Liz Feldman
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And I appreciate that she saw me, but she almost like saw me too well. It's like, you know, she saw the x-ray version of me where, you know, like it was bones and everything. And I wasn't really ready for that. And I was mostly not ready to tell my father who at the time was quite homophobic. And so I was like, please don't tell dad. I mean, it's 1994. Yeah. 1994. So please don't tell dad.
And I appreciate that she saw me, but she almost like saw me too well. It's like, you know, she saw the x-ray version of me where, you know, like it was bones and everything. And I wasn't really ready for that. And I was mostly not ready to tell my father who at the time was quite homophobic. And so I was like, please don't tell dad. I mean, it's 1994. Yeah. 1994. So please don't tell dad.
And then, of course, that night, my father, who's like very Brooklyn, comes home and he's like, your mother said you might have something that you might want to talk about. You having some questions. And I'm like, let me tell you who I don't want to ask these questions to.
And then, of course, that night, my father, who's like very Brooklyn, comes home and he's like, your mother said you might have something that you might want to talk about. You having some questions. And I'm like, let me tell you who I don't want to ask these questions to.
So I said, I just I have to say I really admire myself at that age because I was very self-centered. I don't know. I felt I was self-possessed and I said, yeah, you know, I have been having questions, but it's okay. You know, and, uh, you know, I think I like girls, but I also like boys and blah, blah, blah. And he kind of started to cry, which was very shocking because he's a really tough guy.
So I said, I just I have to say I really admire myself at that age because I was very self-centered. I don't know. I felt I was self-possessed and I said, yeah, you know, I have been having questions, but it's okay. You know, and, uh, you know, I think I like girls, but I also like boys and blah, blah, blah. And he kind of started to cry, which was very shocking because he's a really tough guy.
And then he said he wanted me to go get my head checked by a psychiatrist. And I said, I'll only go if you come with me.
And then he said he wanted me to go get my head checked by a psychiatrist. And I said, I'll only go if you come with me.
And I was like, it was just such a weird time.
And I was like, it was just such a weird time.
So we went and I was 17. All I really cared about was driving. Like I wasn't ready to like profess anything about who I would be or end up being with or anything like that. So we go all together. She gives me a psychological evaluation. We all meet separately with her. Then we all meet together as a family with her.
So we went and I was 17. All I really cared about was driving. Like I wasn't ready to like profess anything about who I would be or end up being with or anything like that. So we go all together. She gives me a psychological evaluation. We all meet separately with her. Then we all meet together as a family with her.
She said I was the most mentally stable teenager she had ever had in her office and that I didn't need therapy, but she recommended that my parents stay on. Wow.
She said I was the most mentally stable teenager she had ever had in her office and that I didn't need therapy, but she recommended that my parents stay on. Wow.
I swear to God, we walk out of her office. My father gave me the keys to the car. It's the first time they let me drive the car home.
I swear to God, we walk out of her office. My father gave me the keys to the car. It's the first time they let me drive the car home.
I've written a version of it. I did a short film with my sister, Rebecca Feldman, who's a very talented writer and director in her own right. We did a short film called My First Time Driving. But I should say it's worth a revisit. It's worth a revisit.
I've written a version of it. I did a short film with my sister, Rebecca Feldman, who's a very talented writer and director in her own right. We did a short film called My First Time Driving. But I should say it's worth a revisit. It's worth a revisit.
It was, it really was. And my parents had marital problems and I realized too, it was my mother who had sort of whispered in my ear saying, tell your father that you won't go to therapy without him.
It was, it really was. And my parents had marital problems and I realized too, it was my mother who had sort of whispered in my ear saying, tell your father that you won't go to therapy without him.