Lisa Bilyeu

And I'll be like, okay, I don't mean should, what do I actually mean?

And I'll replace it with a word that empowers me to move towards my goals.

And ultimately, that's everything that I do.

I have a set of goals and I have a set of values.

And every day I go, what moves me towards that and what doesn't?

The things that don't move me towards my happiness, my goal, and even happiness, to be honest, isn't a permanent state.

I will catch myself even now saying should and shouldn't.

So I almost don't think of happiness in that way.

But does this move me towards my goals?

And what I've learned is in real time, I stop myself.

Yes or no?

If the answer is no, I pause and I come up with a strategy.

Now, the reason why is because we have a belief system that sometimes doesn't serve us, but we don't realize it because we go on autopilot.

So with the word should or shouldn't, I understand why it holds me back.

I understand what it does to my psyche.

I get it.

We have to go on autopilot on some things.

I then go in real time, I have to stop myself.

Otherwise, we'd never get anything done.

And so when we have been taught over time in our lives that we should or shouldn't do something, it then blocks us from actually asking ourselves if we want to do it, if we need to do it, if we would like to.