Margie Worrell

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We Can Do Hard Things · How to Survive This Absurd Life with Samantha Irby (Best Of) · 2 Feb 2025 podcast

where there's a risk of failure, but it honors the person you want to become. You know, it could be in a work setting. It could be in a relationship. It could be going off traveling somewhere. But I mightn't land this perfectly, but I'm always going to be proud of myself that I tried to do it. That's it. And if you fail, it was worthy. It was worthy. You honored yourself.

You honored what it is you really wanted to do. And here's what... All the research shows, and my own experience shows too, Mike, that when we do risk those worthy failures, we never regret them. And here's why. When you don't try something, you don't change. You don't learn information. You don't meet new people. You don't discover something else that does work. You don't expand your world.

You stick exactly where you are. When you try things, even when you fail...

sometimes you meet new people you gain new knowledge you realize oh i can handle stuff like that you discover things about yourself you discover often things that do work and so we need to you know give ourselves permission to kind of blunder imperfectly forward not in a reckless way i'm not talking about not thinking about what are the what are the risks that you need to be managing but just in a thoughtful way knowing that

It's through our inaction that our comfort zone gets smaller and smaller. But when you're doing things, you're like, ah, you know, I'd really like to learn something new. I'd really like to change this thing. And you know what? I'm not exactly sure what I'm doing, but I'm going to start stepping toward it.

You are always going to end up being a bigger, braver version of the person that you have it within you to become than had you not done it. And we often discount the cost of inaction.

Well, I think recognizing that most of the time when we're taking a risk, it's really, really binary. Like, oh, yeah, I was going to win or I was going to lose. So, for instance, buying a house, when I look back, I wished I'd spent more money and extended myself more, but I was way too uncomfortable and financially risk-averse to...

than to put so much money into my first home or my second home, frankly. But to that point, Mike, we're always having to analyze the pros and the cons. Can I afford it? Can I not afford it? What are the chances of this going wrong? So we need to do that analysis. And you said, well, it could have gone either way. You know, most of the time it's not 50-50.

Most of the time it's like, well, you know, there was a 15, 20% chance it might not have worked out. But it's not like we sit idly by while the whole thing falls. Yes, sometimes, you know, the stock market just crashes overnight. But most of the time there's signs that things aren't starting to go well and we can intervene to shore up the downsides.

You know, I remember meeting Richard Branson a few years back and he talked about taking a third mortgage on his home in his early days with Virgin. And I said, gosh, how did your wife feel about that? Because he was married, he had a little child. And he said, oh, I didn't tell her. And I was thinking, man, I wouldn't have wanted to be married to you back in the day. But he also said...

He always sought to shore up against the downsides of the losses so that if he lost things, you know, he didn't lose everything. How could he avoid that in terms of the way he financed things, et cetera? And, of course, we are not all wired to be, you know, trailblazing entrepreneurs that bet, you know, take a second and third mortgage out on our home. but we do need to make bets all the time.

If you go through your days, we're always making a bet. Do I spend my time on this or not? And it's the risk reward analysis. And often we're a little too cautious and we actually should go, you know what? I'm going to back myself here.

I'm going to go out on a little bit of a limb, not crazy, but I'm just going to put some of my own identity on the line here because I really feel like this is the direction I want to be heading.

Yeah, that's true. But actually the evidence shows that we are three times more likely to regret the chances that we didn't take. And at the end of life, we're more likely to regret the brave things we didn't do. So there's this, it's called the theory of regret theory. that we regret because we don't know what could have happened.

And yeah, in the short term, it's like, well, I didn't have to risk the rejection. But over time, when we've got more time and we can look at things through a longer arc of time going, I should have just asked her out. Heck. And, you know, I'm sure you've heard the saying fear, regret more than you fear failure. But I know for me, when I wrote my first book, I had four kids, seven and under.

And I just felt really passionate around what I was doing. And I was like, I don't know what I'm doing with writing a book. I've got four little kids. And I just thought. I don't want to look back one day and go, what if I'd tried? And did I write a literary masterpiece? No. Did I feel really nervous as it was coming out? Yes. Was it easy? No,

Did I write a bestseller that made me millions of dollars? Absolutely not remotely, yes. But I'm always pleased that I wrote that book because that book opened up the door to new opportunities and to doing media interviews and then to speaking more widely. And it was just a first step and it was a fumbly first step.

It was an awkward first step, but it opened up the door to a whole lot of other possibilities. And likewise, you know, whenever I meet someone who's really thriving in their life, they're constantly trying things and not everything lands, you know. Yeah, sometimes it doesn't. But when we don't, we don't interpret failure as, you know, who we are. Failure is an event, not a person.

And when we can befriend failure. as a prerequisite for us to learn what we need to learn to keep moving forward smarter, then it actually frees us to risk more of it. And no, I'm not talking massive failures, but just like, oh, I'm going to go along to this thing and meet these people or I'm going to write an article and it mightn't be the best article or, you know, whatever it is for you.

But, you know, that thing of embracing, that concept of embracing imperfection and good enough and just putting yourself out there and giving yourself permission not to nail it all the time actually just empowers you to do so many more things than you ever would if you're waiting to line all your ducks in a row.

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