Lindsay Roth

So we had a moment early in our relationship where we argued and it was at the nighttime and we got into bed and we had talked about a little bit. We were, I was operating the way I operate. He was operating the way he was operating. So we were completely separate and we got into bed and he turned over and he turned away from me. to turn his back to me.

And when I tell you how physically painful that was to me, he was not, he was tired. We had been arguing. It was completely unintentional. But to me, I felt like he's turning his back on me. And that moment was the first moment where I said, okay, we need to talk about this. This hurt my feelings that you just turned over because I feel we're not resolved.

And when I tell you how physically painful that was to me, he was not, he was tired. We had been arguing. It was completely unintentional. But to me, I felt like he's turning his back on me. And that moment was the first moment where I said, okay, we need to talk about this. This hurt my feelings that you just turned over because I feel we're not resolved.

And when I tell you how physically painful that was to me, he was not, he was tired. We had been arguing. It was completely unintentional. But to me, I felt like he's turning his back on me. And that moment was the first moment where I said, okay, we need to talk about this. This hurt my feelings that you just turned over because I feel we're not resolved.

And I feel like you turned your back on me. And I never want to feel that way again. But I feel like before we can work out what we want to work out, we need to talk about how we argue. And when we realized that we both have different needs in an argument, we came to the agreement, like you have one with you guys, that he lets me just go and get it out for a bit.

And I feel like you turned your back on me. And I never want to feel that way again. But I feel like before we can work out what we want to work out, we need to talk about how we argue. And when we realized that we both have different needs in an argument, we came to the agreement, like you have one with you guys, that he lets me just go and get it out for a bit.

And I feel like you turned your back on me. And I never want to feel that way again. But I feel like before we can work out what we want to work out, we need to talk about how we argue. And when we realized that we both have different needs in an argument, we came to the agreement, like you have one with you guys, that he lets me just go and get it out for a bit.

And then I take a pause and I let him sit with it for however long he needs initially. We take deep breath, whether it's 20 minutes, an hour or two minutes, whatever it is. And then we come back and we talk about it. And understanding how the other person argues then makes the argument not about how you argue. It makes the argument about what you're actually arguing about.

And then I take a pause and I let him sit with it for however long he needs initially. We take deep breath, whether it's 20 minutes, an hour or two minutes, whatever it is. And then we come back and we talk about it. And understanding how the other person argues then makes the argument not about how you argue. It makes the argument about what you're actually arguing about.

And then I take a pause and I let him sit with it for however long he needs initially. We take deep breath, whether it's 20 minutes, an hour or two minutes, whatever it is. And then we come back and we talk about it. And understanding how the other person argues then makes the argument not about how you argue. It makes the argument about what you're actually arguing about.

So I'm not getting all huffy because of how he behaves when we're not on the same page. And he's not getting annoyed because I can't stop like trying to talk about it. Does that make sense?

So I'm not getting all huffy because of how he behaves when we're not on the same page. And he's not getting annoyed because I can't stop like trying to talk about it. Does that make sense?

So I'm not getting all huffy because of how he behaves when we're not on the same page. And he's not getting annoyed because I can't stop like trying to talk about it. Does that make sense?

And so you don't lose the actual issue because you have a respect for what the other person needs in those moments. And that's another way to show them how you love them. I'm going to put myself aside for a moment for the benefit of how we operate together.

And so you don't lose the actual issue because you have a respect for what the other person needs in those moments. And that's another way to show them how you love them. I'm going to put myself aside for a moment for the benefit of how we operate together.

And so you don't lose the actual issue because you have a respect for what the other person needs in those moments. And that's another way to show them how you love them. I'm going to put myself aside for a moment for the benefit of how we operate together.

We, well, we're funny and he always knows what to do to diffuse the situation. He's very good at that. So when I get heated, I also have in the back of my head, if this is a really serious thing, he needs a minute. So I kind of get it out and then I'm like, okay, let's just think about this and come back to each other. And then we go off and do whatever we do.

We, well, we're funny and he always knows what to do to diffuse the situation. He's very good at that. So when I get heated, I also have in the back of my head, if this is a really serious thing, he needs a minute. So I kind of get it out and then I'm like, okay, let's just think about this and come back to each other. And then we go off and do whatever we do.

We, well, we're funny and he always knows what to do to diffuse the situation. He's very good at that. So when I get heated, I also have in the back of my head, if this is a really serious thing, he needs a minute. So I kind of get it out and then I'm like, okay, let's just think about this and come back to each other. And then we go off and do whatever we do.

And then when we're both calm, it's like, Can we talk about this for real now? And it's that understanding of I got my stuff out. He got his time. And we've been doing it for so long now that it's less prescriptive. Yeah. And we really do address things as they happen.