Malcolm Gladwell

And in fact, what I'm saying is, I would like to do this, and I'm using her as a kind of front. You want a cigarette. But this was the worst. This was the kind of the this was the biggest version of that problem that like parents are just like I there's a there's this woman who wrote a book.

A woman named Linda Flanagan wrote a book called Taking Back the Game, which is all about what's wrong with youth sports. And she was a coach for many years. It's a really brilliant book. And she has this moment when she talks about possible fixes. And one of her fixes is that parents need to stop going to games. And it's the same idea.

A woman named Linda Flanagan wrote a book called Taking Back the Game, which is all about what's wrong with youth sports. And she was a coach for many years. It's a really brilliant book. And she has this moment when she talks about possible fixes. And one of her fixes is that parents need to stop going to games. And it's the same idea.

A woman named Linda Flanagan wrote a book called Taking Back the Game, which is all about what's wrong with youth sports. And she was a coach for many years. It's a really brilliant book. And she has this moment when she talks about possible fixes. And one of her fixes is that parents need to stop going to games. And it's the same idea.

Because what happens, of course, it's pleasurable for the parent to go to the game. No one's denying that. But the parent is confusing what's pleasurable for them and what's pleasurable for their kids. Yeah. And the question is, does your child want you there really deep down?

Because what happens, of course, it's pleasurable for the parent to go to the game. No one's denying that. But the parent is confusing what's pleasurable for them and what's pleasurable for their kids. Yeah. And the question is, does your child want you there really deep down?

Because what happens, of course, it's pleasurable for the parent to go to the game. No one's denying that. But the parent is confusing what's pleasurable for them and what's pleasurable for their kids. Yeah. And the question is, does your child want you there really deep down?

And by what we're doing when we show up for those games is we are intruding on what should be this time for kids to play with other kids without the scrutiny of and the pressure that comes from parents watching. That's the perfect example of this. And it made me wonder, how many times do we, is this what, I'm a young parent, is this what parenting turns into, this constant conflict?

And by what we're doing when we show up for those games is we are intruding on what should be this time for kids to play with other kids without the scrutiny of and the pressure that comes from parents watching. That's the perfect example of this. And it made me wonder, how many times do we, is this what, I'm a young parent, is this what parenting turns into, this constant conflict?

And by what we're doing when we show up for those games is we are intruding on what should be this time for kids to play with other kids without the scrutiny of and the pressure that comes from parents watching. That's the perfect example of this. And it made me wonder, how many times do we, is this what, I'm a young parent, is this what parenting turns into, this constant conflict?

But- I was bored for the first eight years of my life. And I would complain to my mother and she would say exactly that. She would say, it's good for you to be bored. Yeah.

But- I was bored for the first eight years of my life. And I would complain to my mother and she would say exactly that. She would say, it's good for you to be bored. Yeah.

But- I was bored for the first eight years of my life. And I would complain to my mother and she would say exactly that. She would say, it's good for you to be bored. Yeah.

I have a confession to make, which is that the entire time we've been talking, you have your notebook open. I've been trying to read upside down. Because I want to know, when you made notes to yourself, were they different from the things where you're like, book's terrible? Oh, I can read it to you right now.

I have a confession to make, which is that the entire time we've been talking, you have your notebook open. I've been trying to read upside down. Because I want to know, when you made notes to yourself, were they different from the things where you're like, book's terrible? Oh, I can read it to you right now.

I have a confession to make, which is that the entire time we've been talking, you have your notebook open. I've been trying to read upside down. Because I want to know, when you made notes to yourself, were they different from the things where you're like, book's terrible? Oh, I can read it to you right now.

That's right. He seems to have a real thing.

That's right. He seems to have a real thing.

That's right. He seems to have a real thing.

You shouldn't do that. Why do you leave it out like that? It's distracting.