Lily Collins

That can create this idea that A, what people say isn't what they mean, or I can't even trust the good of what you're saying because I think it's going to come with some sort of resentment or you're going to hold it against me or you don't really mean that. And it takes a while for that to stop being your go-to. And when you're shown, again, expressing that is important because they can be

unfortunate mis-projections of something that I'm still feeling from the past where I'm like, I don't know if what you're saying is true. And whereas I, He's saying, no, but I wouldn't say it if it weren't. I don't say things if I don't mean it. And it's like, oh yes, okay, okay, right, right, right.

unfortunate mis-projections of something that I'm still feeling from the past where I'm like, I don't know if what you're saying is true. And whereas I, He's saying, no, but I wouldn't say it if it weren't. I don't say things if I don't mean it. And it's like, oh yes, okay, okay, right, right, right.

unfortunate mis-projections of something that I'm still feeling from the past where I'm like, I don't know if what you're saying is true. And whereas I, He's saying, no, but I wouldn't say it if it weren't. I don't say things if I don't mean it. And it's like, oh yes, okay, okay, right, right, right.

I'm just trying to reprogram my brain because I haven't trusted that in the past, but I'm going to lean in and I'm going to trust it. And then after time and time again of those experiences actually being positive ones, you then can reprogram and recondition yourself to trust yourself. what someone's saying and their intention. Yes.

I'm just trying to reprogram my brain because I haven't trusted that in the past, but I'm going to lean in and I'm going to trust it. And then after time and time again of those experiences actually being positive ones, you then can reprogram and recondition yourself to trust yourself. what someone's saying and their intention. Yes.

I'm just trying to reprogram my brain because I haven't trusted that in the past, but I'm going to lean in and I'm going to trust it. And then after time and time again of those experiences actually being positive ones, you then can reprogram and recondition yourself to trust yourself. what someone's saying and their intention. Yes.

No, I've had similar completely. But that's why I said I overthink where I'm going. Oh, there's no way that that. OK, so it must be that. But I'm now I'm not going to say anything. And now I'm going to hold it in. And now I'm going to think every single time that happens, that that's the reason. And it's like, yeah, so exhausting.

No, I've had similar completely. But that's why I said I overthink where I'm going. Oh, there's no way that that. OK, so it must be that. But I'm now I'm not going to say anything. And now I'm going to hold it in. And now I'm going to think every single time that happens, that that's the reason. And it's like, yeah, so exhausting.

No, I've had similar completely. But that's why I said I overthink where I'm going. Oh, there's no way that that. OK, so it must be that. But I'm now I'm not going to say anything. And now I'm going to hold it in. And now I'm going to think every single time that happens, that that's the reason. And it's like, yeah, so exhausting.

Oh gosh. It's, it's being held accountable for things or being, like I said, originally lovingly called out. I find more conflict within myself. I've always felt like I'm my own worst critic or worst enemy and, I will create conflict if there isn't conflict within myself because that's kind of where I was comfortable for a long time.

Oh gosh. It's, it's being held accountable for things or being, like I said, originally lovingly called out. I find more conflict within myself. I've always felt like I'm my own worst critic or worst enemy and, I will create conflict if there isn't conflict within myself because that's kind of where I was comfortable for a long time.

Oh gosh. It's, it's being held accountable for things or being, like I said, originally lovingly called out. I find more conflict within myself. I've always felt like I'm my own worst critic or worst enemy and, I will create conflict if there isn't conflict within myself because that's kind of where I was comfortable for a long time.

And that then may create conflict because I don't want to talk about it or I don't know how to articulate it. And so the idea of being lovingly challenged is probably what I would associate now with healthy conflict as opposed to it feeling like...

And that then may create conflict because I don't want to talk about it or I don't know how to articulate it. And so the idea of being lovingly challenged is probably what I would associate now with healthy conflict as opposed to it feeling like...

And that then may create conflict because I don't want to talk about it or I don't know how to articulate it. And so the idea of being lovingly challenged is probably what I would associate now with healthy conflict as opposed to it feeling like...

something's wrong and now I've got to fight about it or defend something, it usually stems from something to do with me overthinking or me feeling some sort of way about myself and trying to work through that type of conflict, like more inner conflict. And maybe if I don't properly internalize or vocalize that, It can lead to misprojected conflict, you know?

something's wrong and now I've got to fight about it or defend something, it usually stems from something to do with me overthinking or me feeling some sort of way about myself and trying to work through that type of conflict, like more inner conflict. And maybe if I don't properly internalize or vocalize that, It can lead to misprojected conflict, you know?

something's wrong and now I've got to fight about it or defend something, it usually stems from something to do with me overthinking or me feeling some sort of way about myself and trying to work through that type of conflict, like more inner conflict. And maybe if I don't properly internalize or vocalize that, It can lead to misprojected conflict, you know?

And those are the times when I have to go like, Lily, stop. What are you doing? Take the time if you need it. Let's figure out where it's coming from. It has nothing to do with the situation that you're now taking it out on. And sometimes I write those things down in like a drafts note thing. I bring it up to my therapist and I go...