Lynn
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Yeah, of course.
Yeah, of course.
I just thought you were really silly. Okay. And you were just funny.
I just thought you were really silly. Okay. And you were just funny.
I really liked you. I really liked you. I feel like we met and we was just cutting up behind the bar. We had a blast. Now, we used to be getting so drunk at the club.
I really liked you. I really liked you. I feel like we met and we was just cutting up behind the bar. We had a blast. Now, we used to be getting so drunk at the club.
I really liked you. I don't get why people feel like you're so mean or standoffish. You were always pleasant to me.
I really liked you. I don't get why people feel like you're so mean or standoffish. You were always pleasant to me.
So good. I think I want to change mine up now. That's what I just told her. I think I'm ready for a real drink.
So good. I think I want to change mine up now. That's what I just told her. I think I'm ready for a real drink.
What really be going on? I be all in the bed and everything. You do, you do. Lynn, you be all over the house?
What really be going on? I be all in the bed and everything. You do, you do. Lynn, you be all over the house?
People need to be able to take their shoes off. I like taking my shoes off. People need to be able to take their shoes off.
People need to be able to take their shoes off. I like taking my shoes off. People need to be able to take their shoes off.
And see, that's my thing. I don't like to have to do it in the morning, so I just do it before I go to bed.
And see, that's my thing. I don't like to have to do it in the morning, so I just do it before I go to bed.
We're still talking about friends.
We're still talking about friends.
I guess I'm a little biased. My friends, if you got a little situation going on, like, whatever. But I personally... Can't date someone that still lives with their parents. That's just not my thing. I want to be able to walk around in my robe. Your mama can't be coming out in the kitchen and we both in the kitchen looking at each other. Yeah. No, for me, I can't do that. Okay.
I guess I'm a little biased. My friends, if you got a little situation going on, like, whatever. But I personally... Can't date someone that still lives with their parents. That's just not my thing. I want to be able to walk around in my robe. Your mama can't be coming out in the kitchen and we both in the kitchen looking at each other. Yeah. No, for me, I can't do that. Okay.
I don't know. I'm not judging, but we probably won't date. Yeah. Yeah. I can agree with that for sure. Yeah. For real.
I don't know. I'm not judging, but we probably won't date. Yeah. Yeah. I can agree with that for sure. Yeah. For real.
No back to boy. You better know a little. I am not a fan. It's a no for me. That's why Lynn is my girl.
No back to boy. You better know a little. I am not a fan. It's a no for me. That's why Lynn is my girl.
You got to stay on top of it.
You got to stay on top of it.
It is. And all that dirt gonna rinse out of them. Yeah. Also, you're eating with your hands. Like, you don't look under your nails and see. Don't touch me with those dirty nails. Especially.
It is. And all that dirt gonna rinse out of them. Yeah. Also, you're eating with your hands. Like, you don't look under your nails and see. Don't touch me with those dirty nails. Especially.
I don't really like any man that gets on the internet and talks too much. Yeah, because why are you saying words? Yeah.
I don't really like any man that gets on the internet and talks too much. Yeah, because why are you saying words? Yeah.
I think it's a gay flag. But I also, I don't want you to be getting your eyebrows waxed. You don't? What if he like it a little cleaner? I guess he could clean it up. Not an arch. Just a little clean up. I kind of like my men rough around the edge. Me too.
I think it's a gay flag. But I also, I don't want you to be getting your eyebrows waxed. You don't? What if he like it a little cleaner? I guess he could clean it up. Not an arch. Just a little clean up. I kind of like my men rough around the edge. Me too.
Like, look. We got the same friendship. I would scream and run. I would run.
Like, look. We got the same friendship. I would scream and run. I would run.
The beginning of 2018. Okay. And then funny enough, I thought she was somebody else. She did think I was somebody else. I thought she was somebody else. And I was like, so-and-so's baby mama's working here? Okay. I was like, all right. Cool. So then got to know her and then just fell in love with her. And we've been besties ever since. Just causing chaos and mayhem up there. Causing a rush.
The beginning of 2018. Okay. And then funny enough, I thought she was somebody else. She did think I was somebody else. I thought she was somebody else. And I was like, so-and-so's baby mama's working here? Okay. I was like, all right. Cool. So then got to know her and then just fell in love with her. And we've been besties ever since. Just causing chaos and mayhem up there. Causing a rush.
What about you, Lynn? Galentine's or boo? I mean, if I'm with someone, then I want to spend Valentine's Day with my man. Period. She said forget y'all. But if I'm single, then a Galentine's is nice. Right. I like the Galentine's. I love our Galentine. Yeah, we can have fun on our Galentine. I agree.
What about you, Lynn? Galentine's or boo? I mean, if I'm with someone, then I want to spend Valentine's Day with my man. Period. She said forget y'all. But if I'm single, then a Galentine's is nice. Right. I like the Galentine's. I love our Galentine. Yeah, we can have fun on our Galentine. I agree.
At the job. Yes. And then, yeah.
At the job. Yes. And then, yeah.
I don't think it's overrated. I think it's one day to have a lot of fun. So... Oh, that's right. I agree. I'm here for the fun. Mm-hmm. Spicy.
I don't think it's overrated. I think it's one day to have a lot of fun. So... Oh, that's right. I agree. I'm here for the fun. Mm-hmm. Spicy.
Do something. Handcuff me.
Do something. Handcuff me.
I love to go to the sex store with my guys. It's so much fun. It is fun. I've done that too. It's a time. I don't think I've ever done that. I've done that. We had a time last night. No, we had a time last night.
I love to go to the sex store with my guys. It's so much fun. It is fun. I've done that too. It's a time. I don't think I've ever done that. I've done that. We had a time last night. No, we had a time last night.
I didn't know they had those for, like, the phone. The type that I use, you have to be in, like, close proximity. No, yeah, they have it in the home.
I didn't know they had those for, like, the phone. The type that I use, you have to be in, like, close proximity. No, yeah, they have it in the home.
Okay. See, see, see. I'm crying. You know, I'm really enjoying Push to Start by Tyler. Oh, yeah. That is a good song. I be in the car cutting up to that just a little bit. I like me some Tyler.
Okay. See, see, see. I'm crying. You know, I'm really enjoying Push to Start by Tyler. Oh, yeah. That is a good song. I be in the car cutting up to that just a little bit. I like me some Tyler.
I feel like I always saw the vision. Yeah. I used to tell you that all the time. I mean, I'm not just saying this because I love you guys, but I've just never seen anybody do it like you two. The chemistry is just different. Yeah. And you guys are funny. And so, you know, a lot of the time people do not be funny. They don't.
I feel like I always saw the vision. Yeah. I used to tell you that all the time. I mean, I'm not just saying this because I love you guys, but I've just never seen anybody do it like you two. The chemistry is just different. Yeah. And you guys are funny. And so, you know, a lot of the time people do not be funny. They don't.
Anybody that's okay with going 24 hours without hearing your voice, he's not that into you, so... Sam. I agree.
Anybody that's okay with going 24 hours without hearing your voice, he's not that into you, so... Sam. I agree.
Because part of me do feel like, damn, you don't want to see.
Because part of me do feel like, damn, you don't want to see.
I mean, she's weird for caring, but then the friend is also weird because there's just too many men on the planet. Many men.
I mean, she's weird for caring, but then the friend is also weird because there's just too many men on the planet. Many men.
Thank you. That's what I'm like. I would have.
Thank you. That's what I'm like. I would have.
Like, I'm just saying, though, like, you should just cut the girl off because she's weird.
Like, I'm just saying, though, like, you should just cut the girl off because she's weird.
They're both weird. It's too long of a story. I'm getting mixed in between. It's just too many niggas out here. Moral of the story.
They're both weird. It's too long of a story. I'm getting mixed in between. It's just too many niggas out here. Moral of the story.
And I'm exotic. I'm exotic. Okay, man, cuss it, girl. Oh, my gosh. She was strong. Stop.
And I'm exotic. I'm exotic. Okay, man, cuss it, girl. Oh, my gosh. She was strong. Stop.
Yeah, I heard about that.
Yeah, I heard about that.
Are you? I know that. OK.
Are you? I know that. OK.
I do. So I do have an AV company. So if you're looking for surveillance, just total home automation or lighting control, anything like that. Just follow advanced underscore environments on Instagram. Or just go to the website. A tech girlie. You in that different bag. Thank you.
I do. So I do have an AV company. So if you're looking for surveillance, just total home automation or lighting control, anything like that. Just follow advanced underscore environments on Instagram. Or just go to the website. A tech girlie. You in that different bag. Thank you.
No, I'm going home.
No, I'm going home.
Yeah, of course.
I just thought you were really silly. Okay. And you were just funny.
I really liked you. I really liked you. I feel like we met and we was just cutting up behind the bar. We had a blast. Now, we used to be getting so drunk at the club.
I really liked you. I don't get why people feel like you're so mean or standoffish. You were always pleasant to me.
So good. I think I want to change mine up now. That's what I just told her. I think I'm ready for a real drink.
What really be going on? I be all in the bed and everything. You do, you do. Lynn, you be all over the house?
People need to be able to take their shoes off. I like taking my shoes off. People need to be able to take their shoes off.
And see, that's my thing. I don't like to have to do it in the morning, so I just do it before I go to bed.
We're still talking about friends.
I guess I'm a little biased. My friends, if you got a little situation going on, like, whatever. But I personally... Can't date someone that still lives with their parents. That's just not my thing. I want to be able to walk around in my robe. Your mama can't be coming out in the kitchen and we both in the kitchen looking at each other. Yeah. No, for me, I can't do that. Okay.
I don't know. I'm not judging, but we probably won't date. Yeah. Yeah. I can agree with that for sure. Yeah. For real.
No back to boy. You better know a little. I am not a fan. It's a no for me. That's why Lynn is my girl.
You got to stay on top of it.
It is. And all that dirt gonna rinse out of them. Yeah. Also, you're eating with your hands. Like, you don't look under your nails and see. Don't touch me with those dirty nails. Especially.
I don't really like any man that gets on the internet and talks too much. Yeah, because why are you saying words? Yeah.
I think it's a gay flag. But I also, I don't want you to be getting your eyebrows waxed. You don't? What if he like it a little cleaner? I guess he could clean it up. Not an arch. Just a little clean up. I kind of like my men rough around the edge. Me too.
Like, look. We got the same friendship. I would scream and run. I would run.
The beginning of 2018. Okay. And then funny enough, I thought she was somebody else. She did think I was somebody else. I thought she was somebody else. And I was like, so-and-so's baby mama's working here? Okay. I was like, all right. Cool. So then got to know her and then just fell in love with her. And we've been besties ever since. Just causing chaos and mayhem up there. Causing a rush.
What about you, Lynn? Galentine's or boo? I mean, if I'm with someone, then I want to spend Valentine's Day with my man. Period. She said forget y'all. But if I'm single, then a Galentine's is nice. Right. I like the Galentine's. I love our Galentine. Yeah, we can have fun on our Galentine. I agree.
At the job. Yes. And then, yeah.
I don't think it's overrated. I think it's one day to have a lot of fun. So... Oh, that's right. I agree. I'm here for the fun. Mm-hmm. Spicy.
Do something. Handcuff me.
I love to go to the sex store with my guys. It's so much fun. It is fun. I've done that too. It's a time. I don't think I've ever done that. I've done that. We had a time last night. No, we had a time last night.
I didn't know they had those for, like, the phone. The type that I use, you have to be in, like, close proximity. No, yeah, they have it in the home.
Okay. See, see, see. I'm crying. You know, I'm really enjoying Push to Start by Tyler. Oh, yeah. That is a good song. I be in the car cutting up to that just a little bit. I like me some Tyler.
I feel like I always saw the vision. Yeah. I used to tell you that all the time. I mean, I'm not just saying this because I love you guys, but I've just never seen anybody do it like you two. The chemistry is just different. Yeah. And you guys are funny. And so, you know, a lot of the time people do not be funny. They don't.
Anybody that's okay with going 24 hours without hearing your voice, he's not that into you, so... Sam. I agree.
Because part of me do feel like, damn, you don't want to see.
I mean, she's weird for caring, but then the friend is also weird because there's just too many men on the planet. Many men.
Thank you. That's what I'm like. I would have.
Like, I'm just saying, though, like, you should just cut the girl off because she's weird.
They're both weird. It's too long of a story. I'm getting mixed in between. It's just too many niggas out here. Moral of the story.
And I'm exotic. I'm exotic. Okay, man, cuss it, girl. Oh, my gosh. She was strong. Stop.
Yeah, I heard about that.
Are you? I know that. OK.
I do. So I do have an AV company. So if you're looking for surveillance, just total home automation or lighting control, anything like that. Just follow advanced underscore environments on Instagram. Or just go to the website. A tech girlie. You in that different bag. Thank you.
No, I'm going home.
So my question is, how do I fully commit to something academically for the first time?
So my question is, how do I fully commit to something academically for the first time?
University. But basically, I've just had a lot of trouble with trying to find my career path. You know, I'm 26, and I've kind of started and quit a lot of things. And... I just really want to follow through this time.
University. But basically, I've just had a lot of trouble with trying to find my career path. You know, I'm 26, and I've kind of started and quit a lot of things. And... I just really want to follow through this time.
Um, I don't know. I've been listening to the show for like a year and I've been waiting to hear someone with a question similar to mine and it hasn't come up, but I have heard spouses of people, um, like me talking and they're complaining about how, um, sort of, uh, you know, their spouse doesn't have any dreams or ambitions and they're just kind of floating.
Um, I don't know. I've been listening to the show for like a year and I've been waiting to hear someone with a question similar to mine and it hasn't come up, but I have heard spouses of people, um, like me talking and they're complaining about how, um, sort of, uh, you know, their spouse doesn't have any dreams or ambitions and they're just kind of floating.
So yeah, that's kind of how I feel, how I am right now.
So yeah, that's kind of how I feel, how I am right now.
Yeah, that's also kind of a big fear and why I haven't really started anything yet.
Yeah, that's also kind of a big fear and why I haven't really started anything yet.
Kids. I've been a nanny for six years.
Kids. I've been a nanny for six years.
And so I'm planning on taking child studies. And there's quite a few things I can do with that. I think it's just more the fear of
And so I'm planning on taking child studies. And there's quite a few things I can do with that. I think it's just more the fear of
school and um why don't you want to be a nanny anymore um i really enjoy it um i think it's just the economy right now is kind of making it tough i can't really find and keep a job okay at this point you can't find a job or you can't keep you mean you're you keep not showing up or doing a good job or people have to let you go because they don't have the money to keep paying a nanny
school and um why don't you want to be a nanny anymore um i really enjoy it um i think it's just the economy right now is kind of making it tough i can't really find and keep a job okay at this point you can't find a job or you can't keep you mean you're you keep not showing up or doing a good job or people have to let you go because they don't have the money to keep paying a nanny
No, I've been doing a great job. I've just been let go three times this year. So time to move on.
No, I've been doing a great job. I've just been let go three times this year. So time to move on.
I don't know. I've never like growing up. I never saw myself going to college university. It's not really something that anybody in my family ever really had money for. And I, Yeah, I never, you know, when kids in high school were talking about it, I just never pictured myself there.
I don't know. I've never like growing up. I never saw myself going to college university. It's not really something that anybody in my family ever really had money for. And I, Yeah, I never, you know, when kids in high school were talking about it, I just never pictured myself there.
Yeah, I think I'm just lacking the confidence for some reason.
Yeah, I think I'm just lacking the confidence for some reason.
Hi, Dr. John. Thanks for taking my call.
Hi, Dr. John. Thanks for taking my call.
Well, my question is, you know, my parents lived on our property and they've been with us for about a year. How exactly do I navigate setting a boundary with them to move off of our property and also kind of maintain the integrity of our relationship as it can get a little rocky with my mom at times?
Well, my question is, you know, my parents lived on our property and they've been with us for about a year. How exactly do I navigate setting a boundary with them to move off of our property and also kind of maintain the integrity of our relationship as it can get a little rocky with my mom at times?
That's my stepdad, yeah.
That's my stepdad, yeah.
Gotcha. Because it's kind of what's happening. I set the boundary about a week ago and I expressed to them... You know, my husband and I, the last few years has been really rough. You know, we were taking care of my husband's dad for a while who had chronic, you know, he had kidney problems and we're doing dialysis for him for two years. And then he passed, unfortunately, in the home.
Gotcha. Because it's kind of what's happening. I set the boundary about a week ago and I expressed to them... You know, my husband and I, the last few years has been really rough. You know, we were taking care of my husband's dad for a while who had chronic, you know, he had kidney problems and we're doing dialysis for him for two years. And then he passed, unfortunately, in the home.
And then a couple months after that, my husband's mother got really sick. I quit my job, took care of her for four months in the home. And then she started doing better. Thank God, miraculously, she's back doing so much better. Um, but then my mom and stepdad show up and he, you know, my dad needed to have some medical procedures done to take care of some things.
And then a couple months after that, my husband's mother got really sick. I quit my job, took care of her for four months in the home. And then she started doing better. Thank God, miraculously, she's back doing so much better. Um, but then my mom and stepdad show up and he, you know, my dad needed to have some medical procedures done to take care of some things.
And we told them, yes, it's absolutely fine. You can stay in the RV on our property, um, until you get everything taken care of. Well, that time has passed and it's been about a year now and my husband and I really just need a break. We need our space. Um, And I just can't emotionally cater to my mom like I used to when I was a kid.
And we told them, yes, it's absolutely fine. You can stay in the RV on our property, um, until you get everything taken care of. Well, that time has passed and it's been about a year now and my husband and I really just need a break. We need our space. Um, And I just can't emotionally cater to my mom like I used to when I was a kid.
She's literally the only person on the face of the planet I have a hard time setting a boundary with.
She's literally the only person on the face of the planet I have a hard time setting a boundary with.
Well, you know, I expressed why. And they said that they understood and the conversation seemed like it went really well. I think the hardest thing I'm struggling with is my mom's reaction because she can be extremely childish. And she decided to take a picture of my stepdad while I guess he was in bed, I guess upset about me asking them to leave.
Well, you know, I expressed why. And they said that they understood and the conversation seemed like it went really well. I think the hardest thing I'm struggling with is my mom's reaction because she can be extremely childish. And she decided to take a picture of my stepdad while I guess he was in bed, I guess upset about me asking them to leave.
And she sent me a picture and then she said, you broke his heart. Like a few hours after we'd had the conversation, which I had thought had gone really well and was very understood.
And she sent me a picture and then she said, you broke his heart. Like a few hours after we'd had the conversation, which I had thought had gone really well and was very understood.
My reaction.
My reaction.
Yeah, it is.
Yeah, it is.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah, I think I did respond, and I said, you know, it was never intended to be that way, and I'm really sorry.
Yeah, I think I did respond, and I said, you know, it was never intended to be that way, and I'm really sorry.
I told them that, you know, we wanted to have within the next month, you know, our own space and have you guys have a plan. But I know that, you know, they live full time in their RV. They are in very limited income. So they do have to save up a little bit and prep for where they're going to go.
I told them that, you know, we wanted to have within the next month, you know, our own space and have you guys have a plan. But I know that, you know, they live full time in their RV. They are in very limited income. So they do have to save up a little bit and prep for where they're going to go.
And that was the biggest thing for me asking them to leave is because I know that they really and truly don't have another home base to go to. But I just it's just not really I was getting to the point where I was feeling like this isn't my responsibility because you're in dire straits financially. Like I've helped out as much as I can. But at some point, like there's just an end to that.
And that was the biggest thing for me asking them to leave is because I know that they really and truly don't have another home base to go to. But I just it's just not really I was getting to the point where I was feeling like this isn't my responsibility because you're in dire straits financially. Like I've helped out as much as I can. But at some point, like there's just an end to that.
And I just can't keep doing it for them because it's been like this off and on, even in my previous marriages. The same thing kind of happened, you know, eight years ago.
And I just can't keep doing it for them because it's been like this off and on, even in my previous marriages. The same thing kind of happened, you know, eight years ago.
My stepdad is 70. My mom is 61. Yeah.
My stepdad is 70. My mom is 61. Yeah.
Yeah. And that's the thing I've offered that. And, you know, she has got a lot of like, and this is the thing that she likes to throw on my head to make me feel sorry for her. And I hate saying it like that, but it's where it comes from. Well, it comes off from her is, is that, you know, she's had a really traumatic life and gone through a lot of things.
Yeah. And that's the thing I've offered that. And, you know, she has got a lot of like, and this is the thing that she likes to throw on my head to make me feel sorry for her. And I hate saying it like that, but it's where it comes from. Well, it comes off from her is, is that, you know, she's had a really traumatic life and gone through a lot of things.
And so she just states, like, I have social anxiety. I'm absolutely incapable of, she can't go to the grocery store by herself. Like she just, but she won't go to therapy. And, you know, it's been a round and round circle to where she clings to my stepdad. And like, he can't even leave the room without her, like wondering where he's at, needing him to be right there. She definitely needs a lot of,
And so she just states, like, I have social anxiety. I'm absolutely incapable of, she can't go to the grocery store by herself. Like she just, but she won't go to therapy. And, you know, it's been a round and round circle to where she clings to my stepdad. And like, he can't even leave the room without her, like wondering where he's at, needing him to be right there. She definitely needs a lot of,
like help, you know, therapy wise, but she just hasn't made that a priority for herself. She likes to use it as the, the whole world hates me. Everyone's against me and I'm going to sit in that.
like help, you know, therapy wise, but she just hasn't made that a priority for herself. She likes to use it as the, the whole world hates me. Everyone's against me and I'm going to sit in that.
Yeah. It makes it really rough.
Yeah. It makes it really rough.
Thank you.
Thank you.
So my question is, how do I fully commit to something academically for the first time?
University. But basically, I've just had a lot of trouble with trying to find my career path. You know, I'm 26, and I've kind of started and quit a lot of things. And... I just really want to follow through this time.
Um, I don't know. I've been listening to the show for like a year and I've been waiting to hear someone with a question similar to mine and it hasn't come up, but I have heard spouses of people, um, like me talking and they're complaining about how, um, sort of, uh, you know, their spouse doesn't have any dreams or ambitions and they're just kind of floating.
So yeah, that's kind of how I feel, how I am right now.
Yeah, that's also kind of a big fear and why I haven't really started anything yet.
Kids. I've been a nanny for six years.
And so I'm planning on taking child studies. And there's quite a few things I can do with that. I think it's just more the fear of
school and um why don't you want to be a nanny anymore um i really enjoy it um i think it's just the economy right now is kind of making it tough i can't really find and keep a job okay at this point you can't find a job or you can't keep you mean you're you keep not showing up or doing a good job or people have to let you go because they don't have the money to keep paying a nanny
No, I've been doing a great job. I've just been let go three times this year. So time to move on.
I don't know. I've never like growing up. I never saw myself going to college university. It's not really something that anybody in my family ever really had money for. And I, Yeah, I never, you know, when kids in high school were talking about it, I just never pictured myself there.
Yeah, I think I'm just lacking the confidence for some reason.
Hi, Dr. John. Thanks for taking my call.
Well, my question is, you know, my parents lived on our property and they've been with us for about a year. How exactly do I navigate setting a boundary with them to move off of our property and also kind of maintain the integrity of our relationship as it can get a little rocky with my mom at times?
That's my stepdad, yeah.
Gotcha. Because it's kind of what's happening. I set the boundary about a week ago and I expressed to them... You know, my husband and I, the last few years has been really rough. You know, we were taking care of my husband's dad for a while who had chronic, you know, he had kidney problems and we're doing dialysis for him for two years. And then he passed, unfortunately, in the home.
And then a couple months after that, my husband's mother got really sick. I quit my job, took care of her for four months in the home. And then she started doing better. Thank God, miraculously, she's back doing so much better. Um, but then my mom and stepdad show up and he, you know, my dad needed to have some medical procedures done to take care of some things.
And we told them, yes, it's absolutely fine. You can stay in the RV on our property, um, until you get everything taken care of. Well, that time has passed and it's been about a year now and my husband and I really just need a break. We need our space. Um, And I just can't emotionally cater to my mom like I used to when I was a kid.
She's literally the only person on the face of the planet I have a hard time setting a boundary with.
Well, you know, I expressed why. And they said that they understood and the conversation seemed like it went really well. I think the hardest thing I'm struggling with is my mom's reaction because she can be extremely childish. And she decided to take a picture of my stepdad while I guess he was in bed, I guess upset about me asking them to leave.
And she sent me a picture and then she said, you broke his heart. Like a few hours after we'd had the conversation, which I had thought had gone really well and was very understood.
My reaction.
Yeah, it is.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah, I think I did respond, and I said, you know, it was never intended to be that way, and I'm really sorry.
I told them that, you know, we wanted to have within the next month, you know, our own space and have you guys have a plan. But I know that, you know, they live full time in their RV. They are in very limited income. So they do have to save up a little bit and prep for where they're going to go.
And that was the biggest thing for me asking them to leave is because I know that they really and truly don't have another home base to go to. But I just it's just not really I was getting to the point where I was feeling like this isn't my responsibility because you're in dire straits financially. Like I've helped out as much as I can. But at some point, like there's just an end to that.
And I just can't keep doing it for them because it's been like this off and on, even in my previous marriages. The same thing kind of happened, you know, eight years ago.
My stepdad is 70. My mom is 61. Yeah.
Yeah. And that's the thing I've offered that. And, you know, she has got a lot of like, and this is the thing that she likes to throw on my head to make me feel sorry for her. And I hate saying it like that, but it's where it comes from. Well, it comes off from her is, is that, you know, she's had a really traumatic life and gone through a lot of things.
And so she just states, like, I have social anxiety. I'm absolutely incapable of, she can't go to the grocery store by herself. Like she just, but she won't go to therapy. And, you know, it's been a round and round circle to where she clings to my stepdad. And like, he can't even leave the room without her, like wondering where he's at, needing him to be right there. She definitely needs a lot of,
like help, you know, therapy wise, but she just hasn't made that a priority for herself. She likes to use it as the, the whole world hates me. Everyone's against me and I'm going to sit in that.
Yeah. It makes it really rough.
Thank you.
Hi, guys. I do need your help.
Hi, guys. I do need your help.
Yeah, I'm hoping to get a dispute settled.
Yeah, I'm hoping to get a dispute settled.
It is.
It is.
He's not. He's not. I wish he were.
He's not. He's not. I wish he were.
Okay. All right. Well, the question is, I want to know if I'm a Ramsey Solutions hypocrite.
Okay. All right. Well, the question is, I want to know if I'm a Ramsey Solutions hypocrite.
All right. This is a second marriage for both of us. We were just married this past December.
All right. This is a second marriage for both of us. We were just married this past December.
I'm age 58. Okay. He's age 54. We have a total of four adult children, two on each side. Okay. And I think a key thing for me was I was a single mom for 17 years. So my kids were two and three when I was divorced. And I paid maintenance and I paid child support. I carried the health care and I paid for all the incidental for my kids. I found Ramsey Solutions after a layoff. me to death.
I'm age 58. Okay. He's age 54. We have a total of four adult children, two on each side. Okay. And I think a key thing for me was I was a single mom for 17 years. So my kids were two and three when I was divorced. And I paid maintenance and I paid child support. I carried the health care and I paid for all the incidental for my kids. I found Ramsey Solutions after a layoff. me to death.
So the stress left me, you know, in not a great place. And I, I dug into the Ramsey plan. I bought in, I listened, I did a financial peace university and I started with a net worth of 170,000. Um, my life insurance was more than my net worth. So coming into the marriage, um, I was baby step seven with a net worth of 1.9 million. Hey, way to go Lynn.
So the stress left me, you know, in not a great place. And I, I dug into the Ramsey plan. I bought in, I listened, I did a financial peace university and I started with a net worth of 170,000. Um, my life insurance was more than my net worth. So coming into the marriage, um, I was baby step seven with a net worth of 1.9 million. Hey, way to go Lynn.
It was a lot of small vacations at the local park.
It was a lot of small vacations at the local park.
Thank you. It was hard work, but it was worth it because now here I am. Right. So baby step seven. And now my husband, he came to the marriage with a net worth of $150,000. Oh, okay. Yeah. And he was one of those guys who never found that he didn't like. He had car loans. He had a boat loan. He had credit cards. He kind of had everything.
Thank you. It was hard work, but it was worth it because now here I am. Right. So baby step seven. And now my husband, he came to the marriage with a net worth of $150,000. Oh, okay. Yeah. And he was one of those guys who never found that he didn't like. He had car loans. He had a boat loan. He had credit cards. He kind of had everything.
And obviously, since we're married, we financially got into the same place. So I introduced him to Ramsey Solutions, gave him Financial Peace University. We went through that. And he's, he's come aboard. So we've eliminated the credit card debt, the car loan, um, got rid of everything. Um, I wanted going into the marriage, I wanted a prenup and this is where the dispute came.
And obviously, since we're married, we financially got into the same place. So I introduced him to Ramsey Solutions, gave him Financial Peace University. We went through that. And he's, he's come aboard. So we've eliminated the credit card debt, the car loan, um, got rid of everything. Um, I wanted going into the marriage, I wanted a prenup and this is where the dispute came.
And I wanted the, the prenup to state that if we divorced, I wanted to the 625,000 that I was putting into paying off our residents accounted for. Now, that was if we divorced. I also asked for a death clause that states that should I die, he gets the house in the entirety. And there's no splitting it with my estate or anything like that value. There would be his, um, so it's just a divorce.
And I wanted the, the prenup to state that if we divorced, I wanted to the 625,000 that I was putting into paying off our residents accounted for. Now, that was if we divorced. I also asked for a death clause that states that should I die, he gets the house in the entirety. And there's no splitting it with my estate or anything like that value. There would be his, um, so it's just a divorce.
If there was a divorce, I wanted that accounted for. And then anything above and beyond that would be split equitably. Um, and it, and it's our intent that our retirement account would remain separate. So the principle of our retirement accounts would remain separate.
If there was a divorce, I wanted that accounted for. And then anything above and beyond that would be split equitably. Um, and it, and it's our intent that our retirement account would remain separate. So the principle of our retirement accounts would remain separate.
If we draw anything out to pay for things for us, that's all commingled and everything that all my, all the other cash, everything would be split.
If we draw anything out to pay for things for us, that's all commingled and everything that all my, all the other cash, everything would be split.
all of those things. He's like, absolutely. This is ridiculous. I can't believe that you're going to have, you're going to be asking for a prenup once we're married, we're married and everything should be equal. I'm like, well, it is equal.
all of those things. He's like, absolutely. This is ridiculous. I can't believe that you're going to have, you're going to be asking for a prenup once we're married, we're married and everything should be equal. I'm like, well, it is equal.
I'm just saying if we get divorced because I've been divorced before and I'm now 58, if I split half, which Wisconsin is a 50 50 state, I don't, I don't have time to recoup that again.
I'm just saying if we get divorced because I've been divorced before and I'm now 58, if I split half, which Wisconsin is a 50 50 state, I don't, I don't have time to recoup that again.
Two months.
Two months.
No, we have the document now. We have it now.
No, we have the document now. We have it now.
Yep, we got it drawn up. We got to a place where those were the things we agreed on. I was trying to explain like, hey, we're sharing all bank accounts. We're sharing everything. No, no, I get all that. I get all that.
Yep, we got it drawn up. We got to a place where those were the things we agreed on. I was trying to explain like, hey, we're sharing all bank accounts. We're sharing everything. No, no, I get all that. I get all that.
It's signed. The prenup was signed before our wedding.
It's signed. The prenup was signed before our wedding.
No, no, I'm still a hypocrite. Oh, were those his words? I'm not truly into the Ramsey solutions.
No, no, I'm still a hypocrite. Oh, were those his words? I'm not truly into the Ramsey solutions.
Hi, guys. I do need your help.
Yeah, I'm hoping to get a dispute settled.
It is.
He's not. He's not. I wish he were.
Okay. All right. Well, the question is, I want to know if I'm a Ramsey Solutions hypocrite.
All right. This is a second marriage for both of us. We were just married this past December.
I'm age 58. Okay. He's age 54. We have a total of four adult children, two on each side. Okay. And I think a key thing for me was I was a single mom for 17 years. So my kids were two and three when I was divorced. And I paid maintenance and I paid child support. I carried the health care and I paid for all the incidental for my kids. I found Ramsey Solutions after a layoff. me to death.
So the stress left me, you know, in not a great place. And I, I dug into the Ramsey plan. I bought in, I listened, I did a financial peace university and I started with a net worth of 170,000. Um, my life insurance was more than my net worth. So coming into the marriage, um, I was baby step seven with a net worth of 1.9 million. Hey, way to go Lynn.
It was a lot of small vacations at the local park.
Thank you. It was hard work, but it was worth it because now here I am. Right. So baby step seven. And now my husband, he came to the marriage with a net worth of $150,000. Oh, okay. Yeah. And he was one of those guys who never found that he didn't like. He had car loans. He had a boat loan. He had credit cards. He kind of had everything.
And obviously, since we're married, we financially got into the same place. So I introduced him to Ramsey Solutions, gave him Financial Peace University. We went through that. And he's, he's come aboard. So we've eliminated the credit card debt, the car loan, um, got rid of everything. Um, I wanted going into the marriage, I wanted a prenup and this is where the dispute came.
And I wanted the, the prenup to state that if we divorced, I wanted to the 625,000 that I was putting into paying off our residents accounted for. Now, that was if we divorced. I also asked for a death clause that states that should I die, he gets the house in the entirety. And there's no splitting it with my estate or anything like that value. There would be his, um, so it's just a divorce.
If there was a divorce, I wanted that accounted for. And then anything above and beyond that would be split equitably. Um, and it, and it's our intent that our retirement account would remain separate. So the principle of our retirement accounts would remain separate.
If we draw anything out to pay for things for us, that's all commingled and everything that all my, all the other cash, everything would be split.
all of those things. He's like, absolutely. This is ridiculous. I can't believe that you're going to have, you're going to be asking for a prenup once we're married, we're married and everything should be equal. I'm like, well, it is equal.
I'm just saying if we get divorced because I've been divorced before and I'm now 58, if I split half, which Wisconsin is a 50 50 state, I don't, I don't have time to recoup that again.
Two months.
No, we have the document now. We have it now.
Yep, we got it drawn up. We got to a place where those were the things we agreed on. I was trying to explain like, hey, we're sharing all bank accounts. We're sharing everything. No, no, I get all that. I get all that.
It's signed. The prenup was signed before our wedding.
No, no, I'm still a hypocrite. Oh, were those his words? I'm not truly into the Ramsey solutions.
Hi, Peter. This is Lynn calling from Minnetonka, Minnesota.
Hi, Peter. This is Lynn calling from Minnetonka, Minnesota.
I am a corporate lawyer just trying to stay warm.
I am a corporate lawyer just trying to stay warm.
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Hi, Peter. This is Lynn calling from Minnetonka, Minnesota.
I am a corporate lawyer just trying to stay warm.
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