Lisa Brown

what they want to see for the future, and then talking as a family, okay, how can we delegate this work in a way where we can meet those goals and everyone feels like they're able to accomplish what their task is? And then keeping that really open line of communication. I try to tell families that if you're going to share information with each other,

what they want to see for the future, and then talking as a family, okay, how can we delegate this work in a way where we can meet those goals and everyone feels like they're able to accomplish what their task is? And then keeping that really open line of communication. I try to tell families that if you're going to share information with each other,

try to share it with everyone at the same time in the same way so that people don't feel like they're being left out, right?

try to share it with everyone at the same time in the same way so that people don't feel like they're being left out, right?

Yes, and that's how that friction develops and you get some maybe unsavory family dynamics that you wouldn't want to have. But really that clear, open communication, I think, with everyone is such a key piece of that distance caregiving process. I think oftentimes the majority of the work will fall to maybe one of those family caregivers.

Yes, and that's how that friction develops and you get some maybe unsavory family dynamics that you wouldn't want to have. But really that clear, open communication, I think, with everyone is such a key piece of that distance caregiving process. I think oftentimes the majority of the work will fall to maybe one of those family caregivers.

And it's making sure if that's the case, if the tasks are falling to one person, how can those secondary caregivers then, I think somebody, maybe Clarence, it was you who was talking about caregiving for the caregiver. Sometimes I call those the secondary caregivers, right? How can we make sure that they're offering support that that primary caregiver needs?

And it's making sure if that's the case, if the tasks are falling to one person, how can those secondary caregivers then, I think somebody, maybe Clarence, it was you who was talking about caregiving for the caregiver. Sometimes I call those the secondary caregivers, right? How can we make sure that they're offering support that that primary caregiver needs?

in providing that care to someone at a distance. And we see that particularly if there's one caregiver living in the same place as that person who's receiving the care and everyone else is at a distance, they want to make sure that they're offering the support that's tangible to that person who's here providing care.

in providing that care to someone at a distance. And we see that particularly if there's one caregiver living in the same place as that person who's receiving the care and everyone else is at a distance, they want to make sure that they're offering the support that's tangible to that person who's here providing care.

And so it's delegating that in a way where maybe they all take turns calling and supporting Do they have a rotation where they can come and offer that primary caregiver some respite so that they can get away and go on a vacation? But it's really keeping that open line of communication. And I usually tell that primary caregiver, keep a list.

And so it's delegating that in a way where maybe they all take turns calling and supporting Do they have a rotation where they can come and offer that primary caregiver some respite so that they can get away and go on a vacation? But it's really keeping that open line of communication. And I usually tell that primary caregiver, keep a list.

You know, even if there are people outside of the family who are willing to offer that support, a lot of times people say to you, like, what can I do to help, right? And you're so overwhelmed as a caregiver in the moment that you're like, I nothing. I don't know, because it takes more time to even think of something in that moment.

You know, even if there are people outside of the family who are willing to offer that support, a lot of times people say to you, like, what can I do to help, right? And you're so overwhelmed as a caregiver in the moment that you're like, I nothing. I don't know, because it takes more time to even think of something in that moment.

So keeping that list of things that are, you know, 15 minute help picking up groceries all the way down to complete, you know, raking and mowing and shoveling. So you've got a list you can pull from from those people that are reaching out and saying, what can I do to help? You can say, oh, let me let me look at my list in my in my phone and I'll give you something that you can help me with.

So keeping that list of things that are, you know, 15 minute help picking up groceries all the way down to complete, you know, raking and mowing and shoveling. So you've got a list you can pull from from those people that are reaching out and saying, what can I do to help? You can say, oh, let me let me look at my list in my in my phone and I'll give you something that you can help me with.

No, I would say that I see that an awful lot, too. And it's, you know, sometimes I think that almost ruins some family holidays where people could have time where they really just enjoy the time together. And instead, it turns into dread ahead of time. Like, well, what are they going to see this time that I'm doing wrong? You know, and so it's.

No, I would say that I see that an awful lot, too. And it's, you know, sometimes I think that almost ruins some family holidays where people could have time where they really just enjoy the time together. And instead, it turns into dread ahead of time. Like, well, what are they going to see this time that I'm doing wrong? You know, and so it's.

it's really talking through that clear communication again and saying like, I don't need you to tell me what I should be doing differently. I need you to ask me what I need to continue doing what I'm doing.

it's really talking through that clear communication again and saying like, I don't need you to tell me what I should be doing differently. I need you to ask me what I need to continue doing what I'm doing.