Lisa Bilyeu

What actually matters is what you think because it's not like it's wrong. for me to choose my ego. It's not wrong. Wrong according to who? So once I was allowed to remove the judgment of it as well, and I was like, oh, which one is actually the thing that you're going to be proud of when you go to bed at night? And I knew. It had to be getting in front of the camera.

It had to be my mission was more important. And so now that just gave me the decision making. The decision was, I now have to get in front of the camera. That doesn't eliminate the fear. It doesn't eliminate the ego taking a dent. Like it doesn't eliminate any of that. But it allowed me to just make the decision. And now I wasn't second guessing myself.

It had to be my mission was more important. And so now that just gave me the decision making. The decision was, I now have to get in front of the camera. That doesn't eliminate the fear. It doesn't eliminate the ego taking a dent. Like it doesn't eliminate any of that. But it allowed me to just make the decision. And now I wasn't second guessing myself.

And then that piece then allowed me to start moving forward and get in front of the camera. And that was how I ended up taking the leap is I had zero confidence. I didn't know what I was doing. It wasn't like I thought it was going to work. It wasn't like I had confidence in myself to be a big YouTube channel or anything like that.

And then that piece then allowed me to start moving forward and get in front of the camera. And that was how I ended up taking the leap is I had zero confidence. I didn't know what I was doing. It wasn't like I thought it was going to work. It wasn't like I had confidence in myself to be a big YouTube channel or anything like that.

It was just I had to stare nakedly at the decisions I was making, take the freaking blinders off and be confident, at least in the decision I was making. Not confident that one's going to succeed or one's a better option. Just confident in the decision I was making for myself and blocking out all the noise and blocking out what other people thought. So now you can imagine I'm on camera.

It was just I had to stare nakedly at the decisions I was making, take the freaking blinders off and be confident, at least in the decision I was making. Not confident that one's going to succeed or one's a better option. Just confident in the decision I was making for myself and blocking out all the noise and blocking out what other people thought. So now you can imagine I'm on camera.

I see these hate comments in my YouTube channel. Because I've so tied myself to why I get on camera in the first place, you can imagine now when someone throws hate at me, I say, does this matter more than you helping women? Does this bad comment matter more than your mission? And every single time I ask myself the question, I'm like, no, this freaking comment doesn't matter.

I see these hate comments in my YouTube channel. Because I've so tied myself to why I get on camera in the first place, you can imagine now when someone throws hate at me, I say, does this matter more than you helping women? Does this bad comment matter more than your mission? And every single time I ask myself the question, I'm like, no, this freaking comment doesn't matter.

So that's the first step. Now, the second step is what do you do to respond? Do you ignore it or do you respond to it? I happen to have a massive empathy in my body. I don't know where it comes from, but every time I see hate, I'm like, wow, what's happened to that person where they're so cruel towards me and they don't know me?

So that's the first step. Now, the second step is what do you do to respond? Do you ignore it or do you respond to it? I happen to have a massive empathy in my body. I don't know where it comes from, but every time I see hate, I'm like, wow, what's happened to that person where they're so cruel towards me and they don't know me?

So then it comes the empathy piece where I'm like, wow, how much hate have they had to get in their life to think that it's okay to come on my YouTube page or my Instagram page and be that cruel? Wow, they must have gone through some hard crap for them to say this. So that's the second piece is the empathy. Then the last piece is sometimes I ignore them because I'm like, it won't serve me or them.

So then it comes the empathy piece where I'm like, wow, how much hate have they had to get in their life to think that it's okay to come on my YouTube page or my Instagram page and be that cruel? Wow, they must have gone through some hard crap for them to say this. So that's the second piece is the empathy. Then the last piece is sometimes I ignore them because I'm like, it won't serve me or them.

Sometimes I will respond. And I used to respond with... This is actually very spiteful, right? Like I would highlight the cruelty that was behind the comment. And then I realized, you know, all that's doing is actually making them feel worse. I'm not actually helping the scenario. So now my response, and I did this two days ago, in fact,

Sometimes I will respond. And I used to respond with... This is actually very spiteful, right? Like I would highlight the cruelty that was behind the comment. And then I realized, you know, all that's doing is actually making them feel worse. I'm not actually helping the scenario. So now my response, and I did this two days ago, in fact,

My response is, it probably took you two minutes to write this hateful comment. Can you imagine all the good you could do in the world if you took that two minutes and told someone in your life that you loved them? Could you imagine what a world we would live in if we did that? And within two minutes, they deleted their comment.

My response is, it probably took you two minutes to write this hateful comment. Can you imagine all the good you could do in the world if you took that two minutes and told someone in your life that you loved them? Could you imagine what a world we would live in if we did that? And within two minutes, they deleted their comment.

Now, I hope that they deleted it because I actually got through to them because that's my goal. I'm not looking to make anyone feel badly. But the truth is that if I can greet that type of negativity with grace, what world could we live in? And that's really now where you're finding me, where how can I greet hate with love? And every time I see the hate, I show love. What would that look like?

Now, I hope that they deleted it because I actually got through to them because that's my goal. I'm not looking to make anyone feel badly. But the truth is that if I can greet that type of negativity with grace, what world could we live in? And that's really now where you're finding me, where how can I greet hate with love? And every time I see the hate, I show love. What would that look like?

And it's an experiment. I don't know. You may find me in a year being like, that experiment failed. Everyone just met me with more hate. But again, I'm going to keep repeating, I want to reach my goal. And so every time I'm just willing to try different strategies, I'm willing to try different techniques in order to get there.