Malala Yousafzai

I put myself in my mom's shoes for the first time.

I had never thought about anything from her perspective before.

And I, you know, I would always admire my dad and I wanted to like follow his footsteps and all of that.

But this was the first time I wondered what life would have been like for my mom when she decided to marry.

How did she trust this man?

this guy she had not even known and decided to like move into his house and be married off and restart a new life.

And I asked my mom actually what were her dreams when she was a kid.

And she said, you know, I just wanted to find a husband who would be respectful and I can go into the city and like have nice food and like drive around in a car.

And I realized that my mom didn't even have a dream for herself.

that marriage was a way for her to find some sort of freedom, a little more freedom than she had right now.

So it was sort of a fascinating time.

When I saw Asar, I immediately fell in love with him.

I knew that I wanted to be with him.

And I knew that we had to be married because in our culture, for two people to be together, you have to be married.

So

But then marriage just felt like a very heavy topic for me.

I even went to read some books.

Yes, I was like, please, Virginia Woolf, help me.

Bell Hooks, can you share a few words of wisdom?

Yeah, I mean, like poor Asar.