Mandy Len Catron

It's about what it means to bother to know someone, which is really a story about what it means to be known. It's true you can't choose who loves you, although I've spent years hoping otherwise. And you can't create romantic feelings based on convenience alone. Science tells us biology matters. Our pheromones and hormones do a lot of work behind the scenes.

It's about what it means to bother to know someone, which is really a story about what it means to be known. It's true you can't choose who loves you, although I've spent years hoping otherwise. And you can't create romantic feelings based on convenience alone. Science tells us biology matters. Our pheromones and hormones do a lot of work behind the scenes.

But despite all this, I've begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it out to be. Arthur Aaron's study taught me that it's possible, simple even, to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive. You're probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did.

But despite all this, I've begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it out to be. Arthur Aaron's study taught me that it's possible, simple even, to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive. You're probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did.

Although it's hard to credit the study entirely, it may have happened anyway, the study did give us a way into a relationship that feels deliberate. We spent weeks in the intimate space we created that night, waiting to see what it could become. Love didn't happen to us. We're in love because we each made the choice to be.

Although it's hard to credit the study entirely, it may have happened anyway, the study did give us a way into a relationship that feels deliberate. We spent weeks in the intimate space we created that night, waiting to see what it could become. Love didn't happen to us. We're in love because we each made the choice to be.

Yeah, and it's probably been several years since I actually read it. I mean, much less read it aloud, but just read it at all. Yeah, it's really sweet. It is. Yes, it is. It's sweet. You know what? So Mark and I have been together for a little over 10 years. Wow. And back in August, I proposed to him.

Yeah, and it's probably been several years since I actually read it. I mean, much less read it aloud, but just read it at all. Yeah, it's really sweet. It is. Yes, it is. It's sweet. You know what? So Mark and I have been together for a little over 10 years. Wow. And back in August, I proposed to him.

Yeah. So an interesting side effect of writing and researching about romantic love is that it really kind of put me off marriage as an institution. Like I'm not a huge fan for a variety of reasons that I won't get into here, but we had twins during the pandemic.

Yeah. So an interesting side effect of writing and researching about romantic love is that it really kind of put me off marriage as an institution. Like I'm not a huge fan for a variety of reasons that I won't get into here, but we had twins during the pandemic.

So we have two three-year-olds and after the pandemic and then sort of being trapped at home with two newborns, which I found interesting. incredibly difficult and isolating and lonely, I really wanted to have a big party. Like I just had this overwhelming desire to have everyone I know and love in the same room. And the only way I could think of to make that happen was to have a wedding.

So we have two three-year-olds and after the pandemic and then sort of being trapped at home with two newborns, which I found interesting. incredibly difficult and isolating and lonely, I really wanted to have a big party. Like I just had this overwhelming desire to have everyone I know and love in the same room. And the only way I could think of to make that happen was to have a wedding.

And it turned out that he did want to get legally married. And so I thought, you know, I think if this is going to happen, I have to be the one to propose. And actually that was great. That felt really good to both of us. And yeah, I bought the ring. And then many weeks later, because we, you know, we have two toddlers, we like never go anywhere without them.

And it turned out that he did want to get legally married. And so I thought, you know, I think if this is going to happen, I have to be the one to propose. And actually that was great. That felt really good to both of us. And yeah, I bought the ring. And then many weeks later, because we, you know, we have two toddlers, we like never go anywhere without them.

And so we were, we had a babysitter and we were out to dinner at this nice restaurant. And I just sort of I'm a writer, so I wrote everything out in a card and I handed it to him. And then I had the ring in my pocket. And I think, yeah, he was very surprised.

And so we were, we had a babysitter and we were out to dinner at this nice restaurant. And I just sort of I'm a writer, so I wrote everything out in a card and I handed it to him. And then I had the ring in my pocket. And I think, yeah, he was very surprised.

Yeah, I mean, part of how I feel about and part of why rereading the article seems very sweet to me is that we've been through a lot of kind of challenging things in our relationship. We struggled to get pregnant for a long, long time. That was really hard. Then they were in the NICU for... five weeks. And then we were kind of home with them alone because of the pandemic. It was just hard.

Yeah, I mean, part of how I feel about and part of why rereading the article seems very sweet to me is that we've been through a lot of kind of challenging things in our relationship. We struggled to get pregnant for a long, long time. That was really hard. Then they were in the NICU for... five weeks. And then we were kind of home with them alone because of the pandemic. It was just hard.

Like there were a lot of hard years. And I just have this desire to sort of celebrate where we are because things feel a little more stable. And I think you only get so many opportunities to celebrate in life. I love that.

Like there were a lot of hard years. And I just have this desire to sort of celebrate where we are because things feel a little more stable. And I think you only get so many opportunities to celebrate in life. I love that.