not neurotypical. And so, you know, when he said, I want to marry Lily, I said, you know what? We can make that happen. That's okay. I said, it may look different. Who knows? Let's just wait and see what happens. The sky's the limit, you know?

I cannot put a neurotypical ideal or what I think it should look like because they're not neurotypical. And so, you know, when he said, I want to marry Lily, I said, you know what? We can make that happen. That's okay. I said, it may look different. Who knows? Let's just wait and see what happens. The sky's the limit, you know?

So yeah, it's different, but it's as equally meaningful and beautiful to them as it, it's just different. Yeah. I loved it. I love my Lily. She calls me her mother and soul. So, yeah.

So yeah, it's different, but it's as equally meaningful and beautiful to them as it, it's just different. Yeah. I loved it. I love my Lily. She calls me her mother and soul. So, yeah.

Well, basically, I can speak on non-speakers because that's my experience. There's so many different, as we talk about autisms, really, and what I know is the non-speaker. And I think that what we have to do as parents is you can't micromanage this thing. You really can't micromanage them. And it's hard not to because of the motor planning thing.

Well, basically, I can speak on non-speakers because that's my experience. There's so many different, as we talk about autisms, really, and what I know is the non-speaker. And I think that what we have to do as parents is you can't micromanage this thing. You really can't micromanage them. And it's hard not to because of the motor planning thing.

So for John Paul, I had to do everything for him, really. I mean, take care of him from head to toe, literally, because it was he... He just couldn't do it. That's their issue. It's sensory motor. It's sensory motor planning. But I can't micromanage his relationships. And I certainly, I loved being able to send him out into the world with a caregiver. And I didn't want to know.

So for John Paul, I had to do everything for him, really. I mean, take care of him from head to toe, literally, because it was he... He just couldn't do it. That's their issue. It's sensory motor. It's sensory motor planning. But I can't micromanage his relationships. And I certainly, I loved being able to send him out into the world with a caregiver. And I didn't want to know.

I didn't want to know everything. I don't need to know everything. He's a grown child. I want him to have autonomy. And I think some parents really struggle with giving up that space that control, and maybe it's because I'm type B, I don't know, and I'm not really, I just knew that you cannot control everything.

I didn't want to know everything. I don't need to know everything. He's a grown child. I want him to have autonomy. And I think some parents really struggle with giving up that space that control, and maybe it's because I'm type B, I don't know, and I'm not really, I just knew that you cannot control everything.

You want to keep them safe, and that's important, but you don't need to know everything, and you let them have a relationship, let them, John Paul had a life I knew nothing about, because when his caregiver took him out I have no idea where they went. He took them to family reunions. They went to Goodwills all over downtown Atlanta. I have no idea what his life was. And that was fine.

You want to keep them safe, and that's important, but you don't need to know everything, and you let them have a relationship, let them, John Paul had a life I knew nothing about, because when his caregiver took him out I have no idea where they went. He took them to family reunions. They went to Goodwills all over downtown Atlanta. I have no idea what his life was. And that was fine.

He needed that. So if the parent can do that, then I think everyone's happier. And I think they're happier because that's what they want, some freedom.

He needed that. So if the parent can do that, then I think everyone's happier. And I think they're happier because that's what they want, some freedom.

freedom for goodness sake you know um and and i don't know how that looks for everyone but i just really had to trust people you got to be able to trust people or your child is not going to have any freedom so that would be my advice yeah really yeah let you have to let some things go

freedom for goodness sake you know um and and i don't know how that looks for everyone but i just really had to trust people you got to be able to trust people or your child is not going to have any freedom so that would be my advice yeah really yeah let you have to let some things go

for me make your whole life about love is I like to when I'm doing something or thinking about how I'm gonna interact with somebody I try to say is it loving is what I'm gonna do is it loving especially if I'm making a real I'm

for me make your whole life about love is I like to when I'm doing something or thinking about how I'm gonna interact with somebody I try to say is it loving is what I'm gonna do is it loving especially if I'm making a real I'm

on my Instagram where I want to talk about, either want to talk about autism or the things that are making me unhappy regarding whether you believe in spelling, you believe in telepathy or this or that. I literally, I feel like I have John Paul right here with me all the time. He really is. And I will sit there and I might have this reel ready to go. And all of a sudden I hear this, mom,

on my Instagram where I want to talk about, either want to talk about autism or the things that are making me unhappy regarding whether you believe in spelling, you believe in telepathy or this or that. I literally, I feel like I have John Paul right here with me all the time. He really is. And I will sit there and I might have this reel ready to go. And all of a sudden I hear this, mom,