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Lionel Page

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
636 total appearances

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Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

designed by evolution to help you make decisions. And so when you take this perspective, all these different kind of secrets of happiness make sense, but in a big picture. So you're asking, you know, what kind of stuff it explains. Like, for instance, as I say, we are social species, so we will need connections. That's one fact.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

But on the other hand, sometimes you get all the books about happiness tells you, well, you need to know when to say no to other people. You need to say, people make claims to your time. It says, can you help me, Chris? Can you do this?

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

But on the other hand, sometimes you get all the books about happiness tells you, well, you need to know when to say no to other people. You need to say, people make claims to your time. It says, can you help me, Chris? Can you do this?

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

But on the other hand, sometimes you get all the books about happiness tells you, well, you need to know when to say no to other people. You need to say, people make claims to your time. It says, can you help me, Chris? Can you do this?

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

At some point, you need to be able to say, well, every system of subjective feelings helping you to navigate the world has to handle that you are facing trade-offs. So if you're always saying no to people, maybe you won't have too many friends and that's not good for your success. But if you're always saying yes, maybe you'll be a pushover. People will take advantage of you.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

At some point, you need to be able to say, well, every system of subjective feelings helping you to navigate the world has to handle that you are facing trade-offs. So if you're always saying no to people, maybe you won't have too many friends and that's not good for your success. But if you're always saying yes, maybe you'll be a pushover. People will take advantage of you.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

At some point, you need to be able to say, well, every system of subjective feelings helping you to navigate the world has to handle that you are facing trade-offs. So if you're always saying no to people, maybe you won't have too many friends and that's not good for your success. But if you're always saying yes, maybe you'll be a pushover. People will take advantage of you.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So a right system needs you to balance these things. If you take another things like the goal you have in life, if you have very low goals, like everything is fine, whatever you're achieving, you're very happy with, you will be very successful. And so a system of happiness which is designed to make you successful, has to push you, to nudge you to try as hard as you can.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So a right system needs you to balance these things. If you take another things like the goal you have in life, if you have very low goals, like everything is fine, whatever you're achieving, you're very happy with, you will be very successful. And so a system of happiness which is designed to make you successful, has to push you, to nudge you to try as hard as you can.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So a right system needs you to balance these things. If you take another things like the goal you have in life, if you have very low goals, like everything is fine, whatever you're achieving, you're very happy with, you will be very successful. And so a system of happiness which is designed to make you successful, has to push you, to nudge you to try as hard as you can.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So whenever you're going to be successful, you know, you are going to look forward to the next challenge. So now you may think, oh, what will make me very happy in the future is this big milestone. If I reach this milestone, that's it. You know, I won't need very much to do much better than that. And what happens is that, let's say you work very hard and you reach the milestone.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So whenever you're going to be successful, you know, you are going to look forward to the next challenge. So now you may think, oh, what will make me very happy in the future is this big milestone. If I reach this milestone, that's it. You know, I won't need very much to do much better than that. And what happens is that, let's say you work very hard and you reach the milestone.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So whenever you're going to be successful, you know, you are going to look forward to the next challenge. So now you may think, oh, what will make me very happy in the future is this big milestone. If I reach this milestone, that's it. You know, I won't need very much to do much better than that. And what happens is that, let's say you work very hard and you reach the milestone.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

And then suddenly they say, okay, that was good. But what next? You're going to start looking further ahead. What's the next milestone? If you think that being a millionaire will make you happy, well, the sad story is that when you reach the million, the first million, two million, whatever, you'll feel good, but you'll start thinking about the next thing.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

And then suddenly they say, okay, that was good. But what next? You're going to start looking further ahead. What's the next milestone? If you think that being a millionaire will make you happy, well, the sad story is that when you reach the million, the first million, two million, whatever, you'll feel good, but you'll start thinking about the next thing.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

And then suddenly they say, okay, that was good. But what next? You're going to start looking further ahead. What's the next milestone? If you think that being a millionaire will make you happy, well, the sad story is that when you reach the million, the first million, two million, whatever, you'll feel good, but you'll start thinking about the next thing.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So your system of happiness will keep pushing. And so when you have these books that tell you, you know, either you don't need to care about what you don't have, or on the contrary, you need to aim very high. They just look at one side of this balance. The book tells you, don't care about what you don't have, that says, yes, you shouldn't look too high.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So your system of happiness will keep pushing. And so when you have these books that tell you, you know, either you don't need to care about what you don't have, or on the contrary, you need to aim very high. They just look at one side of this balance. The book tells you, don't care about what you don't have, that says, yes, you shouldn't look too high.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

So your system of happiness will keep pushing. And so when you have these books that tell you, you know, either you don't need to care about what you don't have, or on the contrary, you need to aim very high. They just look at one side of this balance. The book tells you, don't care about what you don't have, that says, yes, you shouldn't look too high.

Modern Wisdom
#873 - Lionel Page - The Invisible Psychology Of Happiness & Meaning

It's not worth it for me to think in the morning, oh, I'm not as rich as Elon Musk. So this is very disappointing. There's no point for me to think that. That's not going to help me being successful, to have a goal which is so high that whatever I do in the day is not going to change it. So I shouldn't care about things which are unachievable.