Lindsay Roth

I could. I could not agree with you more. I interviewed someone in the book who she was in her second marriage and her first one was a bit abusive and quite explosive. And then she met and found someone else who she had a much what she considered healthier relationship with.

I could. I could not agree with you more. I interviewed someone in the book who she was in her second marriage and her first one was a bit abusive and quite explosive. And then she met and found someone else who she had a much what she considered healthier relationship with.

I could. I could not agree with you more. I interviewed someone in the book who she was in her second marriage and her first one was a bit abusive and quite explosive. And then she met and found someone else who she had a much what she considered healthier relationship with.

And the first few times they argued, she wanted to just retreat because her past was that I need to pull back physically and emotionally because this is going to get explosive. And what her new and now husband made her do was sit right next to him. And they would hold each other's hands as they were figuring out whatever issue they were arguing about.

And the first few times they argued, she wanted to just retreat because her past was that I need to pull back physically and emotionally because this is going to get explosive. And what her new and now husband made her do was sit right next to him. And they would hold each other's hands as they were figuring out whatever issue they were arguing about.

And the first few times they argued, she wanted to just retreat because her past was that I need to pull back physically and emotionally because this is going to get explosive. And what her new and now husband made her do was sit right next to him. And they would hold each other's hands as they were figuring out whatever issue they were arguing about.

And she said it felt absolutely ridiculous at the time. But what it did was it brought down her nervous system. It made her feel safe. It made her feel like, okay, whatever is going on between us, we can come together on. And I don't need to go to that crazy reactive place that's really from my past and not in my present. So that's similar to what you're saying.

And she said it felt absolutely ridiculous at the time. But what it did was it brought down her nervous system. It made her feel safe. It made her feel like, okay, whatever is going on between us, we can come together on. And I don't need to go to that crazy reactive place that's really from my past and not in my present. So that's similar to what you're saying.

And she said it felt absolutely ridiculous at the time. But what it did was it brought down her nervous system. It made her feel safe. It made her feel like, okay, whatever is going on between us, we can come together on. And I don't need to go to that crazy reactive place that's really from my past and not in my present. So that's similar to what you're saying.

And I had a moment with the Brit where and this is one of the favorite questions in the book that I get that I hear a lot about. It's how do you argue? So to your point, I – Tell us. How do you argue? Well, I'll tell you how I argue. I am – I'll tell you how I argue.

And I had a moment with the Brit where and this is one of the favorite questions in the book that I get that I hear a lot about. It's how do you argue? So to your point, I – Tell us. How do you argue? Well, I'll tell you how I argue. I am – I'll tell you how I argue.

And I had a moment with the Brit where and this is one of the favorite questions in the book that I get that I hear a lot about. It's how do you argue? So to your point, I – Tell us. How do you argue? Well, I'll tell you how I argue. I am – I'll tell you how I argue.

Do you want to have an argument about that? I'm extraordinarily verbal and I want to work out what my thoughts are in the moment. I'm not a – I don't reach for nasty, rude, terrible things in arguments. I don't get like that. I don't get hurtful, right? But I do want to work out my thoughts. Now, my partner is the exact opposite. He needs a minute. He wants to take a step back.

Do you want to have an argument about that? I'm extraordinarily verbal and I want to work out what my thoughts are in the moment. I'm not a – I don't reach for nasty, rude, terrible things in arguments. I don't get like that. I don't get hurtful, right? But I do want to work out my thoughts. Now, my partner is the exact opposite. He needs a minute. He wants to take a step back.

Do you want to have an argument about that? I'm extraordinarily verbal and I want to work out what my thoughts are in the moment. I'm not a – I don't reach for nasty, rude, terrible things in arguments. I don't get like that. I don't get hurtful, right? But I do want to work out my thoughts. Now, my partner is the exact opposite. He needs a minute. He wants to take a step back.

He wants a minute of quiet. He wants to – process. And really that does not work for someone like me who just wants to go, go, go and resolve it in the moment. I think I have a bit of a fear of if we don't resolve it now, then it's going to go on too long. That's sort of in the back of my head and I need to just get it out.

He wants a minute of quiet. He wants to – process. And really that does not work for someone like me who just wants to go, go, go and resolve it in the moment. I think I have a bit of a fear of if we don't resolve it now, then it's going to go on too long. That's sort of in the back of my head and I need to just get it out.

He wants a minute of quiet. He wants to – process. And really that does not work for someone like me who just wants to go, go, go and resolve it in the moment. I think I have a bit of a fear of if we don't resolve it now, then it's going to go on too long. That's sort of in the back of my head and I need to just get it out.

So we had a moment early in our relationship where we argued and it was at the nighttime and we got into bed and we had talked about a little bit. We were, I was operating the way I operate. He was operating the way he was operating. So we were completely separate and we got into bed and he turned over and he turned away from me. to turn his back to me.

So we had a moment early in our relationship where we argued and it was at the nighttime and we got into bed and we had talked about a little bit. We were, I was operating the way I operate. He was operating the way he was operating. So we were completely separate and we got into bed and he turned over and he turned away from me. to turn his back to me.